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Tips on moving things along

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sooo we have had one meet with an experienced couple and loved it, but we have one soon and we are still new

What are the best tips to move it along at a respectful pace

E. G if spark is there but people are just nervous

Any advice or tips would be most welcome

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Where is the meet? I tend to take different approaches whether it is a club, social, hotel etc....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It's at our home with another female

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Then I take it you'll probably start downstairs with a drink and a chat? If all is going well you just need to ask 'Fancy going upstairs?' If she wants to leave there is the opportunity to say no thank you and go, if not then all systems go! That's how I do it anyway. Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you've met the lady prior to the meet at yours , then it's easier as you know you have an attraction.

I met a couple solo, having met for a drink before, when I arrived - his wife wanted to watch he and I together first, kissing and soft playing before she joined in. So that's what we did.

Things generally tend to flow naturally and there's no set way. It's just about all enjoying yourselves.

Sarah

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh.

I'd love to see you....... With ......... As I ........ Is a good one. There's aduld board games available. Just adapt the rules for 3 or 4 or more. We did that our first time.

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

Don't rush. Take it as it comes. You don't want her to anyone to feel pressured.. Or like a piece of meat. Nothing worse than being made to feel like your only there for someone else's kicks and not for your own fun and enjoyment.

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By *hoenixmanMan
over a year ago

Where men are men, and sheep are nervous...!


"Don't rush. Take it as it comes. You don't want her to anyone to feel pressured.. Or like a piece of meat. Nothing worse than being made to feel like your only there for someone else's kicks and not for your own fun and enjoyment."

+1 to that. The other thing, OP, is your use of the word 'spark' ... A 'spark' is something I look for when dating off a 'normal' (if there is such a thing??) dating site when I'm looking for a 'normal' relationship of some kind.

I don't look for a spark when it comes to either swinging or just NSA sex. A 'connection'? Yes! But that's not the same thing in my book.

I've met quite a few people over the years with whom I felt no 'spark' whatsoever, but there was always a connection, often what we can discover from each other...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you everyone really helpful words of advice there x

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over a year ago

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