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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Got our first meet with planned for Monday with a sexy BBC. I am so so nervous yet so excited.

Anyone got any hits or tips to make things go smoothly.

Jess x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just relax and enjoy yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be yourself and after a few minutes of being in each others company the nerves will disappear

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Not being funny but be prepared for it to fall through.

If it does, don't take it personally, it happens a lot on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your the boss Jess so like others have said enjoy

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Got our first meet with planned for Monday with a sexy BBC. I am so so nervous yet so excited.

Anyone got any hits or tips to make things go smoothly.

Jess x "

remember there is a man attached to the sexy BBC

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope that the rest of the man turns up and not just his bbc

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By *-angel-XWoman
over a year ago

hell


"Hope that the rest of the man turns up and not just his bbc "

Ha !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This does annoy me, even though my profile is BBC orientated, I hate when it's like an experiment. I love black guys for everything about them, always have. Well darling, you know the saying, once you black. ...........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go * bugger it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't get too excited lots of timewasters on here we have learnt that you get yourself all worked up for nothing. But if he meets have lots of naughty

Fun ))

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oh I know that! This guy is super hot and really genuine, we have been speaking for a while, I think I am more nervous as I see him as a friend now too.

I knew whichever way I had written the post I would get slated in someway as that seems to be the general way most threads go on these forums.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"Oh I know that! This guy is super hot and really genuine, we have been speaking for a while, I think I am more nervous as I see him as a friend now too.

I knew whichever way I had written the post I would get slated in someway as that seems to be the general way most threads go on these forums. "

I would imagine if you are beginning to see the guy as a friend, referring to him as a BBC is a little strange ....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

You have your opinion and I have mine.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Oh I know that! This guy is super hot and really genuine, we have been speaking for a while, I think I am more nervous as I see him as a friend now too.

I knew whichever way I had written the post I would get slated in someway as that seems to be the general way most threads go on these forums. "

How would have saying yoi were meeting a sexy man have got you slated?

Imagine he'd put a post up saying he was meeting an amazing set of tits, no mention of you as a person?

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

Obviously not open to any debate. Okay, well then ... good luck and all that.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"Obviously not open to any debate. Okay, well then ... good luck and all that."

Sorry, previous poster, that was to the OP, not to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh I know that! This guy is super hot and really genuine, we have been speaking for a while, I think I am more nervous as I see him as a friend now too.

I knew whichever way I had written the post I would get slated in someway as that seems to be the general way most threads go on these forums.

I would imagine if you are beginning to see the guy as a friend, referring to him as a BBC is a little strange ...."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I was only looking for some advise, I'm new to this and appogolise if my etiquette isn't to everyone's else's standard. I will remember to use my choice of words more carefully next time. He signs his message of as 'Your BBC' so I know he wouldn't be offended.

I'm that nervous I'm not even thinking straight and just wanted advise on a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was only looking for some advise, I'm new to this and appogolise if my etiquette isn't to everyone's else's standard. I will remember to use my choice of words more carefully next time. He signs his message of as 'Your BBC' so I know he wouldn't be offended.

I'm that nervous I'm not even thinking straight and just wanted advise on a meet."

But at the end of the day he is just a guy and im sure you have met other guys, so the meet will just be like any other lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was only looking for some advise, I'm new to this and appogolise if my etiquette isn't to everyone's else's standard. I will remember to use my choice of words more carefully next time. He signs his message of as 'Your BBC' so I know he wouldn't be offended.

I'm that nervous I'm not even thinking straight and just wanted advise on a meet."

You'll be ok. Dunno why you're getting nervous really.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We haven't met anyone else! This is our first ever meet! Me and Drew have been together nearly 15 years and I'm only 30.

So this really is completely new for us.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"I was only looking for some advise, I'm new to this and appogolise if my etiquette isn't to everyone's else's standard. I will remember to use my choice of words more carefully next time. He signs his message of as 'Your BBC' so I know he wouldn't be offended.

I'm that nervous I'm not even thinking straight and just wanted advise on a meet.

But at the end of the day he is just a guy and im sure you have met other guys, so the meet will just be like any other lol"

Its an interesting one, op, thanks for getting the brain working. I have been on here four years, as a single and a couple, and I dont advertise that I am feeling nervous. I do also find, as one of the threads earlier in the week discussed, that the more I think about the run up to a meet, the more of a let down it is. I love short notice meets. I don't tend to develop friendships of any type of relationship with the people I meet, don't like the pressure of the emotional tie in that, as many men get too possessive in those type of scenarios. Of course, with all that being said, I met black cop, my OH, on here, so .... so much for the NSA meet which has turned into a long term partnership. I guess what I am saying is, I don't let meets dominate my thoughts or feelings or overtake anything like that. It's my opinion, of course, but I keep things contained and to myself, in a little box where they belong.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I was only looking for some advise, I'm new to this and appogolise if my etiquette isn't to everyone's else's standard. I will remember to use my choice of words more carefully next time. He signs his message of as 'Your BBC' so I know he wouldn't be offended.

I'm that nervous I'm not even thinking straight and just wanted advise on a meet.

But at the end of the day he is just a guy and im sure you have met other guys, so the meet will just be like any other lol

Its an interesting one, op, thanks for getting the brain working. I have been on here four years, as a single and a couple, and I dont advertise that I am feeling nervous. I do also find, as one of the threads earlier in the week discussed, that the more I think about the run up to a meet, the more of a let down it is. I love short notice meets. I don't tend to develop friendships of any type of relationship with the people I meet, don't like the pressure of the emotional tie in that, as many men get too possessive in those type of scenarios. Of course, with all that being said, I met black cop, my OH, on here, so .... so much for the NSA meet which has turned into a long term partnership. I guess what I am saying is, I don't let meets dominate my thoughts or feelings or overtake anything like that. It's my opinion, of course, but I keep things contained and to myself, in a little box where they belong. "

Thank you for your honest opinion. I think once I have had my first meet I will feel a lot more relaxed.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"I was only looking for some advise, I'm new to this and appogolise if my etiquette isn't to everyone's else's standard. I will remember to use my choice of words more carefully next time. He signs his message of as 'Your BBC' so I know he wouldn't be offended.

I'm that nervous I'm not even thinking straight and just wanted advise on a meet.

But at the end of the day he is just a guy and im sure you have met other guys, so the meet will just be like any other lol

Its an interesting one, op, thanks for getting the brain working. I have been on here four years, as a single and a couple, and I dont advertise that I am feeling nervous. I do also find, as one of the threads earlier in the week discussed, that the more I think about the run up to a meet, the more of a let down it is. I love short notice meets. I don't tend to develop friendships of any type of relationship with the people I meet, don't like the pressure of the emotional tie in that, as many men get too possessive in those type of scenarios. Of course, with all that being said, I met black cop, my OH, on here, so .... so much for the NSA meet which has turned into a long term partnership. I guess what I am saying is, I don't let meets dominate my thoughts or feelings or overtake anything like that. It's my opinion, of course, but I keep things contained and to myself, in a little box where they belong.

Thank you for your honest opinion. I think once I have had my first meet I will feel a lot more relaxed. "

I would say, just don't let it be the be all and end all, and make sure you are doing it as a couple for the right reasons. I am biased, though, as I came to it as a single and do find it hard to get my head around why established couples do it and how they got to it ....

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