FabSwingers.com forum: HELP ME !!!!

By *harlielad OP Man
over a year ago

chelmsford

I'm new on here and need help.... I dont know if it's because I have a badly presented profile or just because I'm nobody's type but I'm having no look taking to women /couples What can I do Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could be cos you need to do some typing and say things about yourself in the profile. Patience is the key.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Your pictures are ok but your profile is two words long! Put a little more in that

Good luck it can be quite difficult for single men and even more so the younger you are.

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock

"I'm new on here and need help.... I dont know if it's because I have a badly presented profile or just because I'm nobody's type but I'm having no look taking to women /couples What can I do Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks "

You only joined a week ago, some patience will be needed. Men greatly outnumber women on this site so you will have to put a lot of effort in to stand out from the crowd.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You dont have a profile, you only get out what your willing to put in

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By *siaessexCouple
over a year ago

essex

we know nothing about you, you need to tell us more.

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

Most people on a swingers site arent looking for a single guy

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

You have two words in your profile!!

What on earth do you expect?

Way way too much is the answer....

You need to make some effort.

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By *harlielad OP Man
over a year ago

chelmsford

Thanks people. I'll take a bit more care into my profile. Shame about the age thing because I'm sure I have a lot more go in me then ye older gents on here. And I'm up for most things ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't think he needs any words, yum yum...yeah i am perving.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try you....try you for what? You are sayong nothing about yourself. Think of your profile as your shop window, you are the goods and have to seel yourself on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks people. I'll take a bit more care into my profile. Shame about the age thing because I'm sure I have a lot more go in me then ye older gents on here. And I'm up for most things ??"

Oh but with age comes experience, longevity etc. I really don't recommend dissing people if you are looking for help

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By *harlielad OP Man
over a year ago

chelmsford

Thank you all I'll put the effort in and update the profile. Cheers everybody have fun play safe

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Thanks people. I'll take a bit more care into my profile. Shame about the age thing because I'm sure I have a lot more go in me then ye older gents on here. And I'm up for most things ??"

Don't assume that women want "go" above anything else and make no assumptions about older men.

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By *harlielad OP Man
over a year ago

chelmsford

I'm sorry if I made it sound like I was "dissing" people it wasn't ment like that honest

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I'm sorry if I made it sound like I was "dissing" people it wasn't ment like that honest "

It's fine you're new and young

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm sorry if I made it sound like I was "dissing" people it wasn't ment like that honest "

I am really not sure why you were asking. Did "Try me" ever work for you in a face-to-face meeting? It doesn't cut the mustard here either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your entire profilt text is five letters...what did you expect?

The choice women have here is ridiculous...so many blokes with detailed profiles they've put some thought into and let's people know something about who they are and what they're looking for and what They have to offer.

Yours says 'too lazy to bother actually getting past two words' (you gonna be that lazy in bed?.. there's no way to tell)

Imagine you go to a library of ten thousand books, all beautiful covers, descriptive titles that hint at the story inside...And there's one plain book, blank cover, just says 'book' on the cover.

Which one you gonna leave with?

(Loosely nicked this analogy from someone's profile btw, but it's still true)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try me? The answer to that is why? If you can tell us why we should try you over the huge amount of other guys then you have your profile......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks people. I'll take a bit more care into my profile. Shame about the age thing because I'm sure I have a lot more go in me then ye older gents on here. And I'm up for most things ??"

One. Way to piss off your fellow guys on here.

And two, I doubt it.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

OP: has anyone tried you yet? I don't think you're trying though!

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By *siaessexCouple
over a year ago

essex

why would you not want to meet older couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh, and a verification by a man (even on cam) may warrant a bi classification as opposed to straight. Most people prefer honesty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm having no look taking to women /couples "

Were you the policeman in allo allo ?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Oh, and a verification by a man (even on cam) may warrant a bi classification as opposed to straight. Most people prefer honesty."

Nah....I've been in the bisexual chat room and it's full of straight men wanking on cam to other straight men.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

From an old guy with some go.

My best advice.

There's loads of threads all offering generic advice in the archives..

have fun reading.

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock

"why would you not want to meet older couples."

Maybe he thinks they don't have enough 'go' in them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks people. I'll take a bit more care into my profile. Shame about the age thing because I'm sure I have a lot more go in me then ye older gents on here. And I'm up for most things ??

Oh but with age comes experience, longevity etc. I really don't recommend dissing people if you are looking for help

a little rude to ask for help then diss others on site. ... Some older men have better bodies and nor to offer than some a lot younger... And vice versa... Should never judge anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm having no look taking to women /couples

Were you the policeman in allo allo ?"

He would say lick!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From an old guy with some go.

My best advice.

There's loads of threads all offering generic advice in the archives..

have fun reading.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Congratulations, you have one of the most rubbish, non existent profiles I've ever seen on here, well done my lovely

Sell yourself, say what you are looking for, why you're here and what you can offer whilst trying to get a little personality and humour across. Picture this, you're looking through car ads, you see one with a comprehensive description and lots of nice pics from different angles then you see one that has 2 standard pics and the words try me on it. Which one is more appealing????

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

As above

Also, it's great that you have the photo verification pics with your username but posting them on your profile is just asking someone to pinch them to set up a fake verified account.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You know something OP? You might of cracked a funny that didn't quite come off but you're obviously quite literate. Far more than some of the messages we get from older members.

I would suggest when you message couples make the message relevant to their profile and take time over it. It might be disheartening when you don't get replies but as someone else said...patience and you will get a breakthrough.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks people. I'll take a bit more care into my profile. Shame about the age thing because I'm sure I have a lot more go in me then ye older gents on here. And I'm up for most things ??"

Seriously doubt that young man. I'm 42 and in the best shape of my life. I thought I knew about sex when I was younger too but it's really small minded of you to think that you won't learn anything new in the next twenty years.

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By *harlielad OP Man
over a year ago

chelmsford

Constructive criticism please. I'm new to this site and was asking for help. Yes I was wrong to say what I did about the older guy/girls. I I fact have had great fun with older women/couples I didn't mean it in a "Dissing" say and I did apologise . And now I feel I'm been set about for it. I appreciate all the advice I'm getting but honestly I'm not here to start wars. Again i apologise for saying what I did .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Again i apologise for saying what I did . "

Fair enough. Do a search... Loads of single guys in the same boat

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

White knights give the lad a break.I guarantee ye were all new and unsure when on forums at first so relax the kacks let the lad have some fun and wish him well on site

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"why would you not want to meet older couples.

Maybe he thinks they don't have enough 'go' in them? "

The OP needs to up his swinging monopoly game if he's to progress beyond 'go'

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Op: just write loads about yourself...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My advice is treat this as a type of dating site. There has to be an attraction, a connection, a feeling of respect and trust.

Be polite and show that you're happy with yourself and then sit and wait. This is a couples domain and single guys typically get thrown a bone every now and then. Or just try to go to a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Constructive criticism please. I'm new to this site and was asking for help. Yes I was wrong to say what I did about the older guy/girls. I I fact have had great fun with older women/couples I didn't mean it in a "Dissing" say and I did apologise . And now I feel I'm been set about for it. I appreciate all the advice I'm getting but honestly I'm not here to start wars. Again i apologise for saying what I did . "

Take it on board in a positive manner and move forwards.

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

OP be yourself first and foremost,you cannot please everybody all of the time so don't even try,just have fun don't be abusive and build your profile as you go.

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By *harlielad OP Man
over a year ago

chelmsford

Thank you all.... Think I'll just give up now tho hahah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you all.... Think I'll just give up now tho hahah"

Yes, you have given up for now. I have no idea why you were seeking help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow that was quick

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By *harlielad OP Man
over a year ago

chelmsford

Yea I was seeking help not to have ppl making me out to be a duck head. Yea I'm new I didn't realise everybody was going to start a war with the new young lad. All I say is thanks to the people who actually gave me some constructive advice that's all I was after not a word war

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yea I was seeking help not to have ppl making me out to be a duck head. Yea I'm new I didn't realise everybody was going to start a war with the new young lad. All I say is thanks to the people who actually gave me some constructive advice that's all I was after not a word war "

Quack

Good luck sweetie x

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

Quack

Good luck sweetie x"

Behave you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't say as I blame him. A simple question and a quip that got taken the wrong way and he's had all this. Ridiculous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly I was not trying to start anything at all. I was trying to point out that you shouldn't criticise others, you apologised straight away which was good.

I love this site but we all have to make the effort to get the rewards on here

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

You'll be alright. Some guys your age take a tight strop to some forum banter but you're taking it well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can't say as I blame him. A simple question and a quip that got taken the wrong way and he's had all this. Ridiculous."

Same

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

A duck head eh?

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock

Quack

Good luck sweetie x"

Someone just told me to Duck off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quack

Good luck sweetie x

Someone just told me to Duck off.

Waddle away then

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock

Quack

Good luck sweetie x

Someone just told me to Duck off.

Waddle away then

Waddle or Hoddle?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't matter how long your profile is or what pictures you have or how good and time you spend on your messages I think it's just luck and it's being patient a lot of woman don't even give guys the time of day on here to even have a chance of getting there attention good luck

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

Honestly I was not trying to start anything at all. I was trying to point out that you shouldn't criticise others, you apologised straight away which was good.

I love this site but we all have to make the effort to get the rewards on here

be nice to the kid or I'm telling santa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quack

Good luck sweetie x

Someone just told me to Duck off.

Waddle away then

Waddle or Hoddle?

Omg i loved their song... have no shame.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7WACF8ID-To

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly I was not trying to start anything at all. I was trying to point out that you shouldn't criticise others, you apologised straight away which was good.

I love this site but we all have to make the effort to get the rewards on here

be nice to the kid or I'm telling santa"

Haha, tell away, I'm already on the naughty list

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock

Honestly I was not trying to start anything at all. I was trying to point out that you shouldn't criticise others, you apologised straight away which was good.

I love this site but we all have to make the effort to get the rewards on here

be nice to the kid or I'm telling santa

Haha, tell away, I'm already on the naughty list

Bad santa is more fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Again i apologise for saying what I did .

Fair enough. Do a search... Loads of single guys in the same boat"

As above.. Search other profiles get an idea of what others say about themselves then do same for yourself.. Personally I only reply to people if I know they have read profile, include a face pic.. And are pleasant.. Patience is key though.. Good luck

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

You could find a High Court judge who just might.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just checking back in to see how the new improved profile is looking.............I'll pop back tomorrow!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly I was not trying to start anything at all. I was trying to point out that you shouldn't criticise others, you apologised straight away which was good.

I love this site but we all have to make the effort to get the rewards on here

be nice to the kid or I'm telling santa

Haha, tell away, I'm already on the naughty list

Bad santa is more fun

He most certainly is

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

"Just checking back in to see how the new improved profile is looking.............I'll pop back tomorrow!"

cool input

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just checking back in to see how the new improved profile is looking.............I'll pop back tomorrow!"

Just passing again, anything changed now? Nope, impending UNLOS predicted

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Try me...."

Why would anyone want to? You give not reason other than you are capable of holing a piece of paper up.

Did someone tell you it's a sex site and you have to do is stand there and a ton of desperate woman would be grateful for your presence?

If so, you've been had

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two word profile = no effort. One week here and obviously you expected women to be beating down your door

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""Try me...."

Why would anyone want to? You give not reason other than you are capable of holing a piece of paper up.

Did someone tell you it's a sex site and you have to do is stand there and a ton of desperate woman would be grateful for your presence?

If so, you've been had

He should have drawn a big cock on it!!

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Nah....I've been in the bisexual chat room and it's full of straight men wanking on cam to other straight men.

Me too, found a great straight guy in there

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"He should have drawn a big cock on it!!"

Too much like a cock pic for me

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Nah....I've been in the bisexual chat room and it's full of straight men wanking on cam to other straight men.

Me too, found a great straight guy in there

It's a ladies meat market

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

I don't believe it!

5 hours and thirty suggestions later and the profile still just says "try me!"

I don't know why we bother.

He's obviously another one just after attention, not advice.

Sheesh!

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By *irty Girty From No 30Woman
over a year ago

Burbage

Your profile is very poor, tells me nothing at all about you, type woman or couple your looking for, what experiences your hoping to achieve.

Effort in equals rewards

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

see who I mean young sir? don't stress be yourself you'll be grand grow the profile as you find your feet and block the negative twats you'll do fine.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Nah....I've been in the bisexual chat room and it's full of straight men wanking on cam to other straight men.

Me too, found a great straight guy in there

It's a ladies meat market

He's hotter than meat

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