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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

... or do you just filter through your messages and pick out guys that you're interested in?

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

I mainly use the search facility hun. I block all men x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some must search....the ones that send first messages to guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes we do. Normally send a wink then.

Laura x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use the search function to see what goodies are around that I haven't seen before

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The latter. I'm too lazy to scroll through pages of men within 20 miles of me. There's millions.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the replies... I'm not going to be messaging anymore as I just feel like a creep ha I know my chances will be slimmer but good to know that people are looking about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We use said facility

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I use the search facility to see whats around and did yesterday but didn't find anyone new to spark me into meeting. May have to widen my search a bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We use it often.

For us, it has to be a nicely written profile that catches our eye more than anything.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We use it often.

For us, it has to be a nicely written profile that catches our eye more than anything. "

That's what I'm hoping with my profile... I think the type of people I am hoping to attract will appreciate my profile... at some point! ha I'm an average looking guy in all honesty but I am genuine and well educated guy - and I do keep myself in good shape- so fingers crossed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile reads really well op so I can't understand that you'd have a problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't seek people out, have enough guys hotlisted for now

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By *ngeluk69Woman
over a year ago

Near enough


"Your profile reads really well op so I can't understand that you'd have a problem "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your profile reads really well op so I can't understand that you'd have a problem

"

Thanks both much appreciated!

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By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

I don't use this either as there's so many other avenues to find people including the forums

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't use this either as there's so many other avenues to find people including the forums "

I try and get involved as much as possible... also frequent the chat rooms from time to time

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I tend not to search.

I find the forums and our socials have plenty to offer too.

Just like this thread has brought the OP into my line of sight

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We don't seek people out, have enough guys hotlisted for now "

Yeah, I guess if you have some decent people already - 'if it ain't broke' as they say...

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

OP you have my permission to message me any time

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I tend not to search.

I find the forums and our socials have plenty to offer too.

Just like this thread has brought the OP into my line of sight "

you're making me blush ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually only pick interesting ones from mails x

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Just like this thread has brought the OP into my line of sight

you're making me blush ha"

If I see a nice guy I say so

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By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester


"I don't use this either as there's so many other avenues to find people including the forums

I try and get involved as much as possible... also frequent the chat rooms from time to time "

I'll look out for you if I pop in

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I usually only pick interesting ones from mails x"

I guessed that's what most women/couples do... no real need to go searching. I find it really difficult to write a first message without being boring or creepy...I was expecting a lot when I first joined but my expectations have been re-aligned ha just going to sit back and see what happens now, just it as a sexual Facebook!

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

N blocks all and sends winks out using either search function or who's viewed the profile.

B

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"N blocks all and sends winks out using either search function or who's viewed the profile.

B"

I was also wondering why more people don't just block all single guys and take this approach. Slight ego boost element you think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the replies... I'm not going to be messaging anymore as I just feel like a creep ha I know my chances will be slimmer but good to know that people are looking about "

This is pretty much how I use fab.

I also started posting on the forums just to give insight as to my personality and sense of humour - this hasn't worked out so well....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do

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By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester


"N blocks all and sends winks out using either search function or who's viewed the profile.

B

I was also wondering why more people don't just block all single guys and take this approach. Slight ego boost element you think?"

I don't think ego boost just a way of people coming to your attention. Some just prefer to be more proactive than reactive

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"N blocks all and sends winks out using either search function or who's viewed the profile.

B

I was also wondering why more people don't just block all single guys and take this approach. Slight ego boost element you think?

Yeah, maybe that's me being a bit cynical ha

I don't think ego boost just a way of people coming to your attention. Some just prefer to be more proactive than reactive"

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I will use the search but often don't find anything nearby that peaks my interest.......

So I tend to use forums and clubs for my fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanks for the replies... I'm not going to be messaging anymore as I just feel like a creep ha I know my chances will be slimmer but good to know that people are looking about

This is pretty much how I use fab.

I also started posting on the forums just to give insight as to my personality and sense of humour - this hasn't worked out so well...."

It's a tough gig... just have to think that you haven't lost anything by being on here. It comes down to looks at the end of the day i think. I'm a pretty average looking guy and there are plenty of good looking men to choose from so I'm pretty far down the pecking order.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do as we are running out of locals we like and haven't already met

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

I now tend to get messaged more often than sending initial messages, but when I first started four years ago, I sent far more messages which were speculative but customised.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the replies... I'm not going to be messaging anymore as I just feel like a creep ha I know my chances will be slimmer but good to know that people are looking about

This is pretty much how I use fab.

I also started posting on the forums just to give insight as to my personality and sense of humour - this hasn't worked out so well....

It's a tough gig... just have to think that you haven't lost anything by being on here. It comes down to looks at the end of the day i think. I'm a pretty average looking guy and there are plenty of good looking men to choose from so I'm pretty far down the pecking order. "

Its cold and dark down here

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"N blocks all and sends winks out using either search function or who's viewed the profile.

B

I was also wondering why more people don't just block all single guys and take this approach. Slight ego boost element you think?"

In what sense? I only meet single guys. I like single guys. Why should I block them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the replies... I'm not going to be messaging anymore as I just feel like a creep ha I know my chances will be slimmer but good to know that people are looking about

This is pretty much how I use fab.

I also started posting on the forums just to give insight as to my personality and sense of humour - this hasn't worked out so well....

It's a tough gig... just have to think that you haven't lost anything by being on here. It comes down to looks at the end of the day i think. I'm a pretty average looking guy and there are plenty of good looking men to choose from so I'm pretty far down the pecking order. "

I think you look great however, I'm too old for you, too far away and have no idea what type of woman you're looking for so would never attempt to message you

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"It comes down to looks at the end of the day i think."

For a few people it does but for most it comes down to personality.

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

We search occasionally but most of our meets are from messages or winks that we've responded to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"... or do you just filter through your messages and pick out guys that you're interested in?"

Both! Rarely have time to search though!

I find it useful looking through male hot photos occasionally and messaging the guys local to me who interest me! Saves me looking through countless profiles who have no pics at all or just cock pics!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"N blocks all and sends winks out using either search function or who's viewed the profile.

B

I was also wondering why more people don't just block all single guys and take this approach. Slight ego boost element you think?

In what sense? I only meet single guys. I like single guys. Why should I block them?"

The people who complain about having 100s of messages... you can just block single guys and just use the search function or the 'who has looked you' to find people you're interested in. I think some people like receiving all the messages because it makes them feel wanted. Just a hunch... could be wrong!

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"The people who complain about having 100s of messages... you can just block single guys and just use the search function or the 'who has looked you' to find people you're interested in. I think some people like receiving all the messages because it makes them feel wanted. Just a hunch... could be wrong!"

I know what you meant but I do not have my inbox open because I need to feel wanted.

Equally I don't complain about getting messages.

Everyone uses this site as they like and assuming things about a whole sex is often dangerous on here

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By *irty Girty From No 30Woman
over a year ago

Burbage

I always search, why would I not, that would mean i'm only settling on the best that messages, not seeking the ones I think are best to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It comes down to looks at the end of the day i think.

For a few people it does but for most it comes down to personality."

On a swinging site? You have that the wrong way round

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By *irty Girty From No 30Woman
over a year ago

Burbage


"Thanks for the replies... I'm not going to be messaging anymore as I just feel like a creep ha I know my chances will be slimmer but good to know that people are looking about "

so youre going to settle with the best of the bunch that messages you instead of looking for what you feel is best

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanks for the replies... I'm not going to be messaging anymore as I just feel like a creep ha I know my chances will be slimmer but good to know that people are looking about

so youre going to settle with the best of the bunch that messages you instead of looking for what you feel is best"

I won't settle, i will only meet people I'm attracted to (and intelligence is part of that attraction for me). I will continue to nosey about and see what happens. If nothing does, there is nothing lost. fab is fun either way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I usually only pick interesting ones from mails x

I guessed that's what most women/couples do... no real need to go searching. I find it really difficult to write a first message without being boring or creepy...I was expecting a lot when I first joined but my expectations have been re-aligned ha just going to sit back and see what happens now, just it as a sexual Facebook! "
we don't expect much but more than just a hi lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do both, search and look through our mail.

-Courtney

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"It comes down to looks at the end of the day i think.

For a few people it does but for most it comes down to personality.

On a swinging site? You have that the wrong way round"

Ok, if you say so.

Stop lying in other threads people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often wonder this too!

The only people who seem to approach me are clearly fake!

I'm not sure what I'm doing wrong!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes we use the search function - its there to be used

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By *orders2forUCouple
over a year ago

Hawick


"yes we use the search function - its there to be used "

And so do we as we get very few approaches. *shrug* It is there to be used and as we appreciate a good tool... not punning.. we use it.

and yes we admire the above poster.

L2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"... or do you just filter through your messages and pick out guys that you're interested in?"

We search. Do wish the search facility is a bit more flexible and it does seem times throw up profiles outside the parameters set.

It non verified members show up when we've said only show profiles verified by meet(s).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yes we use the search function - its there to be used

And so do we as we get very few approaches. *shrug* It is there to be used and as we appreciate a good tool... not punning.. we use it.

and yes we admire the above poster.

L2"

do you know how much youve made me blush tonight - made my day xx

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By *ing and RideCouple
over a year ago

stockport

Search to browse, yes.

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By *ophie SteveCouple
over a year ago

Camborne

When we're staying away from home we use the 'See who's near' facility to seek out single guys who might be up for paying us a spontaneous visit. Not been disappointed so far!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have never searched or sent anyone a message...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I often wonder this too!

The only people who seem to approach me are clearly fake!

I'm not sure what I'm doing wrong!"

I would of messaged you first if you lived closer... I don't travel more than 30 miles.. So I very rarely nessage anyone first outside of that

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