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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What does it mean if you send someone a message, they read it, don't reply to it, don't delete it, but just hold on to it? Because I would take the message being deleted as some sort of response. So is there a reason people do that?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Not had time to reply or check out your profile yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why's it matter?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What does it mean if you send someone a message, they read it, don't reply to it, don't delete it, but just hold on to it? Because I would take the message being deleted as some sort of response. So is there a reason people do that?"
it just goes over end of their message page

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"What does it mean if you send someone a message, they read it, don't reply to it, don't delete it, but just hold on to it? Because I would take the message being deleted as some sort of response. So is there a reason people do that?"

Many, many reasons but the main reason we do it is we can't be bloomin bothered to delete. There isn't a secret language concealed in the way people treat their messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Delete all your sent mail as soon as you've sent it and stress over it no more!

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By *andS33Couple
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Do it all the time, doesn't mean anything other than I'm too lazy to delete them lol

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I hold on to messages for quite a long time sometimes. Its when I like the message, like the profile, but not sure if I can fit a meet in my life at that moment.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

If I read the message and want to reply I will do so straight away. If I don't reply then that read message will be in my bulk delete pile for later.

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

I've learnt not to try and find a reason or understand why people do things on here mate!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the responses, all!

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Couples might also have one person reading it and then leaving it for the other to read.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"What does it mean if you send someone a message, they read it, don't reply to it, don't delete it, but just hold on to it? Because I would take the message being deleted as some sort of response. So is there a reason people do that?"

Yep.. it's a code that means message them again*..

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*the author accepts no responsibility for the actions of others if you follow this advice...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've received more responses to this message post than from all of the inbox messages I've sent to women, during my whole 5 weeks here. Can't figure it!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

'Cos I value feedback. Even a deleted message is a form of feedback.

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

It means that they have read it and not deleted it.

That's it.

There is no secret language...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I've received more responses to this message post than from all of the inbox messages I've sent to women, during my whole 5 weeks here. Can't figure it!"

Responding to your question here carries no perceived obligation, responding to a private message often does in the sender's opinion hence women often find it easier to leave messages unanswered.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"'Cos I value feedback. Even a deleted message is a form of feedback."

Most new guys gripe when their messages are deleted

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"'cos I value feedback. Even a deleted message is feedback."

Valuing feedback is one thing being entitled to it another. It's tough for single men on here according to what I've read and it seems to me that over thinking or trying to infer motive will lead to madness.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"'Cos I value feedback. Even a deleted message is a form of feedback.

Most new guys gripe when their messages are deleted"

All new guys gripe when their messages are deleted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What does it mean if you send someone a message, they read it, don't reply to it, don't delete it, but just hold on to it? Because I would take the message being deleted as some sort of response. So is there a reason people do that?"

Usually because I'm lazy.

I might be going to come back and check you out later...... Or I might just be being lazy

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"'Cos I value feedback. Even a deleted message is a form of feedback.

Most new guys gripe when their messages are deleted

All new guys gripe when their messages are deleted."

That's why the OP is different

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I know that some people don't believe that a guy can be straight and attracted to trans women or feminine gay guys. But I suspect that a woman, with that kind of a judgey point of view, probably wouldn't be sexually compatible with me.

Why do women object to seeing men nude. I sometimes find it kind of offensive when women speak of male nudity like it's something vile.

And what's the objection to seeing what you're getting, before agreeing to meet for sex?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I know that some people don't believe that a guy can be straight and attracted to trans women or feminine gay guys. But I suspect that a woman, with that kind of a judgey point of view, probably wouldn't be sexually compatible with me.

Why do women object to seeing men nude. I sometimes find it kind of offensive when women speak of male nudity like it's something vile.

And what's the objection to seeing what you're getting, before agreeing to meet for sex?"

OK you brought your profile pics up before me.

Your pics are not attractive. There are about a thousand better poses a guy can make when having full frontal naked pics taken. Apollo's belt, bums, upper chest.... so many! You look like you're posing for an ad for a sack of potatoes.

I find male nudity exciting and attractive, when the men show it that way.

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains


"I hold on to messages for quite a long time sometimes. Its when I like the message, like the profile, but not sure if I can fit a meet in my life at that moment."

I do this a lot. I did it yesterday but the guy waited 4 minutes after I read the message before messaging again to rant at me for not replying so he's off the to-do list

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Why do women object to seeing men nude. I sometimes find it kind of offensive when women speak of male nudity like it's something vile.

And what's the objection to seeing what you're getting, before agreeing to meet for sex?"

I like male nudity, but not just cock pics for the sake of it. I judge a guy on other things.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the tip.

Do you find my pics unattractive because you find me inherently unattractive? Or would you find my pics, and by extension me, attractive if I they were of me posing as suggested?

I'll have to dig quite deep to find my Apollos Belt

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Thanks for the tip.

Do you find my pics unattractive because you find me inherently unattractive? Or would you find my pics, and by extension me, attractive if I they were of me posing as suggested?

I'll have to dig quite deep to find my Apollos Belt "

I've never met you, so I can't tell you if I find you unattractive. I find your pictures unattractive.

Your pictures are of your body, not you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the tip.

Do you find my pics unattractive because you find me inherently unattractive? Or would you find my pics, and by extension me, attractive if I they were of me posing as suggested?

I'll have to dig quite deep to find my Apollos Belt

I've never met you, so I can't tell you if I find you unattractive. I find your pictures unattractive.

Your pictures are of your body, not you."

This last line is so very true of so many profiles. Hoping mine isn't in this category now!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So what if you replace "me" for "my body" in the question?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"So what if you replace "me" for "my body" in the question?"

I don't do that, and most women don't either.

You're asking for help. You want to know why women may not reply to your messages. I am shallow enough to say I won't meet you on the pics you have on your profile right now, but if I met you in person and you attracted me who knows?

Take better pictures.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ah! So the important thing is to show you've put thought into the photos. To illustrate you're not just a lazy chancer.

I getcha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It just means the message has been read and not deleted!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why should he do all the chasing? He's already taken time/effort to send a message why can't the women do the same? Common courtesy i call it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What does it mean if you send someone a message, they read it, don't reply to it, don't delete it, but just hold on to it? Because I would take the message being deleted as some sort of response. So is there a reason people do that?"

For me it means im not interested.. i dont delete my messages right away i usually do a bulk delete all read messages every few days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've received more responses to this message post than from all of the inbox messages I've sent to women, during my whole 5 weeks here. Can't figure it!"

Welcome to the world of fab. Men out number women and couples on here. Some find it easier not to respond and all because it can just start an argument. For instance you could have seen read delete and thought ignorant so and so and messaged again and just landed up being blocked or reported. 5 weeks isn't that long mu bf had a single profile on here took 6 months to get a meet.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Messages not replied to should be assumed as meaning there is no current interest.

You can speculate but I think you need to move on. Just allow your energies to refocus on the recipients should they ever reply.

NASA are currently investigating a black hole that appears to absorb messages that didn't get deleted.

Move on.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

And another one bites the dust...

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France


"And another one bites the dust..."

ROFL

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

We read.

He deleted.

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