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By *usiness guy OP   Man
over a year ago

Ulster

Firstly apologies to all of you who notice that I posted this topic in the general forum. I just think I can get a fuller and more frank responses on this forum here from fabbers.

I've been on fab now for nearly 5 months, and am a totally genuine guy but have no real experience to date. I just want to know where I have gone wrong? I've had no meets, no real contacts from any couples, women. Admittedly I do not have a lot of experience but am a very friendly horny guy. Can genuine fabbers please be honest with me. What am I doing wrong, Is my profile no good? I have just become so disheartened and depressed as I feel totally isolated here, some good social fab mates would have been good. Please be totally honest with me, but not brutal or rude! I like respectful frank fabbers. Thanks in advance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need some photos. People might think your fake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hiya,

I would assume that you are married/cheating by reading your profile, which doesn't appeal to a lot of people, and also you have no photographs so nothing really to 'entice' people.

There's 3 zillion threads about proving profiles or how to get a meet, I suggest you do a forum search.

Good luck and happy fabbing

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

With a "discreet daytime meet" preference and not being able to accomodate would suggest that you're married so this is likely to hinder things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the site is really making you depressed maybe you need to ask if this is the place for you? I know that may sound harsh but the reality is most single men struggle on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had zero response too, but that's probably because I am married and state it clearly in my profile. My wife is on here too, so not a secret she knows all about it and has her own profile and we have a couples profile. Guess theres just so many guys compared to girls, some of us are way down the list.

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By *usiness guy OP   Man
over a year ago

Ulster

Good points so far. I will change my profile to single, which I am. Thank you. More suggestions very welcome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And if you are looking for some 'fab mates' try clubs and socials ir get stuck in on the forums or chat rooms. You need to interact more and the friendships follow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No pictures.

The whole I'm straight but want your fella in a uniform bit is weird.

The youre interested in new couples because your in a similar situation is weird, youre single?

You also so the standard "want to meet simmilar people" but no expansion of what youre like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the same as above, no pics, cannot accommodate and prefer daytime meets would put a lot of people off straight away limiting your options.

Also think of fab as an addition to your swinging life not as your swinging life, organised socials, clubs etc are the best way for a single male to meet people. However if you are getting down and depressed about it, it may well be that fab is not for you, it's not worth having those feelings about fab, and it also to me points towards unhappiness elsewhere too unfortunately. But that's what I got personally from your post.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I agree with others on here, your profile is totally confusing and sorry to say, you wont get anywhere on here without public pics!

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By *usiness guy OP   Man
over a year ago

Ulster

Ok points taken so far, I gave adjusted a few things so far. Pics I'm sorry I cannot put much more up due to my job, physique. But thanks for all your messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If the site is really making you depressed maybe you need to ask if this is the place for you? I know that may sound harsh but the reality is most single men struggle on here"

A specially the married "single" men...and rightly or wrongly this profile absolutely SCREAMS married!

Sorry if you are not, OP, but the profile makes it so clear!

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Ok points taken so far, I gave adjusted a few things so far. Pics I'm sorry I cannot put much more up due to my job, physique. But thanks for all your messages"

You've got none up! Do you really think people at my work would recognise me? And I have plenty of pics up! So sorry I don't buy it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok points taken so far, I gave adjusted a few things so far. Pics I'm sorry I cannot put much more up due to my job, physique. But thanks for all your messages"

But potential meets will want to see your physique???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have had zero response too, but that's probably because I am married and state it clearly in my profile. My wife is on here too, so not a secret she knows all about it and has her own profile and we have a couples profile. Guess theres just so many guys compared to girls, some of us are way down the list."

That is a poor self image too....do you get much interest in your couples profile? So many guys hide behind the "numbers game" excuse...but if you are good enough then you are good enough....have some confidence and go for it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Firstly apologies to all of you who notice that I posted this topic in the general forum. I just think I can get a fuller and more frank responses on this forum here from fabbers.

I've been on fab now for nearly 5 months, and am a totally genuine guy but have no real experience to date. I just want to know where I have gone wrong? I've had no meets, no real contacts from any couples, women. Admittedly I do not have a lot of experience but am a very friendly horny guy. Can genuine fabbers please be honest with me. What am I doing wrong, Is my profile no good? I have just become so disheartened and depressed as I feel totally isolated here, some good social fab mates would have been good. Please be totally honest with me, but not brutal or rude! I like respectful frank fabbers. Thanks in advance "

Take away the distance. Your profile is good but there's no photos Is probably delete for that reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok points taken so far, I gave adjusted a few things so far. Pics I'm sorry I cannot put much more up due to my job, physique. But thanks for all your messages"

Why what job do you do that makes your body public knowledge?

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Ok points taken so far, I gave adjusted a few things so far. Pics I'm sorry I cannot put much more up due to my job, physique. But thanks for all your messages"

Having no public pics at all will put off a large percentage of people.

Lots of people don't want to be recognised due to work, family etc. There are plenty of shots that you can use and not be recognised.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok points taken so far, I gave adjusted a few things so far. Pics I'm sorry I cannot put much more up due to my job, physique. But thanks for all your messages

Why what job do you do that makes your body public knowledge?"

I would not even begin corresponding with someone with no pictures. I have no idea why a non-face picture would be in any way a problem. The text is also pretty generic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Imagine walking into a bar with a blindfold on and you have to pick the most beautiful girl. Essentially with no pics you are asking for a blind date

Either scenario is not good when you are trying to attract someone too you

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By *usiness guy OP   Man
over a year ago

Ulster

Again thanks for the updates to you all. Just to say, that maybe I have been naive to swinging as this is my first time. I'm a novice, so need to learn the ropes so I'm sorry if I've made myself look foolish. But I just want the fun and satisfaction like everyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Again thanks for the updates to you all. Just to say, that maybe I have been naive to swinging as this is my first time. I'm a novice, so need to learn the ropes so I'm sorry if I've made myself look foolish. But I just want the fun and satisfaction like everyone else. "

You have not made yourself look foolish. Your issue is that you have not made yourself look anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My advice as single bloke who has been on site a while is go to a club. All my veries bar one have all been after a club meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Firstly apologies to all of you who notice that I posted this topic in the general forum. I just think I can get a fuller and more frank responses on this forum here from fabbers.

I've been on fab now for nearly 5 months, and am a totally genuine guy but have no real experience to date. I just want to know where I have gone wrong? I've had no meets, no real contacts from any couples, women. Admittedly I do not have a lot of experience but am a very friendly horny guy. Can genuine fabbers please be honest with me. What am I doing wrong, Is my profile no good? I have just become so disheartened and depressed as I feel totally isolated here, some good social fab mates would have been good. Please be totally honest with me, but not brutal or rude! I like respectful frank fabbers. Thanks in advance "

Your profile reads very well - I would like to read a bit more about what kind of sex you like and what kind of lady you find attractive. Also a few more pictures - no need to reveal all just tease us a little! The most helpful tip I can give you is .....get over to West Yorkshire, I find Irish accents very sexy! If thats too far for you to travel then get yourself over to your nearest swingers club,,,,social club meets are good first veri's and good places to get meeting. Good luck, I think everything I read about you is sexy, I would meet you....m x

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I don't think you're going to change anything so, with elegant logic and inevitability, nothing is going to change.

It's social Darwinism: you either adapt and evolve or fail to succeed. Saying that, lampreys haven't changed for millions of years and they do ok. Ish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Again thanks for the updates to you all. Just to say, that maybe I have been naive to swinging as this is my first time. I'm a novice, so need to learn the ropes so I'm sorry if I've made myself look foolish. But I just want the fun and satisfaction like everyone else. "

I agree with the advice the other forumites have given you.

In addition I would keep coming into the forums. It's amazing what you can learn as a newbie. Just from the threads from people moaning about what winds them up on here, can help you tweak your profile and approach when messaging.

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