FabSwingers.com forum: First Contact?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi all

Just a thought who prefers which?

As a first point of contact

A wink or a message

Interested to hear your replies

Oh happy Valentines Day!

Obi x

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By *rs kemeaCouple
over a year ago

angus

Definitely a message. A wink is ok on sites where you have to pay to read messages but on here, they seem pretty pointless and lazy to me. If they're lazy in the first contact, it makes you think they might be lazy in bed too lol! If someone likes you enough, they'll make the effort to write a message (not copying and pasting a generic one) otherwise there's nothing to grab your interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer a message... although If someone winks me and I quite like their profile I will bring it to Master attention and then wink back..

That normally then gets me a message..

However, I like first messages to have a photo on... saves me asking, and then when I get it and hate it having to upset someone.. as they then know its because of their face photo I have then refused them.

Katie. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi all

Just a thought who prefers which?

As a first point of contact

A wink or a message

Interested to hear your replies

Oh happy Valentines Day!

Obi x"

massage is far better than a quick wank

dyslexic dan here xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definitely a message. A wink is ok on sites where you have to pay to read messages but on here, they seem pretty pointless and lazy to me. If they're lazy in the first contact, it makes you think they might be lazy in bed too lol! If someone likes you enough, they'll make the effort to write a message (not copying and pasting a generic one) otherwise there's nothing to grab your interest."

I really couldn't put it better!

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I don't mind how the contact comes to me

The first thing ill do is read the profile anyway and if its not for me then I just carry on with what else I was doing before hand

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

I use a mix of winks and follow up messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I use a mix of winks and follow up messages.

You forgot the stalking

haha

Katie. x

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

"Hi all

Just a thought who prefers which?

As a first point of contact

A wink or a message

Interested to hear your replies

Oh happy Valentines Day!

Obi x"

I thought you might use The Force!

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"I use a mix of winks and follow up messages.

You forgot the stalking

haha

Katie. x"

*watches Katie through chink in the blinds*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I use a mix of winks and follow up messages.

You forgot the stalking

haha

Katie. x

*watches Katie through chink in the blinds*

*wonders why her bin shouted ouch when she threw stuff in it*

Katie.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A message always I do not respond to winks they are lazy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont mind getting winks really, if i like them i will wink back...then its up to them to send me a message but they rarely do - serial winkers perhaps?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't mind wink as long as the person winking has face pic on there profile so we can see who's winked us if not that kinda defeat the object of winking, a nice message with pic if none on profile is good to. So yeah wink us or message after reading our profile in FULL !!!

* sits on coffin *

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i dont mind getting winks really, if i like them i will wink back...then its up to them to send me a message but they rarely do - serial winkers perhaps?

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..... But what if the person winking has no pic on there profile for you to see

Why do ppl wink if they don't have a pic up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont mind either, so long as the person has read my profile otherwise whilst i check their profile out and do nothing where they have winked, if its a message and they are not my age preference or the other end of the country, i send them a polite message back

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By *rs WhiteCouple
over a year ago

South

Nothing wrong with winks or messages.

We dont think it's lazy to wink.just expressing an interest.

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

I prefer a message. I rarely respond to winks but now see them sometimes as a virtual 'wolf whistle' Someone from miles away may express appreciation without wanting to meet and a wink can show that, I guess.

Nothing beats a well crafted message with a face pic from someone who has clearly read the profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

messgaes are better ,well as long as they are not the "lets fuck" type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winks of the right folk are always welcome

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

I don't get winks or messages - so it's a bit academic.

I think the sequence ought to be: 1) send wink 2) other person winks back (this shows there might be some interest) 3) send message to other person.

The downside of sending a message in the first place is getting the mix of information and flirting about right. It's a shame sending a thoughtfully and carefully constructed witty message trying to create some sort of dialog - only to see "Deleted" as a result.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you consider how many men there are on here and how long it takes to craft a personalised, unique message that's then just read deleted, even if you do meet what's on the profile requirements, then sending a wink seems to be a great idea.

Send a wink, if they like your profile, they wink back and you message. I think that's the way it should be done.

Would save women and couples a lot of time reading 'hows u sxy' messages and would mean they could start convos with people they may be interested in.

So some say lazy, I say good time management!

But having said that, most people hate the winkers so I still send messages though don't send as many anymore as it seems to be a bit like cold calling.

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By *ottscouple1Couple
over a year ago

nottingham

To be honest we dont like winks or messages we prefer to get to now people in the chat rooms and go from there.We learn alot more about people and stops the 'how are you' messages lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We send a wink when we want to show an interest in a profile! But we are unsure for a variety of reasons, it may be compliance, adaptability, or just four different stones!

Each to ones own, what tickles our fancy may not tickle yours

A wink for us is a good chance to see if there is at least some mutual interest.... At the end of the day we are winking because we would like to find out some more about you!

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