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By *udiguy OP   Man
over a year ago

harrogate

I ve been on here for quite a long time now. Unknown to my mrs .

Before i start let me say im not interested in peoples negative comments slagging me off for the past ... just advice on our future..

A few weeks ago , during sex my mrs said she would like to involve another female.

I passed it off as dirty talk / fantasy.

Last night she sprung on me that she has spoken to a mutual male freind ,( who is shall i say sexually active)

As to wether he knows any girls who maybe interested in joining us .

She just wants me to watch her with another i girl ill add at this point . And im cool with that...

So my point is this

Should i delete my profile . Set up a new one . With her , as a couple . And use it together as a couple.??

or

should i suggest we go try a night at a swinger club?

Or

should i just leave it alone , not be pushy at all and leave her to sort it out alone in her own way?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I ve been on here for quite a long time now. Unknown to my mrs .

Before i start let me say im not interested in peoples negative comments slagging me off for the past ... just advice on our future..

A few weeks ago , during sex my mrs said she would like to involve another female.

I passed it off as dirty talk / fantasy.

Last night she sprung on me that she has spoken to a mutual male freind ,( who is shall i say sexually active)

As to wether he knows any girls who maybe interested in joining us .

She just wants me to watch her with another i girl ill add at this point . And im cool with that...

So my point is this

Should i delete my profile . Set up a new one . With her , as a couple . And use it together as a couple.??

or

should i suggest we go try a night at a swinger club?

Or

should i just leave it alone , not be pushy at all and leave her to sort it out alone in her own way?

"

The short answer? Only you and your wife can decide.

The funny answer? Encourage her to create her own profile on here.

As to negative comments, I am afraid that you can expect several. While we have no axe to grind as to whether someone is married, many do - and once you start a thread, you can't dictate how people may respond.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maibe your wife is here also, you never know.

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By *orders2forUCouple
over a year ago

Hawick

Be very careful as you know more than you should as it were and it will be very easy to give that away.

Let her move at her pace is our thinking.

L2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

While neither condoning nor having a go at your situation. Bearing in mind it isn't a position I've been in I would:

1. Hide your profile (don't dekete as you may require to come back to it)

2. Suggest a club...do an Internet "search" with your Mrs as that way you are looking for something new to you, as well as her.

3. If all goes well I'm sure you could have been "talking" to someone at the club who will tell you about FAB. You can then introduce her to the site, set up a joint profile and delete your old one.

This just seems like the logical way, given the situation you are in at the moment and without judging how you got there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"While neither condoning nor having a go at your situation. Bearing in mind it isn't a position I've been in I would:

1. Hide your profile (don't dekete as you may require to come back to it)

2. Suggest a club...do an Internet "search" with your Mrs as that way you are looking for something new to you, as well as her.

3. If all goes well I'm sure you could have been "talking" to someone at the club who will tell you about FAB. You can then introduce her to the site, set up a joint profile and delete your old one.

This just seems like the logical way, given the situation you are in at the moment and without judging how you got there."

Totally agree with this I wouldn't get yourself any more in unnessasery hot water. I no my ex regrets dismising my sujestions on the subject when we were togther and sex was getting a little boring. Good luck xx

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By *udiguy OP   Man
over a year ago

harrogate

Thanks for the feedback folks... i have been here a long time

Mostly out of curiousity

Our sex life is very vannila and always has been.... although i know she has a "naughty" past . And she knows i have a "history" as well... ( this is nt the first time she will have done this .. just the first time with me and we have been together a decade)

Her libido has took a massive turn around recently

( nothing suspect going on , im fully aware as to the reasons why).... so now i feel very happy about it and hope that it will be the start of something new !!!i dont wanna miss the chance for sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do hope it goes well for you. Your wife sounds lovely and should be encouraged as only you know how. No one knows what goes on in a marriage except the 2 people in it.

Good luck.

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By *udiguy OP   Man
over a year ago

harrogate


"I do hope it goes well for you. Your wife sounds lovely and should be encouraged as only you know how. No one knows what goes on in a marriage except the 2 people in it.

Good luck."

Cant see us turning into a diverse swinging couple...

But a little bit of fun might be nice

Something more than now

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By *empsey and hotpieceMan
over a year ago

North west

Maybe I'm cynical, but first thing I thought was you've been rumbled op.

She might have found out about your single profile and decided to set you up in some way, some women can be very creative in their revenge tactics.

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By *uddy and hollyCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Op you say she wants to have a woman but my question is does she know you are bi/curious If not really need to hide profile if you do set up a couple's profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" does she know you are bi/curious If not really need to hide profile if you do set up a couple's profile "

Or tell her...

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By *udiguy OP   Man
over a year ago

harrogate


"Op you say she wants to have a woman but my question is does she know you are bi/curious If not really need to hide profile if you do set up a couple's profile "

I said i would delete or hide it....

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

I won't comment on your current profile, it is your choice.

But the chances of finding a single bi fem on here who is willing to meet a couple but only play with the lady while the man watches is very very small. So I wouldn't suggest a couples profile for finding another lady.

I would say that you would have better luck at a club, that is where hubby and I have found playmates in the past.

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By *udiguy OP   Man
over a year ago

harrogate


" does she know you are bi/curious If not really need to hide profile if you do set up a couple's profile

Or tell her..."

Maybe in time ..... if things develop

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By *udiguy OP   Man
over a year ago

harrogate


"Maybe I'm cynical, but first thing I thought was you've been rumbled op.

She might have found out about your single profile and decided to set you up in some way, some women can be very creative in their revenge tactics."

Theres nothing in anything she has said that would make me think that.... this profile is pretty much a bi guy thing tbh

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By *udiguy OP   Man
over a year ago

harrogate


"I won't comment on your current profile, it is your choice.

But the chances of finding a single bi fem on here who is willing to meet a couple but only play with the lady while the man watches is very very small. So I wouldn't suggest a couples profile for finding another lady.

I would say that you would have better luck at a club, that is where hubby and I have found playmates in the past."

Thanks for the input x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It sounds as if she's sorting it out herself. Delete your profile and concentrate on letting her explore.

If she tries it and says she wants to find a way to explore further, then that may be the time to suggest you try visiting s club. Baby steps. Don't spoil it.

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By *udiguy OP   Man
over a year ago

harrogate


"It sounds as if she's sorting it out herself. Delete your profile and concentrate on letting her explore.

If she tries it and says she wants to find a way to explore further, then that may be the time to suggest you try visiting s club. Baby steps. Don't spoil it. "

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Just have a chat to her ... sounds like she is feeling frustrated too and like you needs a little more ....

You have to be totally honest with each other ... hope it all goes well for you both

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By *udiguy OP   Man
over a year ago

harrogate


"Just have a chat to her ... sounds like she is feeling frustrated too and like you needs a little more ....

You have to be totally honest with each other ... hope it all goes well for you both "

Thanks darlin xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is she already licking the other girls pussy behind your back ?

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By *udiguy OP   Man
over a year ago

harrogate

There is nt another girl yet.... far as i know

I kinda raised that stuff .. in jest

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By *udiguy OP   Man
over a year ago

harrogate

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By *unPeteMan
over a year ago

Near Bristol


"Maibe your wife is here also, you never know."

His wife is on here and she has a penchant for the gangbangs ... or so I'm told

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By *udiguy OP   Man
over a year ago

harrogate


"Maibe your wife is here also, you never know.

His wife is on here and she has a penchant for the gangbangs ... or so I'm told "

Funny guy!!

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By *udiguy OP   Man
over a year ago

harrogate

Anyone else any ideas?

Was thinking if i could find

The right willing female acomplice ..... a chance conversation in a bar could lead to a night of fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I call BS on this, I'm sorry dude but the more you post onto it the more unbelievable it becomes.

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By *udiguy OP   Man
over a year ago

harrogate

Oh ok ... yea that' ll be it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I ve been on here for quite a long time now. Unknown to my mrs .

Before i start let me say im not interested in peoples negative comments slagging me off for the past ... just advice on our future..

A few weeks ago , during sex my mrs said she would like to involve another female.

I passed it off as dirty talk / fantasy.

Last night she sprung on me that she has spoken to a mutual male freind ,( who is shall i say sexually active)

As to wether he knows any girls who maybe interested in joining us .

She just wants me to watch her with another i girl ill add at this point . And im cool with that...

So my point is this

Should i delete my profile . Set up a new one . With her , as a couple . And use it together as a couple.??

or

should i suggest we go try a night at a swinger club?

Or

should i just leave it alone , not be pushy at all and leave her to sort it out alone in her own way?

"

The issue with setting up a couples profile is that you run the risk of someone you know mentioning your single profile in a message which of course, she will see

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By *udiguy OP   Man
over a year ago

harrogate


"I ve been on here for quite a long time now. Unknown to my mrs .

Before i start let me say im not interested in peoples negative comments slagging me off for the past ... just advice on our future..

A few weeks ago , during sex my mrs said she would like to involve another female.

I passed it off as dirty talk / fantasy.

Last night she sprung on me that she has spoken to a mutual male freind ,( who is shall i say sexually active)

As to wether he knows any girls who maybe interested in joining us .

She just wants me to watch her with another i girl ill add at this point . And im cool with that...

So my point is this

Should i delete my profile . Set up a new one . With her , as a couple . And use it together as a couple.??

or

should i suggest we go try a night at a swinger club?

Or

should i just leave it alone , not be pushy at all and leave her to sort it out alone in her own way?

The issue with setting up a couples profile is that you run the risk of someone you know mentioning your single profile in a message which of course, she will see"

Good point

But a diffrent name . New photos .. and totally diffrent intrests n stuff.. plus the profile would me more about her.... a mention of me with private pics of..

Should be ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I ve been on here for quite a long time now. Unknown to my mrs .

Before i start let me say im not interested in peoples negative comments slagging me off for the past ... just advice on our future..

A few weeks ago , during sex my mrs said she would like to involve another female.

I passed it off as dirty talk / fantasy.

Last night she sprung on me that she has spoken to a mutual male freind ,( who is shall i say sexually active)

As to wether he knows any girls who maybe interested in joining us .

She just wants me to watch her with another i girl ill add at this point . And im cool with that...

So my point is this

Should i delete my profile . Set up a new one . With her , as a couple . And use it together as a couple.??

or

should i suggest we go try a night at a swinger club?

Or

should i just leave it alone , not be pushy at all and leave her to sort it out alone in her own way?

The issue with setting up a couples profile is that you run the risk of someone you know mentioning your single profile in a message which of course, she will see

Good point

But a diffrent name . New photos .. and totally diffrent intrests n stuff.. plus the profile would me more about her.... a mention of me with private pics of..

Should be ok"

Fwiw as a single woman I would never bother talking to a couple if the guys pictures were hidden and it was all about the women on the profile. It screams of either being fake or the guy being insecure - niether of which I'm interested in.

I'd also, from a personal point of view, mention your pictures if I thought I recognized them. I don't particularly want to meet people who have openly been dishonest to their partner, it's a recipe for drama and I'd want to suss that one out straight away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not to bash or anything but this seems like a seriously rocky way to enter into swinging with your wife.

Swinging is about trust and honesty with your partner (which to be perfectly honest you don't seem to understand)

Good luck and I hope it all works out but the light at the end of the tunnel may very well be a freight train.

M&M

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By *udiguy OP   Man
over a year ago

harrogate


"I ve been on here for quite a long time now. Unknown to my mrs .

Before i start let me say im not interested in peoples negative comments slagging me off for the past ... just advice on our future..

A few weeks ago , during sex my mrs said she would like to involve another female.

I passed it off as dirty talk / fantasy.

Last night she sprung on me that she has spoken to a mutual male freind ,( who is shall i say sexually active)

As to wether he knows any girls who maybe interested in joining us .

She just wants me to watch her with another i girl ill add at this point . And im cool with that...

So my point is this

Should i delete my profile . Set up a new one . With her , as a couple . And use it together as a couple.??

or

should i suggest we go try a night at a swinger club?

Or

should i just leave it alone , not be pushy at all and leave her to sort it out alone in her own way?

The issue with setting up a couples profile is that you run the risk of someone you know mentioning your single profile in a message which of course, she will see

Good point

But a diffrent name . New photos .. and totally diffrent intrests n stuff.. plus the profile would me more about her.... a mention of me with private pics of..

Should be ok

Fwiw as a single woman I would never bother talking to a couple if the guys pictures were hidden and it was all about the women on the profile. It screams of either being fake or the guy being insecure - niether of which I'm interested in.

I'd also, from a personal point of view, mention your pictures if I thought I recognized them. I don't particularly want to meet people who have openly been dishonest to their partner, it's a recipe for drama and I'd want to suss that one out straight away."

As i say... u would nt recognise my pics

They would be new

Maybe with her in... new profile

If your gonna judge then read the facts please

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By *udiguy OP   Man
over a year ago

harrogate


"Not to bash or anything but this seems like a seriously rocky way to enter into swinging with your wife.

Swinging is about trust and honesty with your partner (which to be perfectly honest you don't seem to understand)

Good luck and I hope it all works out but the light at the end of the tunnel may very well be a freight train.

M&M"

Because of this current profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe I'm cynical, but first thing I thought was you've been rumbled op.

She might have found out about your single profile and decided to set you up in some way, some women can be very creative in their revenge tactics."

I thought the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not about the profile you currently have, it's not about the pics or the text, it's about the fact that going into swinging with the opinion that cheating is ok is fundamentally flawed.

Trust and honesty are the foundation swinging as a couple is built on, the fact you are "hiding" your activities doesnt make it any better?

And thanks I did read the facts and this is my opinion on them...

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By *udiguy OP   Man
over a year ago

harrogate


"It's not about the profile you currently have, it's not about the pics or the text, it's about the fact that going into swinging with the opinion that cheating is ok is fundamentally flawed.

Trust and honesty are the foundation swinging as a couple is built on, the fact you are "hiding" your activities doesnt make it any better?

And thanks I did read the facts and this is my opinion on them...

"

The reading the facts was nt aimed at u.....

I get your point

Although u assume i have cheated??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not about the profile you currently have, it's not about the pics or the text, it's about the fact that going into swinging with the opinion that cheating is ok is fundamentally flawed.

Trust and honesty are the foundation swinging as a couple is built on, the fact you are "hiding" your activities doesnt make it any better?

And thanks I did read the facts and this is my opinion on them...

The reading the facts was nt aimed at u.....

I get your point

Although u assume i have cheated??"

If you didn't cheat and your wife knows I don't really see why your wife finding your profile would be an issue?

We're just firm believers that to enter into a healthy swinging relationship you've gotta bear all on the table and have no lies floating around.

Like I said in my first post I wasn't trying to bash, just giving you my opinion.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Be open and honest with her, it could lead to a great time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not about the profile you currently have, it's not about the pics or the text, it's about the fact that going into swinging with the opinion that cheating is ok is fundamentally flawed.

Trust and honesty are the foundation swinging as a couple is built on, the fact you are "hiding" your activities doesnt make it any better?

And thanks I did read the facts and this is my opinion on them...

The reading the facts was nt aimed at u.....

I get your point

Although u assume i have cheated??"

If I believed I was in a monogamous relationship then finding my partner on a site like this would be something that I personally would consider to be cheating.

This is how you test if you're cheating:

Tell your partner that you have had a profile on a swingers site for a 'long time' as a single man where you are looking for women to have sex with and 'have met a few nice folk'. If she gets upset, then you've been cheating. If she doesn't care, then you've not been cheating.

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By *athandCleoCouple
over a year ago

Poole


"It's not about the profile you currently have, it's not about the pics or the text, it's about the fact that going into swinging with the opinion that cheating is ok is fundamentally flawed.

Trust and honesty are the foundation swinging as a couple is built on, the fact you are "hiding" your activities doesnt make it any better?

And thanks I did read the facts and this is my opinion on them...

The reading the facts was nt aimed at u.....

I get your point

Although u assume i have cheated??

If I believed I was in a monogamous relationship then finding my partner on a site like this would be something that I personally would consider to be cheating.

This is how you test if you're cheating:

Tell your partner that you have had a profile on a swingers site for a 'long time' as a single man where you are looking for women to have sex with and 'have met a few nice folk'. If she gets upset, then you've been cheating. If she doesn't care, then you've not been cheating."

That's what I was thinking of suggesting but I was finding it hard to think of a nice way to advise this.

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By *udiguy OP   Man
over a year ago

harrogate

Ok fair points

I see what you mean......

Take out the fabswingers element

Back to basics

She wants to find a girl herself. . She does and i get to watch

From there i suggest / we discuss ways of finding more fun to be had . And we go to a club.......

We enter into swinging physically as a couple ..

Let me say at this point im taking the advice of those who have told me to let her control the pace at which this may happen.....

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By *udiguy OP   Man
over a year ago

harrogate


"It's not about the profile you currently have, it's not about the pics or the text, it's about the fact that going into swinging with the opinion that cheating is ok is fundamentally flawed.

Trust and honesty are the foundation swinging as a couple is built on, the fact you are "hiding" your activities doesnt make it any better?

And thanks I did read the facts and this is my opinion on them...

The reading the facts was nt aimed at u.....

I get your point

Although u assume i have cheated??

If you didn't cheat and your wife knows I don't really see why your wife finding your profile would be an issue?

We're just firm believers that to enter into a healthy swinging relationship you've gotta bear all on the table and have no lies floating around.

Like I said in my first post I wasn't trying to bash, just giving you my opinion.

"

I do thank you for your advice xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok fair points

I see what you mean......

Take out the fabswingers element

Back to basics

She wants to find a girl herself. . She does and i get to watch

From there i suggest / we discuss ways of finding more fun to be had . And we go to a club.......

We enter into swinging physically as a couple ..

Let me say at this point im taking the advice of those who have told me to let her control the pace at which this may happen.....

"

Realistically, I think you will really, really, really struggle to find a gay or bisexual woman who will have sex with your wife while you sit and watch.

Realistically, I would suggest going to a club much, much sooner because it's far more likely you will find a woman happy in this scenario.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not about the profile you currently have, it's not about the pics or the text, it's about the fact that going into swinging with the opinion that cheating is ok is fundamentally flawed.

Trust and honesty are the foundation swinging as a couple is built on, the fact you are "hiding" your activities doesnt make it any better?

And thanks I did read the facts and this is my opinion on them...

The reading the facts was nt aimed at u.....

I get your point

Although u assume i have cheated??"

Your opening line says that you've been on here for a long time unbeknown to your partner and you've two verifications which suggests you ate cheating so thetes nothing to assume is there

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I take it as your profile is unhidden and you're still here on a single profile, it didn't happen...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maibe your wife is here also, you never know."
that made me laugh

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By *udiguy OP   Man
over a year ago

harrogate


"It's not about the profile you currently have, it's not about the pics or the text, it's about the fact that going into swinging with the opinion that cheating is ok is fundamentally flawed.

Trust and honesty are the foundation swinging as a couple is built on, the fact you are "hiding" your activities doesnt make it any better?

And thanks I did read the facts and this is my opinion on them...

The reading the facts was nt aimed at u.....

I get your point

Although u assume i have cheated??

Your opening line says that you've been on here for a long time unbeknown to your partner and you've two verifications which suggests you ate cheating so thetes nothing to assume is there "

Have you bothered to read my verifications???????

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By *udiguy OP   Man
over a year ago

harrogate


"I take it as your profile is unhidden and you're still here on a single profile, it didn't happen... "

Currently going for the non pushy option... so not yet no

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By *ittenandthepirateCouple
over a year ago

Manchester


"It's not about the profile you currently have, it's not about the pics or the text, it's about the fact that going into swinging with the opinion that cheating is ok is fundamentally flawed.

Trust and honesty are the foundation swinging as a couple is built on, the fact you are "hiding" your activities doesnt make it any better?

And thanks I did read the facts and this is my opinion on them...

The reading the facts was nt aimed at u.....

I get your point

Although u assume i have cheated??

Your opening line says that you've been on here for a long time unbeknown to your partner and you've two verifications which suggests you ate cheating so thetes nothing to assume is there

Have you bothered to read my verifications???????"

The way the top one is worded makes it sound like you played so people will assume that you did.

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By *emplarWarriorMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Id stick my under pants on my head, 2 pencils in my ears and shout wibble

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By *-4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

Belfast


"While neither condoning nor having a go at your situation. Bearing in mind it isn't a position I've been in I would:

1. Hide your profile (don't dekete as you may require to come back to it)

2. Suggest a club...do an Internet "search" with your Mrs as that way you are looking for something new to you, as well as her.

3. If all goes well I'm sure you could have been "talking" to someone at the club who will tell you about FAB. You can then introduce her to the site, set up a joint profile and delete your old one.

This just seems like the logical way, given the situation you are in at the moment and without judging how you got there."

Not making comment on the morality of the situation but surely piling lie on top of lie is no way to have a relationship ?

Shows a complete lack of respect for someone you profess to love ..irrespective of what the lies are about.

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By *udiguy OP   Man
over a year ago

harrogate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"While neither condoning nor having a go at your situation. Bearing in mind it isn't a position I've been in I would:

1. Hide your profile (don't dekete as you may require to come back to it)

2. Suggest a club...do an Internet "search" with your Mrs as that way you are looking for something new to you, as well as her.

3. If all goes well I'm sure you could have been "talking" to someone at the club who will tell you about FAB. You can then introduce her to the site, set up a joint profile and delete your old one.

This just seems like the logical way, given the situation you are in at the moment and without judging how you got there.

Not making comment on the morality of the situation but surely piling lie on top of lie is no way to have a relationship ?

Shows a complete lack of respect for someone you profess to love ..irrespective of what the lies are about."

I made the first comment that you quote here. The OP has not asked to be judged...and even said he doesn't care to take notice if we do.

He is in the position he is now. That is fact. How he arrived there is irrelevant.

I was suggesting a way forward from here. From this starting point as it is the only one he has.

If or not he decides later to inform of the past profile...then that is between the two of them.

Good luck to you OP. You have asked for advice, been given some, and I hope you act on it appropriately.

Feel free to PM me too if you wish.

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By *udiguy OP   Man
over a year ago

harrogate


"While neither condoning nor having a go at your situation. Bearing in mind it isn't a position I've been in I would:

1. Hide your profile (don't dekete as you may require to come back to it)

2. Suggest a club...do an Internet "search" with your Mrs as that way you are looking for something new to you, as well as her.

3. If all goes well I'm sure you could have been "talking" to someone at the club who will tell you about FAB. You can then introduce her to the site, set up a joint profile and delete your old one.

This just seems like the logical way, given the situation you are in at the moment and without judging how you got there.

Not making comment on the morality of the situation but surely piling lie on top of lie is no way to have a relationship ?

Shows a complete lack of respect for someone you profess to love ..irrespective of what the lies are about.

I made the first comment that you quote here. The OP has not asked to be judged...and even said he doesn't care to take notice if we do.

He is in the position he is now. That is fact. How he arrived there is irrelevant.

I was suggesting a way forward from here. From this starting point as it is the only one he has.

If or not he decides later to inform of the past profile...then that is between the two of them.

Good luck to you OP. You have asked for advice, been given some, and I hope you act on it appropriately.

Feel free to PM me too if you wish."

Thank u

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By *emon tart Double creamCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Anyone else any ideas?

Was thinking if i could find

The right willing female acomplice ..... a chance conversation in a bar could lead to a night of fun"

As someone mentioned earlier, the chances of you finding a single female on here with your profile and 'back story' and only playing with the Mrs is slim.

Your best bet, as someone else mentioned is to happen across a swinging club site and then see if she fancied going. We've been to a few clubs but the first time we watched others and played between ourselves.

There is no pressure to play as is there no guarantee that you'll find what you are looking for but that would be the best opportunity for you and your wife.

Good luck.

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By *udiguy OP   Man
over a year ago

harrogate


"Anyone else any ideas?

Was thinking if i could find

The right willing female acomplice ..... a chance conversation in a bar could lead to a night of fun

As someone mentioned earlier, the chances of you finding a single female on here with your profile and 'back story' and only playing with the Mrs is slim.

Your best bet, as someone else mentioned is to happen across a swinging club site and then see if she fancied going. We've been to a few clubs but the first time we watched others and played between ourselves.

There is no pressure to play as is there no guarantee that you'll find what you are looking for but that would be the best opportunity for you and your wife.

Good luck. "

Yea sounds like a good idea

Would follow your example for first time i think

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