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By *pecial bb OP   Couple
over a year ago

london

Right peeps. I am very very highly sexed. Love everything and anything except animals and poo and will try most things once ( how do you know you dont like it if you dont try???)

So heres the question. My man says i am bi, i say i am not. When we are playing I am very open to a womans touch but am not turned on by the lady doing it or the thought of a lady doing it and wouldnt play with just a lady. If it feels good i dont care who is licking my pussy, sucking my tits. Saying that it turns me on that my man is turned on by me playing with a lady. Thoughts please sexy people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must admit I am also open to a womans touch but not turned on by women in the same way as I am by men. Women don't turn me on but they don't turn me off either. I guess I'm indifferent rather than bi! lol

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By *pecial bb OP   Couple
over a year ago

london

but do you play with women in couples play?? I do and like i say its just that what they do is good. If a woman doesnt understand another womans body wtf!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are perfectly normal I feel the same way love playing with girls but still need a guy at the end of the day. And much prefer going down on a woman than the other way round. Why do you need a label just be who you are. I think girls are much more comfortable with each other touchy, feely can comment on each other and thats fine but when guys do it they are called gay I hate that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've only played with a couple once or twice and although I enjoyed it at the time I wasn't in a rush to do it again. I guess I just prefer men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, your open minded. You don't get turned on by another womans touch. That suggests that you wouldn't enjoy, let alone even have, a one on one with a woman. Maybe you would, but i don't think you'd love it. You just seem open minded and comfortable enough as a couple to go out and enjoy whatever comes your way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont consider myself bi but as i have played with quite a few ladies now i may have to change that classification of myself!I have only had sexual relationships or emotional relationships with women, not both at the same time as i have with men, which makes me not bi ( i think!) perhaps omnisexual is a better term!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think thats pretty spot on actually

Am not turned off by women at all - in fact I probably admire other women as often as hubby,but I think you're right that I am happy to enjoy whatever comes my way. And long may it continue.lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i describe myself as straight although i have played with women but i dont find myself lusting after women as i do with men, just go with the flow if it feels nice, im also not attracted to women in the same way as i am to men maybe i need to think of a new "label" lol not bi but happy to try!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well blow me down with a feather! I genuinly thought that women who played with other women felt like me!

So it looks like i'm alone here so far. I agree from what you say, you are not bi. I on the otherhand must be raving bi! Whilst I would never feel I wanted a relationship with another women, I totally lust after other women. Either Bi, curious or happy to try, please walk this way....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well blow me down with a feather! I genuinly thought that women who played with other women felt like me!

So it looks like i'm alone here so far. I agree from what you say, you are not bi. I on the otherhand must be raving bi! Whilst I would never feel I wanted a relationship with another women, I totally lust after other women. Either Bi, curious or happy to try, please walk this way...."

LOL! I'm with u, i havent ever been in a relationship with a girl, did go on a date with one once though, but do find myself fancying girls in clubs or perving when shopping

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you are what i say i am myself..... HETRO-FLEXIBLE, i mention it on my profile but not many people seem to take notice but atleast then i can see who has even took the time to read my profile

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By *na_Luv_4PlayCouple
over a year ago

Santa lucia de Tirajana


"Well blow me down with a feather! I genuinly thought that women who played with other women felt like me!

So it looks like i'm alone here so far. I agree from what you say, you are not bi. I on the otherhand must be raving bi! Whilst I would never feel I wanted a relationship with another women, I totally lust after other women. Either Bi, curious or happy to try, please walk this way...."
Your not alone I lust after both men and women and describe myself as bi-fem not just curious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm bi because i am turned on by both men and women, i think you just get caught up in the moment, nothing more

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By *agman n angelCouple
over a year ago

benidorm

personal opinion. male here very straight and wouldnt touch or be touched by any other guy.

my belief is if you will or want to be, you are bi or have bi tendencies

each to his own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

women dont turn me on either, while i can look at a woman and know shes good looking i dont fancy women, i dont care for female play so far as i dont look for it, i wouldnt play one on one with a woman or even do a FFM as thats to much female contact for me, however in a group situation i will just touch and play with any sex if im turned on, like a few of you have said women dont turn me on but they dont turn me off either, to me its just sex and im not fussed which sex it is if im in the zone lol

I suppose if your going to be technical if you play with people of the same sex you are bi, but id say im just greedy when turned on lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just go with the flow then no pressure and all can enjoy men and woman

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By *uicyhunnibunniWoman
over a year ago

paignton


"Well blow me down with a feather! I genuinly thought that women who played with other women felt like me!

So it looks like i'm alone here so far. I agree from what you say, you are not bi. I on the otherhand must be raving bi! Whilst I would never feel I wanted a relationship with another women, I totally lust after other women. Either Bi, curious or happy to try, please walk this way...."

yes i agree with you and 'darlingtoncouple' i also get very turned on by being with women and do lust after them as much as men and was in a relationship with a woman who i called my girlfriend and who lived with me for a while and partners for 2 years, should say lived with us as i was married too i would call myself bi but also maybe 'greedy!!!' lol!!!!! why not enjoy both if its what you like!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexuality isn’t black and white, it’s more of a spectrum … 100% straight at one end, 100% gay at the other and most people are closer to one end or the other.

A completely bisexual person who sits right in the exact middle of that spectrum with a totally equal preference is incredibly rare!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think most people here are more open to exploring their sexuality.if it feels good,its good.if it doesnt feel good, STOP, and explain its not something you like or want to continue.elaine doesnt label herself bi,she cant still say she is bi curious either.too much water under the bridge for that. she like a bit of girl girl fun,and thats more than fine with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"personal opinion. male here very straight and wouldnt touch or be touched by any other guy.

my belief is if you will or want to be, you are bi or have bi tendencies

each to his own"

Think you and I are in the minority mate, not remotely interested/curious either physically, mentally or sexually in members of the same sex!

It would fill me with horror to be so out of control and "in the zone" that I wouldn't be fussed who touched me and take on all comers.

As always, each to their own!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It would fill me with horror to be so out of control and "in the zone" that I wouldn't be fussed who touched me and take on all comers."

To each their own, exactly as you say! Equally, nobody here’s going to think you’re homophobic just because it ain’t for you.

Even being straight as straight can be though, any man who swings ends up in a room with another naked and horny bloke at some point. You might not be touching him at all, but by not running away screaming you’re already a step more open minded than some guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are there not many OP's hiding behind a "Straight" profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It would fill me with horror to be so out of control and "in the zone" that I wouldn't be fussed who touched me and take on all comers.

To each their own, exactly as you say! Equally, nobody here’s going to think you’re homophobic just because it ain’t for you.

Even being straight as straight can be though, any man who swings ends up in a room with another naked and horny bloke at some point. You might not be touching him at all, but by not running away screaming you’re already a step more open minded than some guys."

As I'm a woman I'd have no problem being in a room of naked horny blokes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i would say 'bi-playful' for you. Kinda like the touch but would go looking for the woman. Does that seem to fit you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i would say 'bi-playful' for you. Kinda like the touch but would go looking for the woman. Does that seem to fit you?"

bi-playful...i like that ,might steal it, x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its been on my profile for ages... love the touch, wouldn't date a woman, prefer blokes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"its been on my profile for ages... love the touch, wouldn't date a woman, prefer blokes."

and what a sexy profile it is too.yummy pics.x

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By *uby In StockingsTV/TS
over a year ago

Cheadle

maybe you're androgynous like me sweetie???, hugz, Ruby, xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"its been on my profile for ages... love the touch, wouldn't date a woman, prefer blokes.

and what a sexy profile it is too.yummy pics.x"

why thank you xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and your profile aint so shabby either! mwah! xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"and your profile aint so shabby either! mwah! xxx"

double mwah back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An open mind and an open sexuality are two different things, you don’t have to be willing to play with someone of the same sex to be open minded

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

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By *askinMan
over a year ago

East Lincs

The way i look at it is; if you fancy your own sex you are gay

and if you fancy both sexes you are bi.

If you only fancy the opposite sex you are straight,even if you get horny over the oppsite sex with someone of your own sex.and maybe relieve each other.. you are still str8 cos you arent actually turned on by the person of your own sex

If you understand what im trying to say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"An open mind and an open sexuality are two different things, you don’t have to be willing to play with someone of the same sex to be open minded "

Agreed: don't understand how people get the two things confused!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The way i look at it is; if you fancy your own sex you are gay

and if you fancy both sexes you are bi.

If you only fancy the opposite sex you are straight,even if you get horny over the oppsite sex with someone of your own sex.and maybe relieve each other.. you are still str8 cos you arent actually turned on by the person of your own sex

If you understand what im trying to say"

Sorry, you've lost me.

I get same sex = gay, both sexes = bi, and opposite sex = straight. But jerking off another bloke, licking another woman's pussy whilst looking at pictures of the opposite sex = straight?!!

So what am I - horny looking at pictures of naked men, whilst being licked by a bloke in my lingerie? A lesbian?!!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

simple way to figure if a guy is gay, bi or str8 ...

pop Gloria Gaynor on..

if he is on the dance floor before the female.. GAY

if he is on the dance floor at the same time as the female... Bi

if he stays sitting supping his pint.. Str8!!!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"simple way to figure if a guy is gay, bi or str8 ...

pop Gloria Gaynor on..

if he is on the dance floor before the female.. GAY

if he is on the dance floor at the same time as the female... Bi

if he stays sitting supping his pint.. Str8!!!!!!!! "

Does that also apply to Village People?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"simple way to figure if a guy is gay, bi or str8 ...

pop Gloria Gaynor on..

if he is on the dance floor before the female.. GAY

if he is on the dance floor at the same time as the female... Bi

if he stays sitting supping his pint.. Str8!!!!!!!!

Does that also apply to Village People? "

yup........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Open minded like to try new things even if its with the same sex. Mmmmmm x

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By *ornyHorwichCpl aka HHCCouple
over a year ago

horwich

Hetro-flexible. We love that. Who needs labels but thats all encompassing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hetro-flexible. We love that. Who needs labels but thats all encompassing "

I'm more bifocal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i say openminded ...........i like to play with men more then i do woman to be honest but can say have been there done it all .....def not in to scat or watersports but out else goes .

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By *l_and_geeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Have followed this string with great interest and think there have been so many valuable contributions.

Just wanting to twist a bit from a male perspective.

We have often wondered about the number of bi women on this site and came to the conclusion that there are a number of so called bi women as part of a couple who really aren't bi but happy to play for the sake of satisfying criteria for a meet or to satisfy partners fantasies.

Now I know that's a bit strong, before you hang me out to dry, but have often spoken to women who have bi on their profile who will 'play along' but not necessarily seeking sex with another.

Gee and I are both straight men, we do not actively seek out men nor do we get turned on by men, BUT we have been known to have a bit of hand and sucking fun, purely and simply as a show for some of the women we have met who have specificaly asked us to as it turns them on so.

Since we are comfortable in the company of men and know each other well we don't have any qualms in doing so.

I think that this may well be the case in many of the 'bi woman' scenarios.

Whichever way you hang and whatever label anyone wants to give themselves is fine by me, just as long as everybody knows the score and no-one is being misled.

Al xx

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham


"Gee and I are both straight men, we do not actively seek out men nor do we get turned on by men, BUT we have been known to have a bit of hand and sucking fun, purely and simply as a show for some of the women we have met who have specificaly asked us to as it turns them on so"

No offence, but I don’t accept your analogy of why you suck cock, there has to be a bi sexual inclination for a guy to gone down on another guy

Guys who claim to be 110% straight would run a mile at the mere thought of having to touch another guy’s cock, let alone have one shoved in his mouth

You can dress it up / disguise it as much as you let, but I for one, don’t accept your 100% straight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gee and I are both straight men, we do not actively seek out men nor do we get turned on by men, BUT we have been known to have a bit of hand and sucking fun, purely and simply as a show for some of the women we have met who have specificaly asked us to as it turns them on so

No offence, but I don’t accept your analogy of why you suck cock, there has to be a bi sexual inclination for a guy to gone down on another guy

Guys who claim to be 110% straight would run a mile at the mere thought of having to touch another guy’s cock, let alone have one shoved in his mouth

You can dress it up / disguise it as much as you let, but I for one, don’t accept your 100% straight "

I could kiss you two! Mwah!!!

Thank you...thank you...thank you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rather than making more labels up such as bi playful, bi friendly etc, why don’t we just have one more “Really Straight” as there far too many people who don’t know what being straight means

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rather than making more labels up such as bi playful, bi friendly etc, why don’t we just have one more “Really Straight” as there far too many people who don’t know what being straight means "

Maybe even a "Really Straight and not in the least bit curious"

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Rather than making more labels up such as bi playful, bi friendly etc, why don’t we just have one more “Really Straight” as there far too many people who don’t know what being straight means "

agree......... and I think I will be really straight too.

seems more exclusive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hetro-flexible. We love that. Who needs labels but thats all encompassing "

hetro-flexible love it

will file that away with bi-playful as my new faveourite words and phrases.x

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