FabSwingers.com forum: Inexperience male need advice on how to stop cumming quickly

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi, ok here goes I am a very inexperience male and since I can remember since puberty I have been wanking to get sexual relief. Growing up I wasn't getting sex as I never had gf and I wasnt a confidence out going guy socially so I wanked. I remember when I was younger I had to wank my cock awhile before I cum and boy it was good the climax when I finally came. Fast forward some 15 odd years later I still dont get sex but I still do wank but only difference this time is that wanking is not as good as it use to be when I was younger as I come pretty more quickly now. Not sure why and whether it is due to me over wanking all these years that my cock just worn out and just give up and cum quickly!

I also fear that I will cum even quicker if I were to meet someone for fun due to my inexperience. As I get hard easily and do cum quick.

Is there any way I can delay cumming too quick. Any technique I can use?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What I have done is to control and practise my wanking time, it pays of when you try and hold back when you shag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi, ok here goes I am a very inexperience male and since I can remember since puberty I have been wanking to get sexual relief. Growing up I wasn't getting sex as I never had gf and I wasnt a confidence out going guy socially so I wanked. I remember when I was younger I had to wank my cock awhile before I cum and boy it was good the climax when I finally came. Fast forward some 15 odd years later I still dont get sex but I still do wank but only difference this time is that wanking is not as good as it use to be when I was younger as I come pretty more quickly now. Not sure why and whether it is due to me over wanking all these years that my cock just worn out and just give up and cum quickly!

I also fear that I will cum even quicker if I were to meet someone for fun due to my inexperience. As I get hard easily and do cum quick.

Is there any way I can delay cumming too quick. Any technique I can use?"
yes wank so much before you meet her that you have none left

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"yes wank so much before you meet her that you have none left

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I also fear that I will cum even quicker if I were to meet someone for fun due to my inexperience. As I get hard easily and do cum quick.

Is there any way I can delay cumming too quick. Any technique I can use? yes wank so much before you meet her that you have none left

lol I said to last longer, not never cum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Car parks mate. Think of car parks and trust me, you won't be cumming...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try to stay hard for a period of time before you actually do anything. Tend to splurge faster if you rush into it from the start.

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By *ikstupp2Man
over a year ago

london

Iv recently been told of edging. Iv been doing it for years but never put a name to it. Simple when u think ur gana cum ease up if ur with a girl go down on her for a bit (not long enough to lose ur hardon) just keep bringing urself to the EDGE Then calm it down. Wen I do let urself cum ul shoot like a pro!!! Shel think ur the nuts too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Car parks mate. Think of car parks and trust me, you won't be cumming... "

Ha ha dont think car parks will stop me from cumming but i'll give it a try but doubt it will work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Check your cholesterol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Check your cholesterol "

What? why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's sweet. As long as you can get hard and ready to go again after a little rest it shouldn't be a problem. I like guy that cum quick on the first fuck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think it's sweet. As long as you can get hard and ready to go again after a little rest it shouldn't be a problem. I like guy that cum quick on the first fuck. "

Really? wow looking at you i'd cum straight away...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's sweet. As long as you can get hard and ready to go again after a little rest it shouldn't be a problem. I like guy that cum quick on the first fuck. "
harlot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its the opposite for me i do m/bate and if i wanted to i could go for as long as I want, as soon as ive had 2 pints its a no no cumming zone, also if i dont stretch my legs out i cant cum at all, i personally think ive over wanked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But the answer to ur question have a few alcoholic drinks and get some of that numbing or tingle lube to kill the sensation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Car parks mate. Think of car parks and trust me, you won't be cumming...

Ha ha dont think car parks will stop me from cumming but i'll give it a try but doubt it will work

If you get excited over car parks then you've got bigger problems than your spunk! I mean concrete.... ticket machines... parking lines... feel less excited yet?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Car parks mate. Think of car parks and trust me, you won't be cumming...

Ha ha dont think car parks will stop me from cumming but i'll give it a try but doubt it will work

If you get excited over car parks then you've got bigger problems than your spunk! I mean concrete.... ticket machines... parking lines... feel less excited yet? "

Lolz if i am with a girl it'll be difficult to force myself to think about car parks and ignore what is in front of me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Car parks mate. Think of car parks and trust me, you won't be cumming...

Ha ha dont think car parks will stop me from cumming but i'll give it a try but doubt it will work

If you get excited over car parks then you've got bigger problems than your spunk! I mean concrete.... ticket machines... parking lines... feel less excited yet?

Lolz if i am with a girl it'll be difficult to force myself to think about car parks and ignore what is in front of me

That's why you keep blowing your load! Focus on the girl until you get in, then: multi-story car parks, and if you're still struggling, NPC ones in particular. If you've got the stamina you'll still be pounding away three hours later

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Try Susan Boyle, my recent ex swore by it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Try Susan Boyle, my recent ex swore by it

Jeez, you want him to keep his erection don't you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Check your cholesterol

What? why?"

Cholesterol plays a big part in our sex lives.. Not many people know.. More likely to cause erectile disfunction than premature ejaculation though.. Got muddled

Edging is very effective of some right

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Try Susan Boyle, my recent ex swore by it

Jeez, you want him to keep his erection don't you? "

Ha ha

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By *ezjez369Man
over a year ago

london

"Car parks mate. Think of car parks and trust me, you won't be cumming... "

I think of car parks and instantly think of dogging lol, no good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just start wanking with condoms. Easy clean up and it's good practice for your first meet

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Car parks mate. Think of car parks and trust me, you won't be cumming...

I think of car parks and instantly think of dogging lol, no good."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Car parks mate. Think of car parks and trust me, you won't be cumming...

I think of car parks and instantly think of dogging lol, no good."

Is there anything that can't be made sexual!?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think of England or ask her what her name is at the start but call her anything but that and trust me you won't cum

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"i personally think ive over wanked."

Sorry but that made me laugh

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Car parks mate. Think of car parks and trust me, you won't be cumming...

I think of car parks and instantly think of dogging lol, no good.

Is there anything that can't be made sexual!?!"

Susan Boyle

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By *ezjez369Man
over a year ago

london

He wants to slow down the cumming not kill off his hard on lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Think of England or ask her what her name is at the start but call her anything but that and trust me you won't cum

sorry you got me confused...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Car parks mate. Think of car parks and trust me, you won't be cumming...

I think of car parks and instantly think of dogging lol, no good.

Is there anything that can't be made sexual!?!

Susan Boyle

Ouch!

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By *ikstupp2Man
over a year ago

london

"Car parks mate. Think of car parks and trust me, you won't be cumming...

Ha ha dont think car parks will stop me from cumming but i'll give it a try but doubt it will work

What if he decides he likes dogging?

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By *ikstupp2Man
over a year ago

london

"Think of England or ask her what her name is at the start but call her anything but that and trust me you won't cum

He wouldn't cum because the girl would kick him clean out the bed lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Think of England or ask her what her name is at the start but call her anything but that and trust me you won't cum

He wouldn't cum because the girl would kick him clean out the bed lol"

dont want that

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Maggie thatcher

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By *ihimbiherCouple
over a year ago

lightwater

"Maggie thatcher

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o no, that would turn me on hegehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Car parks mate. Think of car parks and trust me, you won't be cumming...

Ha ha dont think car parks will stop me from cumming but i'll give it a try but doubt it will work

If you get excited over car parks then you've got bigger problems than your spunk! I mean concrete.... ticket machines... parking lines... feel less excited yet?

Lolz if i am with a girl it'll be difficult to force myself to think about car parks and ignore what is in front of me

I work on car parks nationwide as a steel.erector

Worked on one in spinningfields in Manchester and in the apartment opposite was a porn film being shot,also a sexy blonde who lived opposite who is in here used to have me round twice a week for fucking sessions,now working on one in London,started last Thursday and last night met a local girl who sucked me dry.

I owe it all to multi storey car parks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't even worry about it. Just cum. Then go back to foreplay until you're hard again in a few minutes. You'll last longer the second, third, fourth times etc.

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By *fcdTV/TS
over a year ago

Southend

"I think it's sweet. As long as you can get hard and ready to go again after a little rest it shouldn't be a problem. I like guy that cum quick on the first fuck. "
At my age someone would need to take over at that point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tie a knot in it....?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Havent read all the responses so im replying to the OP.

I think the apprehension about shooting too quickly then becomes a self fulfilling prophecy and so the fact that you expect and think you will shoot will most likely lead to you shooting.

The other thing of course is that you have to train and prepare physically. You have to learn and recognise your responses to stimulation,to manage them and control them. You have to learn how to control your pelvic muscles to contract,control the strength of your erection and to clamp of your urethra when you can feel an orgasm approaching.

Whilst your managing all this, you also have to appreciate, respond to and care for the needs of your lover.

It sounds like hard work but really it isnt.

Denial is also very pleasurable. For instance last month i didnt ejaculate for four weeks. When i finally had sex i was still able to control my orgasm,it was so much more pleasurable and as my FB orgasmed i let go the biggest stream of spunk, there was so much of it i could feel it pumping in to her..

A pre sex wank might help..but dont wank too often or it can modify your sexual responses.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Tie a knot in it....?"

tie a knot where?

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

Mate, I think someone sensible mentioned edging earlier on, this is the right technique because you're too excited so you cum too soon.

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By *ripleXrateDWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I've been told to tell you stop wanking so hard. When a guy wank a lot fast n hard your training yourself to cum quickly. Google edging and start doing that and apparently it will help u go longer xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh mate,....have you thought about cock rings?

believe it or not mate it happens to us all at some point....if your meeting a lady for the first time display a bit more confidence, when your ready to cum take it out and give her some oral,then go again and so on and so on....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've been told to tell you stop wanking so hard. When a guy wank a lot fast n hard your training yourself to cum quickly. Google edging and start doing that and apparently it will help u go longer xxxxx"

yes that does make sense, i do wank hard and fast. Will look up edging...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An easy on...try mixing things up...if you feel you are going to climax then stop. Do something different..withdraw, go down on her, kiss her all over, go again. Change pace. Instead of just pounding away at a pace that gets you off slow right down and tease her...then when you give your all at the end it is a crescendo performance

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"oh mate,....have you thought about cock rings?

what is cock rings...i assume you put it around your cock? How does that help you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Car parks mate. Think of car parks and trust me, you won't be cumming...

I think of car parks and instantly think of dogging lol, no good.

Is there anything that can't be made sexual!?!

Susan Boyle

That's against the rules....I've seen her profile. ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maggie thatcher

o no, that would turn me on hegehe"

She had a boob job, should be alright according to some..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Car parks mate. Think of car parks and trust me, you won't be cumming...

Ha ha dont think car parks will stop me from cumming but i'll give it a try but doubt it will work

If you get excited over car parks then you've got bigger problems than your spunk! I mean concrete.... ticket machines... parking lines... feel less excited yet?

Lolz if i am with a girl it'll be difficult to force myself to think about car parks and ignore what is in front of me

I work on car parks nationwide as a steel.erector

I owe it all to multi storey car parks!"

Did the porn set mind you looking in? Was it a health and safety risk or did you all take turns to ogle?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's sweet. As long as you can get hard and ready to go again after a little rest it shouldn't be a problem. I like guy that cum quick on the first fuck. At my age someone would need to take over at that point."

Yeah, I'm a repeat cummer, I just need 8 hours in between ejaculations

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

You could just meet women who take it as a compliment that you can't hold back

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By *ripleXrateDWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"An easy on...try mixing things up...if you feel you are going to climax then stop. Do something different..withdraw, go down on her, kiss her all over, go again. Change pace. Instead of just pounding away at a pace that gets you off slow right down and tease her...then when you give your all at the end it is a crescendo performance

So that's what yous are up to lol xxxx

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By *lackduffyMan
over a year ago

london

Warn her her hotness is out of this world and you can cum just touching her. She will def think you done well if you cum in 5 min. It's a compliment to her. Hehehe

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Warn her her hotness is out of this world and you can cum just touching her. She will def think you done well if you cum in 5 min. It's a compliment to her. Hehehe"

This is true

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Warn her her hotness is out of this world and you can cum just touching her. She will def think you done well if you cum in 5 min. It's a compliment to her. Hehehe"

sound like a good idea and advice...just now need to find a girl...mmmm..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do women mind if a guy comes quickly ?

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By *ikstupp2Man
over a year ago

london

"Do women mind if a guy comes quickly ?"

Spose it depends if she gets hers lol

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

"Do women mind if a guy comes quickly ?"

I really don't mind at all especially if he can go again a little later. I have even had a couple of guys actually come in their pants and that has really quite excited me

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By *anetandNickCouple
over a year ago

Ross-on-Wye

Cum, then cum again.

I love it when a guy cums quickly, splashes me all over, then keeps wanking while looking at messy me!

Janet xxxxxx (cum addict)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Car parks mate. Think of car parks and trust me, you won't be cumming...

Ha ha dont think car parks will stop me from cumming but i'll give it a try but doubt it will work

If you get excited over car parks then you've got bigger problems than your spunk! I mean concrete.... ticket machines... parking lines... feel less excited yet?

Lolz if i am with a girl it'll be difficult to force myself to think about car parks and ignore what is in front of me

I agree! Think of NCP, the price of them will stop anyone cumming!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try wanking with your ankles. It'll change your life.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"Car parks mate. Think of car parks and trust me, you won't be cumming...

Ha ha dont think car parks will stop me from cumming but i'll give it a try but doubt it will work

If you get excited over car parks then you've got bigger problems than your spunk! I mean concrete.... ticket machines... parking lines... feel less excited yet? "

OMG - That's working better than talking dirty to me. I literally don't think I can contain myself a moment longer. OMG, FUCK. .... Splurg.. Splat. !!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do women mind if a guy comes quickly ?

I really don't mind at all especially if he can go again a little later. I have even had a couple of guys actually come in their pants and that has really quite excited me"

Really? Kind of nice knowing that im not alone cumming quick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do women mind if a guy comes quickly ?

I really don't mind at all especially if he can go again a little later. I have even had a couple of guys actually come in their pants and that has really quite excited me"

This happened to a "friend" of mine...we met on here but had decided we were beyond that and would be just friends.

Didn't stop her ringing me up for her to come round so I could "sort her out" as he had just left her very frustrated....she nicknamed him "pandaman" (eats, shoots and leaves).

It becomes a problem if you leave the lady this way......if it happens then apologise. Blame her stunning beauty/virginially tight pussy and or both. But make sure you hang around to give her pleasure....you will soon stiffen up again and last longer the second and subsequent times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If all the mental work doesn't help...

Double wrap it with 2 condoms to dull some of the sensation...

Or put some teething gell on it before you put the rubber on. In the states a popular brand is Oragel. It's got lidocaine in it and will numb the sensation a bit. Don't use a lot or you'll be pushing rope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just think of the Queen ! Works every time for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am afraid it is all down to cognitive behavioural therapy in the fact that there isn't actually anything wrong with you but it is about learning control, I used to be very much like you and cum very quickly indeed, you need to stop wanking so much to start with and try edging, slowly masturbate and just before you lose control and cum stop, let it go soft and then start again, keep doing this until you learn the control. You will get there in the end.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing wrong with cumming quick. Some cum quick some cum late. Whole point isn't it

As long as you can go for round two you're ok in my opinion

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks good advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also fear that I will cum even quicker if I were to meet someone for fun due to my inexperience. As I get hard easily and do cum quick.

Is there any way I can delay cumming too quick. Any technique I can use?"

Are you a Wanker

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Guess so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try relax , deep breaths etc , try when having wee stoping flow for count off 5 , then letting it flow and repeat etc .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mate all you have to do is breathe and when you feel asif you are gonna go off just focus more on what you are doing than what you are feeling . I always just focus on making sure it is pleasurable for the woman and it takes your mind off it . But keep breathing and calm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have on account when playing moved from maybe her giving me oral to me giving her oral in order to stop myself from arriving to early and communication helps between each other when meeting that way you'll both get the best out of each other. I love synchronized cumming myself but its not easy but practice makes perfect

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Mate all you have to do is breathe and when you feel asif you are gonna go off just focus more on what you are doing than what you are feeling . I always just focus on making sure it is pleasurable for the woman and it takes your mind off it . But keep breathing and calm"

Thanks, good advice

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

I also fear that I will cum even quicker if I were to meet someone for fun due to my inexperience. As I get hard easily and do cum quick.

Is there any way I can delay cumming too quick. Any technique I can use?"

Options available:

1) Have a safety wank before you meet - it will slow down your time-to-cum for the next one

2) Condoms with some sort of delay ingredient in them

3) Don't rush - take it slow... No point of thrusting 50 times a second if you cum in 2 seconds. Go slow - when you feel like you are getting near - change position or do something different (go down on her or something).

4) Practice really does make perfect

And most of important of all - DON'T worry about it - that is a sure-fire way to make things worse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Work on your cardiovascular fitness and don't think about it too much in your or you'll just shoot your load straight away.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I also fear that I will cum even quicker if I were to meet someone for fun due to my inexperience. As I get hard easily and do cum quick.

Is there any way I can delay cumming too quick. Any technique I can use?

Options available:

1) Have a safety wank before you meet - it will slow down your time-to-cum for the next one

2) Condoms with some sort of delay ingredient in them

4) Practice really does make perfect

And most of important of all - DON'T worry about it - that is a sure-fire way to make things worse"

Thanks

some good advice

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By *urlyshirleyCouple
over a year ago

Costa del Sol

Didn't read all the answers so sorry if I'm covering same ground. Wank 24 hours before - yes. Tell her you'll probably shoot early the first time because she's so damn sexy (NOT because you're so inexperienced) second time will be better for you both. You can do a second time, yeah? Different when its real, youll be able to. There's all sorts of other ways of making her feel good, at worst. The MAIN thing is to make her feel good. Then she'll be up for seconds. You owe her that feel-good.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Didn't read all the answers so sorry if I'm covering same ground. Wank 24 hours before - yes. Tell her you'll probably shoot early the first time because she's so damn sexy (NOT because you're so inexperienced) second time will be better for you both. You can do a second time, yeah? Different when its real, youll be able to. There's all sorts of other ways of making her feel good, at worst. The MAIN thing is to make her feel good. Then she'll be up for seconds. You owe her that feel-good. "

Thats good - turn a negative into positive

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Do women mind if a guy comes quickly ?"

I don't mind, I take it as a compliment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do women mind if a guy comes quickly ?

I don't mind, I take it as a compliment

You probably wouldn't if the shag lasted less than 30 seconds ?

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By *aul happyMan
over a year ago

tilgate crawley

superglue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind if a guy comes quickly first time, as long as he can go again shortly after....

I met someone once that had been taught to edge, but didn't really do it properly. So he had to keep telling me to stop (or he stopped), break for a few mins and then go again. That was not fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't mind if a guy comes quickly first time, as long as he can go again shortly after....

I met someone once that had been taught to edge, but didn't really do it properly. So he had to keep telling me to stop (or he stopped), break for a few mins and then go again. That was not fun "

Tell ya once I've shot my load I'm to damp sensitive for any more for a good couple of hours which is why I make sure the lady is satisfied first

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By *aveandkate35Couple
over a year ago

telford

I used to suffer from this when I was younger. I was convinced it was a physical issue, to the point I even started thinking of surgery!! - and while I tried all the things suggested above, like going down on my partner, the problem was always there.

Turned out it was 100% psychological. I wasn't in a good relationship and the more I worried, the worse it got. I was always trying so hard to make sure she had a great time, it just became to much. I had spent all of my sexual life so far trying to find different ways to please women, while battling not being able to get my Cock near them for more than a few seconds.

We split up.....and I got d*unk at a party one night and ended up shagging this woman at a hotel. Truth be told she'd been coming onto me all night and I wasn't really in the mood for it. Basically I didn't really care if I did or I didn't. And that was the moment... We screwed all night... Every position we could think of, everyway we wanted.... I was able to control myself - I was, selfishly, taking what I wanted how I wanted. I was definitely being quite dominant about it. Very selfish, for the first time in my life. I'd gone from lap dog to top dog in the bedroom.

The next morning, after sobering up and having the best sex of my life from a one night stand, decided to meet up the following week... And the week after that... 15 years later Kate and I still love nights in hotels.

Now, when I told Kate I used to suffer from this she literally spat her drink out and still thinks I'm winding her up.

My point is, try and focus on yourself. That doesn't mean you have to be a selfish lover. - you'll naturally of got out of the habit of doing this for fear of cumming too quickly, but embrace it, understand it. Sex is about MUTAL enjoyment. Most stories of premature ejaculation you hear, the guy almost loathes cumming - STOP IT!! - you're making it worse. Wank yourself - find out what makes you cum quickly. Enjoy it.

Focus on the positives. Most people who have ever suffered from this spend years finding other ways of pleasuring - get this cracked and you suddenly have an arsenal of sexual experience at your fingertips... Cock... Tongue...

Edging can help. And other techniques others have mentioned but ultimately fix your head.

Hope something in there helps, but if nothing else, remember this IS fixable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do women mind if a guy comes quickly ?

I don't mind, I take it as a compliment

You probably wouldn't if the shag lasted less than 30 seconds ?"

Exactly this has happened a few times now on meets , and it's the ultimate compliment

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By *entle giraffeMan
over a year ago

Minehead

Really good advice and very encouraging story

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

Whenever something goes wrong around the house, I kick it and if still doesn't work, then hit it with a hammer. Have you tried that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also fear that I will cum even quicker if I were to meet someone for fun due to my inexperience. As I get hard easily and do cum quick.

Is there any way I can delay cumming too quick. Any technique I can use?"

Try punching urself in the cock or balls lol

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Do women mind if a guy comes quickly ?

I don't mind, I take it as a compliment

You probably wouldn't if the shag lasted less than 30 seconds ?"

It wouldn't bother me at all, there's more to a fun sex session than the shag part

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Place one, single chilli seed in yr japs eye, prior to erection. Ensure seed is removed prior to intercourse.

Wash cock in two quarts of white spirit, one pinch of bicarbonate of soda and a teaspoon tartar paste.

Perfect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look up edging. Get yourself some lube, put some time aside and go slow. You control when you come, not your dick, it's important to establish that. Don't carry on if it starts to go numb, but the longer you hold back, the orgasm will be more intense and you'll get more endurance out of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you are in the woman fucking away like a dog on heat give the lady a machine called a taser and get her to taser you just before climax that seems like a fairly good solution to me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do women mind if a guy comes quickly ?

I don't mind, I take it as a compliment

You probably wouldn't if the shag lasted less than 30 seconds ?

Exactly this has happened a few times now on meets , and it's the ultimate compliment

Good to hear this is quite common

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