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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

... if someone would like you to speak to them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Erm ask them?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"... if someone would like you to speak to them?"

In what situation?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fart.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What are you actually asking OP?

If you've read someone's profile & I mean fully read it, and you think you might be what they're looking for then send a polite message

Be sure to include notes that you have actually read their profile, any details you may have in common etc

But above all be yourself!

Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And fart. Lots.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"... if someone would like you to speak to them?

In what situation?"

Club/party

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"... if someone would like you to speak to them?"

I'm sure they would tell you...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"... if someone would like you to speak to them?

I'm sure they would tell you..."

You'd be mistaken.

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"... if someone would like you to speak to them?"

Had to check your age as I thought this is the kind of question a pubescent child would ask.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"... if someone would like you to speak to them?

In what situation?

Club/party "

Generally they will make eye contact but there is no sure fire way. It must be daunting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"... if someone would like you to speak to them?

Had to check your age as I thought this is the kind of question a pubescent child would ask."

It only took nine replies for the infantile rudeness to start. Impressive even by Fab forum standards.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"... if someone would like you to speak to them?

In what situation?

Club/party

Generally they will make eye contact but there is no sure fire way. It must be daunting."

That's one word for it.

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"... if someone would like you to speak to them?

Had to check your age as I thought this is the kind of question a pubescent child would ask.

It only took nine replies for the infantile rudeness to start. Impressive even by Fab forum standards."

Infantile response to an infantile question?

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By *CCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Staines

I'm guessing they'd probably say, "Hi, like your profile, let's chat".....

If it's a case of you're being ignored after messaging someone then it's a sure sign they don't want to? It's kind of a vague post tbh and you haven't put it in context xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"... if someone would like you to speak to them?

Had to check your age as I thought this is the kind of question a pubescent child would ask.

It only took nine replies for the infantile rudeness to start. Impressive even by Fab forum standards.

Infantile response to an infantile question?"

If the question is so infantile, why waste your time responding to it? Unless you simply derive pleasure from putting people down?

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"... if someone would like you to speak to them?

Had to check your age as I thought this is the kind of question a pubescent child would ask.

It only took nine replies for the infantile rudeness to start. Impressive even by Fab forum standards.

Infantile response to an infantile question?

If the question is so infantile, why waste your time responding to it? Unless you simply derive pleasure from putting people down?"

I'm filling time until I'm sleepy, so no wastage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, If you havent figured that out yet, you are a step or three behind.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm guessing they'd probably say, "Hi, like your profile, let's chat".....

If it's a case of you're being ignored after messaging someone then it's a sure sign they don't want to? It's kind of a vague post tbh and you haven't put it in context xx"

Yes it was, I apologise for that. I'm thinking in terms of a club or party, I prefer not to waste people's time by just walking up to everyone I see.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP, If you havent figured that out yet, you are a step or three behind."

Tell me something I don't know.

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By *CCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Staines


"I'm guessing they'd probably say, "Hi, like your profile, let's chat".....

If it's a case of you're being ignored after messaging someone then it's a sure sign they don't want to? It's kind of a vague post tbh and you haven't put it in context xx

Yes it was, I apologise for that. I'm thinking in terms of a club or party, I prefer not to waste people's time by just walking up to everyone I see."

Eye contact or a willingness from someone to approach in that case, but good luck on that as that's Hollywood stuff! Advice would be if you show confidence and approach and say hi and you're given the cold shoulder then take it on the chin, at some point you'll have someone's attention if you're pleasant xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to find in a club that if I would like to talk to someone saying hello and introducing myself is s fairly sound tactic; if people are polite in the approach the worst that can happen is an equally polite rebuff. On the whole, clubs are very chatty places and so far this somewhat unsophisticated method has worked for me. (I got past the staring awkwardly at someone across the dance floor and getting someone else to deliver the message 'my mate fancies you' a wee while ago). Hope you find a way that workd got you OP.

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By *luffy_bunniesCouple
over a year ago

Ilkeston

To be fair it was a very open question, that's open to a lot of very different interpretation, with no defined parameters.

If you ask a stupid question, you normally get a stupid question....

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots


"I'm guessing they'd probably say, "Hi, like your profile, let's chat".....

If it's a case of you're being ignored after messaging someone then it's a sure sign they don't want to? It's kind of a vague post tbh and you haven't put it in context xx

Yes it was, I apologise for that. I'm thinking in terms of a club or party, I prefer not to waste people's time by just walking up to everyone I see."

In a club or party situation, or indeed out in " the real world" you wouldn't approach everyone, as you say, so just approach people that you want to talk to and strike up conversation. You just need to be polite and maybe have a thick skin....however, if people aren't polite back to you they probably aren't worth talking to anyway. Good luck OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"... if someone would like you to speak to them?"

Without sounding daft, what do you usually do outside of fab, if you need or want to speak to someone? I'd say basic body language and an understanding of flirting is required, just be comfortable in your own skin, say hello and introduce yourself and if there's attraction then see where it takes you? You've got several verifications so I'm sure you know the answer to your own question?

And if you misread something, as long as you're polite it's fine?

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