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"I am not going to send a message like "fancy a meet tonight" or "Hello beautiful wanna fuck" as I think that would be just rude, i am seriously asking what catches a ladies eye. " Yeah, no one is telling you to write that either, so I don't even know why you're mentioning it. Lol. | |||
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"BBCBull as i have just mentioned to the lady before, I dont copy and paste and if there is something in their profile I will bring some commonality in too my message but getting frustrated with no response. I know I must sound like a sad git " Ok then, even as an example your messages are all about you, not about the person you are messaging. Though do not put in false compliments. I agree with some pics in your profile and, for me, your text is too long. Everyone on here thinks they are a genuine true gent. If you are you don't need to mention it, it will be apparent  | |||
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"Try maybe having some public pics when i get a message before i even open it i go straight to the profile and have a nosey" This^ No photos to look at would also put me off. | |||
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"apologies some of my friends mention they get that alot, dont get me wrong i am here for serious advice I'm sory if it seems like I am making assumptions. " I don't think you were | |||
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"I'd edit down that profile text. You mention wining and dining twice and it's all a bit repetitive. And saying you're genuine is pointless. That's something you have to demonstrate, not just claim." Snap sort of  | |||
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"Try maybe having some public pics when i get a message before i even open it i go straight to the profile and have a nosey" Agree with this x | |||
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"And hit +quote before replying so we know who you're responding to "Thank you, I am certainly learning this evening, xx | |||
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"And hit +quote before replying so we know who you're responding to
Thank you, I am certainly learning this evening, xx"Which is good I'm sure no one on here minds helping someone who genuinely wants to improve their chances by doing things 'right' | |||
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"Unfortunately, "being nice" isn't the sole requirement to get a response on here. People like knowing that whoever is messaging them wants to meet *them*, and hasn't just sent out 100 of the same messages to get a response. I love how so many guys' thought processes seem to be: "OK, I'm being nice on here, and it's not working" and then instead of "Well, maybe try something different", it's "Maybe I need to be *less* nice!" Lol. Since when is being less nice ever a good move? Lol" Been trying to tell you what I would like to do if we met for a few days but I just age out on your profile. Can you email me so I can tell you x | |||
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"Been trying to tell you what I would like to do if we met for a few days but I just age out on your profile. Can you email me so I can tell you x "WTF?! Those age filters are up for a reason. I'm not interested in "what you would like to do to me if we met for a few days". And contacting me like this is creepy as fuck. Don't do this, OP. This is a good example of what not to do. | |||
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"Ladies, what am i doing or saying wrong. I am a genuine gentleman who is polite and honest but finding it difficult to get responses. example of my initial message. Hello XXXX hope you are well today, I am Dave a nurse who has recently moved to Camberley, I am a genuine guy who knows how to treat a lady with a cheeky side that loves to please, I'd love to chat see how we get on and take things from there, I am looking for like minded ladies for mutual safe fun. is being to nice wrong as i cant be that treat them mean keep them keen guy. i dont send cock pics I normally send 3, one in a suit, one topless showing that i have a tattoo or 3 and a normal pic. advice would be gratefully received. Many thanks True gent " Try keeping it short n sweet with a wee bit of cheeky banter.....maybe something bout one of their pics x | |||
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"Been trying to tell you what I would like to do if we met for a few days but I just age out on your profile. Can you email me so I can tell you x
WTF?! Those age filters are up for a reason.
I'm not interested in "what you would like to do to me if we met for a few days".
And contacting me like this is creepy as fuck.
Don't do this, OP. This is a good example of what not to do. "It's also against forum rules to try to get around blocks and filters by contacting them on the forum | |||
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"Been trying to tell you what I would like to do if we met for a few days but I just age out on your profile. Can you email me so I can tell you x
WTF?! Those age filters are up for a reason.
I'm not interested in "what you would like to do to me if we met for a few days".
And contacting me like this is creepy as fuck.
Don't do this, OP. This is a good example of what not to do.
It's also against forum rules to try to get around blocks and filters by contacting them on the forum "Oh yeah. ^This. | |||
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"Been trying to tell you what I would like to do if we met for a few days but I just age out on your profile. Can you email me so I can tell you x
WTF?! Those age filters are up for a reason.
I'm not interested in "what you would like to do to me if we met for a few days".
And contacting me like this is creepy as fuck.
Don't do this, OP. This is a good example of what not to do.
It's also against forum rules to try to get around blocks and filters by contacting them on the forum
Oh yeah. ^This. "And yet he chose to approach that way yet according to his pof olé he's a "nice guy" , which kinda plays into the posts from kinky minx | |||
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"although I agree that it does read like it is copied and pasted it is not, that is an example, when i read someones profile I will take things from it and apply it to my message showing that I have read it, but if i am honest it is what I would generally write, I do not know what else to put. I am not going to send a message like "fancy a meet tonight" or "Hello beautiful wanna fuck" as I think that would be just rude, i am seriously asking what catches a ladies eye. " you have to just keep plodding away its very frustrating for guys on here ,6 locations seem a little ambitious though are you after a woman in every port ?  | |||
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" And saying you're genuine is pointless. That's something you have to demonstrate, not just claim." I quite agree with this. Saying you're honest, or nice, or genuine is utterly pointless and as often as not its mention is regarded as suspicious at best....all three adjectives need to be demonstrated by deeds not words | |||
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"Only message people if you fit their profile and remember many women don't want to be wined and dined. They don't want a potential stalker they want to be taken and used and never speak again. This isn't a dating site. Find out what they want, read their profiles,act out their fantasies and move on. If they want a regular fb or relationship they will say but most of all be nice and respectful. Even when you are fucking them in the arse and sending them home to hubby. Good luck. " This made me laugh and some of it is actually correct. | |||
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" And saying you're genuine is pointless. That's something you have to demonstrate, not just claim. I quite agree with this. Saying you're honest, or nice, or genuine is utterly pointless and as often as not its mention is regarded as suspicious at best....all three adjectives need to be demonstrated by deeds not words" I dont want nice, I want a hot dirty fuck | |||
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"Ladies, what am i doing or saying wrong. I am a genuine gentleman who is polite and honest but finding it difficult to get responses. example of my initial message. Hello XXXX hope you are well today, I am Dave a nurse who has recently moved to Camberley, I am a genuine guy who knows how to treat a lady with a cheeky side that loves to please, I'd love to chat see how we get on and take things from there, I am looking for like minded ladies for mutual safe fun. is being to nice wrong as i cant be that treat them mean keep them keen guy. i dont send cock pics I normally send 3, one in a suit, one topless showing that i have a tattoo or 3 and a normal pic. advice would be gratefully received. Many thanks True gent " You have a lengthy profile , but it does not really tell us anything about you . What are you key marketing points that will make you stand out . Without pictures on a profile , most members would be non starters. | |||
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" And saying you're genuine is pointless. That's something you have to demonstrate, not just claim. I quite agree with this. Saying you're honest, or nice, or genuine is utterly pointless and as often as not its mention is regarded as suspicious at best....all three adjectives need to be demonstrated by deeds not words I dont want nice, I want a hot dirty fuck "There you go.....an even more compelling reason not to go on about being nice.... | |||
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"Ladies, what am i doing or saying wrong. I am a genuine gentleman who is polite and honest but finding it difficult to get responses. example of my initial message. Hello XXXX hope you are well today, I am Dave a nurse who has recently moved to Camberley, I am a genuine guy who knows how to treat a lady with a cheeky side that loves to please, I'd love to chat see how we get on and take things from there, I am looking for like minded ladies for mutual safe fun. is being to nice wrong as i cant be that treat them mean keep them keen guy. i dont send cock pics I normally send 3, one in a suit, one topless showing that i have a tattoo or 3 and a normal pic. advice would be gratefully received. Many thanks True gent " Looks like a copy n paste message, messages should be unique and show that you have read her profile, by mentioning what it is on her profile that led you to messaging in the first place. I get so many guys messaging me saying they read my profile and want to chat, i know instantly all they have done is looked at pics, these men claiming they read the profile usually bald/shaven headed, bearded, miles away and send cock pics but no face pics, and get arsy when its pointed out they should read the profiles they have claimed to read. Your best to fully read a profile, make sure you tick all the boxes that the profile is asking for, then write a tailored message and send your three pictures. Also, get to organised socials or clubs, that cuts out all the messaging and its the best way to put yourself across to others in a face to face conversation | |||
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"BBCBull as i have just mentioned to the lady before, I dont copy and paste and if there is something in their profile I will bring some commonality in too my message but getting frustrated with no response. I know I must sound like a sad git " You also mentioned that in honesty most of your messages are like your example message which led me to believe from that response you made that the example message is the message you send out, surely if you reference there profiles you would have included in your example message "after reading your profile i felt we were compatible as a match because xyz | |||
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"Unfortunately, "being nice" isn't the sole requirement to get a response on here. People like knowing that whoever is messaging them wants to meet *them*, and hasn't just sent out 100 of the same messages to get a response. I love how so many guys' thought processes seem to be: "OK, I'm being nice on here, and it's not working" and then instead of "Well, maybe try something different", it's "Maybe I need to be *less* nice!" Lol. Since when is being less nice ever a good move? Lol Been trying to tell you what I would like to do if we met for a few days but I just age out on your profile. Can you email me so I can tell you x "Why would you need to tell someone whose profile you obviously dont match if you cant message because of there filters, thats a little "desperate" in my view | |||
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"Ladies, what am i doing or saying wrong. I am a genuine gentleman who is polite and honest but finding it difficult to get responses. example of my initial message. Hello XXXX hope you are well today, I am Dave a nurse who has recently moved to Camberley, I am a genuine guy who knows how to treat a lady with a cheeky side that loves to please, I'd love to chat see how we get on and take things from there, I am looking for like minded ladies for mutual safe fun. is being to nice wrong as i cant be that treat them mean keep them keen guy. i dont send cock pics I normally send 3, one in a suit, one topless showing that i have a tattoo or 3 and a normal pic. advice would be gratefully received. Many thanks True gent Try keeping it short n sweet with a wee bit of cheeky banter.....maybe something bout one of their pics x" If someone messaged me focussing the message on my pics, that would say only looked at your pics, couldnt be arsed to read your profile, which would put me off the bloke instantly | |||
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"BBCBull as i have just mentioned to the lady before, I dont copy and paste and if there is something in their profile I will bring some commonality in too my message but getting frustrated with no response. I know I must sound like a sad git You also mentioned that in honesty most of your messages are like your example message which led me to believe from that response you made that the example message is the message you send out, surely if you reference there profiles you would have included in your example message "after reading your profile i felt we were compatible as a match because xyz" Another good example where self-declaration of being "genuine" is not to be trusted... the profile is also repetitive and does other guys down ..."not like other guys", etc.,....which is not a good look at all | |||
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"Only message people if you fit their profile and remember many women don't want to be wined and dined. They don't want a potential stalker they want to be taken and used and never speak again. This isn't a dating site. Find out what they want, read their profiles,act out their fantasies and move on. If they want a regular fb or relationship they will say but most of all be nice and respectful. Even when you are fucking them in the arse and sending them home to hubby. Good luck. " Can i ask where your stats are from to prove most women on this site want to be taken and used  | |||
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"Think he meant taken to his place and used as a domestic goddess "No he meant we all want to be taken and used, yet funnily enough from profiles on here and females i know from the club scene i have never yet come across a female looking to be solely taken and used | |||
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"Think he meant taken to his place and used as a domestic goddess
No he meant we all want to be taken and used, yet funnily enough from profiles on here and females i know from the club scene i have never yet come across a female looking to be solely taken and used"I've seen a few women ask for that scenario but no-one should generalise and respect should always be shown | |||
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"And yet he chose to approach that way yet according to his pof olé he's a "nice guy" , which kinda plays into the posts from kinky minx " You mean that if he was nice he wouldn't have to say? | |||
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"Ladies, what am i doing or saying wrong. I am a genuine gentleman who is polite and honest but finding it difficult to get responses. example of my initial message. Hello XXXX hope you are well today, I am Dave a nurse who has recently moved to Camberley, I am a genuine guy who knows how to treat a lady with a cheeky side that loves to please, I'd love to chat see how we get on and take things from there, I am looking for like minded ladies for mutual safe fun. is being to nice wrong as i cant be that treat them mean keep them keen guy. i dont send cock pics I normally send 3, one in a suit, one topless showing that i have a tattoo or 3 and a normal pic. advice would be gratefully received. Many thanks True gent " Sorry to say but when I saw how long your profile text was I stopped reading before I got halfway. Some public pics would be good too. Good luck Maria | |||
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"Try maybe having some public pics when i get a message before i even open it i go straight to the profile and have a nosey" This. | |||
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