FabSwingers.com forum: Getting your girl into swinging

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What suggestions have you guys got to get your girl into the swinging scene?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our advice is simply ask her. If she says no accept and stay loyal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What suggestions have you guys got to get your girl into the swinging scene?

I don't know your girl. Neither does anyone else here. (Probably).

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just plant the seed and let it develop?

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

No one got me into swinging. strangely enough I have my own mind and did it myself. Any boy who suggested it and tried to get me into it would be dropped like a hot potato. Treat your 'girl' like the woman she (hopefully) is and give her some respect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just plant the seed and let it develop? "

The usual reply is, "Show her your profile and see if she is impressed."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Cool. Just try and develop things slowly then I guess. Patience must be the thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cool. Just try and develop things slowly then I guess. Patience must be the thing. "

Many would say that honesty is the thing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I guess so, but I'll need to know she's interested before I say I'm a swinger I guess.

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york

"Cool. Just try and develop things slowly then I guess. Patience must be the thing.

Many would say that honesty is the thing."

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

"I guess so, but I'll need to know she's interested before I say I'm a swinger I guess. "

...and if she isn't interested?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That would be a real shame, I'm hoping that she wants to make me a happy man!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How long have you been together? That generally plays a part in it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well if its yourself, i would delete your profile as you have had meets without her knowledge so thats cheating no matter how you colour it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We are only just starting out. Honestly she's gorgeous and would be very popular

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well if its yourself, i would delete your profile as you have had meets without her knowledge so thats cheating no matter how you colour it"

Don't be presumptuous he's just said they are just starting out...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Agreed, I'll be either coming off or hiding my profile soon as I'll be concentrating on her for a while

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well if its yourself, i would delete your profile as you have had meets without her knowledge so thats cheating no matter how you colour it

Don't be presumptuous he's just said they are just starting out..."
a would hide profile or delete in a new relationship it does not look good if she accidently come across it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Agreed, I'll be either coming off or hiding my profile soon as I'll be concentrating on her for a while"

Then discuss it.

Assuming you got involved with her after 18th Feb.

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york

"Agreed, I'll be either coming off or hiding my profile soon as I'll be concentrating on her for a while"
Sounds like a good idea , good luck xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Agreed, I'll be either coming off or hiding my profile soon as I'll be concentrating on her for a while Sounds like a good idea , good luck xx "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What was the sequence of events with you guys? Who's idea was it? Did it take a long time to convince the other to try it?

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

"That would be a real shame, I'm hoping that she wants to make me a happy man! "

Not a good start - I would have thought your major goal would be to make her a happy woman.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

"What was the sequence of events with you guys? Who's idea was it? Did it take a long time to convince the other to try it? "

Paul was already a swinger as was open about it and it was something I was interested in trying. It took some time and lots of discussion before we went anywhere near the scene because it's certainly not something to rush into.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That would be a real shame, I'm hoping that she wants to make me a happy man!

Not a good start - I would have thought your major goal would be to make her a happy woman."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What was the sequence of events with you guys? Who's idea was it? Did it take a long time to convince the other to try it? "

You shouldn't have to try to convince anyone into swinging, not should she have to make you a happens as per your comment above.

If she says no, that's it, point blank, trying to convince her would only do more harm than good, how would you ever know whether she actually wants to for herself or only doing it to please you.

I'd be honest with her, tell her you've done it in the past and enjoyed it and see what she says but as I say, if she's not interested do not push it, if she is, perhaps try a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What was the sequence of events with you guys? Who's idea was it? Did it take a long time to convince the other to try it?

You shouldn't have to try to convince anyone into swinging, not should she have to make you a happens as per your comment above.

If she says no, that's it, point blank, trying to convince her would only do more harm than good, how would you ever know whether she actually wants to for herself or only doing it to please you.

I'd be honest with her, tell her you've done it in the past and enjoyed it and see what she says but as I say, if she's not interested do not push it, if she is, perhaps try a club."

Should say make you a happy man in the first paragraph

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By *alnsanCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

I suggested & mentioned to the mrs a few times when we were having some playtime together about what I would want her to do & spoke about past experiences before we met, after a while she must have took an interest herself - as it was her who signed us up & paid subscription to site, I woke up & she handed me our username & password, I would suggest not being too persistant or putting pressure on partner after initial suggestion & leave her to be a wee bit curious & then approach the subject again in a while & see if she has any interest, if so good luck & happy days if not I would leave it be (personally) as not worth risking a relationship for, also would be advised to be honest & truthful with each other so rules are set from the outset, one rule we have as a couple is as it was me who initiated things then mrs would have final say on any meets & play & with who they are with, hope all goes well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cool. Just try and develop things slowly then I guess. Patience must be the thing. "

lol...who are you responding to?

the general consensus is to either show her your profile, or ask her outright what she thinks about it?

be prepared for her to become an ex girlfriend though

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

All great advice guys. Thank you. Swingers rock!

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

"Agreed, I'll be either coming off or hiding my profile soon as I'll be concentrating on her for a while"

Definitely hide for a bit

get to know her and then judge whether you think she would be up for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First of all tell her that you are using fab as she can see how long you been here without her knowledge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask her if she is interested in having a 3some, that's what got my Mrs interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll mention it to her when I next see her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are only just starting out. Honestly she's gorgeous and would be very popular"

Sounds like you are trying to pimp her out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are only just starting out. Honestly she's gorgeous and would be very popular

Sounds like you are trying to pimp her out. "
Aw, that's not fair, you are only making an assumption and do not know if your statement is true.

OP,

- as suggested, explore the 3some thing,

- keep doing lots of sex, then she knows it's important to you, hopefully equally as important to her, and this strenghtens a relationship built on a lot of sex,

- explore (more?) porn together, right pace, right time, and be sensitive to what turns her on, this will be you opening to introduce kinkier ideas, and voila, swinging happened to be one of your suggestions!

- an alternative to porn can be you talking her through various scenarios for the same purpose.

Good luck, and hopefully happy swinging too!

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"That would be a real shame, I'm hoping that she wants to make me a happy man! "

Are you not wanting to make her a happy woman?

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By *ichaelangelaCouple
over a year ago

notts

"What suggestions have you guys got to get your girl into the swinging scene?

How about.... go on the Jeremy Kyle show with the header.... My woman will not sleep with other people, how do I convince her ??

radical idea??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

During sex tell her how much of a fantasy it is to see her with another man/couple and watch her reaction. If it's a good one tell her you know of a site where yous can make it a reality, talk about boundaries(assuming yous become a proper couple) and go from there if it's a bad one then leave it and stick with her along with deleting the profile

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

Try a headlock whilst telling her she belongs to you and she will swing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are only just starting out. Honestly she's gorgeous and would be very popular

Sounds like you are trying to pimp her out. Aw, that's not fair, you are only making an assumption and do not know if your statement is true.

OP,

- as suggested, explore the 3some thing,

- keep doing lots of sex, then she knows it's important to you, hopefully equally as important to her, and this strenghtens a relationship built on a lot of sex,

- an alternative to porn can be you talking her through various scenarios for the same purpose.

Good luck, and hopefully happy swinging too!"

I agree...it's how I (female) got into it..lots of sex with my OH, open dialogue, ideas, fantasises, letting me think about things, porn...does this turn you on...Sharing things...

then saying if could be real...Yes that's when it hit me it could be made real...so was given the username and password for here so I could talk to people and tip my toe in, see how others felt and ask those silly questions....

Talk, open and honest. It's been refreshing feeling open...vulnerable at times...but share.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try showing her the verification from the 18th Feb.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"First of all tell her that you are using fab as she can see how long you been here without her knowledge."

Don't you need some...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Try a headlock whilst telling her she belongs to you and she will swing

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

"What suggestions have you guys got to get your girl into the swinging scene?

Talk to her, it may surprise you but women are as randy if not more randy than men.

However be aware that women often want more from a partner than men do.

That does not mean that some don’t like the idea of having other partners just that they often approach it in a different way.

It all comes back to talking to her and seeing what you both agree with.

You may be surprised and find she enjoys swinging with others but you get jealous the first time she has another man pay her any attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What suggestions have you guys got to get your girl into the swinging scene?

Invite me over I will chat her up work out a time with you that you won't be there and we can somehow arrange a need for me to be there while you are away. I will do my level best to fuck your girl, I suggest that three quarters of the way through plowing your girls pussy you come back early, pretend to be shocked then quickly pop your cock out and start wanking as I fuck her. If she doesn't notice you, after a while I will whisper to her that you came back a while ago and you are now stroking to my strokes inside her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What suggestions have you guys got to get your girl into the swinging scene?

This is LEGENDARY...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What suggestions have you guys got to get your girl into the swinging scene?

This is LEGENDARY...

Thanks

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