FabSwingers.com forum: Just get instant deletes

By *ild Heart69 OP Man
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

Send nice friendly messages and I just get deleted straight away. Women want verify but how can I be verified if ppl don't chat back. I give up

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Have you not had a meet in over a year??

If that is what you want (not everyone does!)perhaps this site is not working for you..

Good luck j

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure you have read many, many similar threads....if not I suggest you do so.

IF your messages are polite and well aimed (read their profile first and don't send to those that don't actually match) then women/couples will look at your profile before considering a reply.

You have not asked for profile comments per se but I certainly think that your problem lies there.

Your profile is shorter than your post here, says nothing, contains one non description picture of your chest and you don't accomodate.....assumption of many is you are attached in some way.

These are not criticisms...just facts. If they seem like criticism then you need to change these facts.

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Thing is hun ... us ladies get so many messages ... we have delete some as our boxes would explode .... I have 70 at tge moment. ... I need my own pa .... but dont give up hunny ....soldier on xx

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

Work on your profile OP, more detail, pics perhaps, lose the "I await your challenge" bit. And as others said, look at other threads on the topic and make sure you fit what the person you're messaging asks for. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Welcome to Fab Mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thing is hun ... us ladies get so many messages ... we have delete some as our boxes would explode .... I have 70 at tge moment. ... I need my own pa .... but dont give up hunny ....soldier on xx"

This is also true OP. Me n Mellons have chatted before...but even some of my messages get lost in her vast inbox lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look at your profile realistically and think if I were a woman would I reply to a message from it when there are 1000s of men out there all wanting the same thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes don't give up man keep plugging away their are some lovely women on this site

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

It'll be the threadbare profile that deters attention and response.

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

Profile is crap mate....what would make a lady choose you over the others??? Nothing! Harsh but true, sorry! You need to stand out on here

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By *ild Heart69 OP Man
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

Some people don't want to read a long description, just try to make it fun some how. I don't accommodate cause it aint my house , I wouldn't be on ere if I was attached not that type . What picture do you suggest ? Everyone seems to have fun on ere not just bout one thing is it ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need a "hook" look at your profile and think what at the moment would pique someone's interest?

Basically stand out a it more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give up on the messages and get yourself to a social..

Get verified that way... Come back, revamp the profile and start again.. What have you got to lose?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they fancy you there reply

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By *ild Heart69 OP Man
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

What do you ppl suggest to revamp my profile ? Ideas welcome

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

Sort your profile as per above suggestions, but also make sure you READ the ladies profile.

If I get messages that obviously haven't read mine at all, they get an instant delete as I get far too many messages to reply to them all. Even now I've over 200 unread cause I get to the point where I've had enough!

Stick with it - there is someone for everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will sometimes delete without reading as the first visable lune is enough or the profile pic is enough to know there is no chance of a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What do you ppl suggest to revamp my profile ? Ideas welcome"

Sort the spelling mistakes out and when I see the give me a chance line that makes me think you are begging or desperate

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"What do you ppl suggest to revamp my profile ? Ideas welcome"

Describe what you are looking for and what you have to offer. Don't make any outrageous claims and imagine you are writing to the kind of person you'd like to meet and engage their interest

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"What do you ppl suggest to revamp my profile ? Ideas welcome"

Message me for tips on what to write in your profile, what kind of pics to have, and how to word your messages.

One proviso though: As I'll be doing all the work I get to fuck whomever you're going to meet before you do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What do you ppl suggest to revamp my profile ? Ideas welcome"

Take some pics and write a profile. Simple as that.

One line and one pic for a years work shows no commitment to the job in hand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What do you ppl suggest to revamp my profile ? Ideas welcome

Message me for tips on what to write in your profile, what kind of pics to have, and how to word your messages.

One proviso though: As I'll be doing all the work I get to fuck whomever you're going to meet before you do."

Ooo. Hello

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By *aveandkate35Couple
over a year ago

telford

I really wish admin would delete profile advice posts or why aren't I getting any luck ones.

You're profile (if you insist on not going to clubs and socials) coupled with your messages is the best way to showcase who you are. If it's rubbish you'll find this site, and whole experience - rubbish!!

Getting profile / message advice is like getting someone else to write your CV - yeah it may get you a look in, but when you're required to deliver on that you're, well, screwed (no pun intended)

You said "some don't like long...blah" - cool you know best leave it as it is. Continue to reap the benefits you have.

My advice is be yourself - leave your profile how you want it. S ome will like it, some won't and you'll meet a lot less - BUT the meets you get will be more suited.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've got the same picture that I have and I always get replies to my messages so I dunno where you're going wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You've got the same picture that I have and I always get replies to my messages so I dunno where you're going wrong

His don't sag either. I'm bemused too

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Send nice friendly messages and I just get deleted straight away. Women want verify but how can I be verified if ppl don't chat back. I give up

People tend to view the profile before the message. Therein lies your answer.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I'm sure you have read many, many similar threads....if not I suggest you do so.

IF your messages are polite and well aimed (read their profile first and don't send to those that don't actually match) then women/couples will look at your profile before considering a reply.

You have not asked for profile comments per se but I certainly think that your problem lies there.

Your profile is shorter than your post here, says nothing, contains one non description picture of your chest and you don't accomodate.....assumption of many is you are attached in some way.

These are not criticisms...just facts. If they seem like criticism then you need to change these facts."

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By *adyboy-DaddyCouple
over a year ago

Andover

"You've got the same picture that I have and I always get replies to my messages so I dunno where you're going wrong

Spat my tea out reading this.

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

"Some people don't want to read a long description, just try to make it fun some how. I don't accommodate cause it aint my house , I wouldn't be on ere if I was attached not that type . What picture do you suggest ? Everyone seems to have fun on ere not just bout one thing is it ?"

'Some people don't want to read a long description'??!!! So, if you know best then why did you bother asking for advice??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm sure you have read many, many similar threads....if not I suggest you do so.

IF your messages are polite and well aimed (read their profile first and don't send to those that don't actually match) then women/couples will look at your profile before considering a reply.

You have not asked for profile comments per se but I certainly think that your problem lies there.

Your profile is shorter than your post here, says nothing, contains one non description picture of your chest and you don't accomodate.....assumption of many is you are attached in some way.

These are not criticisms...just facts. If they seem like criticism then you need to change these facts."

I agree with the above. I would check out your profile and see short texts with nothing about you in it.....the challenge thing has to go lol....give your profile a revamp maybe and good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You've got the same picture that I have and I always get replies to my messages so I dunno where you're going wrong

His don't sag either. I'm bemused too

Oi, you saying mine are saggy!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You've got the same picture that I have and I always get replies to my messages so I dunno where you're going wrong

His don't sag either. I'm bemused too

Oi, you saying mine are saggy!?"

Lol. Not at all. They seem remarkably firm....... For your age

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You've got the same picture that I have and I always get replies to my messages so I dunno where you're going wrong

His don't sag either. I'm bemused too

Oi, you saying mine are saggy!?

Lol. Not at all. They seem remarkably firm....... For your age

Haha, that would be the silicone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You've got the same picture that I have and I always get replies to my messages so I dunno where you're going wrong

His don't sag either. I'm bemused too

Oi, you saying mine are saggy!?

Lol. Not at all. They seem remarkably firm....... For your age

Haha, that would be the silicone!"

Lol. I can tell. They look fabulous though. It's amazing what them surgeons can do.

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By *amesMoneyPennyCouple
over a year ago

Basildon

Read other profiles see what others say that matches you and what you like be witty if you can makes for a better read web search the best dating profile examples there after the same thing.

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By *ild Heart69 OP Man
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

Revamp profile see what you think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What do you ppl suggest to revamp my profile ? Ideas welcome"

Try not using slang..eg, ere, and aint..

Put some folk off reading any further..

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

Only you can write your profile OP.

Gathering bits of it on the advice of others is like creating Frankenstein's monster

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oops sorry. I completely forgot we were supposed to be posting about the op's lack of response to his messages.

Er,,,,, write a profile. Shave all over. Pop a frock on. Take some pics. They'll come to you. Trust me. I know this shit.

You're very welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Revamp profile see what you think"

Nothing to see.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rachael Rachael Rachael. I think I quite possibly love you

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"Revamp profile see what you think"

Well there are about 12 more words this time, but it still hardly says anything about you.

You need to spend much more time and effort on it...

otherwise people may think that you don't make much effort in the bedroom either...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Revamp profile see what you think"

Hate guys using hehe, get some more pictures on your profile. Don't think having a picture of just your boobs works as well for guys as it does for birds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Revamp profile see what you think"

Never, never say "hee hee". Don't be negative. Take out the bit about not much luck. It's all too passive. Cmon, put some real oooomph into it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Rachael Rachael Rachael. I think I quite possibly love you

Ssshhh. My wife will hear

xxx

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By *piritsonfabCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"What do you ppl suggest to revamp my profile ? Ideas welcome

Message me for tips on what to write in your profile, what kind of pics to have, and how to word your messages.

One proviso though: As I'll be doing all the work I get to fuck whomever you're going to meet before you do."

Lol

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"Revamp profile see what you think"

I think you still need to private message me.

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

"Revamp profile see what you think"

If that is really the best you can come up with after all the advice you have been given, then leave it exactly as it is and good luck to you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

get to a fab social and be seen - get verified and put some more stuff on that profile - its your ad so up to you

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By *ild Heart69 OP Man
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

It was just a start, giving it a good think give me chance jeezz .

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