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"Cheese is good. No idea about marriage help. We find going away for a night or two and meeting people off here for one of those helps us. We love a laugh and being relaxed helps us to communicate better. However we talk about anything and everything anyway. Sorry we couldn't be of more help to you guys. " No worries, thanks for your comments anyway. We don't have any major problems, it's just hard to make time for these kind of things with an everyday routine and it would be nice to get away and have more time for it | |||
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"Cheese is good. No idea about marriage help. We find going away for a night or two and meeting people off here for one of those helps us. We love a laugh and being relaxed helps us to communicate better. However we talk about anything and everything anyway. Sorry we couldn't be of more help to you guys. No worries, thanks for your comments anyway. We don't have any major problems, it's just hard to make time for these kind of things with an everyday routine and it would be nice to get away and have more time for it" This might sound daft but we find we communicate much better away from the house so we make time to go for a walk, even ten minutes. You aren't looking directly at each other which seems to make certain things easier to say and you are out of your normal environment. Google "how to communicate with your partner" too. Enjoy  | |||
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"Cheese is good. No idea about marriage help. We find going away for a night or two and meeting people off here for one of those helps us. We love a laugh and being relaxed helps us to communicate better. However we talk about anything and everything anyway. Sorry we couldn't be of more help to you guys. No worries, thanks for your comments anyway. We don't have any major problems, it's just hard to make time for these kind of things with an everyday routine and it would be nice to get away and have more time for it This might sound daft but we find we communicate much better away from the house so we make time to go for a walk, even ten minutes. You aren't looking directly at each other which seems to make certain things easier to say and you are out of your normal environment. Google "how to communicate with your partner" too. Enjoy "That sounds like a good idea and pretty easy to implement - thanks | |||
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"Cheese is good. No idea about marriage help. We find going away for a night or two and meeting people off here for one of those helps us. We love a laugh and being relaxed helps us to communicate better. However we talk about anything and everything anyway. Sorry we couldn't be of more help to you guys. No worries, thanks for your comments anyway. We don't have any major problems, it's just hard to make time for these kind of things with an everyday routine and it would be nice to get away and have more time for it This might sound daft but we find we communicate much better away from the house so we make time to go for a walk, even ten minutes. You aren't looking directly at each other which seems to make certain things easier to say and you are out of your normal environment. Google "how to communicate with your partner" too. Enjoy
That sounds like a good idea and pretty easy to implement - thanks "Yes it is. We started doing it years ago for exercise and found that because there was nothing else to do but walk and talk that's what we did  | |||
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"How about going to a health spa together ? Lovely relaxing treatments, floating in a pool and spending time together. Walking in the grounds can be lovely too. Bath Spa is amazing with a rooftop pool for when the sun goes down. Aaahhhh. I think it is really good that you know that you want to do something to improve your marriage. All the best " That is appealing, the only thing it wouldn't have is some sort of expert to talk to about things. I think it would be good to have someone ask us questions and make us think about things that day to day, we wouldn't find time to. | |||
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"How about going to a health spa together ? Lovely relaxing treatments, floating in a pool and spending time together. Walking in the grounds can be lovely too. Bath Spa is amazing with a rooftop pool for when the sun goes down. Aaahhhh. I think it is really good that you know that you want to do something to improve your marriage. All the best That is appealing, the only thing it wouldn't have is some sort of expert to talk to about things. I think it would be good to have someone ask us questions and make us think about things that day to day, we wouldn't find time to. " All you need to do is pick a place you want to visit, and then maybe book some time with a relationship professional in that city. Maybe that would work for you? | |||
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"How about going to a health spa together ? Lovely relaxing treatments, floating in a pool and spending time together. Walking in the grounds can be lovely too. Bath Spa is amazing with a rooftop pool for when the sun goes down. Aaahhhh. I think it is really good that you know that you want to do something to improve your marriage. All the best That is appealing, the only thing it wouldn't have is some sort of expert to talk to about things. I think it would be good to have someone ask us questions and make us think about things that day to day, we wouldn't find time to. All you need to do is pick a place you want to visit, and then maybe book some time with a relationship professional in that city. Maybe that would work for you? " That is what it's looking like, it would be nice to be in a group doing the same thing as us, but it seems the groups are there for crisis couples  | |||
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"So you want a place where couples who aren't having any problems in their relationship all get together in a big group? Somewhere that is away from your everyday life, an escape or get away from the norm? Have you considered Swingfields? " We'd like a place where a group gets together to take some time out of normal life to work on their relationship in a general sense (i.e. not repairing anything) just a bit of fine tuning. We're not really looking for it to end in swinging, which is assumed is what swingfields was? | |||
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"Has anyone ever been on a good weekend away for couples to enhance their marriage? I tried googling it but just found lots of things for marriages in crisis, which isn't our situation. We just want a nice weekend, where we make time for our marriage with the help of some experts who can help with the kind of things you always need to work on (e.g. communication). Any recommendations? " Private messaged you some ideas. M x | |||
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"sounds like you need to create a 'sacred space for the two of you. a time out place of sorts.. you could do this in imaginative ways..make a den in the living room..constructing it together formal or informal ceremonial space for example a bonfire and a talking stick, or if you are wanting to allow your inner children to play, use puppets or masks and talk on another level to each other...lots of stuff comes up this way in the world of play..so many people tell things to puppets, even sock ones, that they wouldnt find easy to say in 'every day' time.... treat it like a dream space..with formal entry and exit points..and dont forget silence and space is also valuable and possibly some writing paper and some pens or crayons... draw each other pictures when you cant express something. always finish on a thankful excercise...10 things i am thankful for today..also set the fact during the time when you would like to do it again..so that what doesnt come up in one couples dreaming session can be addressed in the next one... i wish you both every happiness, may you find even more fun and joy in your relationship through whatever method you choose xx" Well yeah that's kind of it but I honestly couldn't do that stuff at home or without someone politely forcing me to! | |||
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"sounds like you need to create a 'sacred space for the two of you. a time out place of sorts.. you could do this in imaginative ways..make a den in the living room..constructing it together formal or informal ceremonial space for example a bonfire and a talking stick, or if you are wanting to allow your inner children to play, use puppets or masks and talk on another level to each other...lots of stuff comes up this way in the world of play..so many people tell things to puppets, even sock ones, that they wouldnt find easy to say in 'every day' time.... treat it like a dream space..with formal entry and exit points..and dont forget silence and space is also valuable and possibly some writing paper and some pens or crayons... draw each other pictures when you cant express something. always finish on a thankful excercise...10 things i am thankful for today..also set the fact during the time when you would like to do it again..so that what doesnt come up in one couples dreaming session can be addressed in the next one... i wish you both every happiness, may you find even more fun and joy in your relationship through whatever method you choose xx Well yeah that's kind of it but I honestly couldn't do that stuff at home or without someone politely forcing me to! " i could order you from here | |||
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"So you want a place where couples who aren't having any problems in their relationship all get together in a big group? Somewhere that is away from your everyday life, an escape or get away from the norm? Have you considered Swingfields? We'd like a place where a group gets together to take some time out of normal life to work on their relationship in a general sense (i.e. not repairing anything) just a bit of fine tuning. We're not really looking for it to end in swinging, which is assumed is what swingfields was? " Mine was more of a tongue in cheek response  | |||
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"So you want a place where couples who aren't having any problems in their relationship all get together in a big group? Somewhere that is away from your everyday life, an escape or get away from the norm? Have you considered Swingfields? We'd like a place where a group gets together to take some time out of normal life to work on their relationship in a general sense (i.e. not repairing anything) just a bit of fine tuning. We're not really looking for it to end in swinging, which is assumed is what swingfields was? Mine was more of a tongue in cheek response "Damn that sarcasm, always catches me out | |||
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"Would it have to be an expert? Could you start the discussion between yourselves with some questions that other people have suggested? It seems that most of us need permission to open up areas of discussion that could be sensitive or lead to conflict or hurt feelings possibly misunderstanding and having someone else present sort of dilutes it a bit I suppose. Have you contacted Relate, they might be able to suggest something?" I have left a voice mail with a relationship expert that a couple sent via PM. I do think I need an expert there to have some sort of authority over the conversation, as you say, most of us need "permission" and I'm as human as any. We'll probably combine so private sessions with some spa visits etc. | |||
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"Would it have to be an expert? Could you start the discussion between yourselves with some questions that other people have suggested? It seems that most of us need permission to open up areas of discussion that could be sensitive or lead to conflict or hurt feelings possibly misunderstanding and having someone else present sort of dilutes it a bit I suppose. Have you contacted Relate, they might be able to suggest something? I have left a voice mail with a relationship expert that a couple sent via PM. I do think I need an expert there to have some sort of authority over the conversation, as you say, most of us need "permission" and I'm as human as any. We'll probably combine so private sessions with some spa visits etc. " Hope you find what you want and it goes well | |||
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"I think just getting away from home helps. A change of environment and a more relaxed atmosphere will allow you to talk and enjoy yourselves. I have not heard of anything like a weekend retreat....I am not sure what the issues are that you want to communicate or how serious they are but there is always Relate and professional counselling. "Like every couple, we have our challenges. What do you do when you've tried everything - but your partner keeps leaving lights on downstairs and forgetting about them??? | |||
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"I think just getting away from home helps. A change of environment and a more relaxed atmosphere will allow you to talk and enjoy yourselves. I have not heard of anything like a weekend retreat....I am not sure what the issues are that you want to communicate or how serious they are but there is always Relate and professional counselling. like every couple, we have our challenges. What do you do when you've tried everything - but your partner keeps leaving lights on downstairs and forgetting about them??? "Put one of those electric dog collars on them, and if they forget to turn them off zap them | |||
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"Has anyone ever been on a good weekend away for couples to enhance their marriage? I tried googling it but just found lots of things for marriages in crisis, which isn't our situation. We just want a nice weekend, where we make time for our marriage with the help of some experts who can help with the kind of things you always need to work on (e.g. communication). Any recommendations? " Have you both thought about writing things down separately,that are on your mind that you want to discuss? Decide who starts first and take it in turns to fully discuss each point and both be completely honest how you are feeling. You may find you both have some same or similar concerns and by discussing and respecting each others comments you could find a way to resolve those niggles. You could make it a regular thing to help stop negative feeling from surfacing. Good luck and good on you for admitting the lack of communication and wanting to correct it. You obviously love your wife a great deal. Have you told her lately? Hope this helps. | |||
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"Date night.. Nice meal, walk theater or gig etc followed by a nice hotel /B&B. No phones.. no swinging fun.. Just each other. It's what we do every now and again and it kina re lights that flame between us. X" that's what we try to do | |||
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"For those following the thread, we've decided to go with an "Imago relationship workshop" at the end of January. I spoke to the facilitator and she assured me that we won't be sat with a group of people on the verge of divorce! Fingers crossed... " Good luck. If you feel able I'd love to know how you get on...generally only obviously, wouldn't intrude on the details | |||
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