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By *rishCouple2k OP   Couple
over a year ago

Berkshire

Hey everyone,

So for the last year or two we have tried to find a Bi female partner to join us. And not having much luck. Granted our profile is not really complete.and we don't exactly have amazing bodies.

Anyway, until we do find someone,

So I've been thinking how I can improve our own personal sex. Mrs IC doesn't know I'm asking. Might find out a few things to help us spark a different avenue.

Mrs isn't into getting spanked or chocked etc. But she has come to realise she likes me to pull her hair. Or hold her wrists tightly.

Tbh I'm just a bit inexperienced in this and looking for some advice on what I can do to make her happy.

Sorry if this sounds stupid.

Any advice would be appreciated

Love IC

X

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

Just to say... the lady looks very hot and a gorgeous body

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By *rishCouple2k OP   Couple
over a year ago

Berkshire

Thanks. She will be happy to hear that.we're generally just too shy. That's our biggest problem.

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

If you have been looking for a fem for the 'last year or two'.... Surely you have had 5 mins to 'complete' your profile.

Maybe try sorting that first and it may lead you to what your looking for.

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By *ormalguy71Man
over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells

Agree she is hot

Have you considered a club !

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By *rishCouple2k OP   Couple
over a year ago

Berkshire

We went to one club in Ireland while we were there. But Tbh we felt out of place. Just because we were the youngest by at least 15 years. Each to their own of course.

And that kind of knocked the Mrs a bit. Hense why I haven't been pushed to complete the profile cos we aren't looking too hard Tbh.

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By *ripleXrateDWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"We went to one club in Ireland while we were there. But Tbh we felt out of place. Just because we were the youngest by at least 15 years. Each to their own of course.

And that kind of knocked the Mrs a bit. Hense why I haven't been pushed to complete the profile cos we aren't looking too hard Tbh."

Finding a single fem to meet a couple is quiet hard. Myself and my bf have played with a single fem a few times but that's because we have gotten to know them first.

I would suggest if the clubs are people out your range start your own swingers party's or have a look fir any socials in your area. Get to know people first and that may help you with your fantasy xxxxx

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By *rishCouple2k OP   Couple
over a year ago

Berkshire

Thanks guys, I'll look into some socials.

But back to the other Topic, anyone any advice on things I could do to enhance my wife's pleasure. Really weird thing to write.Lol

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By *ripleXrateDWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"Thanks guys, I'll look into some socials.

But back to the other Topic, anyone any advice on things I could do to enhance my wife's pleasure. Really weird thing to write.Lol "

I would advise you ask her what she likes. Does she like pain anal or toys etc. Then watch some a mature porn to get a understanding of what to do.

Xxxxxx

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

How many single ladies have you approached with a nice message?

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By *rishCouple2k OP   Couple
over a year ago

Berkshire


"How many single ladies have you approached with a nice message? "

Several and while we have good conversations it just doesn't work out some how.

I'm far more interested in learning to improve our own sex life atm.

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan
over a year ago

London


"Thanks guys, I'll look into some socials.

But back to the other Topic, anyone any advice on things I could do to enhance my wife's pleasure. Really weird thing to write.Lol "

just speak to her she's the only one who can tell

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By *exycouplemmmmCouple
over a year ago

Surrey

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By *exycouplemmmmCouple
over a year ago

Surrey

Both write down some sexy fantasies or sexy things to do then pop them in a jar. Plan a 'date night' and re-visit the slips of paper and be prepared to do some of them (not all) in the one night.

Most of all, get clarify on what really turns her on (makes her wet) good luck xxx

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By *andkCouple
over a year ago

Wisbech

Buy her a euroscillator, it oscillates so give a different kind of orgasm. They do all types of different heads and doesn't produce any numbness so you can Cum again and again. It's a bit pricey but worth it. I've used it on a few girls and they all love it

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By *rishCouple2k OP   Couple
over a year ago

Berkshire


"Both write down some sexy fantasies or sexy things to do then pop them in a jar. Plan a 'date night' and re-visit the slips of paper and be prepared to do some of them (not all) in the one night.

Most of all, get clarify on what really turns her on (makes her wet) good luck xxx"

Thank you, I think maybe I'll buy some beginner bondage things.like soft feather,silk wraps, blindfold And just explore them with her. See what she likes. Thanks

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly


"How many single ladies have you approached with a nice message?

Several and while we have good conversations it just doesn't work out some how.

I'm far more interested in learning to improve our own sex life atm."

From your side what needs to improve - frequency, satisfaction, variety? What about from her side?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey everyone,

So for the last year or two we have tried to find a Bi female partner to join us. And not having much luck. Granted our profile is not really complete.and we don't exactly have amazing bodies.

Anyway, until we do find someone,

So I've been thinking how I can improve our own personal sex. Mrs IC doesn't know I'm asking. Might find out a few things to help us spark a different avenue.

Mrs isn't into getting spanked or chocked etc. But she has come to realise she likes me to pull her hair. Or hold her wrists tightly.

Tbh I'm just a bit inexperienced in this and looking for some advice on what I can do to make her happy.

Sorry if this sounds stupid.

Any advice would be appreciated

Love IC

X"

Have you tried a club? We like the vanilla alternative, they are great for newbies, we are shy at first too. Also they have a bi night 5th Feb (we are going ) you may find a female there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

take another look at ur wifes body she HAS a amazing body hunni x i host adult parties at my home and is a great way to get to know people and ur in control who u invite give it some thought together x

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By *rishCouple2k OP   Couple
over a year ago

Berkshire


"take another look at ur wifes body she HAS a amazing body hunni x i host adult parties at my home and is a great way to get to know people and ur in control who u invite give it some thought together x "

Thank you.she will be happy to hear the nice comments.

Thanks for thought on party I'll speak to the boss

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By *w214Couple
over a year ago

Wirral


"Just to say... the lady looks very hot and a gorgeous body "

Agreed, I wouldn't take it personally, I imagine finding a single bi lady that wants what you want, when you want it, that is close enough to meet is a very, very difficult task.

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

The Wild Wetness

Communication is everything.

Try the corny sounding stuff too. Eg candles and a sensual massage with oil.

Mutual masterbation.

Write her a sex story to read.

Pick her up at a bar.

Role-playing as a friend or work colleague.

Etc.

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By *rishCouple2k OP   Couple
over a year ago

Berkshire


"Communication is everything.

Try the corny sounding stuff too. Eg candles and a sensual massage with oil.

Mutual masterbation.

Write her a sex story to read.

Pick her up at a bar.

Role-playing as a friend or work colleague.

Etc."

Thanks guys. Some great advice there. Everything worth a shot. Just something away from vanilla. Keeping it interesting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love to come up with new ways to get the mrs hyped and wet agreat night for us then and several times since is a tied up full massage into sex.

I tell her throughout the day via txt what your going to do to her be explicit in detail and really get her imagination working, get home set the mood mabye sneak behind her and tease her whilst cooking dinner,

In bed i like to start on her front blindfolded and tied, warm coconut oil and caress everything leaving the pussy alone, kissing and stroking are very important also teasing wispers ect, flip her over and repeat, eventually moving between her legs mabye tese with your head but dont giveit to her( you got to get in her head)by now she should be arching her bach and waving her pussy at you you can now proceed to slowly finger and eat that pussy, building to the point of orgasm , now untie her hands fold them behind her back and ask her if she want you inside her, only do it if she convinces you. Now fuck her with her head down and arms pinned she should cum pretty quickly and I wouldn't be surprised if you do too.

Thats just one bit of advice

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By *rishCouple2k OP   Couple
over a year ago

Berkshire


"I love to come up with new ways to get the mrs hyped and wet agreat night for us then and several times since is a tied up full massage into sex.

I tell her throughout the day via txt what your going to do to her be explicit in detail and really get her imagination working, get home set the mood mabye sneak behind her and tease her whilst cooking dinner,

In bed i like to start on her front blindfolded and tied, warm coconut oil and caress everything leaving the pussy alone, kissing and stroking are very important also teasing wispers ect, flip her over and repeat, eventually moving between her legs mabye tese with your head but dont giveit to her( you got to get in her head)by now she should be arching her bach and waving her pussy at you you can now proceed to slowly finger and eat that pussy, building to the point of orgasm , now untie her hands fold them behind her back and ask her if she want you inside her, only do it if she convinces you. Now fuck her with her head down and arms pinned she should cum pretty quickly and I wouldn't be surprised if you do too.

Thats just one bit of advice "

All sounds like great advice.I'd like to learn more about being more forcefully. Controlling her moves. I'm always trying to learn to keep her supsrised and guessing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd recommend you just pin her down and fuck her hard and thoroughly. Then put her on all fours and repeat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So you've dipped your toes in the swinging world , and now want advice on a swinging site on how to spice up your sex life together without swinging .

It's difficult to say , as the lifestyle offers so much variety and without it you are limited to just yourselves .

Sorry I can't suggest anything other than considering a club or a party and let your hair down .

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