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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Afternoon.

Is it just me or are all single males struggling on this site? I've been trying to mix up my messages make them more personal rather than generic and getting a reply is like pulling teeth. Been trying to put some graft on but nothing.

Is it just down to sheer numbers of single men on here?

I know I don't have public face or dick pics but I like to be discreet.

Happy hunting.

Tommy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think unless you have verifications it's going to be very difficult to get anywhere on here mate, your best bet is getting to a club and talking of people. Even if you don't play, get there fab name and verify each other afterwards, then you've got the ball rolling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talking to* people sorry

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I took the first step and got photo verified. I thought that would count for something.

Thought we were all in it together.

Share the lust.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm struggling with the same thing, but its not just on Fab. Putting some pics up, even g-rated, gives you some credibility, and DEFINATELY get verified. You can make pics private, and attach them to your mssg. What sounds like discrete behavior to you, looks like a cheating husband to everyone else.

To understand the problem, the couples and ladies in particular get bombarded with requests(a lady friend of mine got 107 in 3 days) from pushy single guys. The stuff they try to pull, is just astonishing. There are a lot of first class jerks out there.

The bottom line is that it does make it hard for respectable guys to get any kind of success. Keep trying, pay attention to their profiles and show that you've actually read them.

I don't do well online, myself. I've been accused of being "deceptively clean cut" online. And this apparently doesn't catch their eye. I have much better success at meeting in the club and then reconnecting online.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The site is saturated with men, patience is the key lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would you really meet a 99 year old? Your profile, as it stands, tells me nothing about what you are looking for in a couple or woman, likes, dislikes etc, we all have preferences. Ladies also like pics, not face, but body pics, bum, torso etc.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

To be fair I also find it a lot easier in a club. I understand that the females will generate 50-100 messages a day most probably.

Looks like I'll stick to the clubs.

Understand your point about being discreet but when you work and are close to family etc you don't want it catching up with you. My personal opinion anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I took the first step and got photo verified. I thought that would count for something.

Thought we were all in it together.

Share the lust."

Why would you think that?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Would you really meet a 99 year old? Your profile, as it stands, tells me nothing about what you are looking for in a couple or woman, likes, dislikes etc, we all have preferences. Ladies also like pics, not face, but body pics, bum, torso etc."

Point taken on board. No I wouldn't meet a 99 year old lol. It's just with work and life small details like that I didn't take no notice off when quickly setting up a profile.

Maybe that was my downfall.

Must add more pics.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I took the first step and got photo verified. I thought that would count for something.

Thought we were all in it together.

Share the lust.

Why would you think that?"

It was just a tongue in cheek comment.

Lighten up.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I will always reply to anyone that as taken the time to be polite and read the profile I've gone to effort to write and try to represent myself in. Unfortunately it's a rare guy that does actual go to the effort of doing so and making a good impression that way

I'm an eye for an eye kind of girl, if they can't be arsed to read and show respect I can't be arsed to reply and show them respect

Some will deem that harsh but I'm not going to change myself and my filtering process because more men on the Internet may want to shag me

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley


"I will always reply to anyone that as taken the time to be polite and read the profile I've gone to effort to write and try to represent myself in. Unfortunately it's a rare guy that does actual go to the effort of doing so and making a good impression that way

I'm an eye for an eye kind of girl, if they can't be arsed to read and show respect I can't be arsed to reply and show them respect

Some will deem that harsh but I'm not going to change myself and my filtering process because more men on the Internet may want to shag me "

Not harsh at all curvymamma! If you want success lads up your game, moaning isn't attractive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I will always reply to anyone that as taken the time to be polite and read the profile I've gone to effort to write and try to represent myself in. Unfortunately it's a rare guy that does actual go to the effort of doing so and making a good impression that way

I'm an eye for an eye kind of girl, if they can't be arsed to read and show respect I can't be arsed to reply and show them respect

Some will deem that harsh but I'm not going to change myself and my filtering process because more men on the Internet may want to shag me

Not harsh at all curvymamma! If you want success lads up your game, moaning isn't attractive. "

Not moaning just asking advice sonny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I took the first step and got photo verified. I thought that would count for something.

Thought we were all in it together.

Share the lust.

Why would you think that?

It was just a tongue in cheek comment.

Lighten up."

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

It's possible to be successful on here.

I'm not saying I'm super-successful and God's gift (I'm definitely not), but I've managed to get meets. I'm a 46 year-old bloke with hair issues!

It really is a matter of being patient, sociable and getting known in a non-pushy, relaxed way:

Your profile is a key selling point. I'm sure you're a top guy, but there's nothing in yours to differentiate you from thousands of other blokes. Sorry, just giving an honest opinion.

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

Good spelling though (at a glance) - you'd be amazed how many profiles are barely intelligible! It does matter.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Good spelling though (at a glance) - you'd be amazed how many profiles are barely intelligible! It does matter."

That is true enough

I'm dyslexic with an iPhone that appears to have Tourette's syndrome but I still manage to communicate sufficiently via the written word

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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago

You Dont Need to Know, right now


"Is it just me or are all single males struggling on this site? "

I always recommend using the chat rooms. It's difficult to make a good first impression using the inbox system. And then there's the wait while you think "will they/she reply" ... and then the confidence knock when your well-thought-out message is deleted without reply. In the chat rooms, however, you can usually get a real-time response to your greetings. And if nothing else, you can learn how the popular men interact with women/couples. Providing you chat politely, you should get a good welcome. Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is it just me or are all single males struggling on this site?

I always recommend using the chat rooms. It's difficult to make a good first impression using the inbox system. And then there's the wait while you think "will they/she reply" ... and then the confidence knock when your well-thought-out message is deleted without reply. In the chat rooms, however, you can usually get a real-time response to your greetings. And if nothing else, you can learn how the popular men interact with women/couples. Providing you chat politely, you should get a good welcome. Good luck!"
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Thank you for the advice.

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

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