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Female Dommes - what got you into it ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Recently I've started exploring being more dominant to one particular man. It's not something I've ever tried before, but I've felt comfortable enough with him to test it out. I'm a compete newbie so interested in what got other ladies into that scene ? Also, where I could find more ideas of things to try out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I watched BDSM porn on the internet. I thought 'I want some of that'. So I got some of that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got me into it. It's always been in me but my husband wasn't a willing partner. Once I was single and came across the men who were I started to partake.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I was into latex first and got into BDSM through the fetish side.

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

I've always wanted to b dominated bye a lady . It's very hard finding one though

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

It's a fantasy of mine n get really turned on at d thought of being dominated bye a dominant lady . I'm afraid this type of scenario is all based on trust between each partner cos each has limits n they should b respected .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This has to be the single most asked question we receive; are you dominant?

It is not something we set out to do but because there seems to be a shortage of dominant people, we are starting to embrace and explore it. So to answer the OP, swinging got us into it. We're only just scratching the surface and realise this isn't something you just jump into.

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

It's not u have to know exactly what u are doing . Like I could not dominate a lady . Most certainly u would have to b trained to do it . U can't just whip a lady , u have to know where n how to whip . I know it's all about pain n pleasure but it still has to b done properly .

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By *oBoysAllowedWoman
over a year ago

Solihull

My husband is sub and he made aware of this when we got together, he bought me a latex pencil skirt the first weekend after we'd gone on a first date and we then went to our first fetish club together the week after that.

A bit whirlwind

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By *mba sweetWoman
over a year ago

suffolk.

Ive always been dominant (alpha) and until I got into the scene used to think I wasn't normal as I was having urges to slap and strangle partners during sex. Luckily I got into the scene early.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My husband is sub and he made aware of this when we got together, he bought me a latex pencil skirt the first weekend after we'd gone on a first date and we then went to our first fetish club together the week after that.

A bit whirlwind "

I have lots of latex think a fetish club will be on my list for this year too.

Thanks everyone for your replies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me,dominating someone is not about pain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me,dominating someone is not about pain."

This exactly.

Most of the people who have talked to us about being dominated do not want any aspect of pain involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm naturally bossy, and a bit of a control freak/very confident sexually (gotta make sure i enjoy the sex).

Add to that i'm a bit of a sadist now and it isn't too hard to get into.

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

For me it was feeling empowered enough by the right person. It just happened naturally one day and I loved it. I'm not really a hard core domme though it's much more about control, teasing and getting reactions that do it for me.

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

As someone else has mentioned it's not about pain. I've never inflicted pain on any one. Nor have I humiliated or called them names etc. I've no intention to either. For me it's much more about seduction and exploring the senses. Taking them on a journey. Seeing them lost in my touch. Driving them wild because I've turned on their mind so much. I'm very giving so I guess that's partly where it comes from

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By *mmabluTV/TS
over a year ago

upton wirral

I knew in my teens I was sub to women and stayed that way till my mid fifties.

The book is not yet written but soon

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By *ikeC2012Man
over a year ago

Peterborough


"My husband is sub and he made aware of this when we got together, he bought me a latex pencil skirt the first weekend after we'd gone on a first date and we then went to our first fetish club together the week after that.

A bit whirlwind "

Wow, good for you both

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By *mba sweetWoman
over a year ago

suffolk.

Every one is different. I just happen to be a Domme who is sadistic.

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

I luv to meet a dominant lady . It's been a fantasy of mine , I get so turned on bye d thought of a lady controlling me , n me serving her .

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

IDE luv to meet a lady like wildstyle a sensual domm to bring me on a journey .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a female sub and I love pain ive been this way all my life (getting my self in to trouble at 8 so I could be bent over my mothers knee and spanked earliest recollection ) but its hard to find a true male dom (top) that's not a thug

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

Ur dead right , to b a domm u have to know how to do it right n aftercare is as much a responsibilliy as giving pain . Trust is a big thing in this n u don't need a bully domm it has to b done right to make d lady cum .

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"I've always wanted to b dominated bye a lady . It's very hard finding one though "

There are plenty out there you know, you just have to be willing to pay or create a relationship with one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've always wanted to b dominated bye a lady . It's very hard finding one though

There are plenty out there you know, you just have to be willing to pay or create a relationship with one. "

Or chat the right one up.

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By *istressZoeTV/TS
over a year ago

cheshire

I found this a really interesting thread with opinions from a variety of sides x

In my early days of dressing I was sub to a TV mistress x as I become more confident in my dressing I discovered the joys of leather and PVC X then I started meeting other TVs and taking control x

I attended a few clubs x played with some couples and I've always believed that enjoying the joys of submission meant that in my Dom persona I was in tune with desires of a sub x

My domination has never been about causing pain x although punishment and humiliation are central themes x

As I've evolved my Dom persona now includes my alter ego Master A who enjoys playing with submissive females or couples where one of them is sub x

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"I've always wanted to b dominated bye a lady . It's very hard finding one though

There are plenty out there you know, you just have to be willing to pay or create a relationship with one.

Or chat the right one up."

I offer private sessional play but everybody wants it for free.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it was natural to me, Ive always been a sub in real life. So control in the bed room is my place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I instructed my wife to do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being a naturally dominant/confident woman got me into it.

Ive enjoyed it on and off for years. Im not into the whole latex outfit scenarios.

For me its more of a mental challenge. Most are'nt true submissives though.

Each to thier own, and enjoyyyy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love the idea of a Dominant lady - I'm in a position of management at work but want to submit at other times

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"I've always wanted to b dominated bye a lady . It's very hard finding one though

There are plenty out there you know, you just have to be willing to pay or create a relationship with one.

Or chat the right one up.

I offer private sessional play but everybody wants it for free."

Unless I'm at an event or club

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