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"morning guys & gals I am here looking for a little (no jokes please) help and understanding. Over the past 12 - 18 months I have started to have erection problems . Sometimes getting 1 is difficult other times it's keeping the bugger hard that is the problem. The worst example of this was in Cupids about 8 months ago... I was invited into a room by a great couple and the Mrs was stunning and did all the right thinks so to speak but I just couldn't perform!!! And I was mortified. So much so I actually left this site briefly and haven't had the confidence to back to any club since. I have tried the cheaper versions of Viagra and they do work but the side effects are horrendous! Heartburn, pounding head, dry mouth. Can anyone confirm if real Viagra have the same symptoms? As I am now at the point of swallowing my pride and going seeing the quack in the hope that he can help. Thanks in advance. " If your on blood pressure tablets you should not take Viagra | |||
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"I'm gobsmacked that men still think they are capable of performing every single time. It's simply not possible. You may think your cock is a separate entity with a mind of its own but it's not and it can indicate other health problems. " True,, i think it depends on circumstances. There are times when i struggle to get hard mostly becuase i cant be bothered and other days where i can ream a girl until she orgasms,withdraw and still be rock hard for some time afterward and often she will simply mount up again.. | |||
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"I agree. my husband went through a period of not being able to rise to the occasion and got quite stressed by it. instead of using tablets, he changed his part of our profile to soft swap and this took the pressure right off because he knew that anyone who read our profile would know what they are getting without the embarrassment. 4 weeks on problem solved" I was going to say this... Why not make your next few club visits about something softer like giving the woman oral or hand relief. Ban yourself from sex and see how you get on. I don't envy guys the pressure of needing to get hard tbh, at least women can fake their part if they're not in the groove... | |||
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"I agree. my husband went through a period of not being able to rise to the occasion and got quite stressed by it. instead of using tablets, he changed his part of our profile to soft swap and this took the pressure right off because he knew that anyone who read our profile would know what they are getting without the embarrassment. 4 weeks on problem solved I was going to say this... Why not make your next few club visits about something softer like giving the woman oral or hand relief. Ban yourself from sex and see how you get on. I don't envy guys the pressure of needing to get hard tbh, at least women can fake their part if they're not in the groove..." TBH im not a big fan of faking,,why do it? As a male i dont really feel any pressure to perform. If i am exposed to a...err..stimulating situation..i can feel my cock begin to thicken. If it isnt happening,,well what can you do? | |||
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"Maybe you could try and find a regular playmate that understands and there is no pressure ? That way you would be putting less pressure on yourself to perform and things will naturally flow when you're relaxed. It's a vicious circle to be in as you will be subconsciously thinking about it all the time. I would pop and see your GP too ad it will put ypur mind at rest that's it's a fairly common issue and nothing to be embarrassed about " Yeah, I agree about the regular, understanding partner bit. I also think that some of us still think we're 15 years old, when going over a pothole while on the bus bus was enough to get us harder than an Easter Island statue | |||
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"Fair play op. Most men would bottle it from posting a thread like this. And continue having issues. At least your a step closer to sorting it " Yes, very well done for talking about it | |||
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"morning guys & gals I am here looking for a little (no jokes please) help and understanding. Over the past 12 - 18 months I have started to have erection problems . Sometimes getting 1 is difficult other times it's keeping the bugger hard that is the problem. The worst example of this was in Cupids about 8 months ago... I was invited into a room by a great couple and the Mrs was stunning and did all the right thinks so to speak but I just couldn't perform!!! And I was mortified. So much so I actually left this site briefly and haven't had the confidence to back to any club since. I have tried the cheaper versions of Viagra and they do work but the side effects are horrendous! Heartburn, pounding head, dry mouth. Can anyone confirm if real Viagra have the same symptoms? As I am now at the point of swallowing my pride and going seeing the quack in the hope that he can help. Thanks in advance. " I suggest you see the GP and get his opinion. You could also try something called Menergy from Holland & Barratt its a good all round pick me up. | |||
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"It may well be all in your head. Once you start thinking about it, that can be the kiss of death. I'm willing to admit that I went through a phase when I starting questioning myself - along thinking of: "I'm enjoying this, but why aren't I erect. Maybe I'm not enjoying this. Maybe the woman had noticed and will wonder why I'm not enjoying this. Now I can't stop thinking about me not enjoying this and her knowing this. I am enjoying this though.....". Far from ideal when you're in a headlock . You're probably not half as relaxed as you think you are. The answer may well be to be in the presence of someone who you can be totally honest with and totally relaxed with. That's not to say it isn't medical, but our brains do play massive tricks on us. Good luck." This The least erotic thought is "is my dick hard yet". I went though a phase of these problems, the solutions have already been mentioned but most of all it helps to talk to the woman in advance. Something like: "Look I have this problem sometimes, if it happens then it's not you but on the positive side, it means I'll be pleasuring you with my tongue and fingers even longer" | |||
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" ....called the the doctors and what a nightmare that was. The lady who answered wanted to know everything apart from what was left on my mortgage. I came very close to saying... Well it's like this love "I haven't had a proper good hump in about 12 months" Thankfully I did manage to get an appointment without going into full detail. (Albeit in 2 weeks time) ." For future reference ; the receptionists have no right to demand information as to why you want to see the doctor; it's none of their business; I was always very robust with them ; even for something trivial. 2 weeks! Fuck! Thank god I don't live in UK anymore! On average it's 2 hours here! | |||
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"You seem like a lovely guy so here's another one for you. We find the easiest way to really enjoy the moment is to get to know the people you are meeting, we basically class all the people we sleep with as FWB (your Milage may vary being a single guy). It takes a huge amount of pressure to 'perform' off if it's just a natural progression of a night out with friends and makes it that much more fun. M&M " | |||
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"Cialis is far better and works for 2 days. Seem with Viagra you have to be in the mood. I get a tub of it quite cheap with about 60 tabs in. No heartburn or side affects other then if I think about sex I'm hard within minutes if ive taken it and it don't help if I'm out and about in public haha." Nice lol. Where do you get yours from? | |||
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"morning guys & gals I am here looking for a little (no jokes please) help and understanding. Over the past 12 - 18 months I have started to have erection problems . Sometimes getting 1 is difficult other times it's keeping the bugger hard that is the problem. The worst example of this was in Cupids about 8 months ago... I was invited into a room by a great couple and the Mrs was stunning and did all the right thinks so to speak but I just couldn't perform!!! And I was mortified. So much so I actually left this site briefly and haven't had the confidence to back to any club since. I have tried the cheaper versions of Viagra and they do work but the side effects are horrendous! Heartburn, pounding head, dry mouth. Can anyone confirm if real Viagra have the same symptoms? As I am now at the point of swallowing my pride and going seeing the quack in the hope that he can help. Thanks in advance. " its happened to me once , pressure to perform can put you off, on such occasions I now have a cock ring once your up it tends to stay up, with no side effects like blue pills ect, must be worth a try as long as you get one that fits properly as some can actually cut off blood supply if too tight | |||
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"Forget the pills. Exercise, drink plenty of water, sleep more, try to relax/ meditate, and ban yourself from watching porn or masterbating for a while. " | |||
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"Cialis is far better and works for 2 days. Seem with Viagra you have to be in the mood. I get a tub of it quite cheap with about 60 tabs in. No heartburn or side affects other then if I think about sex I'm hard within minutes if ive taken it and it don't help if I'm out and about in public haha. Nice lol. Where do you get yours from?" I can't legally provide a source over the Internet lol. But have a Google for Dimensions lab Cialis. I'm sure you'll find it easy enough. | |||
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"Cialis is far better and works for 2 days. Seem with Viagra you have to be in the mood. I get a tub of it quite cheap with about 60 tabs in. No heartburn or side affects other then if I think about sex I'm hard within minutes if ive taken it and it don't help if I'm out and about in public haha. Nice lol. Where do you get yours from? I can't legally provide a source over the Internet lol. But have a Google for Dimensions lab Cialis. I'm sure you'll find it easy enough. " Would they be a reliable source? | |||
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"Cialis is far better and works for 2 days. Seem with Viagra you have to be in the mood. I get a tub of it quite cheap with about 60 tabs in. No heartburn or side affects other then if I think about sex I'm hard within minutes if ive taken it and it don't help if I'm out and about in public haha. Nice lol. Where do you get yours from? I can't legally provide a source over the Internet lol. But have a Google for Dimensions lab Cialis. I'm sure you'll find it easy enough. Would they be a reliable source? " Unfortunately that's the risk you take when buying stuff you can't get without a prescription. | |||
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"Had this issue since last year. There's even a paragraph at the start of my profile, warning that there's no penetration guarantee. Must be psychological, since I can get erections fairly easily, at most other times (the biggest and longest-lasting, being during the night). Two scenarios kill it stone dead:- when I'm about to poke someone (can go down like a flat tyre), and when I'm asked to show it on-cam (absolute kiss of death). I've got some (red) vigora, recommended by a fabbing couple. Not tested in action yet but tried half a pill on my own and the side fx were unpleasant. Wish there was a simple fix, so I can start enjoying meets again. " By the sounds of it then it's a physiological issue that's causing it. Something happened in the past that could have caused it? | |||
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"Had this issue since last year. There's even a paragraph at the start of my profile, warning that there's no penetration guarantee. Must be psychological, since I can get erections fairly easily, at most other times (the biggest and longest-lasting, being during the night). Two scenarios kill it stone dead:- when I'm about to poke someone (can go down like a flat tyre), and when I'm asked to show it on-cam (absolute kiss of death). I've got some (red) vigora, recommended by a fabbing couple. Not tested in action yet but tried half a pill on my own and the side fx were unpleasant. Wish there was a simple fix, so I can start enjoying meets again. " if you can get an erection but loose it upon penetration , a cock ring should work, you need some hardness for a cock ring but when you do get hard it stops the blood flowing back to the body, take some time with the size too big they wont work, too small they work too well and hurt | |||
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"What are the white pills called Got some silendefil but same banging headaches " Apparently that's one side effect from taking horny goat . Plus heartburn. I've not had any bad reactions | |||
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"In my experience, you don't get the headaches if you drink plenty of water. It's important to do this." I had 2 bottles of wine before. Does that count? Lol | |||
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"morning guys & gals I am here looking for a little (no jokes please) help and understanding. Over the past 12 - 18 months I have started to have erection problems . Sometimes getting 1 is difficult other times it's keeping the bugger hard that is the problem. The worst example of this was in Cupids about 8 months ago... I was invited into a room by a great couple and the Mrs was stunning and did all the right thinks so to speak but I just couldn't perform!!! And I was mortified. So much so I actually left this site briefly and haven't had the confidence to back to any club since. I have tried the cheaper versions of Viagra and they do work but the side effects are horrendous! Heartburn, pounding head, dry mouth. Can anyone confirm if real Viagra have the same symptoms? As I am now at the point of swallowing my pride and going seeing the quack in the hope that he can help. Thanks in advance. " This reminds me of the opening scene to 'human tragic' | |||
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"Just posted my 1st meet in a long while so fingers crossed." Er...you may want to remove the names of the people you've met on your profile, that is most certainly not discreet. | |||
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"Forget the pills. Exercise, drink plenty of water, sleep more, try to relax/ meditate, and ban yourself from watching porn or masterbating for a while. " Can I just back up the exercise part of this. Started a health kick a month ago,walking a lot more and at the gym at least 3 times a week. Lost a stone,though it doesn't notice yet,but a noticeable improvement in the erection department | |||
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"To be honest if the woman is genuine ED shouldn't be an issue. I've come across several guys with this issue - we do other things instead. No pressure and if it comes back then happy days but if not then we have to accept that. I would hate a guy to feel awkward with me but it's like me feeling damned awkward about passing wind" That's reassuring to know. Thank you. Us men have other appendages to help pleasure women. Last weekend I could only manage a semi. Then lost it but I put that down to the room being cold lol. She was quite happy to let me shave her pussy then finger her twice til she cam. I'm getting a cock pump to help for next time | |||
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"Just posted my 1st meet in a long while so fingers crossed. Er...you may want to remove the names of the people you've met on your profile, that is most certainly not discreet." By the same token you may want to hide your verifications. | |||
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"Just posted my 1st meet in a long while so fingers crossed. Er...you may want to remove the names of the people you've met on your profile, that is most certainly not discreet. By the same token you may want to hide your verifications." That is entirely different. They were written by the people I met, so they obviously don't mind being identified. | |||
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"Thanks for all the replies guys. And as for smoking you all spot on its something that needs to be addressed. But I can assure you it definitely isn't down to lack of exercise I go to the gym a minimum of 4 mornings every week and im still playing a decent standard of rugby every week!!! Even at 40 so that can be ruled out. I'm just Gona book in with the doc and see what he says. Thanks again." Glad you're going to the docs to get proper advice. Might also be worth looking at the amount of stress in your life & whether something like a massage or reiki once every few weeks would help with that - stress can have a massive effect on maintaining a boner! And please don't feel that you have to have sex to play - I love soft play just as much as a good hard shag!! There's nothing nicer than a guy exploring your body with his fingers and tongue as long as you feel that he's enjoying it too!! M xx | |||
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"Just posted my 1st meet in a long while so fingers crossed. Er...you may want to remove the names of the people you've met on your profile, that is most certainly not discreet. By the same token you may want to hide your verifications. That is entirely different. They were written by the people I met, so they obviously don't mind being identified. " Of If it bothers you that much I will remove them. Although why you felt the need to report my profile I have no idea! Some folk just find fault in everything. | |||
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"Thanks for all the replies guys. And as for smoking you all spot on its something that needs to be addressed. But I can assure you it definitely isn't down to lack of exercise I go to the gym a minimum of 4 mornings every week and im still playing a decent standard of rugby every week!!! Even at 40 so that can be ruled out. I'm just Gona book in with the doc and see what he says. Thanks again. Glad you're going to the docs to get proper advice. Might also be worth looking at the amount of stress in your life & whether something like a massage or reiki once every few weeks would help with that - stress can have a massive effect on maintaining a boner! And please don't feel that you have to have sex to play - I love soft play just as much as a good hard shag!! There's nothing nicer than a guy exploring your body with his fingers and tongue as long as you feel that he's enjoying it too!! M xx" Thanks love X Things are improving.... slowly but you are spot on! Clearly stress does play a major part. | |||
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"One word of advise.... if your going for Sildenafil then only take HALF a tablet (50mg) A whole tablet might make you feel sick, and also gives very bad heartburn. " Yeah, they say that... but, when I took half I barely felt anything. Even the full tablet didn't do that much. I'm going for 100mg next time. They've three strengths (25, 50, 100mg) | |||
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"Forget the pills. Exercise, drink plenty of water, sleep more, try to relax/ meditate, and ban yourself from watching porn or masterbating for a while. " Everything he says an try adding more zinc an magnesium to your diet. But most important is to relax. | |||
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"40 does sound early for the usual age related ED You smoke too. I'm not a Dr but you need to fuck those cigarettes right off as a start point mate. I'd also ask for a diabetic test at Boots or similar( you never know) You can buy Viagra from superdrug online. Its around £64 for 12 100mg ( dont quote me on that) You can get lower doses in less quantity for cheaper from Superdrug. Superdrug are a reputable company. If you buy Viagra you'll get viagra and not some dangerous psuedo shite made in an Indian/Chinese kitchen Fill in the 5 min form, buy as small amount as you can, try them, If they work go to and and explain to your Dr. You may or may not get your next lot on prescription ( 4 per month I believe ) The good thing is there are ways to get the little general going again. " 4 per month that you half | |||
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"Well after a month of only gtting hard in the morning I thought I'd try something I heard was go to get it 'ready for action' lol. I tried horny goat . " So-called horny goat isn't one actual plant. The Epimedium genus of plants contains at least 64 species, and there are a huge number of different varieties too: possibly hundreds of different unique plants. As we know from standard biology, any unique species is distinct from any other. Firstly, any one selling horny goat could sell any one of those different species: they'll all have different chemical properties. That's if you even get one of those 64 species - maybe they'll just give you some dried up grass. There's also no evidence from any of those 64 species that they help with erectile problems. As suppliers are making tons of money and they're not having to go through the high costs of making new medications, such as they did when they created Viagra - it would be reasonable to assume that they'd support some much cheaper clinical trials, if they believed that their plant actually worked. If anyone does know of any double blind clinical trial evidence that has been published in appropriate journals, then I'd be very interested - but I'm not aware of any. This is just an explanation about the plant genus and potential to spend lots of money on something that has no evidence behind it. | |||
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"Well after a month of only gtting hard in the morning I thought I'd try something I heard was go to get it 'ready for action' lol. I tried horny goat . So-called horny goat isn't one actual plant. The Epimedium genus of plants contains at least 64 species, and there are a huge number of different varieties too: possibly hundreds of different unique plants. As we know from standard biology, any unique species is distinct from any other. Firstly, any one selling horny goat could sell any one of those different species: they'll all have different chemical properties. That's if you even get one of those 64 species - maybe they'll just give you some dried up grass. There's also no evidence from any of those 64 species that they help with erectile problems. As suppliers are making tons of money and they're not having to go through the high costs of making new medications, such as they did when they created Viagra - it would be reasonable to assume that they'd support some much cheaper clinical trials, if they believed that their plant actually worked. If anyone does know of any double blind clinical trial evidence that has been published in appropriate journals, then I'd be very interested - but I'm not aware of any. This is just an explanation about the plant genus and potential to spend lots of money on something that has no evidence behind it." Well in the last few weeks there has been a 'big' improvement down there. So something is working for me. On top of the goat I drink more fluids now, and am eating blueberries regularly. All that combined is getting my cock more ready than not now. So looks promising | |||
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"If you watch a lot of porn and other stuff it could be PIED. Porn induced erectile dysfunction. It's real..Google it. Stop watching porn and wanking. Altho I a fine one to talk lol " Yes I did have about 3 weeks free from porn and wanking and that did help. Not heard of PIED though lol | |||
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"Seen this type of thread a few times, maybe it's time to share my experience. Our first 2 visits to a club were a "flop". Had no problems performing with T in private then we met a couple, and they were hot, I'm talking dreams come true hot here and I just couldn't get hard. Thought it was just because we had already had fun, I was wrong, went in a private room and was like a rabbit. Turns out he just won't play in company! In an empty orgy room, he's rock hard, the second someone comes in, he leaves! We go straight to a private room again, no hesitation. After our second failure I got some white (blue pills) now never have a problem. Typical performance anxiety. I get slightly flushed but other than that no side effects whatsoever We have played with quite a few couples at clubs and I would say 90% of couples we have spoke to also need help. Just going of our experiences obviously." What are white pills? | |||
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