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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey fabbers,

Really need some advice, i have been on here a while now but i cant seem to get any replies . iv got pics, a lil section about me on my profile yet i just cannot seem to get anyone to interact with me so some sdvice... Well I'll say help would be much oblidged

TJ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take out the sexual predator line.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair I've seen far worse profiles (mine isn't that good lol).

Hard to say that is your problem then.....so perhaps your messages (obviously I've not seen them)?

Not simply the wording...but are you aiming for the right people? Read the profiles with care, make sure you match and refer to them to show you have read them.

Other than that...get your ass to a club or a social!

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By *pl4funalwaysCouple
over a year ago

Murton

Don't really see a problem with your profile at all

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Did you take and act on the advice from the last time you asked this?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I certainly did haha but sadly it doesnt seem to have the desired effect that i thought it would . will take the predator line out and try get a few more pictures when i shave chewbacca down there i read the profiles just to be certain lol i mean i dont wanna set myself up for rejection haha nobody does.

Im polite , gentlemen like when i messege and i dont even mention sex so i think im lost for ideas now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Remember its not all about the profile.. you just might not appeal to the people you message.. not everyone will be attracted to you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Im not suggesting everyone is attracted to me but a simple "no" or "sorry not for me" wouldnt go a miss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im not suggesting everyone is attracted to me but a simple "no" or "sorry not for me" wouldnt go a miss. "

I told a guy the other week i wasnt interested and it went from being gorgeous to i was an ugly fat cow who needs to go to the gym and he only wanted to fuck me coz he was desperate, another told me he would wear a paper bag over his head so i didnt need to look at him!.. thats why loads dont reply.. its not worth the hassle

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Wow.... Sorry but what arseholes!! For what its worth, id blow ya legs off but atleast now i know why i dont get replies, just i just gotta wait and see . for a sex site its pretty hard to get some cheeky cheeky lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've heard nets are pretty good, maybe change your bait, have you tried trapping?

Eye catching is not easy work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im not suggesting everyone is attracted to me but a simple "no" or "sorry not for me" wouldnt go a miss. "

it doesn't work like that on here. if people don't want to interact with you they don't have to and they don't have to explain themselves.

people interested will reply or get in touch.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

You've lost me on that one im afraid

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"for a sex site its pretty hard to get some cheeky cheeky lol"

It's a swingers site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow.... Sorry but what arseholes!! For what its worth, id blow ya legs off but atleast now i know why i dont get replies, just i just gotta wait and see . for a sex site its pretty hard to get some cheeky cheeky lol"

Haha thanks.. just make sure you read profiles and only message of you think you fit the bill, if you get nothing in return take it on the chin and move on

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sorry i should of rephrased that... Even so, nobodys swinging on me lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Iv had nothing in return for 7 months......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Iv had nothing in return for 7 months......"

Get to socials and clubs and get involved that way

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Im self employed so its pretty much working weekends and what not . plus dont want to turn up on my tod as if im a lion hunting gazelles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im self employed so its pretty much working weekends and what not . plus dont want to turn up on my tod as if im a lion hunting gazelles "

U seem to have a negative answer for things that have been suggested.. u only get back the effort you put in.. if u work alot when would u be meeting then etc? Alot of couples and single women have families so their time is precious too

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I can meet just cant do late nights etc as work. I havent got a negative answer im just a guy whos driven

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can meet just cant do late nights etc as work. I havent got a negative answer im just a guy whos driven "

It just sounded like you were putting down the stuff i was suggesting.. good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

beats that predator instinct that comes out of nowhere and grabs you and that other person into just utter wildness.some may misunderstand what you are fully wanting to get across

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I dont really know how to word it . i didnt really think people would misunderstand what im trying to say.

Thought people would know what im trying to get at but clearly the majority does not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont really know how to word it . i didnt really think people would misunderstand what im trying to say.

Thought people would know what im trying to get at but clearly the majority does not "

They told you 20 weeks ago.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

I'd really re-think the passage in your profile where you describe what you'd like to do with a woman.

At best it sounds creepy, and the reference to being a predator is just downright scary...

I'd steer well clear of such lurid detail.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd really re-think the passage in your profile where you describe what you'd like to do with a woman.

At best it sounds creepy, and the reference to being a predator is just downright scary...

I'd steer well clear of such lurid detail."

I got that impression too. Nothing in your text appealed to me! You sound pretentious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont really know how to word it . i didnt really think people would misunderstand what im trying to say.

Thought people would know what im trying to get at but clearly the majority does not "

Animal instinct sound better than predatory, i think so anyway. But there's probably something better than that even, i just can't think of it right now.

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By *ny1localMan
over a year ago

READING


"Wow.... Sorry but what arseholes!! For what its worth, id blow ya legs off but atleast now i know why i dont get replies, just i just gotta wait and see . for a sex site its pretty hard to get some cheeky cheeky lol

Haha thanks.. just make sure you read profiles and only message of you think you fit the bill, if you get nothing in return take it on the chin and move on "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shame you don't travel your hot hot hot

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands


"I certainly did haha but sadly it doesnt seem to have the desired effect that i thought it would . will take the predator line out and try get a few more pictures when i shave chewbacca down there i read the profiles just to be certain lol i mean i dont wanna set myself up for rejection haha nobody does.

Im polite , gentlemen like when i messege and i dont even mention sex so i think im lost for ideas now "

Nooooo don't put cock pics on!!! Your pics are ok as they are, you have a good body and a nice face - we have all seen a cock before!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm having the same problem even though I've only been on a week, I've had more luck on dating sites, its meant to be a swinging site, I'm.by no means saying I'm brad Pitt but without sounding like I'm blowing my own trumpet I have attracted quite good looking women socially etc, yet on this I cant pull a pint

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not instashag.. if youve had more luck on dating sites then why you here?

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

Widnes

Lose the line on your profile that asks someone to confirm they have read your profile. Its not guys who need to have this on their profile and it comes across that you are pretentious and above everyone.

Be realistic, know that you want, but more importantly, know what you dont want and approach profiles who fit the bill.

Socials and clubs are always recommended, not sure why because a lot of guys dont go to either but still get success.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"I'm having the same problem even though I've only been on a week, I've had more luck on dating sites, its meant to be a swinging site, I'm.by no means saying I'm brad Pitt but without sounding like I'm blowing my own trumpet I have attracted quite good looking women socially etc, yet on this I cant pull a pint "

You need to lower your expectations on the site...

You're one of thousands and women can pick and choose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know its not "instashag" as you comically put it, but you're making out people only come on here who cant pull in real life which is ridiculous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know its not "instashag" as you comically put it, but you're making out people only come on here who cant pull in real life which is ridiculous "

Where did i say that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The part were you said if you have more luck on dating sites then why you on here? Cos I'm horny, male and greedy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The part were you said if you have more luck on dating sites then why you on here? Cos I'm horny, male and greedy "

Think you mistaken or confused

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

The pulling a face photo is a bit weird if you don't mind me saying so. Otherwise, it's a waiting game.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"I know its not "instashag" as you comically put it, but you're making out people only come on here who cant pull in real life which is ridiculous "

Who said you're on here because you couldn't pull in real life?

Being that defensive isn't a good look on here at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some very snotty attitudes on this smile will ye

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"Some very snotty attitudes on this smile will ye "

You do realise that quite a few people read posts on forums when deciding whether to meet or not..

Your attitude is not helping you one bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"for a sex site its pretty hard to get some cheeky cheeky lol

It's a swingers site "

This......far too many guys (recently) joining up thinking it is a sex/instant fuck site......as another thread asks...."is it OK to call people fucktards?"

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