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By *ink and inked OP Couple
over a year ago

Essex

We are a soft play only couple ... Most things ok girl on girl, oral etc but so many other couples / singles frowning on it ...

Are we the only ones that play like this ?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"We are a soft play only couple ... Most things ok girl on girl, oral etc but so many other couples / singles frowning on it ...

Are we the only ones that play like this ? "

No you aren't and you shouldn't waste an iota of energy on what other people think of how you play. Your sex life, your rules.

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By *ink and inked OP Couple
over a year ago

Essex

That's how I see it I don't change for anyone but always seem to start off chatting that 'yeah it's cool with them' then start dropping in the convo about us going more with the flow and experiencing more haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are a soft play only couple ... Most things ok girl on girl, oral etc but so many other couples / singles frowning on it ...

Are we the only ones that play like this ? "

Clearly not as your veris show !

The only concern we have with soft play only couples is the possibility of them having an unstable relationship , and the shit hitting the fan so to speak if they aren't 100% comfortable .

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"That's how I see it I don't change for anyone but always seem to start off chatting that 'yeah it's cool with them' then start dropping in the convo about us going more with the flow and experiencing more haha "

We just had exactly the same conversation! There are so many erotic scenarios to be experienced but in the end loads (not all) of people want to meet, penetrate and go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's lots of soft play couples out there, we're one for a start. Just go with what feels comfortable for yous. Don't ever feel pressured by others. Good luck. X

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I know I seem naive, what is soft play

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By *orders2forUCouple
over a year ago

Hawick

There are probably as many definitions as there are people who go that road but mainly in our view no genital to genital penetration. Some may ban fingers entering and some may welcome it and so on.

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By *ittenandthepirateCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

"We are a soft play only couple ... Most things ok girl on girl, oral etc but so many other couples / singles frowning on it ...

Are we the only ones that play like this ? "

We don't frown on it, if that's how others like to play then we won't judge, it's just our preference for full swap as your preference is for soft.

We wouldn't completely rule out a soft swap meet if we were at a club for example. However we're not keen when couples want girl on girl and then males joining in with own partner as I feel a bit like I'm being put on show which I don't like. R

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By *ink and inked OP Couple
over a year ago

Essex

Thanks for all your replys ... We are a new couple together but both were in the scene before this is how we know what is clear what we want. Very honest and upfront with it because the way we see it is this is a little additional extra fun for us ... No dramas or the necessity to do it and have only played twice since swinging together (all our other veris are our friends etc )

And soft play as we see it is doing whatever we are comfortable with without full sex xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know I seem naive, what is soft play "

Everyone has their own definition but it generally involves no penetrative sex other than from own partner. We are not especially concerned about penetration so quite happy with soft play.

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By *hic EventsWoman
over a year ago

Cambridge

"We are a soft play only couple ... Most things ok girl on girl, oral etc but so many other couples / singles frowning on it ...

Are we the only ones that play like this ? "

Every one turns to the dark side eventually !! It's only natural

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are a soft play only couple ... Most things ok girl on girl, oral etc but so many other couples / singles frowning on it ...

Are we the only ones that play like this ?

Every one turns to the dark side eventually !! It's only natural

This is very very true!! The force is very strong on the dark side

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

"There are probably as many definitions as there are people who go that road but mainly in our view no genital to genital penetration. Some may ban fingers entering and some may welcome it and so on.

L2"

thanks, K xx

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By *eordiesCouple
over a year ago

newcastle

Sometimes it feels like being a softswinging couple should wear a bell round our necks and have "Plague" tattoo'ed on us. But then you meet great people who respect your boundries and have a great time together !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for all your replys ... We are a new couple together but both were in the scene before this is how we know what is clear what we want. Very honest and upfront with it because the way we see it is this is a little additional extra fun for us ... No dramas or the necessity to do it and have only played twice since swinging together (all our other veris are our friends etc )

And soft play as we see it is doing whatever we are comfortable with without full sex xx "

Works this way for us, just do what your happy with and keep talking to each other. Things may change one day for you but until your happy going further keep it to what you are both happy with.

Some people will frown upon this, but many others will feel the same themselves, remember your here for your own fun not anyone else's.

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By *ilver Bra.sCouple
over a year ago

Aberdare

We're soft play too no complaints so far. We're happy with the way we do things other seem too enjoy our nites any how.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we only play soft,

yes meets are harder to find,

foreplay is very horny a erotic, penetration is only one part of enjoyable sex,

go to eureaka mainly to watch and be watched

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have done both, and "soft" can be very erotic. (Mr)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess we're a soft swap kinda couple though Hubby does full swap with and without me (Mrs: My choice) and I soft play with and without him

Works for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do full swap. We are also pretty active yet... Id say over 3/4 of all our interaction with other couples never involves full sex... Its certainly not planned like that...

So soft swing couples doesn't bother us, as we find that most meets seem to end up like that anyway

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By *eerobCouple
over a year ago

solihull

We don't full swap, we rarely do even the mildest form of soft swap, we just like being in close proximity to a couple making love, , so we can watch and be watched. We do find it hard to get meets but we get enough and have had great fun. Dont think we would ever be tempted to move from this stand point. Xx8

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With a couple we are looking for soft swap but Mrs c is unsure of sharing me yet.

Yet in a mfm situation we are more than happy for full ?.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

I have never heard of soft swingers 'being frowned on' but it is true that many people have no interest in a soft swing meet.

I won't meet for soft swing, I am an all or nothing kinda gal, soft swing does little for me. But I don't look down, belittle or frown upon those who choose to do things their way instead of mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all. This is how we play, bi fem fun and soft swing, everything is a go apart from penitration. It's sexy and horny and we've never had any complaints

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not at all. This is how we play, bi fem fun and soft swing, everything is a go apart from penitration. It's sexy and horny and we've never had any complaints

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we play soft on occasion, we prefer full swap but we definitely wouldn't push someone to do more than they were comfortable with and anyone who does isn't worth even entertaining the idea of playing with for us.

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By *ust Ms LovinWoman
over a year ago

glasgow

we are a full swap couple .....

soft swap just didnt do it for us as a couple ...

what you have to remember is that swinging as a couple is about enhancing what you have together if thats soft swap then so be it ....other couples should respect that ...if they dont then thats their problem ...

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By *ot so innocent nowCouple
over a year ago

Chorley

We are a soft swop couple, though we have had a few meets with full swop couples who have been happy enough to respect our boundaries and also been surprised at how much fun they had without it.

We've only met couples but have discussed what the boundaries would be should we be involved in a mff (we have in clubs but not as a pre arranged meet) In which case I'm quite happy for full swop between my man and another woman. I just don't feel like i want to go down the route of having another mans cock inside me (currently).

Though we love everything that goes along with what would be considered soft swop, so there's plenty of fun to be had.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"We are a soft play only couple ... Most things ok girl on girl, oral etc but so many other couples / singles frowning on it ...

Are we the only ones that play like this ?

Clearly not as your veris show !

The only concern we have with soft play only couples is the possibility of them having an unstable relationship , and the shit hitting the fan so to speak if they aren't 100% comfortable .

This is an interesting perspective. I do always find your posts interesting and thought provoking. I had never thought that the fact that am rarely interested in another man's cock as an indication of having an unstable relationship. In fact, for me its about not wanting or needing another. For black cop, its about getting some cock, which I cannot provide ... and he is bi. In response to another poster, I feel I have come back from the dark side, as no longer interested in penetrative sex with someone else. It has, on occasion, happened in the heat of the moment, which is fine ... so I do just go with the flow.

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By *anillanomoreCouple
over a year ago

Chichester

We have had this. It is very off putting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are a soft swap couple and always insist on socials first so we can all establish boundaries and this is what a part of a social is about as well as attraction and chemistry. We have met couples who have then asked for full swap but all have been respectful when we reiterate soft swap only, don't ever feel pressured to do anything more than your comfortable with and there are plenty of soft swap couples on here maybe just adjust your preferences so your search only brings up soft swap couples

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By *rnMrs2017Couple
over a year ago

County Durham

We've not done a couples meet yet, literally only done a club 2x and we just played by ourselves.

When we eventually get around to a meet with a couple then I'll be going into it with the plan of just a soft swap til we find our feet.

We have an extremely stable relationship, my big draw back is that I have been with my other half 13 years, both been faithful, and I was a virgin when I met him! So jumping straight into penetrative sex with another couple is a helluva leap!! Want to get there eventually but want to move at my pace, no one is gonna push me.

We won't meet people who can't respect that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are a soft play only couple ... Most things ok girl on girl, oral etc but so many other couples / singles frowning on it ...

Are we the only ones that play like this ? "

We are a full swap couple however we also enjoy soft fun. For us its about respecting the boundaries of the people we are meeting. It's important to us that everyone is comfortable and having fun.

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By *rs DCouple
over a year ago

far

"We're soft play too no complaints so far. We're happy with the way we do things other seem too enjoy our nites any how."
same here.love grope box at xtasia love working the gloryhole there.love girl on girl thats as far as we want to go and its what we like that matters x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are a soft play only couple ... Most things ok girl on girl, oral etc but so many other couples / singles frowning on it ...

Are we the only ones that play like this ? "

You're by no means the only ones. Have meet plenty and find it just as secy as full swing. Stivk to what you're comfortable with them you will enjoy it so much better...

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"We are a soft play only couple ... Most things ok girl on girl, oral etc but so many other couples / singles frowning on it ...

Are we the only ones that play like this ? "

No your not alone and don't worry what other couples do. Do what your comfortable with.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apologies for my terrible spelling. New phone..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this is how we started out - we crossed the boundary with some good friends but waited for the right people - we had decided ages before that we would but not just with anybody - do what is right for you

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By *ittlemiss N MasterJCouple
over a year ago

sheffield

Hi we are a soft swing couple. Very new to the whole scene. Looking to meet other like minded couples. Not everything about sex.Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is us .. xx

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Visiting Blackpool

Soft play/bi-fem fun....in

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
over a year ago

Tamworth

Were partly soft play.

Mr isn't into being with other women, he'll do kissing and touching but has no real desire for it to go further. Our main goal is MFM so that's where we sit but we also enjoy the social side of our local clubs on Saturdays so it's usually only soft swing then.

Tbf, everyone we've met have been great with it and not once put pressure on us to change our dynamic, I guess we've just been lucky. But I can honestly say, I don't think I'd want to entertain a girl on girl softplay situation with only more play happening with our own partners again, I always feel far too much like it's "bi for the lads" if that makes sense and often have encountered women who aren't really bi which means it's not very pleasurable either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are a soft play only couple ... Most things ok girl on girl, oral etc but so many other couples / singles frowning on it ...

Are we the only ones that play like this ? "

Not at all, take no notice of those couples that frown on it. In our opinion there is a lot of fun to be had playing this way

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

We love soft-play, but because we do other stuff too it's not uncommon to meet people who are always hoping for a bit more.

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By *oshnbex30Couple
over a year ago

yorkshire

"We are a soft play only couple ... Most things ok girl on girl, oral etc but so many other couples / singles frowning on it ...

Are we the only ones that play like this ? "

We live soft play most people will respect it

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By *ezandCCouple
over a year ago

Telford

We are discussing venturing into this, some same room fun with interaction between the ladies and build from there, doubt we will ever go further than soft swap.

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By *aysOfOurLivesCouple
over a year ago

Essex

"We are a soft play only couple ... Most things ok girl on girl, oral etc but so many other couples / singles frowning on it ...

Are we the only ones that play like this ? "

Not at all, we are soft play and having only once fully swapped. we still consider ourselves soft play only unless it just feels right within an established friendship.

You be you and others will love you for it xx

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

We don't really engage with others sexually with a check list of things that must happen. A hot encounter is a hot encounter be it kissing, no swap, soft swap or full/hard swap. We're generally in the soft swap camp, however on occasions with the right people and right situation we have full/hard swapped. But for us every encounter is different and every encounter can be hot regardless of who's dick went in who or if anyone at all. Just find us the right chemistry and environment and the rest will turn out good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are discussing venturing into this, some same room fun with interaction between the ladies and build from there, doubt we will ever go further than soft swap.

Xxx

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By *exy Bi FemWoman
over a year ago

Peterborough

Nothing wrong with this at all I always respect what the couples dos and don'ts are before I meet up and I respect them xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey guys we’re very new too this and would love to meet like minded people were not into getting it on straight away we like to see if we have a connection and go with the flow and have a laugh. Meeting new people is our aim xx

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By *abyblueeyescoupleCouple
over a year ago

Hastings

Soft play sounds good - not tried it but would like too

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