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"I wouldn't feel comfortable exploiting someone's mental health. " I agree ... | |||
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"I wouldn't feel comfortable exploiting someone's mental health. I agree ..." If a person has hyper sexuality , and the only means of dealing with it is to have sex , then why would you have an issue with that ? | |||
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"I wouldn't feel comfortable exploiting someone's mental health. I agree ... If a person has hyper sexuality , and the only means of dealing with it is to have sex , then why would you have an issue with that ? " Hypersexuality is a symptom in this case, where if the OP were in normal conditions, it wouldn't be their choice. I wouldn't feel comfortable supporting them in it. | |||
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"I wouldn't feel comfortable exploiting someone's mental health. I agree ... If a person has hyper sexuality , and the only means of dealing with it is to have sex , then why would you have an issue with that ? Hypersexuality is a symptom in this case, where if the OP were in normal conditions, it wouldn't be their choice. I wouldn't feel comfortable supporting them in it. " So they should go without ? Not sure that's fair to be honest | |||
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"I wouldn't feel comfortable exploiting someone's mental health. I agree ... If a person has hyper sexuality , and the only means of dealing with it is to have sex , then why would you have an issue with that ? Hypersexuality is a symptom in this case, where if the OP were in normal conditions, it wouldn't be their choice. I wouldn't feel comfortable supporting them in it. So they should go without ? Not sure that's fair to be honest " Eh, other people can feel differently. To me, it's no different to handing someone a razor to help them self harm in periods of low mood. If hypersexuality were their norm, it'd be different. Their mania just clearly isn't under control. | |||
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"I'll bet the responses would be different if a bloke had posted this." I don't understand why people post comments like this. My comment would not change, despite the gender. | |||
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"I admit I have absolutely no experience of this, but is it not better to balance out the periods of highs and lows with meds. Rather than feed the highs? Would this behaviour make the come down from the highs more difficult? " I agree with this, i have no experience, medical or otherwise, but would think with medicine breakthroughs as we have today, balancing out the periods would be a wiser move rather than fuelling the highs | |||
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"I'll bet the responses would be different if a bloke had posted this. I don't understand why people post comments like this. My comment would not change, despite the gender. " Nonetheless I'll bet they still would be. | |||
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"I admit I have absolutely no experience of this, but is it not better to balance out the periods of highs and lows with meds. Rather than feed the highs? Would this behaviour make the come down from the highs more difficult? " they have to take the meds. Whey they are missed . Your best off just running away. | |||
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"I admit I have absolutely no experience of this, but is it not better to balance out the periods of highs and lows with meds. Rather than feed the highs? Would this behaviour make the come down from the highs more difficult? I agree with this, i have no experience, medical or otherwise, but would think with medicine breakthroughs as we have today, balancing out the periods would be a wiser move rather than fuelling the highs" I don't think anyone would argue, or has done in this thread, that fab is an alternative to taking medications or seeking professional advice But if despite doing everything correctly there are periods of these symptoms then being on here with a partner is a reasonable and safe way of expressing those symptoms | |||
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"I admit I have absolutely no experience of this, but is it not better to balance out the periods of highs and lows with meds. Rather than feed the highs? Would this behaviour make the come down from the highs more difficult? I agree with this, i have no experience, medical or otherwise, but would think with medicine breakthroughs as we have today, balancing out the periods would be a wiser move rather than fuelling the highs I don't think anyone would argue, or has done in this thread, that fab is an alternative to taking medications or seeking professional advice But if despite doing everything correctly there are periods of these symptoms then being on here with a partner is a reasonable and safe way of expressing those symptoms " | |||
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"Are you prescribed Lithium by your consultant ( as many gps don't want to do anything more than scratch the surface of mental health ) it's the best drug for coping and balancing out the lows ! Mental health is my occupation " My friend was on lithium for a time to help with her bi polar She's found alternative ways to manage thaan using the drug though because she became a zombie (her words) Medication does help some, but for others it isn't an answer. | |||
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"I haven't seen a milkman for years. Do they still exist?" I believe so....I think they drive vans now !! Milk floats are a thing of the past round here anyway ...just before I get the milk float police correcting me | |||
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"Some have mentioned feeding the mania. I feel this implies the mania is being exacerbated. Is this so or is this just dealing with a symptom? I'm swaying towards the latter." It's definitely the later | |||
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"I wouldn't feel comfortable exploiting someone's mental health. I agree ..." Nor would I BUT its a good coping mechanism for both of them. She's getting what she needs while he enjoys this side of her personality, while also keeping her safe. We shouldn't judge them as we're outsiders n don't know the full extent of their story. I'm sure it's not as straight forward as the OP has made it sound! Well done OP for sharing something that would normally be a taboo subject. I admire your strength and honesty. Mrs B | |||
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"I am not bipolar, however I know a fair bit about it and I do have slightly manic periods, often after stress etc when I don't sleep etc and become literally obsessed with sex, it has caused issues in the past when I've ended up having sex with very inappropriate people, so for me swinging is a great outlet for satisfying that urge. I don't suffer from lows, but do kind of come back down to a slightly more rational sex drive when less stressed etc " | |||
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"This has been an interesting thread . It seems that it's not a unique situation , and that those who actually suffer it do find swinging helps . And that there are those who know nothing about it , who like to throw their opinions like how they wouldn't want to fuel a disorder .... Personally I value the opinions of those who have experience of it . " How could you possibly know I know nothing about the disorder? Or that I haven't experienced it? You shouldn't undermine when you don't know. | |||
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"This has been an interesting thread . It seems that it's not a unique situation , and that those who actually suffer it do find swinging helps . And that there are those who know nothing about it , who like to throw their opinions like how they wouldn't want to fuel a disorder .... Personally I value the opinions of those who have experience of it . How could you possibly know I know nothing about the disorder? Or that I haven't experienced it? You shouldn't undermine when you don't know. " I certainly don't feel I am undermining anyone . If you have the condition , I respect your opinion that fuelling the condition is indeed like offering razor blades to a vulnerable person . You would know far better than me in that instance . Maybe it's an extreme example , but still valid given that you can use it if you've felt it . | |||
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"We use FAB as a cure for my hypersexuality stages when I'm in mania (otherwise I would fuck literary fuck the milkman in the morning) and by using FAB my hubby is fully involved and loves all the sex also (rather than behind his back like before I was diagnosed that almost caused our break up) when not in mania I've no interest in sex what so ever , delete our profile and think I'm not naughty Anyone else a bipolar and use FAB in this super way?" Yes, I'm exactly the same, it's a manic thing then boom gone , I delete the account until it starts all over, it's a cycle I sometimes feel ashamed of | |||
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"This has been an interesting thread . It seems that it's not a unique situation , and that those who actually suffer it do find swinging helps . And that there are those who know nothing about it , who like to throw their opinions like how they wouldn't want to fuel a disorder .... Personally I value the opinions of those who have experience of it . How could you possibly know I know nothing about the disorder? Or that I haven't experienced it? You shouldn't undermine when you don't know. I certainly don't feel I am undermining anyone . If you have the condition , I respect your opinion that fuelling the condition is indeed like offering razor blades to a vulnerable person . You would know far better than me in that instance . Maybe it's an extreme example , but still valid given that you can use it if you've felt it . " Claiming that I know nothing about the condition is undermining my opinion. Just because it doesn't fit in with what you want to hear, doesn't mean it's less true. | |||
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"This has been an interesting thread . It seems that it's not a unique situation , and that those who actually suffer it do find swinging helps . And that there are those who know nothing about it , who like to throw their opinions like how they wouldn't want to fuel a disorder .... Personally I value the opinions of those who have experience of it . How could you possibly know I know nothing about the disorder? Or that I haven't experienced it? You shouldn't undermine when you don't know. I certainly don't feel I am undermining anyone . If you have the condition , I respect your opinion that fuelling the condition is indeed like offering razor blades to a vulnerable person . You would know far better than me in that instance . Maybe it's an extreme example , but still valid given that you can use it if you've felt it . Claiming that I know nothing about the condition is undermining my opinion. Just because it doesn't fit in with what you want to hear, doesn't mean it's less true. " Neither does my opinion become more or less valid , despite your protestations . It's really not personal , it's my opinion - that's all . | |||
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"This has been an interesting thread . It seems that it's not a unique situation , and that those who actually suffer it do find swinging helps . And that there are those who know nothing about it , who like to throw their opinions like how they wouldn't want to fuel a disorder .... Personally I value the opinions of those who have experience of it . How could you possibly know I know nothing about the disorder? Or that I haven't experienced it? You shouldn't undermine when you don't know. I certainly don't feel I am undermining anyone . If you have the condition , I respect your opinion that fuelling the condition is indeed like offering razor blades to a vulnerable person . You would know far better than me in that instance . Maybe it's an extreme example , but still valid given that you can use it if you've felt it . Claiming that I know nothing about the condition is undermining my opinion. Just because it doesn't fit in with what you want to hear, doesn't mean it's less true. Neither does my opinion become more or less valid , despite your protestations . It's really not personal , it's my opinion - that's all . " How is negating my opinion by saying I know nothing (when you've no idea, you couldn't possibly have an informed opinion) not personal? | |||
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"This has been an interesting thread . It seems that it's not a unique situation , and that those who actually suffer it do find swinging helps . And that there are those who know nothing about it , who like to throw their opinions like how they wouldn't want to fuel a disorder .... Personally I value the opinions of those who have experience of it . How could you possibly know I know nothing about the disorder? Or that I haven't experienced it? You shouldn't undermine when you don't know. I certainly don't feel I am undermining anyone . If you have the condition , I respect your opinion that fuelling the condition is indeed like offering razor blades to a vulnerable person . You would know far better than me in that instance . Maybe it's an extreme example , but still valid given that you can use it if you've felt it . Claiming that I know nothing about the condition is undermining my opinion. Just because it doesn't fit in with what you want to hear, doesn't mean it's less true. Neither does my opinion become more or less valid , despite your protestations . It's really not personal , it's my opinion - that's all . How is negating my opinion by saying I know nothing (when you've no idea, you couldn't possibly have an informed opinion) not personal? " Take it as you will - in any instance I will always gauge my reaction based on those who have experience over those who don't . What's interesting is how many sufferers on this thread find swinging helpful . | |||
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"This has been an interesting thread . It seems that it's not a unique situation , and that those who actually suffer it do find swinging helps . And that there are those who know nothing about it , who like to throw their opinions like how they wouldn't want to fuel a disorder .... Personally I value the opinions of those who have experience of it . How could you possibly know I know nothing about the disorder? Or that I haven't experienced it? You shouldn't undermine when you don't know. I certainly don't feel I am undermining anyone . If you have the condition , I respect your opinion that fuelling the condition is indeed like offering razor blades to a vulnerable person . You would know far better than me in that instance . Maybe it's an extreme example , but still valid given that you can use it if you've felt it . Claiming that I know nothing about the condition is undermining my opinion. Just because it doesn't fit in with what you want to hear, doesn't mean it's less true. Neither does my opinion become more or less valid , despite your protestations . It's really not personal , it's my opinion - that's all . How is negating my opinion by saying I know nothing (when you've no idea, you couldn't possibly have an informed opinion) not personal? Take it as you will - in any instance I will always gauge my reaction based on those who have experience over those who don't . What's interesting is how many sufferers on this thread find swinging helpful . " My point is that you don't know if I've experienced bipolar or if I suffer from it, yet because my opinion is different, you've disregarded me as knowing nothing and having had no experience. We can have differing opinions, but it's wrong for you to say I know nothing and to say I've not experienced bipolar when you don't know. | |||
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"This has been an interesting thread . It seems that it's not a unique situation , and that those who actually suffer it do find swinging helps . And that there are those who know nothing about it , who like to throw their opinions like how they wouldn't want to fuel a disorder .... Personally I value the opinions of those who have experience of it . How could you possibly know I know nothing about the disorder? Or that I haven't experienced it? You shouldn't undermine when you don't know. I certainly don't feel I am undermining anyone . If you have the condition , I respect your opinion that fuelling the condition is indeed like offering razor blades to a vulnerable person . You would know far better than me in that instance . Maybe it's an extreme example , but still valid given that you can use it if you've felt it . Claiming that I know nothing about the condition is undermining my opinion. Just because it doesn't fit in with what you want to hear, doesn't mean it's less true. Neither does my opinion become more or less valid , despite your protestations . It's really not personal , it's my opinion - that's all . How is negating my opinion by saying I know nothing (when you've no idea, you couldn't possibly have an informed opinion) not personal? Take it as you will - in any instance I will always gauge my reaction based on those who have experience over those who don't . What's interesting is how many sufferers on this thread find swinging helpful . My point is that you don't know if I've experienced bipolar or if I suffer from it, yet because my opinion is different, you've disregarded me as knowing nothing and having had no experience. We can have differing opinions, but it's wrong for you to say I know nothing and to say I've not experienced bipolar when you don't know. " I really don't have the time nor inclination to guess whether you have or not . I am going by those who have been clear about it . Sorry you feel this way , it's not really that important in the grand scheme of things is it ? | |||
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"This has been an interesting thread . It seems that it's not a unique situation , and that those who actually suffer it do find swinging helps . And that there are those who know nothing about it , who like to throw their opinions like how they wouldn't want to fuel a disorder .... Personally I value the opinions of those who have experience of it . How could you possibly know I know nothing about the disorder? Or that I haven't experienced it? You shouldn't undermine when you don't know. I certainly don't feel I am undermining anyone . If you have the condition , I respect your opinion that fuelling the condition is indeed like offering razor blades to a vulnerable person . You would know far better than me in that instance . Maybe it's an extreme example , but still valid given that you can use it if you've felt it . Claiming that I know nothing about the condition is undermining my opinion. Just because it doesn't fit in with what you want to hear, doesn't mean it's less true. Neither does my opinion become more or less valid , despite your protestations . It's really not personal , it's my opinion - that's all . How is negating my opinion by saying I know nothing (when you've no idea, you couldn't possibly have an informed opinion) not personal? Take it as you will - in any instance I will always gauge my reaction based on those who have experience over those who don't . What's interesting is how many sufferers on this thread find swinging helpful . My point is that you don't know if I've experienced bipolar or if I suffer from it, yet because my opinion is different, you've disregarded me as knowing nothing and having had no experience. We can have differing opinions, but it's wrong for you to say I know nothing and to say I've not experienced bipolar when you don't know. I really don't have the time nor inclination to guess whether you have or not . I am going by those who have been clear about it . Sorry you feel this way , it's not really that important in the grand scheme of things is it ?" No you're right, it's not important. It's still silly to be intentionally misinformed, and it's rude to state others know nothing. | |||
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"It's good to see a healthy discussion about hyper sexuality , it's often been ridiculed but can be a real curse as one of the ladies previously mentioned. I'm not a pharmacist however I am a therapist and heard that lithium does help It sounds like you are coping with it with the help and support of your husband , it can be ruinous to relationships, so we'll done for working together to cope with it " I was on lithium during my period of hypersexuality. My period lasted about three years, I was already on lithium when it started, I've been ill since I was 15 and although I'd say I've always been lively sexually its the only period of my life I've suffered hypersexuality I don't k ow what was the trigger and I can't actually pinpoint when it ended. It's about 16 years since my three year episode in that time they changed me from lithium to sodium valperate and I don't know if I would of had another episode or not but haven't had one at all on sodium valperate (I'm on other stuff as well but that was the major change over) | |||
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