FabSwingers.com forum: Bi-curious question

By *he_tourists OP Couple
over a year ago

bristol

Why is it ok for ladies to be bi-curious or bisexual but it's such a stigma for bi-curious men?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

thats easy to answer however i wont here x

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By *olfcartweaselCouple
over a year ago

Melrose

"Why is it ok for ladies to be bi-curious or bisexual but it's such a stigma for bi-curious men?"

Various reasons. Toxic masculinity & fear of STDs are the major ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it ok for ladies to be bi-curious or bisexual but it's such a stigma for bi-curious men?

Various reasons. Toxic masculinity & fear of STDs are the major ones."
ohhh charming more misguided myths about lol

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

I always liken bisexuality to walking down the middle of the road and having to dodge drivers coming at you from both sides.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they are massively hot and sexy and everyone else is a little bit jealous of them.

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By *he horny kinkstersCouple
over a year ago

North West

Is it really a stigma?

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"Is it really a stigma?

Tbh I've had WAY more shit off gay people than straight people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blame the patriarchy?

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By *ittlemissnawtyTV/TS
over a year ago

Luton

Surely the stigma lies with the individual

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no idea why this is there is nothing sexier than two men together and as to health we are all responsible for ourselves . X it is silly that two bi women together hardly bats an eye yet two bi men is frowned upon and scorned .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it ok for ladies to be bi-curious or bisexual but it's such a stigma for bi-curious men?

Various reasons. Toxic masculinity & fear of STDs are the major ones.ohhh charming more misguided myths about lol

Ok since you said its an easy answer but you weren't going to say but are now going to to ridicule anyone's answer how about you jusg say your "easy" answer

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Why is it ok for ladies to be bi-curious or bisexual but it's such a stigma for bi-curious men?"

I couldn't care less what people think of me and my sexuality. My sexuality is part of me and I like myself. If other people don't, it's not my problem so all happy here. I may produce stigmata from time to time but will tell all in my hagiography

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because they are massively hot and sexy and everyone else is a little bit jealous of them.

V xxx"

You described me perfectly!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Because they are massively hot and sexy and everyone else is a little bit jealous of them.

V xxx

You described me perfectly!

Massive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it ok for ladies to be bi-curious or bisexual but it's such a stigma for bi-curious men?"

Is there stigma?

I must have missed that memo..I've never noticed any stigma levelled at me

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By *ot so innocent nowCouple
over a year ago

Chorley

"Because they are massively hot and sexy and everyone else is a little bit jealous of them.

V xxx"

This. I love watching two men just as much as I enjoy watching two women. I wasn't aware there was a stigma though I have noticed quite a few profiles that say no bi/bi curious men. I do wonder why, after all if you're playing with a Straight male or as part of a couple you're going to respect that, just like you would any other boundary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cos everyone is paranoid about catching the ghey/bad aids/bi guys arn't manly enough vibe, delete as appropriate

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By *olfcartweaselCouple
over a year ago

Melrose

"Why is it ok for ladies to be bi-curious or bisexual but it's such a stigma for bi-curious men?

Is there stigma?

I must have missed that memo..I've never noticed any stigma levelled at me

Plenty of profiles that say "no bi men", even where totally not relevant (e.g. on single womens' profiles).

Which is why a huge proportion of bi men on this site list themselves as straight

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By *ittlemissnawtyTV/TS
over a year ago

Luton

Nothing sexier? Is that why you have blocked everyone of my sex from messaging you?????

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"thats easy to answer however i wont here x"

I can't think of a more appropriate thread to answer the question...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nothing sexier? Is that why you have blocked everyone of my sex from messaging you????? "

Perhaps she's interested in bi men not tgirls

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because they are massively hot and sexy and everyone else is a little bit jealous of them.

V xxx

You described me perfectly!

Massive

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes

"Because they are massively hot and sexy and everyone else is a little bit jealous of them.

V xxx

I have that on my profile because I don't find it a turn on and want my men to be straight. It all boils down to personal preference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it ok for ladies to be bi-curious or bisexual but it's such a stigma for bi-curious men?

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By *olfcartweaselCouple
over a year ago

Melrose

"I have that on my profile because I don't find it a turn on and want my men to be straight."

How would you know? Plenty of men with "straight" on their profiles are actually bi, but say straight in order to trick folk like you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't find bi women a turn on. They're still women though.

All my friends now know I'm bi but non of them had guessed before I came out. Non of my ex girlfriends ever did either.

Until I wanted people to know I was bi they didn't know. When I'm alone with a woman I'm just like any other guy, except I'm now covered in girly tattoos and I have a belly piercing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being bi is great

There's something so liberating about being knocked back by blokes as well as by women

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By *ot so innocent nowCouple
over a year ago

Chorley

"Because they are massively hot and sexy and everyone else is a little bit jealous of them.

V xxx

I have that on my profile because I don't find it a turn on and want my men to be straight. It all boils down to personal preference."

But why does it matter? If you're meeting someone for a MF rendezvous does it make a difference?

I hope you don't feel I'm being funny, I'm genuinely interested. My boyfriend knew from when we first got together that I was bisexual, I wanted him to know from the offset as I've had people who haven't wanted to know me after finding out and I would've rather he walked away there and then than at a later date. Though if we were just playing around or FWB, I can't personally see why either of our sexual orientations would make a difference if we were playing purely one on one.

So, in your opinion, why/how does it make a difference? X

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I have that on my profile because I don't find it a turn on and want my men to be straight.

How would you know? Plenty of men with "straight" on their profiles are actually bi, but say straight in order to trick folk like you."

There's been a few threads recently stating that men have received messages from men who are straight on their profile and so you'll never know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it ok for ladies to be bi-curious or bisexual but it's such a stigma for bi-curious men?

Is there stigma?

I must have missed that memo..I've never noticed any stigma levelled at me

Plenty of profiles that say "no bi men", even where totally not relevant (e.g. on single womens' profiles).

Which is why a huge proportion of bi men on this site list themselves as straight"

Some just want bi guys.

The level of interest in me has risen since I changed from bi curious to bisexual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met plenty of guys I'd never have guessed are bi.

The guy I was seeing for a few months was gorgeous and black and verified by a long list of women, many who said they wouldn't go anywhere near a bi guy or anyone who had.

We didn't veri each other and he lives several hours from me so they'll never work out who he is.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I've met plenty of guys I'd never have guessed are bi.

The guy I was seeing for a few months was gorgeous and black and verified by a long list of women, many who said they wouldn't go anywhere near a bi guy or anyone who had.

We didn't veri each other and he lives several hours from me so they'll never work out who he is. "

I can imagine those ladies he met now reading your post and vomiting and having a douche. It would have been better had he said he was bisexual. It's nothing to be ashamed of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think sleeping with me is anything to be ashamed of either. I do it every night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At a risk of setting everyone off;

He never thought of himself as bi. I was just another girl who took his fancy.

He's never seen between my legs. Never touched there either.

He's never seen me out of role.

My look is only a small part of my femininity, apparently. I think it's easy to spot me as not genetic. I've had my friends asked loads of times at tgirl events if I'm a tgirl or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it really a stigma?

A straight couple rarely have any problems meeting with a couple where the lady is bi.... Turn the tables and that's rarely the case.

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By *ot so innocent nowCouple
over a year ago

Chorley

"Is it really a stigma?

A straight couple rarely have any problems meeting with a couple where the lady is bi.... Turn the tables and that's rarely the case.

Thankfully we haven't had an issue with anyone yet, though we don't message anyone who's profile says no bi men. Though that hasn't stopped a few from messaging us - my first response is usually to make sure they've read our details correctly - they all have. Now that baffles me.

We don't meet straight MF couples but that's purely because we aren't looking to play purely MF MF. If we were then it wouldn't matter if the M or F was bi as long as they also were happy to play MF MF.

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