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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Right just want opinions based on whether I would get bad karma for doing this.

Situation is I met a guy off here in sept 2014 (he's no longer on here) met him in the day just for a social but sucked him twice (2 loads) in his car classy I know. Then met him again and shagged him then he dropped the bollock that he had a bird (no kids) but that put an end to that. He's messaged me on and off over the last year asking to meet again but he's still with his gf, I've told him many times that I don't agree with meeting him knowing that he has a bird and if that situation ever changes to get in touch. Could go a month or two without hearing from him and then I do and think he's now single but when I ask him he says he's still seeing her and won't lie because of how much I kicked off the first time he told me (after I'd slept with him) So I suppose he is being honest by still telling me, he could easily say he was single now and I'd happily shag him. Anyway I'm thinking now it's been 17 months since I last had proper sex, proper sex as in me actually having an orgasm not just a guy putting it in and me pushing him off or a guy putting it in and blowing his beans in less than 30 seconds.

I've got needs, I'm fussy as fuck and struggle to find handsome face/massive dick combo guys, I have rejection issues so I'm thinking now do I just meet this guy and have guaranteed awesome sex with none of the why hasn't he messaged or why doesn't he want to see me again nonsense. Knowing that he has a girlfriend somehow makes me able to just be able to shag him without wondering or feeling the horrible feelings I have if I don't hear from or see the guy again. It's a weird logic but I could shag this guy and be fine with it just being a good shag, I don't want to steal him and I can stop myself having feelings for him because he's not available and I won't have the thoughts of not being good enough because he's not choosing not to see me he already has a bird so none of that will happen. My worry though is karma having me for knowingly sleeping with a guy that has a girlfriend, I've been single almost 7 years I don't want any external forces making things harder for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Out of interest, are the thoughts concerning why he hasn't messaged me/he doesn't want to see me/having feelings/not being good enough thoughts you regularly have from this site ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Out of interest, are the thoughts concerning why he hasn't messaged me/he doesn't want to see me/having feelings/not being good enough thoughts you regularly have from this site ? "

No, they're from childhood issues. I'm normally confident to the point of being full of myself but when it comes to something I like or when I've invested feelings I go back to being a child and I have overpowering thoughts of everyone leaving me or not being wanted. I know why I have the thoughts just can't stop them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe it's karma that you have waited 17 months or more for decent sex? Nothing wrong with being choosy or sticking to your principles. I guess its whether you are looking for nsa? Reading between the lines you are looking for a little more than that?

It comes down to the fact whether it's nsa for both of you and you can accept that?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe it's karma that you have waited 17 months or more for decent sex? Nothing wrong with being choosy or sticking to your principles. I guess its whether you are looking for nsa? Reading between the lines you are looking for a little more than that?

It comes down to the fact whether it's nsa for both of you and you can accept that?"

Ultimately I want a permanent guy but I still have needs whilst I'm looking!

I'm a weird bugger, I need to have a little bit of trust and know the guy fairly well to be able to have good sex and that usually comes from shagging or spending time with the same person which is catch 22 cos that's how I start catching feelings, but, with a taken guy it somehow stops it. Like if this guy was single I'd be thinking oh why hasn't he messaged and stuff like that but I'm genuinely not bothered if I hear off him or not because in my head I know it's nothing to do with him not wanting me it's because he has a life with someone else. I don't want him or to steal him away, I just want his dick for a couple of hours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's all dependant on your own belief system. It's a personal decision, if you believe in karma then it may play heavily on your mind regardless of it being a no strings fling. I hope this helps you and all the best in your search to satisfy your needs and urged.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe it's karma that you have waited 17 months or more for decent sex? Nothing wrong with being choosy or sticking to your principles. I guess its whether you are looking for nsa? Reading between the lines you are looking for a little more than that?

It comes down to the fact whether it's nsa for both of you and you can accept that?

Ultimately I want a permanent guy but I still have needs whilst I'm looking!

I'm a weird bugger, I need to have a little bit of trust and know the guy fairly well to be able to have good sex and that usually comes from shagging or spending time with the same person which is catch 22 cos that's how I start catching feelings, but, with a taken guy it somehow stops it. Like if this guy was single I'd be thinking oh why hasn't he messaged and stuff like that but I'm genuinely not bothered if I hear off him or not because in my head I know it's nothing to do with him not wanting me it's because he has a life with someone else. I don't want him or to steal him away, I just want his dick for a couple of hours. "

I find nothing wrong with that. If you want him for a couple of hours and the sex is good, use him every so often. It's his decision whether he wants to play with you and who wouldn't?

Most couples play the same way. Meet and forget until it's time to play again. As against thinking it's more than it is I mean. As for feeling rejected because he hasn't or doesn't message until he wants to meet you, you just have to realise it's nsa, that's all it is. While it could be argued he is using you, turn it around and use him for what you want or need. But that is what it is, him being used by you.

It's whether you can be honest with yourself and be able to do that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Right just want opinions based on whether I would get bad karma for doing this.

Situation is I met a guy off here in sept 2014 (he's no longer on here) met him in the day just for a social but sucked him twice (2 loads) in his car classy I know. Then met him again and shagged him then he dropped the bollock that he had a bird (no kids) but that put an end to that. He's messaged me on and off over the last year asking to meet again but he's still with his gf, I've told him many times that I don't agree with meeting him knowing that he has a bird and if that situation ever changes to get in touch. Could go a month or two without hearing from him and then I do and think he's now single but when I ask him he says he's still seeing her and won't lie because of how much I kicked off the first time he told me (after I'd slept with him) So I suppose he is being honest by still telling me, he could easily say he was single now and I'd happily shag him. Anyway I'm thinking now it's been 17 months since I last had proper sex, proper sex as in me actually having an orgasm not just a guy putting it in and me pushing him off or a guy putting it in and blowing his beans in less than 30 seconds.

I've got needs, I'm fussy as fuck and struggle to find handsome face/massive dick combo guys, I have rejection issues so I'm thinking now do I just meet this guy and have guaranteed awesome sex with none of the why hasn't he messaged or why doesn't he want to see me again nonsense. Knowing that he has a girlfriend somehow makes me able to just be able to shag him without wondering or feeling the horrible feelings I have if I don't hear from or see the guy again. It's a weird logic but I could shag this guy and be fine with it just being a good shag, I don't want to steal him and I can stop myself having feelings for him because he's not available and I won't have the thoughts of not being good enough because he's not choosing not to see me he already has a bird so none of that will happen. My worry though is karma having me for knowingly sleeping with a guy that has a girlfriend, I've been single almost 7 years I don't want any external forces making things harder for me. "

Shag him x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe it's karma that you have waited 17 months or more for decent sex? Nothing wrong with being choosy or sticking to your principles. I guess its whether you are looking for nsa? Reading between the lines you are looking for a little more than that?

It comes down to the fact whether it's nsa for both of you and you can accept that?

Ultimately I want a permanent guy but I still have needs whilst I'm looking!

I'm a weird bugger, I need to have a little bit of trust and know the guy fairly well to be able to have good sex and that usually comes from shagging or spending time with the same person which is catch 22 cos that's how I start catching feelings, but, with a taken guy it somehow stops it. Like if this guy was single I'd be thinking oh why hasn't he messaged and stuff like that but I'm genuinely not bothered if I hear off him or not because in my head I know it's nothing to do with him not wanting me it's because he has a life with someone else. I don't want him or to steal him away, I just want his dick for a couple of hours.

I find nothing wrong with that. If you want him for a couple of hours and the sex is good, use him every so often. It's his decision whether he wants to play with you and who wouldn't?

Most couples play the same way. Meet and forget until it's time to play again. As against thinking it's more than it is I mean. As for feeling rejected because he hasn't or doesn't message until he wants to meet you, you just have to realise it's nsa, that's all it is. While it could be argued he is using you, turn it around and use him for what you want or need. But that is what it is, him being used by you.

It's whether you can be honest with yourself and be able to do that?"

Yeah I'm fine with him, like I said it's been 17 months since I actually saw him in the flesh and I only message him after he's messaged me (again that's because I know he has a gf) it doesn't bother me, I don't think about him or nothing like that but I would do if he was single.

I just wanted advice based on morals and karma. I know if he didn't meet me he wouldn't meet anyone else so if I did meet him it would be me that enables him to cheat.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I believe in personal accountability, karma doesn't exist it's how you feel personally about something that eventually brings retribution or otherwise. So if you're happy to enable this man to cheat on his girlfriend because you have needs and can live with that then do it. However if you feel that enabling someone to potentially hurt someone else is bad for your "self" then don't.

I don't really care what other people do they're the ones who need to face themselves when it comes down to it.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

From your other posts OP, if I remember right, you are not on the pill and dont use protection? So have you thought of the consequences of pregnancy on their relationship for a selfish fuck?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the end of the day, you are both adults and able to make your own decisions, good or bad, regardless of what others think or say. It's his decision to cheat, not yours. You only have his word that he isn't/ hasn't seen anyone else. I don't see any reason to get nasty or judgemental. As I said if you can live with yourself, what he does is upto him.

You can always message in private, should you wish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends how religious you are with the karma thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Right just want opinions based on whether I would get bad karma for doing this.

Situation is I met a guy off here in sept 2014 (he's no longer on here) met him in the day just for a social but sucked him twice (2 loads) in his car classy I know. Then met him again and shagged him then he dropped the bollock that he had a bird (no kids) but that put an end to that. He's messaged me on and off over the last year asking to meet again but he's still with his gf, I've told him many times that I don't agree with meeting him knowing that he has a bird and if that situation ever changes to get in touch. Could go a month or two without hearing from him and then I do and think he's now single but when I ask him he says he's still seeing her and won't lie because of how much I kicked off the first time he told me (after I'd slept with him) So I suppose he is being honest by still telling me, he could easily say he was single now and I'd happily shag him. Anyway I'm thinking now it's been 17 months since I last had proper sex, proper sex as in me actually having an orgasm not just a guy putting it in and me pushing him off or a guy putting it in and blowing his beans in less than 30 seconds.

I've got needs, I'm fussy as fuck and struggle to find handsome face/massive dick combo guys, I have rejection issues so I'm thinking now do I just meet this guy and have guaranteed awesome sex with none of the why hasn't he messaged or why doesn't he want to see me again nonsense. Knowing that he has a girlfriend somehow makes me able to just be able to shag him without wondering or feeling the horrible feelings I have if I don't hear from or see the guy again. It's a weird logic but I could shag this guy and be fine with it just being a good shag, I don't want to steal him and I can stop myself having feelings for him because he's not available and I won't have the thoughts of not being good enough because he's not choosing not to see me he already has a bird so none of that will happen. My worry though is karma having me for knowingly sleeping with a guy that has a girlfriend, I've been single almost 7 years I don't want any external forces making things harder for me. "

Have you considered trying pelvic floors to alleviate the lack of big dick problem?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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Have you considered trying pelvic floors to alleviate the lack of big dick problem?"

It's nothing to do with that. It's the pain and the stretching feeling that I enjoy, it's actually a struggle to put a tampax in so don't need to tighten it up further.

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By *rs Mia WallaceWoman
over a year ago

Bathwyche

There are many similarities between you and i (early issues, rejection, not trusting, sex better with trust) and also with the guy thing last year i saw a guy consistently, from here, for 3 months. Not always just for sex....and he kept throwing me little hooks. The obvious happened, i started to get confused...as he'd always been clear of nsa. Long story short, he finally came clean that he was married with a 4 yr old. I obv went mental and i ended seeing him. I do miss the sex with him, not found anything like the connection we had since.

Would i ever go back there. No.

Not because of his wife....im not the first or last in his string of extramaritals.....but for myself.

With a non trusting approach to relationships, how would i/you break this way of thinking.

And how would you be giving yourself chance to meet someone else when ur attachment to him is spinning your head out.

I get nervous meeting people because of my experiences. A guy even putting his hand behind my head when kissing me proper spins me out (from historical experiences obv) but its a case of breaking through that and learning to trust.

Don't go back there! You would be harming yourself, call it karma, call it what you like but why should he have his cake and eat it and all you get is an orgasm. No trust, no consideration for you, nothing.

Fuck him off rather than fuck him i say! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would like a regular handsome guy with a large penis for general merriment and spooning

You have a way with words

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Have you considered trying pelvic floors to alleviate the lack of big dick problem?

It's nothing to do with that. It's the pain and the stretching feeling that I enjoy, it's actually a struggle to put a tampax in so don't need to tighten it up further. "

Are you absolutely certain you're putting the tampax in the right place?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

personally - forget him and move on - can feel it all ending up in a real bad mess - you sound lovely and will have no problem finding the one for you x

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

I find Karma to be one hell of a bitch. I was seeing a guy who was with someone because i thought i woukdnt get emotionally attached and all i wanted was something like you are describing. Anyway long story short it ended horribly as we fell in love. Sometimes no matter what you think you really cant stop that pull with another person. In the end too much hurt all around and now i never knowingly go near an attached guy. I would suggest the same to anyone.

Due to issues from chilfhood i never actually thought i was capable of such feelings

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Have you considered trying pelvic floors to alleviate the lack of big dick problem?

It's nothing to do with that. It's the pain and the stretching feeling that I enjoy, it's actually a struggle to put a tampax in so don't need to tighten it up further.

Are you absolutely certain you're putting the tampax in the right place? "

Do you know it's always the guys with small dicks that make snide comments about women that like large cocks. They can't accept that there's any other reasons for preferring a large dick so they have to make childish remarks and try and insinuate that the woman has a slack fanny. Guys with small dicks don't understand the psychology involved with a woman liking a large penis, don't understand that a woman can have a fascination with dicks (Freud understood) Penetration and foreplay aside I associate a large dick with being masculine and powerful, when a guy presents me with a penis that's small I feel embarrassed for him, feel like it's an insult to my ego and if I'm honest I'm a little afraid of them, feel like is it on me, is it looking at me. I don't like them.

I like a penis to be large because when spooning with a guy I put his dick between my thighs and play with it and pretend it's mine. I like a penis to be large enough so when it's on my face the balls are under my chin and the bell is by my eyelashes and I can rub pre cum over my eyebrows. I like a penis to be large enough to cause me pain when it first enters me and stretches me. Theres a whole list of reasons why a woman would prefer a large penis, something to bare in mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At the end of the day, you are both adults and able to make your own decisions, good or bad, regardless of what others think or say. It's his decision to cheat, not yours. You only have his word that he isn't/ hasn't seen anyone else. I don't see any reason to get nasty or judgemental. As I said if you can live with yourself, what he does is upto him.

... "

Shag him.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Karma doesn't work the way you think. Indeed it doesn't work the way nearly anyone thinks. Do you think that people who do only bad things only ever have bad things happen to them? How do you explain Tories then?

What you have to decide is how YOU will feel if you have a relationship with this guy, because that's what it will be. You are so fussy that this guy is likely to become a regular shag, so you have to decide whether you want to be his shag on the side. then there was the very pertinent question above about your preference for bareback. He won't be wrapping for his girlfriend so how are you going to get around that foible?

I am not you so there is no point in giving my opinion. You will shag him or not depending on what you want to do. But if it does go tits up (and it will) then how will that make you feel? If you have such issues to start with, surely being second best for this guy will only exacerbate them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"At the end of the day, you are both adults and able to make your own decisions, good or bad, regardless of what others think or say. It's his decision to cheat, not yours. You only have his word that he isn't/ hasn't seen anyone else. I don't see any reason to get nasty or judgemental. As I said if you can live with yourself, what he does is upto him.

...

Shag him. "

I'm leaning more towards not, when I first met him 17 months ago and he told me he had a gf I was pissed off and he said it was a new relationship, had only been official for a couple of months, now it's 17 months stronger so the woman would have more feelings invested in him. Makes me think why anyone would let a relationship go that long if the sex wasn't all that!?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"At the end of the day, you are both adults and able to make your own decisions, good or bad, regardless of what others think or say. It's his decision to cheat, not yours. You only have his word that he isn't/ hasn't seen anyone else. I don't see any reason to get nasty or judgemental. As I said if you can live with yourself, what he does is upto him.

...

Shag him.

I'm leaning more towards not, when I first met him 17 months ago and he told me he had a gf I was pissed off and he said it was a new relationship, had only been official for a couple of months, now it's 17 months stronger so the woman would have more feelings invested in him. Makes me think why anyone would let a relationship go that long if the sex wasn't all that!?"

I think that if you start going against your personal code (and as I understand this you would be) you stop being true to yourself and why would you want to do that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't do it

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

" I know if he didn't meet me he wouldn't meet anyone else..."

Jeez, get a grip woman!

You are probably one of a number of women he does this with, so stop kidding yourself.

How would you feel if his partner found out?

If you can live with the fact that she would be hurt, then crack on, otherwise, leave well alone.

I get that you have a "type" or "preference", but I'd suggest your own conscience would prefer if you invested some of the time you spend agonising over this guy in searching for someone who matches what you want.... AND doesn't have a partner in tow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Out of interest, are the thoughts concerning why he hasn't messaged me/he doesn't want to see me/having feelings/not being good enough thoughts you regularly have from this site ?

No, they're from childhood issues. I'm normally confident to the point of being full of myself but when it comes to something I like or when I've invested feelings I go back to being a child and I have overpowering thoughts of everyone leaving me or not being wanted. I know why I have the thoughts just can't stop them. "

I'm exactly the same xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are many similarities between you and i (early issues, rejection, not trusting, sex better with trust) and also with the guy thing last year i saw a guy consistently, from here, for 3 months. Not always just for sex....and he kept throwing me little hooks. The obvious happened, i started to get confused...as he'd always been clear of nsa. Long story short, he finally came clean that he was married with a 4 yr old. I obv went mental and i ended seeing him. I do miss the sex with him, not found anything like the connection we had since.

Would i ever go back there. No.

Not because of his wife....im not the first or last in his string of extramaritals.....but for myself.

With a non trusting approach to relationships, how would i/you break this way of thinking.

And how would you be giving yourself chance to meet someone else when ur attachment to him is spinning your head out.

I get nervous meeting people because of my experiences. A guy even putting his hand behind my head when kissing me proper spins me out (from historical experiences obv) but its a case of breaking through that and learning to trust.

Don't go back there! You would be harming yourself, call it karma, call it what you like but why should he have his cake and eat it and all you get is an orgasm. No trust, no consideration for you, nothing.

Fuck him off rather than fuck him i say! Xx"

I agree with this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At the end of the day, you are both adults and able to make your own decisions, good or bad, regardless of what others think or say. It's his decision to cheat, not yours. You only have his word that he isn't/ hasn't seen anyone else. I don't see any reason to get nasty or judgemental. As I said if you can live with yourself, what he does is upto him.

...

Shag him.

I'm leaning more towards not, when I first met him 17 months ago and he told me he had a gf I was pissed off and he said it was a new relationship, had only been official for a couple of months, now it's 17 months stronger so the woman would have more feelings invested in him. Makes me think why anyone would let a relationship go that long if the sex wasn't all that!?"

Yes I'm not sure I could be attracted to anyone so gutless and pathetic, but that's me speaking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Have you considered trying pelvic floors to alleviate the lack of big dick problem?

It's nothing to do with that. It's the pain and the stretching feeling that I enjoy, it's actually a struggle to put a tampax in so don't need to tighten it up further.

Are you absolutely certain you're putting the tampax in the right place?

Do you know it's always the guys with small dicks that make snide comments about women that like large cocks. They can't accept that there's any other reasons for preferring a large dick so they have to make childish remarks and try and insinuate that the woman has a slack fanny. Guys with small dicks don't understand the psychology involved with a woman liking a large penis, don't understand that a woman can have a fascination with dicks (Freud understood) Penetration and foreplay aside I associate a large dick with being masculine and powerful, when a guy presents me with a penis that's small I feel embarrassed for him, feel like it's an insult to my ego and if I'm honest I'm a little afraid of them, feel like is it on me, is it looking at me. I don't like them.

I like a penis to be large because when spooning with a guy I put his dick between my thighs and play with it and pretend it's mine. I like a penis to be large enough so when it's on my face the balls are under my chin and the bell is by my eyelashes and I can rub pre cum over my eyebrows. I like a penis to be large enough to cause me pain when it first enters me and stretches me. Theres a whole list of reasons why a woman would prefer a large penis, something to bare in mind. "

I was just trying to be helpful. Are you a bit tense just now?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Have you considered trying pelvic floors to alleviate the lack of big dick problem?

It's nothing to do with that. It's the pain and the stretching feeling that I enjoy, it's actually a struggle to put a tampax in so don't need to tighten it up further.

Are you absolutely certain you're putting the tampax in the right place?

Do you know it's always the guys with small dicks that make snide comments about women that like large cocks. They can't accept that there's any other reasons for preferring a large dick so they have to make childish remarks and try and insinuate that the woman has a slack fanny. Guys with small dicks don't understand the psychology involved with a woman liking a large penis, don't understand that a woman can have a fascination with dicks (Freud understood) Penetration and foreplay aside I associate a large dick with being masculine and powerful, when a guy presents me with a penis that's small I feel embarrassed for him, feel like it's an insult to my ego and if I'm honest I'm a little afraid of them, feel like is it on me, is it looking at me. I don't like them.

I like a penis to be large because when spooning with a guy I put his dick between my thighs and play with it and pretend it's mine. I like a penis to be large enough so when it's on my face the balls are under my chin and the bell is by my eyelashes and I can rub pre cum over my eyebrows. I like a penis to be large enough to cause me pain when it first enters me and stretches me. Theres a whole list of reasons why a woman would prefer a large penis, something to bare in mind.

I was just trying to be helpful. Are you a bit tense just now? "

You were being cheeky is what you were, with a username like "love the kink" would've thought you would understand that people have all kinds of kinks. Mine just happens to be massive dicks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Have you considered trying pelvic floors to alleviate the lack of big dick problem?

It's nothing to do with that. It's the pain and the stretching feeling that I enjoy, it's actually a struggle to put a tampax in so don't need to tighten it up further.

Are you absolutely certain you're putting the tampax in the right place?

Do you know it's always the guys with small dicks that make snide comments about women that like large cocks. They can't accept that there's any other reasons for preferring a large dick so they have to make childish remarks and try and insinuate that the woman has a slack fanny. Guys with small dicks don't understand the psychology involved with a woman liking a large penis, don't understand that a woman can have a fascination with dicks (Freud understood) Penetration and foreplay aside I associate a large dick with being masculine and powerful, when a guy presents me with a penis that's small I feel embarrassed for him, feel like it's an insult to my ego and if I'm honest I'm a little afraid of them, feel like is it on me, is it looking at me. I don't like them.

I like a penis to be large because when spooning with a guy I put his dick between my thighs and play with it and pretend it's mine. I like a penis to be large enough so when it's on my face the balls are under my chin and the bell is by my eyelashes and I can rub pre cum over my eyebrows. I like a penis to be large enough to cause me pain when it first enters me and stretches me. Theres a whole list of reasons why a woman would prefer a large penis, something to bare in mind.

I was just trying to be helpful. Are you a bit tense just now?

You were being cheeky is what you were, with a username like "love the kink" would've thought you would understand that people have all kinds of kinks. Mine just happens to be massive dicks. "

And stick with it, love. Nobody should feel obliged to question what satisfies you. You like large cock, I like a round pert bum. We all have different attractions to regional accents too. Unfortunately people will always feel the need to put their 2p's worth in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Makes me think why anyone would let a relationship go that long if the sex wasn't all that!?"

Sex with who?

Relationships are investments in other people for reasons, a whole multitude of all kinds of reasons, and some of them aren't good reasons and wouldn't be worthy of being called relationships if both parties knew the whole truth.

You don't know the whole truth about him, and especially know nothing about anyone he's in a relationship with.

He has told you some convenient truths to test your boundaries to see what you'll put up with, he did not tell you about the relationship to be honest with you, he told you to see if you was ok with it. And he is probably playing head games with you to keep you hooked and you're participating.

You want to start looking at yourself and why you're thinking the things you think, why you want something that was never available to you from the start...at least not in the way you wanted it. And why you'd even want someone that is happy to go off and do things behind someones back, because you know he will do this to you.

And that's not me having a go at you, it's me saying this is pretty much the reality of your situation. don't bother trying to figure him out, try figure out yourself and you'll start getting somewhere.

Something else to think about. If he feels he can contact you when he feels like it, and still say he's not what you want or are even interested in, where did he get the impression that this is ok? It's possible this is a problem with his own boundaries rather than yours, but if there's anything you're not ok with then you need to enforce the boundaries if it's him with the boundary issues.

Maybe look into manipulation techniques because i've been through something similar where an ex was fucking with my head so i wasn't available for other guys, while he was conveniently in a hidden relationship. Part of the head fuck is you fucking up yourself but they make sure you stay in that zone by coming back to remind you they exist. I went no contact and it helped a lot. I made sure he won't contact me again and we'll never get back together, my bitch skills are pretty good when i put my mind to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Have you considered trying pelvic floors to alleviate the lack of big dick problem?

It's nothing to do with that. It's the pain and the stretching feeling that I enjoy, it's actually a struggle to put a tampax in so don't need to tighten it up further.

Are you absolutely certain you're putting the tampax in the right place?

Do you know it's always the guys with small dicks that make snide comments about women that like large cocks. They can't accept that there's any other reasons for preferring a large dick so they have to make childish remarks and try and insinuate that the woman has a slack fanny. Guys with small dicks don't understand the psychology involved with a woman liking a large penis, don't understand that a woman can have a fascination with dicks (Freud understood) Penetration and foreplay aside I associate a large dick with being masculine and powerful, when a guy presents me with a penis that's small I feel embarrassed for him, feel like it's an insult to my ego and if I'm honest I'm a little afraid of them, feel like is it on me, is it looking at me. I don't like them.

I like a penis to be large because when spooning with a guy I put his dick between my thighs and play with it and pretend it's mine. I like a penis to be large enough so when it's on my face the balls are under my chin and the bell is by my eyelashes and I can rub pre cum over my eyebrows. I like a penis to be large enough to cause me pain when it first enters me and stretches me. Theres a whole list of reasons why a woman would prefer a large penis, something to bare in mind.

I was just trying to be helpful. Are you a bit tense just now? "

Stop trolling and side tracking OP. She has a problem, is being open and vulnerable in here, just stfu.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Makes me think why anyone would let a relationship go that long if the sex wasn't all that!?

Sex with who?

Relationships are investments in other people for reasons, a whole multitude of all kinds of reasons, and some of them aren't good reasons and wouldn't be worthy of being called relationships if both parties knew the whole truth.

You don't know the whole truth about him, and especially know nothing about anyone he's in a relationship with.

He has told you some convenient truths to test your boundaries to see what you'll put up with, he did not tell you about the relationship to be honest with you, he told you to see if you was ok with it. And he is probably playing head games with you to keep you hooked and you're participating.

You want to start looking at yourself and why you're thinking the things you think, why you want something that was never available to you from the start...at least not in the way you wanted it. And why you'd even want someone that is happy to go off and do things behind someones back, because you know he will do this to you.

And that's not me having a go at you, it's me saying this is pretty much the reality of your situation. don't bother trying to figure him out, try figure out yourself and you'll start getting somewhere.

Something else to think about. If he feels he can contact you when he feels like it, and still say he's not what you want or are even interested in, where did he get the impression that this is ok? It's possible this is a problem with his own boundaries rather than yours, but if there's anything you're not ok with then you need to enforce the boundaries if it's him with the boundary issues.

Maybe look into manipulation techniques because i've been through something similar where an ex was fucking with my head so i wasn't available for other guys, while he was conveniently in a hidden relationship. Part of the head fuck is you fucking up yourself but they make sure you stay in that zone by coming back to remind you they exist. I went no contact and it helped a lot. I made sure he won't contact me again and we'll never get back together, my bitch skills are pretty good when i put my mind to it."

This is so true!!

Maybe I should research manipulation techniques myself. Think I have just had someone try and do the same. Luckily I've got bigger fish to fry at the moment. Though I did nearly get suckered in.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

What kind of bird has he got, budgerigar, parrot ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure about bad karma, but I don't think you should shag him. I wouldn't be that kinda guy as I'd grow balls if I lost them, but I understand your perspective and the complexity.

17 months with no good sex is an issue, do you think a swinging site is the answer to what you're looking for? I hope you find whatever it is you're looking for though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe I should research manipulation techniques myself. Think I have just had someone try and do the same. Luckily I've got bigger fish to fry at the moment. Though I did nearly get suckered in."

Yeah do that.

It's always good to learn ways to protect yourself against arseholes and users.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe I should research manipulation techniques myself. Think I have just had someone try and do the same. Luckily I've got bigger fish to fry at the moment. Though I did nearly get suckered in.

Yeah do that.

It's always good to learn ways to protect yourself against arseholes and users."

Did you just google or read a particular book? I've deleted his number and restricted visibility on here. Don't think he expected that! Not experienced mind games like that, ever! Twat.

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By *-angel-XWoman
over a year ago

hell

Yes

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

As Nike say .. just do it.

His relationship is his issue. Not yours.

Just don't get sucked into anything more than some NSA fun.

Take it from one who knows the pain of being the other woman.

Be careful though. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 17/02/16 23:43:48]"

I saw what you put.

I have some experience in psychology, going back about 8 or 9 years now. So firstly i find reading more technical stuff easy because of this, and it's hard to find simplified stuff out there that goes into proper detail and doesn't mislead you (so avoid news articles, things like Bustle and mainstream stuff that has no substance).

I'd say try and find a blog or website that covers a lot of relationship matters about relationships with sociopaths, psychopaths, and/or narcissists and relationships with them. These sites tend to be worded easy enough to understand fully what they're saying and explain in more detail. You'll also see discussions from other people who have read the blogs and are discussing their own situations and these comments can help you relate the stuff in the blogs to your own situations. Most people reply to your questions if you have them as well.

Many support groups on facebook will post links to blogs that will help you as well. I found them really helpful for stopping me romanticising my relationship with my ex and facing up to the reality that he's a liar, cheat, and selfish and his actions prove that.

RelationshiPedia is a really good source of info i found personally.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"As Nike say .. just do it.

His relationship is his issue. Not yours.

Just don't get sucked into anything more than some NSA fun.

Take it from one who knows the pain of being the other woman.

Be careful though. X"

- As the battery says: Ever Ready

- It's her issue not his. She is after the shag.

- It's not NSA when someone doesn't cut all ties to an old relationship.

- Glad you condone another woman in a happy relationship, that same pain

- Be careful like don't get caught fucking someone else's man??

Seasoned advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

your profile says not looking for single guys?????????? so why u worried he had /has a g,friend

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own


"As Nike say .. just do it.

His relationship is his issue. Not yours.

Just don't get sucked into anything more than some NSA fun.

Take it from one who knows the pain of being the other woman.

Be careful though. X

- As the battery says: Ever Ready

- It's her issue not his. She is after the shag.

- It's not NSA when someone doesn't cut all ties to an old relationship.

- Glad you condone another woman in a happy relationship, that same pain

- Be careful like don't get caught fucking someone else's man??

Seasoned advice "

Oh I love when people have a pop about this subject.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"As Nike say .. just do it.

His relationship is his issue. Not yours.

Just don't get sucked into anything more than some NSA fun.

Take it from one who knows the pain of being the other woman.

Be careful though. X

- As the battery says: Ever Ready

- It's her issue not his. She is after the shag.

- It's not NSA when someone doesn't cut all ties to an old relationship.

- Glad you condone another woman in a happy relationship, that same pain

- Be careful like don't get caught fucking someone else's man??

Seasoned advice

Oh I love when people have a pop about this subject.

"

what subject? As your post made no sense at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP I don't know about karma but morally it's wrong you already know that.

If you fuck him the only real winner in all this will be the male concerned, he will be laughing behind yours and his unaware GFs back.

Males with big cocks generally have big sexual appetites and perhaps he's already cheating on his GF ? Just a thought.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"your profile says not looking for single guys?????????? so why u worried he had /has a g,friend"

It says not looking for single guys because I have all my message filters on so nobody can message me.

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By *ommenhimCouple
over a year ago

wigan

'Guys with small dicks don't understand the psychology involved with a woman liking a large penis, don't understand that a woman can have a fascination with dicks (Freud understood) '....

Quite a generalisation!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"'Guys with small dicks don't understand the psychology involved with a woman liking a large penis, don't understand that a woman can have a fascination with dicks (Freud understood) '....

Quite a generalisation!"

Well it true though (in my experience) you say you only want large penis' and guys (usually the ones who don't have large willys) will say comments like oh well you must have a massive fanny, like fucking dying mans handshake or punching smoke. That's not the case at all for me, actual penetration only makes up 25% of why I like a large penis everything else is penis worship, foreplay, comfort and relaxation.

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

Personally I'd say don't shag him, ask yourself how would you feel if you did get caught or how would you feel if you were the one being cheated on??

I'm sure you'll find someone soon enough though, you're an attractive lady and come across as having a big personality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"'Guys with small dicks don't understand the psychology involved with a woman liking a large penis, don't understand that a woman can have a fascination with dicks (Freud understood) '....

Quite a generalisation!

Well it true though (in my experience) you say you only want large penis' and guys (usually the ones who don't have large willys) will say comments like oh well you must have a massive fanny, like fucking dying mans handshake or punching smoke. That's not the case at all for me, actual penetration only makes up 25% of why I like a large penis everything else is penis worship, foreplay, comfort and relaxation. "

Well said !

It's about time it was put into perspective .

I too love a large cock , for all the reasons you do too .

And penetrative sex is only a small part of the reason .

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By *he horny kinkstersCouple
over a year ago

North West

You have needs and his current relationship is not your concern. If you want to then you should. It's his worry if he's cheating, not yours.

If it's not you it'll be someone else do you may as well get the benefit of it.

(Awaits flaming but I don't care)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are women that will shag attached men and women that will not. It's up to you which one you feel comfortable with in the long term, not just thinking of the moment.

If he was on here while being in a relationship and you having unprotected sex with him, your health is at risk.

At the end of the day it's up to you but in my eyes he wants his cake and eat it.

Have a good wank and then think about it.

Xx

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