FabSwingers.com forum: Problems with Cumming

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have met a wonderful woman whom love to dominate me and use anal play on me before allowing me to have sex with her.

I have found this to be an amazing experience. Whilst she has played with my ass with toys and a strapon I seem to leak quite a bit but not orgasm but when I come to have sex I cannot seem to climax at all. She is becoming a little frustrated with me being unable to cum as she doubts her performance which is very far from the truth as she is amazing. I have tried to reassure her it is all me and not her because I am incredibally aroused as my cock does not go down at all. Does anyone have any advice as this has happened quite a few times now.

Any advice would be very much appreciated.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Stuff like this happens, don't let her make you feel bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happened to me occasionally too..... Even to the point where I have faked orgasm (please don't tell anyone). I have never left the ladies un satisfied tho.....it just makes them think I last a long time lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens to me from time to time when I am in my 'I must keep my stamina and fuck for hours mode'. Sometimes it's difficult to switch off. I feel your pain and having her put pressure on you won't help. Especially if you've been bottoming/subbing to her too. How about mixing it up a bit trying soft and sensual, or you topping/ domming or just having a bit of fun and being silly? That usually works for me. Switching the mood. It's all on your head mate and all you need to do is switch off your brain gremlins or whatever it is causing you to not cum. But if you dont cum dont worry about it. Have fun. Don't put pressure on yourself. And don't let anyone else put pressure on you either. Otherwise it'll just get worse.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all your replies and advice. Think I just need to relax and switch my brain off. Have to admit that originally I was concerned about cumming too early and no over thinking things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for all your replies and advice. Think I just need to relax and switch my brain off. Have to admit that originally I was concerned about cumming too early and no over thinking things"

Cummings too early is where mine started. Good luck with it dude.

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Quite a few medications can cause this problem. Is there anything you take that may be interfering?

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By *i-cambsMan
over a year ago

March

"I have met a wonderful woman whom love to dominate me and use anal play on me before allowing me to have sex with her.

Any advice would be very much appreciated."

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By *i-cambsMan
over a year ago

March

"I have met a wonderful woman whom love to dominate me and use anal play on me before allowing me to have sex with her.

I have found this to be an amazing experience. Whilst she has played with my ass with toys and a strapon I seem to leak quite a bit but not orgasm but when I come to have sex I cannot seem to clim

ax at all. She is becoming a little frustrated with me being unable to cum as she doubts her performance which is very far from the truth as she is amazing. I have tried to reassure her it is all me and not her because I am incredibally aroused as my cock does not go down at all. Does anyone have any advice as this has happened quite a few times now.

Any advice would be very much appreciated."

I have had a couple of bi experiences and found that when ass gets touched then cock softens. Dont worry about it. Just relax and enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From a female view but looking at male replies it true for men too,puttin yourself under pressurs can be counterproductive and then you worry about the resultin issue of that n the cycle continues

When ur sub in play it can add to those pressures. I used to meet a guy who totally missread my body languague (or simply had no clue abour female orgasm) and used to say come on cum fir daddy when i was noooo where near. But as a sub ur mind goes into serve overdrive n u think shite what to do i need to do as he says.....pressures overload

We put enough pressures on ourselves to perform adequately but when those we play with add to it esp those we sub for it can be immesurable and damaging

You need to break the cycle and see this is not a "fault" with u. It happens alot n to women too ,theres nothing "wrong" with u. Your top/domme is lucky to have a bottom/sub who is so intent on serving her desires but u need to give urself a break this is not ur fault .also she needs to play a part in breaking this vicious circle for you too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you for all your advice.

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