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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Im not here to restart any bareback v condoms debate, but if u used condoms with someone who said they play safe, then discover they barebacked a woman a few months before meeting u. Would u also wanna rip thier cock off n force it down thier throat or just think ok he played safe with me so what he bareback her.

Im NOT here for a debate on barebacked ,nor am i judge those that openly and are honest when they do, just after mainly womens opinions plz

Im extra sensitive on this subject n may have over react coz have had cervical cancer n tho its in my family n thats what mine been put down too (im ok now was years ago n very early stage )i still very sensitive on the subject n may have been irrational but Its made me weary of unprotected sex ,ive always played safe unless in a committed relationship

Thanks in advance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never wanted to rip anyone's cock off, stamp on some balls maybe but nothing more than that.

People lie to get what they want, i always presume this and just look after myself the best i can while enjoying myself the way i want to.

I would say now you know you can't trust this guy so base you decisions on that now. Also go for a check up if you feel the need to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ta hun i blocked him but before i did he was acting like its all ok Maybe it is like i say i all to aware of my sensitivity on the subject

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

He played safe with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ta hun i blocked him but before i did he was acting like its all ok Maybe it is like i say i all to aware of my sensitivity on the subject "

You have every right to be sensitive, and if he chose to lie to you i don't think you're even being sensitive - nobody likes a liar.

Most people i just presume to be liars firstly, but it is nice when you find out they aren't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would always assume that people will say anything to get what they want and unless I was entering a relationship with that person, I wouldn't take it personally.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"He played safe with you."

True he did but Its the lie thats got me upset. I need to get a thicker skin.

I not judge those who bare I judge those who lie.

BUT i also aware condoms not total safe and i also no I could be reacting different coz of my history to a lass without it would

I not looking for taking my side in this at all i prob in my sensitive frame of mind far more upset than the situation warrants normally n i accept that

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"He played safe with you.

True he did but Its the lie thats got me upset. I need to get a thicker skin.

I not judge those who bare I judge those who lie.

BUT i also aware condoms not total safe and i also no I could be reacting different coz of my history to a lass without it would

I not looking for taking my side in this at all i prob in my sensitive frame of mind far more upset than the situation warrants normally n i accept that "

Assume everybody plays unsafe, then protect yourself.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would always assume that people will say anything to get what they want and unless I was entering a relationship with that person, I wouldn't take it personally. "

Thanks its a raw subject ,have had worse on here n not reacted like am doing to this. We all have our buttons tho eh

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"He played safe with you.

True he did but Its the lie thats got me upset. I need to get a thicker skin.

I not judge those who bare I judge those who lie.

BUT i also aware condoms not total safe and i also no I could be reacting different coz of my history to a lass without it would

I not looking for taking my side in this at all i prob in my sensitive frame of mind far more upset than the situation warrants normally n i accept that

Assume everybody plays unsafe, then protect yourself.

Good luck"

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ta hun i blocked him but before i did he was acting like its all ok Maybe it is like i say i all to aware of my sensitivity on the subject

You have every right to be sensitive, and if he chose to lie to you i don't think you're even being sensitive - nobody likes a liar.

Most people i just presume to be liars firstly, but it is nice when you find out they aren't."

Thanks very much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're welcome.

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By *aysmitMan
over a year ago

walsall

I always 100% play safe xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a man threatened a similar amount of violence towards a woman on these forums, even in the hypothetical context you are, I wonder what the reaction would be?

Personally I'm not seeing your issue, he played safe. So why on earth would you want to rip his cock off and shove it down his throat?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a man threatened a similar amount of violence towards a woman on these forums, even in the hypothetical context you are, I wonder what the reaction would be?

Personally I'm not seeing your issue, he played safe. So why on earth would you want to rip his cock off and shove it down his throat?

Are you suggesting a man could get ripped to shreds on the forums for white knighting? Doing the; just leave me in a room with him, routine?

I really don't know where you get these ideas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a man threatened a similar amount of violence towards a woman on these forums, even in the hypothetical context you are, I wonder what the reaction would be?

Personally I'm not seeing your issue, he played safe. So why on earth would you want to rip his cock off and shove it down his throat?

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indeed!...dont really get it at all...

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

If you played safe then what is the issue? I'm sorry but no wonder some men think some women are bunny boilers and yes I am being monitored for abnormal smears as well but I am not blaming a man for bestowing this on me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He played safe with you and I'm guessing didn't try to bareback the op. So not sure what the problem is really.

Do you really think that other people don't do the Same. When we check profiles of couples that state bareback only I'd say 99% of the people they have met state safe sex only on their profile x

People lie. Id only want to rip his cock off if he had tried to go sneakily bare x

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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago

You Dont Need to Know, right now

OP sorry to hear that you have had cervical cancer in your family. That must have been really upsetting for you.

But the only thing you can do is to ensure that you and your playmates always play safe. So a playmate may have had a previous relationship where they didn't use condoms? That's not really any of your business. I will be honest... I was married - we didn't use condoms. After that I had a long-term relationship, and we didn't use condoms!

It's not really any of your business if your current partners have had relationships where they didn't use condoms.

Just take care of your own sexual health. If in any doubt, then both of you could attend the GUM clinic

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"He played safe with you and I'm guessing didn't try to bareback the op. So not sure what the problem is really.

Do you really think that other people don't do the Same. When we check profiles of couples that state bareback only I'd say 99% of the people they have met state safe sex only on their profile x

People lie. Id only want to rip his cock off if he had tried to go sneakily bare x "

If any guy tried to play bare with me he would very swiftly regret it.

As long as they play safe with us, what they may have done, or do, elsewhere is up to them. Though we wouldn't actively choose to play with anyone who normally bare backs, I'm sure we have in clubs.

We play bare together as a married couple but never when with others.

Nita

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