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"Everything is going good, I have been on sites like this before but never really noticed the amount of rules people have. I'm not mistaken rules for standards here, we all have them. " Then you surely must understand that everyone has there own set of rules. | |||
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"Me thinks the op thought this place was a sexfest!" If I wanted a sexiest I would just go to my local | |||
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"Me thinks the op thought this place was a sexfest! If I wanted a sexiest I would just go to my local " So why are you here? | |||
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"Everything is going good, I have been on sites like this before but never really noticed the amount of rules people have. I'm not mistaken rules for standards here, we all have them. Then you surely must understand that everyone has there own set of rules." Yes everyone has got to have rules to some extent but some are ridiculous | |||
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"Everything is going good, I have been on sites like this before but never really noticed the amount of rules people have. I'm not mistaken rules for standards here, we all have them. Then you surely must understand that everyone has there own set of rules. Yes everyone has got to have rules to some extent but some are ridiculous " Maybe not to them ? | |||
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"Me thinks the op thought this place was a sexfest! If I wanted a sexiest I would just go to my local So why are you here?" To have a laugh and a joke, get to know new people and have some fun with them. Why are you here? | |||
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"Me thinks the op thought this place was a sexfest! If I wanted a sexiest I would just go to my local So why are you here? To have a laugh and a joke, get to know new people and have some fun with them. Why are you here? " Then concentrate on the ones who want the same and ignore the ones with all the rules. | |||
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"Me thinks the op thought this place was a sexfest! If I wanted a sexiest I would just go to my local So why are you here? To have a laugh and a joke, get to know new people and have some fun with them. Why are you here? Then concentrate on the ones who want the same and ignore the ones with all the rules." As he says | |||
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"What you are actually saying is.. I'm here you should meet me. You are wrong!" I'm not saying that at all! I'm saying your on a site to have fun, don't restrict yourself with rules. everyone has a story to tell, get know different people it will change your live | |||
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"What you are actually saying is.. I'm here you should meet me. You are wrong! I'm not saying that at all! I'm saying your on a site to have fun, don't restrict yourself with rules. everyone has a story to tell, get know different people it will change your live " Oh right.. oh I see.. We should meet anyone who shows an interest even though they aren't what we are looking for.. is that right? | |||
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"What you are actually saying is.. I'm here you should meet me. You are wrong! I'm not saying that at all! I'm saying your on a site to have fun, don't restrict yourself with rules. everyone has a story to tell, get know different people it will change your live " But its their rules and they are the only ones who are restricting who they meet through their choices and rules. How others run their profiles and their lives on here doesn't affect you and I don't see how wasting time on them is in the slightest bit constructive. | |||
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"What you are actually saying is.. I'm here you should meet me. You are wrong! I'm not saying that at all! I'm saying your on a site to have fun, don't restrict yourself with rules. everyone has a story to tell, get know different people it will change your live But its their rules and they are the only ones who are restricting who they meet through their choices and rules. How others run their profiles and their lives on here doesn't affect you and I don't see how wasting time on them is in the slightest bit constructive." I don't have the time to waste it on these people. Just noticed recently that there is a lot of rules flying about. Maybe it's always been like that and I have never really noticed I don't know | |||
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"What you are actually saying is.. I'm here you should meet me. You are wrong! I'm not saying that at all! I'm saying your on a site to have fun, don't restrict yourself with rules. everyone has a story to tell, get know different people it will change your live But its their rules and they are the only ones who are restricting who they meet through their choices and rules. How others run their profiles and their lives on here doesn't affect you and I don't see how wasting time on them is in the slightest bit constructive. I don't have the time to waste it on these people. Just noticed recently that there is a lot of rules flying about. Maybe it's always been like that and I have never really noticed I don't know " Are you not wasting your time on them with this thread ? | |||
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"Bottom line is this. Everyone has the right to do what they want and have what ever rules they want. " And I fully respect that! just saying, is there any need to have too many/ ridiculous rules? Especially on a site you have come on to have a bit of fun | |||
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"What you are actually saying is.. I'm here you should meet me. You are wrong! I'm not saying that at all! I'm saying your on a site to have fun, don't restrict yourself with rules. everyone has a story to tell, get know different people it will change your live But its their rules and they are the only ones who are restricting who they meet through their choices and rules. How others run their profiles and their lives on here doesn't affect you and I don't see how wasting time on them is in the slightest bit constructive. I don't have the time to waste it on these people. Just noticed recently that there is a lot of rules flying about. Maybe it's always been like that and I have never really noticed I don't know Are you not wasting your time on them with this thread ?" no just seeing if anyone else has noticed all the rules. Clearly not haha | |||
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"What you are actually saying is.. I'm here you should meet me. You are wrong! I'm not saying that at all! I'm saying your on a site to have fun, don't restrict yourself with rules. everyone has a story to tell, get know different people it will change your live But its their rules and they are the only ones who are restricting who they meet through their choices and rules. How others run their profiles and their lives on here doesn't affect you and I don't see how wasting time on them is in the slightest bit constructive. I don't have the time to waste it on these people. Just noticed recently that there is a lot of rules flying about. Maybe it's always been like that and I have never really noticed I don't know Are you not wasting your time on them with this thread ? no just seeing if anyone else has noticed all the rules. Clearly not haha " Yes but only a few to be fair, I move on from profiles like that. | |||
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"What you are actually saying is.. I'm here you should meet me. You are wrong! I'm not saying that at all! I'm saying your on a site to have fun, don't restrict yourself with rules. everyone has a story to tell, get know different people it will change your live Oh right.. oh I see.. We should meet anyone who shows an interest even though they aren't what we are looking for.. is that right?" i think it's more we should play on here by his rules, using his idea of fun, and not have minds of our own or know what we want. | |||
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"Bottom line is this. Everyone has the right to do what they want and have what ever rules they want. And I fully respect that! just saying, is there any need to have too many/ ridiculous rules? Especially on a site you have come on to have a bit of fun " Does it really matter what someone else is looking for ? I doubt they see their "rules" as ridiculous. | |||
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"Why do people have so many rules On here? You have to be this height, you have to be that height, you have to breath so many times in a minute then maybe we will meet. Thought swinging was fun? What happend to haveing a little laugh with People then seeing where it goes? " what a silly post | |||
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"What you are actually saying is.. I'm here you should meet me. You are wrong! I'm not saying that at all! I'm saying your on a site to have fun, don't restrict yourself with rules. everyone has a story to tell, get know different people it will change your live Oh right.. oh I see.. We should meet anyone who shows an interest even though they aren't what we are looking for.. is that right? i think it's more we should play on here by his rules, using his idea of fun, and not have minds of our own or know what we want. " thats not what I'm saying at all! If everyone was the same this site and life would be boring. We all have different minds and likes! | |||
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"What you are actually saying is.. I'm here you should meet me. You are wrong! I'm not saying that at all! I'm saying your on a site to have fun, don't restrict yourself with rules. everyone has a story to tell, get know different people it will change your live Oh right.. oh I see.. We should meet anyone who shows an interest even though they aren't what we are looking for.. is that right? i think it's more we should play on here by his rules, using his idea of fun, and not have minds of our own or know what we want. thats not what I'm saying at all! If everyone was the same this site and life would be boring. We all have different minds and likes!" Exactly, which is why some people have rules/preferences, doh, we're going around in circles ! | |||
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"Are we really Shag? That being the case...Id never meet you!" Yes as I don't think men have so many rules as women got you know lol. | |||
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"Bottom line is this. Everyone has the right to do what they want and have what ever rules they want. And I fully respect that! just saying, is there any need to have too many/ ridiculous rules? Especially on a site you have come on to have a bit of fun " Give us some examples of rules you find ridiculous, as I haven't really noticed ..... | |||
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"Why do people have so many rules On here? You have to be this height, you have to be that height, you have to breath so many times in a minute then maybe we will meet. Thought swinging was fun? What happend to haveing a little laugh with People then seeing where it goes? " Are you happy to just shag anyone ?? or would you prefer that they conformed to some type of standard... maybe you'd prefer that they were female or didn't smell like Grimsby? Cal | |||
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"What you are actually saying is.. I'm here you should meet me. You are wrong! I'm not saying that at all! I'm saying your on a site to have fun, don't restrict yourself with rules. everyone has a story to tell, get know different people it will change your live But its their rules and they are the only ones who are restricting who they meet through their choices and rules. How others run their profiles and their lives on here doesn't affect you and I don't see how wasting time on them is in the slightest bit constructive. I don't have the time to waste it on these people. Just noticed recently that there is a lot of rules flying about. Maybe it's always been like that and I have never really noticed I don't know Are you not wasting your time on them with this thread ? no just seeing if anyone else has noticed all the rules. Clearly not haha Yes but only a few to be fair, I move on from profiles like that." I do exactly the same. Yes here are a fair few profiles with rules but I respect their preferences and move on if those rules blatantly exclude any desire to hear from me. As for those rules being ridiculous... One person's sensible rules are another person's ridiculous rules, all created to stem the flow of unwanted messages. | |||
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"Give us some examples of rules you find ridiculous, as I haven't really noticed ....." I have never and would never message someone who has the 'put ****** in the subject line to show you have read the profile or you will be deleted' rule Life is too short and I avoid other demanding profiles too - preferences are very different from making people jump through hoops for giggles so I can accept likes/dislikes but anything else smacks of entitlement | |||
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"Why do people have so many rules On here? You have to be this height, you have to be that height, you have to breath so many times in a minute then maybe we will meet. Thought swinging was fun? What happend to haveing a little laugh with People then seeing where it goes? " The example you use is height, That is not a rule, that is preference. Some people are turned on by tall men, they shouldn't change that to please the people on site. No one would expect you to start sleeping with bbw's if they were not your thing | |||
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"Give us some examples of rules you find ridiculous, as I haven't really noticed ..... I have never and would never message someone who has the 'put ****** in the subject line to show you have read the profile or you will be deleted' rule Life is too short and I avoid other demanding profiles too - preferences are very different from making people jump through hoops for giggles so I can accept likes/dislikes but anything else smacks of entitlement " In fairness I think the 'put xxx in your title' approach makes sense since far too many people don't read profile and just flick to the pictures. It demonstrates people have read the profile at least | |||
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"Why do people have so many rules On here? You have to be this height, you have to be that height, you have to breath so many times in a minute then maybe we will meet. Thought swinging was fun? What happend to haveing a little laugh with People then seeing where it goes? " We have a certain type we look for and don't need to meet people we don't fancy. if someone doesn't catch our attention we ain't fucking them you need a few preferences to cut the amount of messages from people you will never meet. Doesn't stop people who haven't a chance swinging must stay fun for us. Fucking ugly people will soon turn it into a chore | |||
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"Give us some examples of rules you find ridiculous, as I haven't really noticed ..... I have never and would never message someone who has the 'put ****** in the subject line to show you have read the profile or you will be deleted' rule Life is too short and I avoid other demanding profiles too - preferences are very different from making people jump through hoops for giggles so I can accept likes/dislikes but anything else smacks of entitlement In fairness I think the 'put xxx in your title' approach makes sense since far too many people don't read profile and just flick to the pictures. It demonstrates people have read the profile at least " We have done that before and the amount that don't read profile is eye opening. | |||
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"Rules only seem to be an issue for those who aren't included in them " | |||
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"Give us some examples of rules you find ridiculous, as I haven't really noticed ..... I have never and would never message someone who has the 'put ****** in the subject line to show you have read the profile or you will be deleted' rule Life is too short and I avoid other demanding profiles too - preferences are very different from making people jump through hoops for giggles so I can accept likes/dislikes but anything else smacks of entitlement In fairness I think the 'put xxx in your title' approach makes sense since far too many people don't read profile and just flick to the pictures. It demonstrates people have read the profile at least We have done that before and the amount that don't read profile is eye opening." Not necessarily, we have messaged a few people we liked the look of after reading the profile but didn't include their "phrase" because we don't do that lol, but they all messaged back anyway | |||
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"Give us some examples of rules you find ridiculous, as I haven't really noticed ..... I have never and would never message someone who has the 'put ****** in the subject line to show you have read the profile or you will be deleted' rule Life is too short and I avoid other demanding profiles too - preferences are very different from making people jump through hoops for giggles so I can accept likes/dislikes but anything else smacks of entitlement In fairness I think the 'put xxx in your title' approach makes sense since far too many people don't read profile and just flick to the pictures. It demonstrates people have read the profile at least " I read profiles and decide if I want to look at the pictures afterwards so if I see a really demanding profile I will not even look at the pics and definitely not message so what works for some will not work for others. I don't see the need to vilify the OP for a thread about rules - at no point in the original post did he say people couldn't have preferences or even couldn't have rules - just that he had noticed a lot of profiles with rules | |||
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"Why do people have so many rules On here? You have to be this height, you have to be that height, you have to breath so many times in a minute then maybe we will meet. Thought swinging was fun? What happend to haveing a little laugh with People then seeing where it goes? The example you use is height, That is not a rule, that is preference. Some people are turned on by tall men, they shouldn't change that to please the people on site. No one would expect you to start sleeping with bbw's if they were not your thing" I agree with your general point but I don't see much distinction between a rule and a preference, and the lists that appear in profiles could often be classified as either... | |||
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"Rules only seem to be an issue for those who aren't included in them " Definitely agree with this ???? (Mr) | |||
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"Because every person has certain attributes that they find physically appealing. Would you fuck someone you didn't find attractive? " Only occasionally on a Friday night. But I was very, very d*unk each time. hic | |||
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"Why do people have so many rules On here? You have to be this height, you have to be that height, you have to breath so many times in a minute then maybe we will meet. Thought swinging was fun? What happend to haveing a little laugh with People then seeing where it goes? The example you use is height, That is not a rule, that is preference. Some people are turned on by tall men, they shouldn't change that to please the people on site. No one would expect you to start sleeping with bbw's if they were not your thing I agree with your general point but I don't see much distinction between a rule and a preference, and the lists that appear in profiles could often be classified as either..." I think the OP's example is that of a preference. I am not disagreeing some people have rules, or if you wish, hoops that members need to jump through and that the same are excessive. However it is important to point out that personal preference on issues such as height, weight, hair colour are not rules but rather preferences. | |||
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"Me thinks the op thought this place was a sexfest!" Is it not? | |||
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"Me thinks the op thought this place was a sexfest! Is it not? " no mate, too many rules! haha | |||
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"Rules only seem to be an issue for those who aren't included in them " As it was, as it ever shall be. | |||
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"trust me, I wouldn't shag anything, I am not desperate. we all have standards/ preferences I get that! but fuck me, one profile had a rule that they only meet guys who are between 6ft-6ft2!! how is that not ridiculous? " Over 6ft I can understand, specifically between 6ft and 6ft 2 seems bizarre! | |||
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"trust me, I wouldn't shag anything, I am not desperate. we all have standards/ preferences I get that! but fuck me, one profile had a rule that they only meet guys who are between 6ft-6ft2!! how is that not ridiculous? " It may seem that way to you but Clearly it isn't to them or they wouldn't put it...why you appear to be letting it bother you escapes me...just move right along... | |||
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"trust me, I wouldn't shag anything, I am not desperate. we all have standards/ preferences I get that! but fuck me, one profile had a rule that they only meet guys who are between 6ft-6ft2!! how is that not ridiculous? " If a guy says hes 6ft hes really 5.6. Same as cock. 8" is really 4". Like a women wont notice | |||
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"Why do people have so many rules On here? You have to be this height, you have to be that height, you have to breath so many times in a minute then maybe we will meet. Thought swinging was fun? What happend to haveing a little laugh with People then seeing where it goes? " More swingers like us are required I guess . Tall , short , black , white and any shade , dwarf , hermaphrodite , tv , ts , male , female .... its all good | |||
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"Why do people have so many rules On here? You have to be this height, you have to be that height, you have to breath so many times in a minute then maybe we will meet. Thought swinging was fun? What happend to haveing a little laugh with People then seeing where it goes? More swingers like us are required I guess . Tall , short , black , white and any shade , dwarf , hermaphrodite , tv , ts , male , female .... its all good " ha now that's varity! | |||
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