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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi, i'm new to this site and to swinging, in fact i'm a swinging virgin. I feel very sexually excited about trying to find someone to swing with on this site, and hopefully go to some clubs, but it is quite frustrating when people do not receive messages from newbies! In fact most women don't, I understand that people might just want to meet experienced people who know what this is all about but what about us dudes that are new and trying to gain some experience? Do any single guys really find some fun on here? I'm not interested in just sex I would like to make friends and have great sex! It seems there is lots going on and I am missing out. If anyone could help who has been in the same boat with some tips and advice would be appreciated, Should I go to a swingers club on my own to try meet a single girl who is into swinging?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep trying man!! Be perseverance

!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need patience

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

It's not that you are new to swinging it is that you are new to the site.

Women get inundated with messages and there's no desire to have them form new guys who then leave the site within days or even hours.

If you make it past the 3 days there is a slightly higher chance you might stay and not me a complete time waster

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the plus side....you won't be new forever

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

There were a lot of new guys at new year, the messages to us consisted of "I want to fuck you" in the main - boring

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By *ayd2pinkTV/TS
over a year ago

TENTERDEN

All the above. cripes you've only been here a short while.

Don't be discouraged and give thought to your first message. It has to stand out with out being crude.

Got to say a visit to the barber wouldn't go amiss either and take those things off your cock.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

oh thanks, this time next year eh?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all the support guy's and girls, I will keep trying,I'm not just sending messages asking for sex as I think the sex comes as part of forming a good friendship/relasionship with a good bit of banter and some teasing for good measure. I have to actually like and have a few things in common with a potential date, have a laugh and good chemistry also. I would not just send a msg and ask just for sex.

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By *r an Mrs xMan
over a year ago

liverpool

No verifications ..... Usually a messer or fantasist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably wouldn't harm you to get to a club.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Thanks for all the support guy's and girls, I will keep trying,I'm not just sending messages asking for sex as I think the sex comes as part of forming a good friendship/relasionship with a good bit of banter and some teasing for good measure. I have to actually like and have a few things in common with a potential date, have a laugh and good chemistry also. I would not just send a msg and ask just for sex."

If this is all true you will do well on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Upgrade your account too ... as some don't take messages unless you're a site supporter

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

ah, how do I get someone to verify me if I have not had a date with anyone? frustrating!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The number of people - men and women alike - who join the site, have a nose around, exchange a couple of messages, then bottle it and delete their profile is astronomical. Most Fab users just don't have the time to waste going though the motions with fantasists. If you're serious about wanting to do this, the best way is to take your time, get to know people on the forum or in the chat rooms and eventually it'll just click. It''s not an instant thing, I'm afraid.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"ah, how do I get someone to verify me if I have not had a date with anyone? frustrating! "

They aren't dates, the are meets

You can come meet me for a coffee or try to get to a club or social near you

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Its only 3 days you have to wait

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"ah, how do I get someone to verify me if I have not had a date with anyone? frustrating! "

Cam verification on the chat rooms could help some don't see them as a normal veri but it classes you as verified in the eyes of the site. Or photo verified?

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

Oh you are photo verified. Oops lol

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By *r an Mrs xMan
over a year ago

liverpool

Try going to a club x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ah, how do I get someone to verify me if I have not had a date with anyone? frustrating! "

Use the quote button so people know who's comment you are replying to but if its the lady who mentioned upgrading and become a site supporting, she meant paying the sub ie £5 as some see it as a suggestion that you are less of a time waster

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, i'm new to this site and to swinging, in fact i'm a swinging virgin. I feel very sexually excited about trying to find someone to swing with on this site, and hopefully go to some clubs, but it is quite frustrating when people do not receive messages from newbies! In fact most women don't, I understand that people might just want to meet experienced people who know what this is all about but what about us dudes that are new and trying to gain some experience? Do any single guys really find some fun on here? I'm not interested in just sex I would like to make friends and have great sex! It seems there is lots going on and I am missing out. If anyone could help who has been in the same boat with some tips and advice would be appreciated, Should I go to a swingers club on my own to try meet a single girl who is into swinging?"
we've all been in that boat keep plugging away ,success comes to those who wait

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of people filter newbies due to a vast majority of them being dreamers and fantasists.

It just cuts out one potential venue for time wasting as some people have very limited time to play and being stood up is no fun.

Hang around for a bit and that new member tag will eventually fall off :P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No verifications ..... Usually a messer or fantasist. "

Or new to the site or selective about who they meet maybe?

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By *antonkid1955Man
over a year ago

cardiff

Best way to meet people and make contacts is by visiting clubs and going to the socials..there is someone for everyone.

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By *r an Mrs xMan
over a year ago

liverpool


"No verifications ..... Usually a messer or fantasist.

Or new to the site or selective about who they meet maybe? "

Saw one the other day. Been on a year no verifications ..... Now that is selective Maybe the 20 year old single female ( unicorn ) couldn't get out while his wife was at home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No verifications ..... Usually a messer or fantasist.

Or new to the site or selective about who they meet maybe?

Saw one the other day. Been on a year no verifications ..... Now that is selective Maybe the 20 year old single female ( unicorn ) couldn't get out while his wife was at home "

So what? Perhaps they are running their profile the way they want to run their profile. I believe people are allowed to do that....

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By *jj46Man
over a year ago

rhyl

I'm new been here for over a week it takes time I've found the forum good.getting to know people through this way

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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago

London


"Hi, i'm new to this site and to swinging, in fact i'm a swinging virgin. I feel very sexually excited about trying to find someone to swing with on this site, and hopefully go to some clubs, but it is quite frustrating when people do not receive messages from newbies! In fact most women don't, I understand that people might just want to meet experienced people who know what this is all about but what about us dudes that are new and trying to gain some experience? Do any single guys really find some fun on here? I'm not interested in just sex I would like to make friends and have great sex! It seems there is lots going on and I am missing out. If anyone could help who has been in the same boat with some tips and advice would be appreciated, Should I go to a swingers club on my own to try meet a single girl who is into swinging?"

I've blocked all newbies, those that aren't photo verified/have a verification or aren't a site supporter... owww and all men

Personally, this is just to manage my inbox and only get messages from people I want to interact with. If i feel attracted to someone I'll wink them or message them first, if they ignore or delete said message, I make a private note about it to avoid doing it again.

I have met newbies, but under my terms, just the way it is for me. But as I go to clubs and parties too, I have met newbies that way too. It's a good way to meet people as online you can't always showcase your best self.

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By *aturewomanloverMan
over a year ago

staffs/cheshire

keep pluggin mate and it will come eventually. thing is theres lots and lots of men compared to hardly any women. and they are all to busy to meet, or are timewasters, im pissed off, planned my whole sunday around a 4pm meet, and she went quiet around 3 and not heard of her since!! timewaster! plus shes ruined my weekend hatrick (friday meet , saturday meet sunday meet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"keep pluggin mate and it will come eventually. thing is theres lots and lots of men compared to hardly any women. and they are all to busy to meet, or are timewasters, im pissed off, planned my whole sunday around a 4pm meet, and she went quiet around 3 and not heard of her since!! timewaster! plus shes ruined my weekend hatrick (friday meet , saturday meet sunday meet? "

I hope the two meets you did have don't read your posts.....

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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago

London


"keep pluggin mate and it will come eventually. thing is theres lots and lots of men compared to hardly any women. and they are all to busy to meet, or are timewasters, im pissed off, planned my whole sunday around a 4pm meet, and she went quiet around 3 and not heard of her since!! timewaster! plus shes ruined my weekend hatrick (friday meet , saturday meet sunday meet?

I hope the two meets you did have don't read your posts....."

What two meet? He's a single unverified guy that's been here for 5 months. Only hattrick he would have had would have been 3 fake meets in a row

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"keep pluggin mate and it will come eventually. thing is theres lots and lots of men compared to hardly any women. and they are all to busy to meet, or are timewasters, im pissed off, planned my whole sunday around a 4pm meet, and she went quiet around 3 and not heard of her since!! timewaster! plus shes ruined my weekend hatrick (friday meet , saturday meet sunday meet?

I hope the two meets you did have don't read your posts.....

What two meet? He's a single unverified guy that's been here for 5 months. Only hattrick he would have had would have been 3 fake meets in a row "

Good point.

Does a right hand Friday wank and a left hand Saturday wank count as two meets?

If it does I've also had two meets this weekend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel your pain.

But you should be more concerned about verifications.

A lot of people here won't meet others who have no verifications.

It's true, you can get verified after camming with someone but it carry's more weight if you get that verification after meeting someone.

There's the issue, to meet, you need verifications but to get them, you need to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have veri's. Infact 9 in 2months. Some wont meet me because i have to many they say. Or a lot of the veri's say im shy. Guess what. In a lot of ladies minds on here that makes me not a real man. So wont meet me. More to this site then just having veri's to get meets im afraid

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By *aturewomanloverMan
over a year ago

staffs/cheshire

Come on Maebabe

You think I I'd really use my proper profile to tell the forum my weekend antics??

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By *aturewomanloverMan
over a year ago

staffs/cheshire

Too true mate. I hide most my veris as you get the you've met to many line. We're on here for variety and even steady fuck buddy's don't last forever. If we wanted the same woman forever we'd settle down/get married

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, i'm new to this site and to swinging, in fact i'm a swinging virgin. I feel very sexually excited about trying to find someone to swing with on this site, and hopefully go to some clubs, but it is quite frustrating when people do not receive messages from newbies! In fact most women don't, I understand that people might just want to meet experienced people who know what this is all about but what about us dudes that are new and trying to gain some experience? Do any single guys really find some fun on here? I'm not interested in just sex I would like to make friends and have great sex! It seems there is lots going on and I am missing out. If anyone could help who has been in the same boat with some tips and advice would be appreciated, Should I go to a swingers club on my own to try meet a single girl who is into swinging?"

Then go to clubs and socials and stop messaging people

It's not difficult to work out that you will meet people there and don't forget you only don't know anyone till you ihave been

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By *lfieWoman
over a year ago

South Dublin

Jeez, if you don't have the patience to wait seven days for newbie status to be over then you have no hope on here!

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By *aturewomanloverMan
over a year ago

staffs/cheshire


"keep pluggin mate and it will come eventually. thing is theres lots and lots of men compared to hardly any women. and they are all to busy to meet, or are timewasters, im pissed off, planned my whole sunday around a 4pm meet, and she went quiet around 3 and not heard of her since!! timewaster! plus shes ruined my weekend hatrick (friday meet , saturday meet sunday meet?

I hope the two meets you did have don't read your posts.....

What two meet? He's a single unverified guy that's been here for 5 months. Only hattrick he would have had would have been 3 fake meets in a row

Good point.

Does a right hand Friday wank and a left hand Saturday wank count as two meets?

If it does I've also had two meets this weekend. "

Jealously will get you no where my friend on this site. Ok the weekend hatrick wasn't completed this time but it's been done before, and if you don't believe that then I aren't even goin mention my daily hatrick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"keep pluggin mate and it will come eventually. thing is theres lots and lots of men compared to hardly any women. and they are all to busy to meet, or are timewasters, im pissed off, planned my whole sunday around a 4pm meet, and she went quiet around 3 and not heard of her since!! timewaster! plus shes ruined my weekend hatrick (friday meet , saturday meet sunday meet?

I hope the two meets you did have don't read your posts.....

What two meet? He's a single unverified guy that's been here for 5 months. Only hattrick he would have had would have been 3 fake meets in a row

Good point.

Does a right hand Friday wank and a left hand Saturday wank count as two meets?

If it does I've also had two meets this weekend.

Jealously will get you no where my friend on this site. Ok the weekend hatrick wasn't completed this time but it's been done before, and if you don't believe that then I aren't even goin mention my daily hatrick "

So quit moaning if you're doing so well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't understand this thread at all... I thought it was 3 days to message if people have that filter on.. And 7 days to post in forums....

OP been a member 2 weeks... How did either effect you 3 days ago?..

Puzzled

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Jeez, if you don't have the patience to wait seven days for newbie status to be over then you have no hope on here! "
they're eager to get shagging give him a break he's only human and horny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm quite partial to the odd newbie it's the ones with no pics that I ignore xxx

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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago

London


"Come on Maebabe

You think I I'd really use my proper profile to tell the forum my weekend antics?? "

I just don't see why you would have two profiles? Who has time for that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Come on Maebabe

You think I I'd really use my proper profile to tell the forum my weekend antics??

I just don't see why you would have two profiles? Who has time for that? "
even women have two profiles on here xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"keep pluggin mate and it will come eventually. thing is theres lots and lots of men compared to hardly any women. and they are all to busy to meet, or are timewasters, im pissed off, planned my whole sunday around a 4pm meet, and she went quiet around 3 and not heard of her since!! timewaster! plus shes ruined my weekend hatrick (friday meet , saturday meet sunday meet?

I hope the two meets you did have don't read your posts.....

What two meet? He's a single unverified guy that's been here for 5 months. Only hattrick he would have had would have been 3 fake meets in a row

Good point.

Does a right hand Friday wank and a left hand Saturday wank count as two meets?

If it does I've also had two meets this weekend.

Jealously will get you no where my friend on this site. Ok the weekend hatrick wasn't completed this time but it's been done before, and if you don't believe that then I aren't even goin mention my daily hatrick

So quit moaning if you're doing so well"

He's trying to make bragging sound like moaning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ohhh, a local boy!!! OP, feel free to drop me a message if you see this.

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By *razedcatMan
over a year ago

London / Herts

OP, you have a decent profile with decent photos, you seem very polite, and you're in good shape. You'll be verified soon, I'm sure!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sorry guys I though a newbie status lasted for a month. I feel like a drama queen now x I have survived the 7 day wait and have now became a site supporter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No verifications ..... Usually a messer or fantasist. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

good luck op

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish


"Too true mate. I hide most my veris as you get the you've met to many line. We're on here for variety and even steady fuck buddy's don't last forever. If we wanted the same woman forever we'd settle down/get married "
you've no veris to hide

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Too true mate. I hide most my veris as you get the you've met to many line. We're on here for variety and even steady fuck buddy's don't last forever. If we wanted the same woman forever we'd settle down/get married

you've no veris to hide "

Are we allowed to say "Bwahahahahahahahaha?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Too true mate. I hide most my veris as you get the you've met to many line. We're on here for variety and even steady fuck buddy's don't last forever. If we wanted the same woman forever we'd settle down/get married "

what veri's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Too true mate. I hide most my veris as you get the you've met to many line. We're on here for variety and even steady fuck buddy's don't last forever. If we wanted the same woman forever we'd settle down/get married

what veri's "

The very very very very hidden veris of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Come on Maebabe

You think I I'd really use my proper profile to tell the forum my weekend antics?? "

Re above quote - How many profiles do you have ??? This in fact is Part of the problem! multi profiles / fake profiles makes it harder for Newbies that are genuine to break through.

My settings are set to X for newbies (sorry to those genuine)since I already have an issue being hit up with multiple fake profiles & just can't be doing with it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry guys I though a newbie status lasted for a month. I feel like a drama queen now x I have survived the 7 day wait and have now became a site supporter "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry guys I though a newbie status lasted for a month. I feel like a drama queen now x I have survived the 7 day wait and have now became a site supporter "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"keep pluggin mate and it will come eventually. thing is theres lots and lots of men compared to hardly any women. and they are all to busy to meet, or are timewasters, im pissed off, planned my whole sunday around a 4pm meet, and she went quiet around 3 and not heard of her since!! timewaster! plus shes ruined my weekend hatrick (friday meet , saturday meet sunday meet?

I hope the two meets you did have don't read your posts.....

What two meet? He's a single unverified guy that's been here for 5 months. Only hattrick he would have had would have been 3 fake meets in a row

Good point.

Does a right hand Friday wank and a left hand Saturday wank count as two meets?

If it does I've also had two meets this weekend.

Jealously will get you no where my friend on this site. Ok the weekend hatrick wasn't completed this time but it's been done before, and if you don't believe that then I aren't even goin mention my daily hatrick "

Going on your profile , profile name, attitude & posts ..... I'm amazed you're not a fecking virgin never mind the 'said ' hatricks ?!?!!

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

OP get your ass to a club and socialise and get yourself verified that way x Good luck squirrel x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No verifications ..... Usually a messer or fantasist. "

If you don't have a verification and can't get a meet why does that automatically make you a messer or a fantasist? It probably means that you have not yet sparked someones interest, it takes time for some.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice! I'm going to a private party this weekend! excited !!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't understand this thread at all... I thought it was 3 days to message if people have that filter on.. And 7 days to post in forums....

OP been a member 2 weeks... How did either effect you 3 days ago?..

Puzzled "
I thought the status lasted for a month, I fee like a drama queen now

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

HI, hope your well x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ohhh, a local boy!!! OP, feel free to drop me a message if you see this. "
HI hope your well?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ah, how do I get someone to verify me if I have not had a date with anyone? frustrating! "

Get yourself down to a club mate and get networking, that's the best idea

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Update^^ I attended a Sinfony sex party at the weekend and had an amazing time! I am now verified!

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By *anie1000Woman
over a year ago

Staffs


"

Got to say a visit to the barber wouldn't go amiss either and take those things off your cock."

I have to disagree ! Please take your vitamins and minerals and grow that mane . . . !!

Janie x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you Jane x your looking good x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey OP...you have been here 2 weeks now. The "newbie block" will have been lifted now....fill her boots!

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