FabSwingers.com forum: Ref 2016 …resolution’s time!!!

By *onythebrick OP Man
over a year ago

London

Good Morning Folks

Ref 2016 …resolution’s time!!!

This is a genuine, real situation.

You are a cheerful, energetic and witty character who enjoys good things in life.

Sex is an import element for your wellbeing.

However, your long term partner’s sex drive is experiencing an irreversible lowering trend (hormones, depression ect). You might have sex every 2 months and the quality is very, very poor.

You love your partner. He/she is sick …and you do not wish to leave him/her.

Conversely, prolonged lack of sex is now impacting your life: stress, job, sleep, concentration, mood, energy …

What options would you explore to stay & support your partners and at the same time to have back and healthy sex life?

Have you got any direct/indirect experiences? Any advice please?

Thanks & Happy 2016

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would talk to my partner. I would support my partner. I'd maybe explore consensual options that that wouldn't hurt my partner. I wouldn't cheat on my partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As Blue Monkey has said you need to talk to your partner and support them first and foremost.

Have your partner and you sought help for their depression and hormonal changes, is it linked to the onset of menopause (only going on your own age here op).

I couldn't personally imagine putting my own sexual needs above that of a partner who is suffering, what if you were to cheat and they found out, what consequences would this then incur on both of your lives and their mental wellbeing?

Talk to your partner, talk to medical professionals and go from there to try to find options and solutions together not behind their back.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

A difficult and complicated situation that isn't just about sexual release. Discussion and professional help is the way forward but that isn't as simple as it looks on paper.

Good luck to you.

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

If lack of sex was impacting on my job and my life I'd probably seek help for myself too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are some things my DW will never do to/ with me

There is something she will do if it pleases me although doesn't wish it to be done back

As long as you are happy with each other and love is still strong.

Relationships are about give and take and talking to each other and understanding each other's needs.

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

It's not going to be easy, and I dont envy you, but I would suggest lots of communication, professional support, honesty and openess.

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By *rickyd72Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

I am in a similar position. Our sex life has been in gradual decline after my wife developed a medical condition. Medication she will have to take for the rest of her life and the onset of the menopause have decimated her libido to the point that we haven't had sex for 18 months. We've tried to get help but medical professionals don't have any answers due to my wife's treatment regime that can't be stopped. We still love each other, dearly, but as friends. She knows I'm on this site and others and gives her tacit agreement to me finding sex elsewhere as long as I'm discrete and no family or friends are ever aware. I'm the first to admit it's not an ideal situation.

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By *irty Girty From No 30Woman
over a year ago

Burbage

"I would talk to my partner. I would support my partner. I'd maybe explore consensual options that that wouldn't hurt my partner. I wouldn't cheat on my partner"

This

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By *irty Girty From No 30Woman
over a year ago

Burbage

"If lack of sex was impacting on my job and my life I'd probably seek help for myself too."

This also

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