FabSwingers.com forum: accommodating

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

As it happens at the moment I cannot accommodate due to living in shared accommodation. However I have had a few people become suspicious that I am married or in a relationship and that can put people off as they think I am just cheating on a partner which is not the case. Any views on this and how can you avoid this if you are in a similar situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Explain on your profile why you cant accom will stop people asking and you wont have to explain yourself.

At the end of the day its no ones business but yours x

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By *utumnWoman
over a year ago

leeds

I personally block any local gents who can't accommodate unless it says somewhere on their profile the reason why, I only expect a brief- kids live with me/shared house/flatmate etc or else yes quilty as charged I think gent 35+ can't accommodate = married or partner!

oops better practice what I preach...runs to amend profile!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we also suspect guys of cheating and we always ask why they cant accomodate.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok think I best explain why then but by making a deal of it I was worried by the fact if I put a reason on people could just assume that I'm lying anyway guess will have to wait and see.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don't have to explain anything if you don't want to. There are people that are happy to meet in hotels/clubs etc.

Personally I don't meet men that can't accommodate - and I don't care what their reason is. I don't meet in hotels and I think some men want think "not in my house" whilst happy to want to turn yours into a knocking shop.

I don't get into it: can't accommodate, not a problem...neither can I.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im with sassy on that last point. Gets so bad sometimes you feel like u should put a red light above ur doorway!!

I wont meet anyone who cant accom now. Fed up with it only being at mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP you have explained on your profile and if they can't get there heads around why you cant accomidate then don't bother explaining anymore there are more then enough gals out there that will be happy to meet you in a hotel

Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I changed it so now it does explain and no more than I can do than that

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By *uckoldandWifeCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

maybe you could say, "live in a shared house, can't accommodate but happy to spring for a hotel"

might help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do not entertain from home and have included an explaination in my profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Usually once I know I have an option to meet I will say that I'm happy to get a hotel dont expect to go to the others house

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I personally block any local gents who can't accommodate unless it says somewhere on their profile the reason why, I only expect a brief- kids live with me/shared house/flatmate etc or else yes quilty as charged I think gent 35+ can't accommodate = married or partner!

oops better practice what I preach...runs to amend profile!"

gent 35+ cant accomodate = can only afford shabby room in shared house while grasping ex-wife is living the life of reilly shacked up with new bloke in family home he still has to pay for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shame that you have missed the chance to book 9 GBP rooms at Travelodges.

If my meet turns into a no show, I would loose only 9 GBP, and not a small fortune.

It is a difficult situation, especially for single gents, as ladies are unlikely to book and pay for the room in advance in case of no shows.

This means single gents are more likely to loose out due to no shows.

If at all possible, delay booking the hotel as much as possible, like once your meet has turned up!

Agree to share cost in advance or whatever to avoid surprises.

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Totally disagree with that I live in a shared house with a mate as I'm away for a lot of the year and dont see the point of buying at the moment due to the unsettled times we are in

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"Totally disagree with that I live in a shared house with a mate as I'm away for a lot of the year and dont see the point of buying at the moment due to the unsettled times we are in"

You dont have to explain your life story to anyone...

You dont accomodate. End of story. People may ask you why. You may chose to tell them. You may not.

If folks are not happy with that - tough on them. Move on to someone that is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A guy on here has to be aware of many "hidden thoughts" - Due to some that have perhaps presented doubt.

I can accommadate and prefer too but happy to travel.

Honesty and respect costs nothing and if people are compatible,inspiration may be higher.

Yes or No - Will and Wont sometimes has an answer of may be or offer an alternative.

Doubt = Will be hassle.

Honesty can't be doubted.

And most would agree not knowing is worse than knowing.

People who state they are in a 'complicated' situtaion will be matched with similar or those who perhaps state that they are not bothered either way.

Live and let live.

Being truthfull will instantly influence a maybe or doubt to a yes or no.

Personally I would probably add some humour ;

'obviously can accommadate - there's 6 other guys that live with you so take your pick !'

but saying 'I am caring for my sick mother (with a pacemaker) is likely to be a No... but if that was the truth people would respect that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As it happens at the moment I cannot accommodate due to living in shared accommodation. However I have had a few people become suspicious that I am married or in a relationship and that can put people off as they think I am just cheating on a partner which is not the case. Any views on this and how can you avoid this if you are in a similar situation."

you dont have to explain yourself to anyone

I get the same, ive had a few people ask why i cant accommodate if im single, thing is i could accommodate if i wanted to, even tho i have kids there are times when i could have people round, thing is im not willing to take the risk of inviting some nutter to my house, ive had a few guys in the past get clingy and a bit funny when ive told them i dont want to meet anymore, i really dont want guys like that knowing where i live

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you dont have to explain yourself to anyone

makes perfect sense

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By *stwoCouple
over a year ago

anywhere

big buildings allover the country.they call them hotels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah there's nothing you can do more than explain it.

Some will still think you're lying and I'm pretty sure you'd get more success if you could accomm. But I'm in the same boat and it is what it is, nothing more I can do about it and it's up to others to think what they want to think.

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By *andy muncherMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

yes and when you can the fun starts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shame that you have missed the chance to book 9 GBP rooms at Travelodges.

If my meet turns into a no show, I would loose only 9 GBP, and not a small fortune.

It is a difficult situation, especially for single gents, as ladies are unlikely to book and pay for the room in advance in case of no shows.

This means single gents are more likely to loose out due to no shows.

If at all possible, delay booking the hotel as much as possible, like once your meet has turned up!

Agree to share cost in advance or whatever to avoid surprises.

Good luck!

could we have a page on here for , 'i got a hotelroom to use ' i bet a few people book then loose the room shame to see it wasted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You don't have to explain anything if you don't want to. There are people that are happy to meet in hotels/clubs etc.

I don't get into it: can't accommodate, not a problem...neither can I."

^^^^^^ i agree here x

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