FabSwingers.com forum: First timer

By *attywailer OP Man
over a year ago

Lithuania, Klaipeda

Heya, just wanted to ask for some pointers before meeting in person with a lady or a couple, as i am new to this swinging world and am very curious, as just the thought about it makes me tremble from fear and curiosity as i would like to try and have new experience

People here look friendly but very picky, as am getting brutaly ignored, while just trying to have a friendly chat, haha, could be the profile description, i can't lie, im bad at those, haha

Happy swinging

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By *inkyKellyCDTV/TS
over a year ago

Coventry

Just to say - in your profile it says something like 'trannies can fuck off' which is uh... probably the least subtle way to go about it. The word 'tranny' is an insult/slur in itself, too, Tgirl/CD/TV is fine.

Most people are a bit more 'live and let live' about stuff they're not into here, so you might want to adjust that if you're interested in not putting people off

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By *leur de lisWoman
over a year ago

Buxton

Be honest don't drink excessively and meet socially first then you are not committed to something that could make you feel bad later.

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By *inkyKellyCDTV/TS
over a year ago

Coventry

But anyway - first time nerves are normal, don't worry! As long as you don't let it get to you and fight the urge to make an excuse you'll realise what fun it all is

If chatting to people first feels like it'll work for you then by all means do that

And yeah, the ratio of guys to women on here is heavily weighed against the males, so don't be put off too badly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile would put me off.

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By *attywailer OP Man
over a year ago

Lithuania, Klaipeda

Ahh was really fed up that time for no reason, after reading my profile description i felt ashamed.. if someone got insulted, biggest apologies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its hard for single blokes, as there are so many compared to couples and single females. Maybe best trying a club to get verifications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just to say - in your profile it says something like 'trannies can fuck off' which is uh... probably the least subtle way to go about it. The word 'tranny' is an insult/slur in itself, too, Tgirl/CD/TV is fine.

Most people are a bit more 'live and let live' about stuff they're not into here, so you might want to adjust that if you're interested in not putting people off

Im totally live and let live , have gay friends and ts , I'm totally straight but they're lovely people so yeh , live and let live

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ahh was really fed up that time for no reason, after reading my profile description i felt ashamed.. if someone got insulted, biggest apologies.

Pulling faces to me shows a lack of confidence and does make a person look like an idiot , the type of idiot you see filling himself fills beer on a weekend to the Pinot her first spend most the night bent over the railings throwing up , then sat in the corner at the nightspot motionless , I'd try looking at least a tiny bit serious in yr pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the iPhone and auto bloody predict , sorry and sorry if my thoughts on yr pic offend just what I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Heya, just wanted to ask for some pointers before meeting in person with a lady or a couple, as i am new to this swinging world and am very curious, as just the thought about it makes me tremble from fear and curiosity as i would like to try and have new experience

People here look friendly but very picky, as am getting brutaly ignored, while just trying to have a friendly chat, haha, could be the profile description, i can't lie, im bad at those, haha

Happy swinging

I will meet you

And your not a tranny lover

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not structure to your profile at all, just a big slab of words, most wouldn't finish till the end I would imagine because there is nothing in it to grab attention.

Put your sexual interests down, if you'd be willing to accom or pay for hotels if the person was right for you etc.

Add a bit of humour and try and get your personality to shine through a bit, if you are cheeky or a charmer IRL let it show through.

Pics could do with a bit of work, body shot without cock, maybe a cheeky bum pic and maybe a bit more serious face pic?

Get some exposure, post on the forums, go into your local swinging chat room on here and make some friends, have a chat and don't let it all be about the sex, you'll find yourself having more fun and getting less frustrated.

You get out what you put in!

Hope this helps

M&M

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And I ofc completely miss the point of the post entirely... Haha!

We find the easiest way to get over the big nerves is to actually chat to the people we meet before actually meeting, it takes away a bit of the unknown and gives you something to continue to chat about when you actually meet.

Don't drink a ton before meeting or you'll end up making an ass out of yourself at some point!

Just go with the flow, swinging should be fun and there's always going to be an element of nerves before any meet but that's half the fun!

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