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First party this weekend and very nervous

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

hey guys, were taking the dive in and going to party this friday. not been to one before and both nervous, can anyone give any advice please xxx

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By *iceguydaveMan
over a year ago

Monmouth

Try and relax - everybody else there will also be a wee bit nervous (even the 'old hands'), it's part of the fun!

You will hopefully find everybody is very 'gentle' to you as a newcomer, and nobody is going to expect you to do anything you don't want to.

Don't, however, get as relaxed as a newt - that's never appealing

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By *inkershoes69Woman
over a year ago

maidstone

lol! relaxed as a newt.........love it xx

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By *inups99Couple
over a year ago

manchester

they are just like 'normal' parties!! with the added bonus of some excitement thrown in - you do just as much as you feel comfortable doing....maybe play with each other first or flirt with someone you fancy and see where it leads - but never be afraid to say 'no' or 'not for me' if it's not right for you. hope you have a great time xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanks so far guys, still not sure what to expect!!

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By *-and-KCouple
over a year ago

Back of Beyond

Go with the flow, don't be eager to get things started, let the regulars make the first moves.

Stand back there is usually an area set aside for nibbles and drinks, linger there and watch what happens. Join in if you are up for it, if not just stand and watch or leave if you feel its not for you.

We have seen a handful of couples decide to leave once action begins, partying is not for everyone, it can be overwhelmin g.

So take it slowly and join in when you are ready. Remember its not a race, you have several hours and maybe ladies to get through (for the guy )

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By *inups99Couple
over a year ago

manchester


"Go with the flow, don't be eager to get things started, let the regulars make the first moves.

Stand back there is usually an area set aside for nibbles and drinks, linger there and watch what happens. Join in if you are up for it, if not just stand and watch or leave if you feel its not for you.

We have seen a handful of couples decide to leave once action begins, partying is not for everyone, it can be overwhelmin g.

So take it slowly and join in when you are ready. Remember its not a race, you have several hours and maybe ladies to get through (for the guy )"

yep - all good advice!!!

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West


"they are just like 'normal' parties!! with the added bonus of some excitement thrown in - you do just as much as you feel comfortable doing....maybe play with each other first or flirt with someone you fancy and see where it leads - but never be afraid to say 'no' or 'not for me' if it's not right for you. hope you have a great time xxx"

Good advice that...but we would always worry that we would stand out like a right pair of plums if everyone was hard at it and naked and we were stood stood in the litchen fully clothed and talking about party food packs from Iceland?

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By *ibrosMan
over a year ago

harrow


"...but we would always worry that we would stand out like a right pair of plums if everyone was hard at it and naked and we were stood stood in the litchen fully clothed and talking about party food packs from Iceland?"

No need to worry about looking silly. Its everyone else with their clothes off. If you are new, tell people. There is no end to the advice you will get from experienced swingers.

Don't talk about party food. Prepare a few lines about sex or the lifestyle. Just something to start a conversation. Try something like 'How did you get started in swinging?'

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanks guys again for the advice, will let you know how it all goes. xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanks for all the advice guys, the party went really really well, had such a good time! felt relaxed in a few minutes of being in there and the fun started xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cool glad you had a great time , one word of warning it gets very addictive

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

we are seeming to find that is can be very addictive... you only live once so lets enjoy it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont drink too much!

nerves can make drink at an alarmingly quick rate.

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