FabSwingers.com forum: STD test

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

do people think its rude that when you meet some one you ask if they have been checked though your having protected sex whats peoples thought.

I get checked after every different sex partner.

few people have been offended when i asked. Or have said yes but were be protected

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

people lie, so no point asking

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Fair enough..... but do u think its rude to ask

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A STD check is only as good as a car's MOT.

It passed on that day but there may be underlying issues not yet materialised or something has happened since.

We wouldn't rely on what anyone told us.

Play safe as possible to minimise risks to yourself, and keep getting your checks done.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Fair enough..... but do u think its rude to ask"

I don't, no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"do people think its rude that when you meet some one you ask if they have been checked though your having protected sex whats peoples thought.

I get checked after every different sex partner.

few people have been offended when i asked. Or have said yes but were be protected"

God help us if we were checked after every different sex partner !

As it is we go every six weeks .

As other posters say , people will lie .

Assume the worst in any scenario and protect yourself accordingly , or crack on and look after your own health .

We always have a record on our phones of the last test results ( clear ) if anyone wants to see it , but it's very rare they do .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thank u

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think condoms essential. Even for oral as I was informed that many STDs are contracted orally as well - what's peoples views on female dams for oral?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of similar posts on this kind of topic. General consensus is that you are responsible for your own safety/health.....don't rely on what others do or say!

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"do people think its rude that when you meet some one you ask if they have been checked though your having protected sex whats peoples thought.

I get checked after every different sex partner.

few people have been offended when i asked. Or have said yes but were be protected"

It would give me the impression that you have unprotected sex with those who reply that they were tested and the results were negative

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

no i just like to be safe

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Wouldn't bother me but its pointless. Not many people are gonna say 'no' or 'yeah and ive got the clap but I'm sure it'll be fine'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wouldn't bother us you asking but my local clinic no longer gives a text if clear... They only message you if you have an issue.

We get checked every six weeks as it wouldn't be practical or even possible to be checked after each person as we often have numerous partners in one week or even night x

We use protection for full sex but not oral as although there are still risks... Not enough for us to use condoms or dental dams x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"people lie, so no point asking"

Strange logic. Some people lie, some don't. Of those that lie, some you will spot that they are lying.

So asking improves your chances.

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

"people lie, so no point asking

Strange logic. Some people lie, some don't. Of those that lie, some you will spot that they are lying.

So asking improves your chances."

Not a strange logic at all. You can't always tell when people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"people lie, so no point asking

Strange logic. Some people lie, some don't. Of those that lie, some you will spot that they are lying.

So asking improves your chances.

Not a strange logic at all. You can't always tell when people."

You don't need to always tell. Unless 100% of people convincingly lie 100% of the time then asking will help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trust no one. Use protection every time and eliminate as much of the risk as possible. Asking if they've been tested is a waste of time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Trust no one. Use protection every time and eliminate as much of the risk as possible. Asking if they've been tested is a waste of time."

Well you'd eliminate as much of the risk as possible by using a condom and asking.

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By *verysmileMan
over a year ago

Canterbury

I get checked for my own peace of mind....not someone else's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think its rude to ask, no.

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

"do people think its rude that when you meet some one you ask if they have been checked though your having protected sex whats peoples thought.

I get checked after every different sex partner.

few people have been offended when i asked. Or have said yes but were be protected"

Nothing wrong with asking but never rely on what you are told.

It is up to you to use what protection you are comfortable with.

We would recommend going to the GUM clinic every 4 to 6 weeks if you are sexually active as regular check ups will catch anything that takes time to develop.

We would say GUM checks are simply for your own peace of mind rather than any meets peace of mind as only you know what checks the GUM clinic actually made.

Not all clinics do all checks and any meet has no way of knowing what checks you had

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

Depends when you ask?

Halfway through sex may feel as though they are not keeping your attention.

Personally I'd rather be asked before meeting in the flesh. If the answer was not acceptable then I've not wasted time going to meet.

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By *ihimbiherCouple
over a year ago

lightwater

"A STD check is only as good as a car's MOT.

It passed on that day but there may be underlying issues not yet materialised or something has happened since.

We wouldn't rely on what anyone told us.

Play safe as possible to minimise risks to yourself, and keep getting your checks done."
dpit on....so well put

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think condoms essential. Even for oral as I was informed that many STDs are contracted orally as well - what's peoples views on female dams for oral?"

We would rather eat the bag around the crisps than use dental dams or condoms for oral

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan
over a year ago

London

No not rude at all!

Thought that would be a standard question that comes up when arranging the meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No not rude at all!

Thought that would be a standard question that comes up when arranging the meet

Can't think I've ever been asked it or asked it lol x

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan
over a year ago

London

"No not rude at all!

Thought that would be a standard question that comes up when arranging the meet

Can't think I've ever been asked it or asked it lol x "

Wow ok fair enough now that does surprises me it's come up with everyone i meet from fab and it's not me that always brings it either lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No not rude at all!

Thought that would be a standard question that comes up when arranging the meet

Can't think I've ever been asked it or asked it lol x

Wow ok fair enough now that does surprises me it's come up with everyone i meet from fab and it's not me that always brings it either lol"
we mostly do club meets or parties. So it doesn't really come up x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No not rude at all!

Thought that would be a standard question that comes up when arranging the meet

Can't think I've ever been asked it or asked it lol x

Wow ok fair enough now that does surprises me it's come up with everyone i meet from fab and it's not me that always brings it either lol"

That you've been asked on all meets surprises us too .

We and total deviants have more meets than most on here and I can't recall being asked either !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i certainly wudnt take offence infact i would find the conversation responsible and reassuring taking steps to protect and prevent STDs is admirable x

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan
over a year ago

London

"No not rude at all!

Thought that would be a standard question that comes up when arranging the meet

Can't think I've ever been asked it or asked it lol x

Wow ok fair enough now that does surprises me it's come up with everyone i meet from fab and it's not me that always brings it either lol

That you've been asked on all meets surprises us too .

We and total deviants have more meets than most on here and I can't recall being asked either !"

i said it comes up when arranging a meet from fab either i bring it up or they do sometimes beforehand othertimes once we're together,

Maybe it's because i mainly do private meets rather than club i don't know the science behind it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair I don't think anyone has ever asked us on private meets either x

We ddon't ask as see no point as we can't believe what people tell us anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not rude to ask but I'd question why you ask? Do you use their answer to inform your decision as to whether or not to meet them or play with them?

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By *ripleXrateDWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"do people think its rude that when you meet some one you ask if they have been checked though your having protected sex whats peoples thought.

I get checked after every different sex partner.

few people have been offended when i asked. Or have said yes but were be protected"

I'm just curious, what would happen if someone said theve never been tested xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"people lie, so no point asking"

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get tested every couple of weeks and all ways use a condom as well ,I don't understand why people go bareback on here it's playing a very dangerous game ,condoms are a must especially if having anal sex ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"do people think its rude that when you meet some one you ask if they have been checked though your having protected sex whats peoples thought.

I get checked after every different sex partner.

few people have been offended when i asked. Or have said yes but were be protected

I'm just curious, what would happen if someone said theve never been tested xxxx"

I don't know about op, Princess Bubblegum but I wouldn't go anywhere near anybody who hadn't been tested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"people lie, so no point asking

This!"

That's why we don't bother asking x

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By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley

My LHA used to do that as well as i complained to the clinc's director "it wasn't good enough etc Cos you don't know if they didnt send you a text, the costs of testing is far greater than the pennies it cost to send a negative test txt" so how can it really effect their budget. resulted in his uuuming and arrring.

Anyhows they now send a text with the results either way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even then I would be very very wary if even meeting them for a social. If people don't care enough about their sexual health, then I would just take care of mine and move on.

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By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley

" I'm just curious, what would happen if someone said theve never been tested xxxx"

about to play with someone in a club who said just that ! i said oh! ok, no thanks, then went to the bar

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By *issy NickersWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

If I started a "real" relationship with a guy and wanted to bareback then I would only go ahead if we both had negative results. I have found swinging people use protection & get tested and after 4 years on the scene I've caught nothing. I think there is more likely to be higher levels of STIs outside swinging because people bareback and swap partners without thinking of the consequences.

The op question suggests he's asking people if they're tested and they are outside the swinging scene. As ever, manage your own health

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wouldn't bother me but its pointless. Not many people are gonna say 'no' or 'yeah and ive got the clap but I'm sure it'll be fine'

made me giggle

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