FabSwingers.com forum: General advice please O:-)

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey,I've been on here for two weeks now?

Only just got photo approved few minutes ago, but I was wondering if the photo verification is actually worth anything.

Also I am wondering what type of pictures should a guy have in his profile, I don't really take pictures of myself, usually just of the environment.

Finally any profile description advice would be welcome, I seem to have gotten some attention from couples but none from single ladies. I'm not complaining about attention from couples, quite the opposite I'm flattered but I would rather meet with ladies at first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people block those without photo verification so it does help to be verified that way. The site sees you as a legit account also. That's about it though.

Singe ladies get way more attention than you could imagine. They're often very fussy but they are individuals and one type of profile won't appeal to all of them. Try to appeal to those who you're interested in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profile looks ok(better than most). But you could elaborate on what you could offer people. Photos are good, first one is a bit far away though. If you have to take a cock shot try and make it tasteful and don't make it public.

If you messaged us and the message was not a one liner and was respectful then we would reply at least

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes I understand that ladies get 100-200 messages a day. Full time job pretty much.

Not quite sure how I could make my profile appeal to certain ladies as what they're looking for varies often.

Yeah I don't think I would be posting a cock pic in public, private sure but thanks for the idea of making it look tasteful :D

Maybe put it amongst a basket of fruits or something like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind cock pics, and plenty of women do want to see them before they decide if they want to go near your cock or not.

So there again you can see you won't be able to please everyone.

Make your profile appealing to those you want to meet with, really is as simple as knowing what you want/enjoy and trying to attract that. And yeah everyone is looking for their own thing, you don't have to be one persons ideal, you just have to be compatible - and this is possible.

Most of us don't make choosing guys a full time job, we use filters to stop plenty of guys messaging and concentrate on the guys we do want to meet.

Most of us are aware of how hard it is for many guys to get meets, although many don't sympathise enough to make it hard work for ourselves on here, but we are aware that we're unlikely to have trouble getting what we want on here when men have decent, informative profiles for us to look at and decide if we want to meet them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Any other single ladies have advice for me? Would be very grateful

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

There appears to be a confusing lack.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I understand that ladies get 100-200 messages a day. Full time job pretty much.

Not quite sure how I could make my profile appeal to certain ladies as what they're looking for varies often.

Yeah I don't think I would be posting a cock pic in public, private sure but thanks for the idea of making it look tasteful :D

Maybe put it amongst a basket of fruits or something like that

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if you want to appeal you have to do certain things that get your face in the frame the women are only looking for the positives ,if you show a negative you're out that's how it works ,so a verified photo ,good photos in your gallery cock pics in friends only or private ,a profile write up giving positive info about you and why you can't accom if you can't ,all of these things are your basic needs ,it will still be difficult but without them it may be very difficult

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any other single ladies have advice for me? Would be very grateful

I think for a single male profile it is very good! No Willy on display and you have at least bothered to write what you are looking for and a bit about yourself in your profile! Better than the 98% of single males that message me anyway!

Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its hot

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the opinions and advice, I made slights changes to the profile.

(hopefully for the better)

Any future advice and comments are most welcome!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Thanks for the opinions and advice, I made slights changes to the profile.

(hopefully for the better)

Any future advice and comments are most welcome!"

It's a good profile and the photos are a promising start.

Personally, photo verification means sod all to me. I don't think it means anything. It's not a negative but nor do I consider it a benefit.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

Few more photos would be nice.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I thought it probably means nothing to a lot of people, but it's a work in progress.

Can you please let me know what type of pictures to be exact?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I thought it probably means nothing to a lot of people, but it's a work in progress.

Can you please let me know what type of pictures to be exact?"

Anything that shows who you are and what you look like.

It's your profile. You'll never appeal to everyone so use it to find the people you'll 'click' with.

I've seen comments on the appeal of just about every aspect of the male body. Bums, chests and abs are popular. Full length shots are good, with or without towels/hands/other accessories to leave something to the imagination. I've also seen arms, shoulders, thighs, legs, backs and other parts mentioned.

Some people like men in suits, some soapy shower pics, wet white shirts or t-shirts... Use your imagination and the possibilities are endless.

Personally, I'm not a fan of close-up cock photos but some women/couples like to see them. It's up to you whether you have them and whether they're public or private. I would suggest no more than a couple, mixed in with a variety of other photos, (and definitely not taken over the toilet!), but that's only my opinion.

You're young, you look hot and you come across well; there's no reason I can see that you can't do very well on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you have a well written profile. Few more pics would be nice. Make them fun and capture your personality if your struggling for ideas. I think you may do well. Stick around in the forums and get to know people and check out socials in your area.

Doll x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great profile. Honest and to the point without offending.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Thanks for the opinions and advice, I made slights changes to the profile.

(hopefully for the better)

Any future advice and comments are most welcome!"

at some point in time you have to start figuring it out for yourself...

because at the end of the day your profile doesn't reflect you... it becomes a generic mish mash of what you think people want to hear...

lots of phrase that mean nothing....

you are never going to be able to please everyone... and the mistake most people make is trying to....

for example.... you talked about pictures.... so if ten women answered "i love cock pics"... and another 10 women said "hate cock pics" what would you do????

at the end of the day... 2 weeks here means nothing.... if you want the brutal truth it can take months to get meets...

time, patience, basic common sense...

if you have those 3 in abundance, you'll be fine.... if not, you'll just be another single guy...

so is 2 weeks really showing time, or patience?

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By *eter lewisMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

Can you transfer photos from fabswingers to fabguys just my profile pix

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

This is a tiny nit-pick....

You say "I don't really have any strict preferences" then say "I like athletic, slim and curvy".

Those are definite preferences so you're contradicting yourself. It's no big deal but others might think that too?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

at some point in time you have to start figuring it out for yourself...

because at the end of the day your profile doesn't reflect you... it becomes a generic mish mash of what you think people want to hear...

lots of phrase that mean nothing....

you are never going to be able to please everyone... and the mistake most people make is trying to....

for example.... you talked about pictures.... so if ten women answered "i love cock pics"... and another 10 women said "hate cock pics" what would you do????

at the end of the day... 2 weeks here means nothing.... if you want the brutal truth it can take months to get meets...

time, patience, basic common sense...

if you have those 3 in abundance, you'll be fine.... if not, you'll just be another single guy...

so is 2 weeks really showing time, or patience? "

Fabio is very wise

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you for all the messages.

Fabio you make a really good point I, agree with others. I don't want to change my profile solely to attract attention because yes it would not reflect me as a person, I did want some general advice as to whether there is something that might be considered an absolute "no no" regardless of who would be viewing it.

Thanks for the advice on the pictures as well, it might be kind of hard to post some that reflect my personality because I love sport (mountain biking mainly) and travelling (hiking, camping). I don't have many pictures reflecting the above points, at least not many that also include me in the picture.

I also thought that those type of pictures might not fit in here as much but I'll try to get something sorted. Though it may take me a while as I hate taking pictures and never notice a good opportunity. I'll make sure that the pictures reflect me as a person rather then just try to draw attention.

@Kinky-Minx, I understand that might be viewed as contradiction to some people, so I did make a slight alteration there.

Thank you to all once again.

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