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"So I've been thinking.... Although I wouldn't dream of unsafe sex with others in a club..... Would it be frowned upon if I played with my partner bareback (he also plays safe with others).... Would it put you off?? What do you guys do?? Advice only please, no lynching!! Ta xx" It has always worked for us, never noticed anyone having any issues with it. Just do what you want to do | |||
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"So I've been thinking.... Although I wouldn't dream of unsafe sex with others in a club..... Would it be frowned upon if I played with my partner bareback (he also plays safe with others).... Would it put you off?? What do you guys do?? Advice only please, no lynching!! Ta xx" I for one think it's an outrage for anyone to have bareback sex, with anyone, ever. It's compete russian roulette. Even if you wanted to get pregnant with your partner, people on the forums believe you can get pregnant by anal so there's still no excuse. ... Don't be silly, hardly anyone uses condoms with their partner - it's fine! | |||
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"me and him never use condoms with each other - but do with others - and ive never even given it a thought as to what people at a club might think - we do what we want to do " This | |||
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" I personally wouldn't play bareback with a partner in a club, but everyone enjoys different things." But you would in private? Then why not in a club? | |||
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"You should do what you want. I personally wouldn't play bareback with a partner in a club, but everyone enjoys different things." Never or specifically not in club? If just not in a club, why? | |||
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" I personally wouldn't play bareback with a partner in a club, but everyone enjoys different things. But you would in private? Then why not in a club?" 1. I don't personally like the feeling of come dribbling out of me. 2. I think it's marginally unhygienic to go in pools or sit in social areas - even with a towel under me - with come dripping down my leg. 3. In my experience if someone sees me bareback with a partner, it makes them more likely to hassle me for bareback or even try and decieve me into having bareback with them (slipping the condom off before entry, etc). 4. I think it would be great for clubs to more heavily promote safe sex. All play in clubs, IMO should default to 'safe'. If people want to negotiate non-safe sex play then that should be an additional conversation. At the moment I personally find that quite a few people assume that unsafe sex is ok. | |||
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" I personally wouldn't play bareback with a partner in a club, but everyone enjoys different things. But you would in private? Then why not in a club? 1. I don't personally like the feeling of come dribbling out of me. 2. I think it's marginally unhygienic to go in pools or sit in social areas - even with a towel under me - with come dripping down my leg. 3. In my experience if someone sees me bareback with a partner, it makes them more likely to hassle me for bareback or even try and decieve me into having bareback with them (slipping the condom off before entry, etc). 4. I think it would be great for clubs to more heavily promote safe sex. All play in clubs, IMO should default to 'safe'. If people want to negotiate non-safe sex play then that should be an additional conversation. At the moment I personally find that quite a few people assume that unsafe sex is ok." Oh and... 5. I don't think it's ok to have bareback sex with my partner and then have protected sex with someone else. There's too much risk of my partners come transferring to the other person and that just seems rude. | |||
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" I personally wouldn't play bareback with a partner in a club, but everyone enjoys different things. But you would in private? Then why not in a club? 1. I don't personally like the feeling of come dribbling out of me. 2. I think it's marginally unhygienic to go in pools or sit in social areas - even with a towel under me - with come dripping down my leg. 3. In my experience if someone sees me bareback with a partner, it makes them more likely to hassle me for bareback or even try and decieve me into having bareback with them (slipping the condom off before entry, etc). 4. I think it would be great for clubs to more heavily promote safe sex. All play in clubs, IMO should default to 'safe'. If people want to negotiate non-safe sex play then that should be an additional conversation. At the moment I personally find that quite a few people assume that unsafe sex is ok. Oh and... 5. I don't think it's ok to have bareback sex with my partner and then have protected sex with someone else. There's too much risk of my partners come transferring to the other person and that just seems rude." 2. Do you not shower after sex or before you go into the wet area, or put knickers on when sitting on the communal sofas? Not just for cum leakage but you're own sex juice 3. I have never seen anyone push for unprotected sex after seeing a couple have unprotected sex. 4. The clubs I've attended in the northwest do promote safe sex but I think suggesting that couples/partners/people in some form of relationship need to have safe sex is inappropriate. 5. I've had threesomes where I've not used a condom with a boyfriend but he has used a condom with the female joining us. No one has objected and everyone has been happy with the level of protection. | |||
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" No one has objected and everyone has been happy with the level of protection. " This the crux of everything. I would not be happy doing the things I listed (and yes I shower - but no I don't douche inside my vagina). I would not be happy doing those things, therefore I would not do them. If other people are happy doing them, then they should go ahead and do them - within the rules of the club. | |||
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" I personally wouldn't play bareback with a partner in a club, but everyone enjoys different things. But you would in private? Then why not in a club? 1. I don't personally like the feeling of come dribbling out of me. 2. I think it's marginally unhygienic to go in pools or sit in social areas - even with a towel under me - with come dripping down my leg. 3. In my experience if someone sees me bareback with a partner, it makes them more likely to hassle me for bareback or even try and decieve me into having bareback with them (slipping the condom off before entry, etc). 4. I think it would be great for clubs to more heavily promote safe sex. All play in clubs, IMO should default to 'safe'. If people want to negotiate non-safe sex play then that should be an additional conversation. At the moment I personally find that quite a few people assume that unsafe sex is ok. Oh and... 5. I don't think it's ok to have bareback sex with my partner and then have protected sex with someone else. There's too much risk of my partners come transferring to the other person and that just seems rude. 2. Do you not shower after sex or before you go into the wet area, or put knickers on when sitting on the communal sofas? Not just for cum leakage but you're own sex juice 3. I have never seen anyone push for unprotected sex after seeing a couple have unprotected sex. 4. The clubs I've attended in the northwest do promote safe sex but I think suggesting that couples/partners/people in some form of relationship need to have safe sex is inappropriate. 5. I've had threesomes where I've not used a condom with a boyfriend but he has used a condom with the female joining us. No one has objected and everyone has been happy with the level of protection. " I doubt anyone would expect partners to do safe sex with each other. And can't say I've ever seen it either. Personally I do love the feeling of cum inside me but would wash up if we were playing with others. To be fair normally we leave finishing each other off till just before we leave. I have never had a club push for couples to play safe together x | |||
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"me and him never use condoms with each other - but do with others - and ive never even given it a thought as to what people at a club might think - we do what we want to do " Same for us. | |||
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"me and him never use condoms with each other - but do with others - and ive never even given it a thought as to what people at a club might think - we do what we want to do Same for us." And same here | |||
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"So I've been thinking.... Although I wouldn't dream of unsafe sex with others in a club..... Would it be frowned upon if I played with my partner bareback (he also plays safe with others).... Would it put you off?? What do you guys do?? Advice only please, no lynching!! Ta xx" It wouldn't bother me if I knew he was your long term partner but I wouldn't know so wouldn't. | |||
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"So I've been thinking.... Although I wouldn't dream of unsafe sex with others in a club..... Would it be frowned upon if I played with my partner bareback (he also plays safe with others).... Would it put you off?? What do you guys do?? Advice only please, no lynching!! Ta xx I for one think it's an outrage for anyone to have bareback sex, with anyone, ever. It's compete russian roulette. Even if you wanted to get pregnant with your partner, people on the forums believe you can get pregnant by anal so there's still no excuse. ... Don't be silly, hardly anyone uses condoms with their partner - it's fine! " That is right and that is the difference when its a couple, it is usually ok barebacking lol. | |||
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"If you were in a public room I would say use a condom even if with your partner. Even although unpretected sex is fine between you both not everyone there will know your together and it could put some people off you. Xxxxxx" we only really play public and would it never seems to have put people off us... To be honest in all the years of playing in couples rooms we have rarely seen any couples using condoms. I have been lucky enough to be under a lady just as her partner came all in her and as he pulled out it spilled all over me ... Was amazing experience x Cali | |||
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"me and him never use condoms with each other - but do with others - and ive never even given it a thought as to what people at a club might think - we do what we want to do " Here here same as us, its down to what we want and are happy with so just go for it and enjoy | |||
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"So I've been thinking.... Although I wouldn't dream of unsafe sex with others in a club..... Would it be frowned upon if I played with my partner bareback (he also plays safe with others).... Would it put you off?? What do you guys do?? Advice only please, no lynching!! Ta xx" Of course not, lots of couple do that - many couples play group & use protection with other then go bareback with own partners....X | |||
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"So I've been thinking.... Although I wouldn't dream of unsafe sex with others in a club..... Would it be frowned upon if I played with my partner bareback (he also plays safe with others).... Would it put you off?? What do you guys do?? Advice only please, no lynching!! Ta xx" I can imagine a lot of guys wouldnt want to slop about in your partners cum | |||
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"So I've been thinking.... Although I wouldn't dream of unsafe sex with others in a club..... Would it be frowned upon if I played with my partner bareback (he also plays safe with others).... Would it put you off?? What do you guys do?? Advice only please, no lynching!! Ta xx I can imagine a lot of guys wouldnt want to slop about in your partners cum " You do make a fair point. For us Melv usually only cums at the end of the evening so it isn't an issue | |||
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"So I've been thinking.... Although I wouldn't dream of unsafe sex with others in a club..... Would it be frowned upon if I played with my partner bareback (he also plays safe with others).... Would it put you off?? What do you guys do?? Advice only please, no lynching!! Ta xx I can imagine a lot of guys wouldnt want to slop about in your partners cum " Yep, put me in that group. I don't like following anyone, hence my dislike of gangbangs or any other group activity. | |||
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"So I've been thinking.... Although I wouldn't dream of unsafe sex with others in a club..... Would it be frowned upon if I played with my partner bareback (he also plays safe with others).... Would it put you off?? What do you guys do?? Advice only please, no lynching!! Ta xx I can imagine a lot of guys wouldnt want to slop about in your partners cum Yep, put me in that group. I don't like following anyone, hence my dislike of gangbangs or any other group activity." Welcome to fab SWINGERS | |||
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"So I've been thinking.... Although I wouldn't dream of unsafe sex with others in a club..... Would it be frowned upon if I played with my partner bareback (he also plays safe with others).... Would it put you off?? What do you guys do?? Advice only please, no lynching!! Ta xx I can imagine a lot of guys wouldnt want to slop about in your partners cum Yep, put me in that group. I don't like following anyone, hence my dislike of gangbangs or any other group activity. Welcome to fab SWINGERS " I have consistently confirmed I am not a swinger but I am confident that those that consider they are don't all indulge in gangbangs, bukkake etc. | |||
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"If you were in a public room I would say use a condom even if with your partner. Even although unpretected sex is fine between you both not everyone there will know your together and it could put some people off you. Xxxxxx" That's why you talk to people lol. | |||
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"... Would it be frowned upon if I played with my partner bareback (he also plays safe with others)...." It's known as "partner privilege", isn't it? Everyone else has a good time and clears-off. Whereas the partner deals with it 24/7. You respect the partner. In swinging meets the announcement is often made along the lines of "condoms every time - except Adam and Eve who are partners". Not heard of a swinging venue which didn't have "partner privilege". Cheerful stuff - when I {male} follow-up finishing off the play and make some huge effort, the "players" are usually there gathered around saying things like "yeah, go for it mate" and "give it to her - she needs it from you", and patting you on the back saying "that was brilliant mate" when you {male} have just sprayed your load off into female. Comment about spunk/fluid - I've often commented as someone is about to condom-up "Are you sure you want to do that? I've just spunked-up in there" and they've said something like "Yeah that's fine with me". Definitely though you should avoid indiscriminately mixing and spreading fluids. Eg. if you wank a woman, you should wash hands before putting your fingers in the next woman. etc. | |||
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"So I've been thinking.... Although I wouldn't dream of unsafe sex with others in a club..... Would it be frowned upon if I played with my partner bareback (he also plays safe with others).... Would it put you off?? What do you guys do?? Advice only please, no lynching!! Ta xx" it all depend how far you go with you partner, I for one would not like to preform oral with a fanny full of another guys cum. The other point that someone else touched on is is cum floating around the hot tub, very nice. | |||
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"Would it be frowned upon if I played with my partner" What, you mean actually have sex with the person you arrived with? Seen some kinky stuff on this website, but that is extremely! Honest answer, nobody will mind, but if L is hoping for oral with another woman (always) after, we use a condom. | |||
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" 3. In my experience if someone sees me bareback with a partner, it makes them more likely to hassle me for bareback or even try and decieve me into having bareback with them (slipping the condom off before entry, etc)." If anyone tries to ever force someone into bareback by slipping off the condom before penetration they should be kicked the hell out of that club and banned. | |||
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" 3. In my experience if someone sees me bareback with a partner, it makes them more likely to hassle me for bareback or even try and decieve me into having bareback with them (slipping the condom off before entry, etc). If anyone tries to ever force someone into bareback by slipping off the condom before penetration they should be kicked the hell out of that club and banned. " Agreed. And by kicked I do mean "kicked"!! | |||
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" 3. In my experience if someone sees me bareback with a partner, it makes them more likely to hassle me for bareback or even try and decieve me into having bareback with them (slipping the condom off before entry, etc). If anyone tries to ever force someone into bareback by slipping off the condom before penetration they should be kicked the hell out of that club and banned. Agreed. And by kicked I do mean "kicked"!!" Would you liked them to be kicked anywhere specific? | |||
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" 3. In my experience if someone sees me bareback with a partner, it makes them more likely to hassle me for bareback or even try and decieve me into having bareback with them (slipping the condom off before entry, etc). If anyone tries to ever force someone into bareback by slipping off the condom before penetration they should be kicked the hell out of that club and banned. " . Do what I did... Grabbed him by his balls and dragged him down to the staff where they then threw him out. I do not think people seeing you have bare sex with your partner will assume bare is ok. | |||
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" 3. In my experience if someone sees me bareback with a partner, it makes them more likely to hassle me for bareback or even try and decieve me into having bareback with them (slipping the condom off before entry, etc). If anyone tries to ever force someone into bareback by slipping off the condom before penetration they should be kicked the hell out of that club and banned. Agreed. And by kicked I do mean "kicked"!! Would you liked them to be kicked anywhere specific? " Mmm. I have one idea for that kind of behaviour. | |||
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"We couldn't care less what people think. we have had unprotected before.people don't like it fuck off somewhere else." | |||
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"We couldn't care less what people think. we have had unprotected before.people don't like it fuck off somewhere else." Bareback with others that is also. Same opinion applies. | |||
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"We couldn't care less what people think. we have had unprotected before.people don't like it fuck off somewhere else. Bareback with others that is also. Same opinion applies. " So have we. | |||
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"We couldn't care less what people think. we have had unprotected before.people don't like it fuck off somewhere else. Bareback with others that is also. Same opinion applies. So have we. " It's all up to the person. if people are so risk averse to sti's. Don't swing. It contradicts their trust in condoms. if they use them to protect themselves they should trust that they work as a barrier.if they don't trust them .don't swing. Every single person on here would have had unprotected sex . Only some are bold enough to admit it. | |||
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" 3. In my experience if someone sees me bareback with a partner, it makes them more likely to hassle me for bareback or even try and decieve me into having bareback with them (slipping the condom off before entry, etc). If anyone tries to ever force someone into bareback by slipping off the condom before penetration they should be kicked the hell out of that club and banned. Agreed. And by kicked I do mean "kicked"!! Would you liked them to be kicked anywhere specific? Mmm. I have one idea for that kind of behaviour. " The correct amount of extreme I hope. We want him to learn from the ass kicking experience not die from it lol | |||
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" 3. In my experience if someone sees me bareback with a partner, it makes them more likely to hassle me for bareback or even try and decieve me into having bareback with them (slipping the condom off before entry, etc). If anyone tries to ever force someone into bareback by slipping off the condom before penetration they should be kicked the hell out of that club and banned. . Do what I did... Grabbed him by his balls and dragged him down to the staff where they then threw him out. I do not think people seeing you have bare sex with your partner will assume bare is ok. " Lool seems appropriate... Wouldn't want to get on your bad side. | |||
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" I personally wouldn't play bareback with a partner in a club, but everyone enjoys different things. But you would in private? Then why not in a club? 1. I don't personally like the feeling of come dribbling out of me. 2. I think it's marginally unhygienic to go in pools or sit in social areas - even with a towel under me - with come dripping down my leg. 3. In my experience if someone sees me bareback with a partner, it makes them more likely to hassle me for bareback or even try and decieve me into having bareback with them (slipping the condom off before entry, etc). 4. I think it would be great for clubs to more heavily promote safe sex. All play in clubs, IMO should default to 'safe'. If people want to negotiate non-safe sex play then that should be an additional conversation. At the moment I personally find that quite a few people assume that unsafe sex is ok." Sex with my wife is safe. If anyone tried the underhand method of fucking nikki by deciept. I would without doubt let him chat with my fist. He would never report it to the police so might give him a full on conversation with both hands. | |||
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" I personally wouldn't play bareback with a partner in a club, but everyone enjoys different things. But you would in private? Then why not in a club? 1. I don't personally like the feeling of come dribbling out of me. 2. I think it's marginally unhygienic to go in pools or sit in social areas - even with a towel under me - with come dripping down my leg. 3. In my experience if someone sees me bareback with a partner, it makes them more likely to hassle me for bareback or even try and decieve me into having bareback with them (slipping the condom off before entry, etc). 4. I think it would be great for clubs to more heavily promote safe sex. All play in clubs, IMO should default to 'safe'. If people want to negotiate non-safe sex play then that should be an additional conversation. At the moment I personally find that quite a few people assume that unsafe sex is ok. Sex with my wife is safe. If anyone tried the underhand method of fucking nikki by deciept. I would without doubt let him chat with my fist. He would never report it to the police so might give him a full on conversation with both hands." What you could do is if he tried to enter her without permission, you enter him without permission haha | |||
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" I personally wouldn't play bareback with a partner in a club, but everyone enjoys different things. But you would in private? Then why not in a club? 1. I don't personally like the feeling of come dribbling out of me. 2. I think it's marginally unhygienic to go in pools or sit in social areas - even with a towel under me - with come dripping down my leg. 3. In my experience if someone sees me bareback with a partner, it makes them more likely to hassle me for bareback or even try and decieve me into having bareback with them (slipping the condom off before entry, etc). 4. I think it would be great for clubs to more heavily promote safe sex. All play in clubs, IMO should default to 'safe'. If people want to negotiate non-safe sex play then that should be an additional conversation. At the moment I personally find that quite a few people assume that unsafe sex is ok. Sex with my wife is safe. If anyone tried the underhand method of fucking nikki by deciept. I would without doubt let him chat with my fist. He would never report it to the police so might give him a full on conversation with both hands." Violence is such a desirable trait in a friend or partner... | |||
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"if someone did that,violence is the only answer in my eyes. 98% of men would act the same, the other 2 % would go and eat some more lentils" | |||
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