FabSwingers.com forum: Critical Examination

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know that the profile is not the be all and end all. But it sure helps to strike up a conversation.

I've been on here a while and had reasonable success, but I wanted to get a second opinion on my profile.

Do I need better pics? Is the wording ok? Does the name need changing? Overall advice would be good, particularly if it comes with constructive feedback

I'm looking to meet the occasional female and couple. I'm not a machine and try not to make it seem that way lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Your pictures are fine. Your profile uses a lot of words to say very little and very few will contact you to find out more. Your name implies that you're just looking...are you?

Overall not bad but you need to say a bit more about yourself.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're profile is usually the first things to be looked at so is fairly important.

The wording is ok, doesn't come across as fun (like what you're looking for) but does the job.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm obviously looking for regular fun, but would prefer to meet the more normal down to earth people on fab. I would like to bi couple meets too, which puts a fair few off. I'm a skydiver. I cycle 60 miles a week. I have a great job in healthcare and am sharper than the average tool.

I take it I should scrap most of the words and make it punchy. The problem is that I don't want to come across as a dick or desperate (which I am not) or just generally an arsehole lol It's harder than I thought it would be.

What should I do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's more of a bugbear of mine tbh, so many guys looking for 'fun' yet they don't come across as fun themselves.

We're looking for fun too but i do think us ladies specify more what we actually want coz we get so many offers of what we don't want we end up turning our profiles into something to put those guys off (our profiles are often tailored to put off as many guys as possible that we aren't interested in sometimes). My profile isn't fun either i think, and is more specific.

Just be yourself, you're gonna get better meets when you attract who you want to meet. Like i mainly said, it does it's job.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I'm obviously looking for regular fun, but would prefer to meet the more normal down to earth people on fab. I would like to bi couple meets too, which puts a fair few off. I'm a skydiver. I cycle 60 miles a week. I have a great job in healthcare and am sharper than the average tool.

What should I do?"

Your written words will always reflect you it's almost inevitable. If I tell you what to write it will reflect me which you most certainly don't want

However I suggest writing a little about who you'd like to meet and a bit about what you can offer. Most people aren't that bothered about your job.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I agree. I wasn't asking for something to copy/paste

Would stating what fantasies I have help or put people off? I'm not wanting to seem like a perv either lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm quite intrigued about the adventurous life you say you had

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It's better than mine. Your cock isn't though. Remember this: you'll never be able to please everyone so don't try, if you try, you'll end up pleasing no one. Just hang in there and write what you want. You can't out guess what people want to read. Some honourable person above has said they don't want to know about your job. Some people do. See? You can't honestly just act on the advice of 5/6 people. You just write what you want and that way your personality will come out and that, my friend, is what most people are attracted to (big cock notwithstanding (in a manner of speaking)).

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Where do I start?

I almost died/seriously hurt myself more than I'd like to admit lol

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I agree. I wasn't asking for something to copy/paste

Would stating what fantasies I have help or put people off? I'm not wanting to seem like a perv either lol"

Yes. That helps. In graphic detail....

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I agree. I wasn't asking for something to copy/paste

Would stating what fantasies I have help or put people off? I'm not wanting to seem like a perv either lol"

No, I know you weren't

I think you're over thinking it a bit. Stating your fantasies will put some people off but attract others, your profile will never appeal to everyone. Try a version out for a couple of weeks, if it doesn't work change it a bit and see what happens. We change ours all the time because we learn as we go along what works

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"It's better than mine. Your cock isn't though. Remember this: you'll never be able to please everyone so don't try, if you try, you'll end up pleasing no one. Just hang in there and write what you want. You can't out guess what people want to read. Some honourable person above has said they don't want to know about your job. Some people do. See? You can't honestly just act on the advice of 5/6 people. You just write what you want and that way your personality will come out and that, my friend, is what most people are attracted to (big cock notwithstanding (in a manner of speaking)). "

Oi! Are you calling me honourable?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I'd meet you

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