FabSwingers.com forum: Needing Help

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi folks,

I'm just wondering if anyone can give me advice on my profile and whether I should change it.

And also how to message people in the initial message to make contact.

I know that's maybe a strange question to ask but I've tried being myself, a genuinely nice guy that just wants to chat (and no one wants to talk), I've tried being dirty, and I've tried telling people what I think they want to hear. None seem to work.

I know I'm not Brad Pitt or anything like that but I wouldn't say I was horrible looking and I know I'm a nice guy who could get on with anyone if given the chance.

So how do I get people to talk? Any advice you could give would be much appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi folks,

I'm just wondering if anyone can give me advice on my profile and whether I should change it.

And also how to message people in the initial message to make contact.

I know I'm not Brad Pitt or anything like that but I wouldn't say I was horrible looking and I know I'm a nice guy who could get on with anyone if given the chance.

So how do I get people to talk? Any advice you could give would be much appreciated "

It just looks like there's not much effort gone into it.

One photo will never get you noticed and certainly not one of your cock.

Lose the recent "poor me" status.

Most important, get a face to face veri, not easy I know but if you go to a club and just be friendly and chat to people, I'm sure someone will vouch for you.

Be a bit more imaginative with your description of yourself and what your looking for.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

You're a cock. That's what you want people to think, right? Hence the photo, I assume. Try a variety of photos and keep it a bit mysterious for photos. For profile - do a search in the forum for advice as men ask your question several times a day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be yourself.. Read profiles.. Send a face picture with first message.. And be patient x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hi folks,

I'm just wondering if anyone can give me advice on my profile and whether I should change it.

And also how to message people in the initial message to make contact.

I know I'm not Brad Pitt or anything like that but I wouldn't say I was horrible looking and I know I'm a nice guy who could get on with anyone if given the chance.

So how do I get people to talk? Any advice you could give would be much appreciated

It just looks like there's not much effort gone into it.

One photo will never get you noticed and certainly not one of your cock.

Lose the recent "poor me" status.

Most important, get a face to face veri, not easy I know but if you go to a club and just be friendly and chat to people, I'm sure someone will vouch for you.

Be a bit more imaginative with your description of yourself and what your looking for. "

Thanks for the advice. I've lost the status. I used to be verified on and old profile. I came back a couple of months ago. People that verified me are no longer members. As for pics, I'm not 100% comfortable with making a face pic public but I could take plenty of other body pics and clothed pics. I get no one really wants a cock pic but it's the easiest to put up because it gives the least away.

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester

You need to change the pic. You're not smiling and it's got a darkish tint to it. I'd also have more non cock pics.

Your profile isn't worded well at all.

Women don't want to read what you think you are like in your profile, it's your chance to showcase yourself and show how fun, exciting, interesting you are. Make it those things.

The bit about a leap of faith won't help you at all! That conveys the message "I'm risky".

I'd suggest that you re do your profile and put more thought into it.

Good luck!

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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago

You Dont Need to Know, right now

"I'm just wondering if anyone can give me advice on my profile and whether I should change it.

And also how to message people in the initial message to make contact.

I know that's maybe a strange question to ask .... "

It's not a strange question to ask. Half a dozen guys (at least!) ask the same question every day. Try reading through those threads, and you will see some common themes emerging.

Put up a picture of you smiling (you say you're a good-humoured guy, but you're not smiling). Put your dick-pic in private, and offer to send it to people if they request it. Think more carefully about being a 'people-pleaser' ... that comes across that you are quite desperate, and will literally do anything for a meet. You must have some preferences of your own, and you are allowed to mention them. It's YOUR profile, after all!

And have patience. 99% of threads on here are about how 99% of messages are deleted without a reply. OK, maybe I'm exaggerating LOL, but I do delete most messages without replying. Try using the chat rooms to get chatting to people. At least you will usually get a 'hello' back, and it's a good way to learn quickly what kind of chat works well with the type of swinger you hope to appeal to. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

be patient, have faith, relax.

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