FabSwingers.com forum: etiquette when contacting

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I really don't get this site, this isn't me moaning, I'm just very confused. I don't contact people saying "lets fuck" etc, I try to start a light conversation and generally it never goes beyond a message or two.

I don't consider myself a boring person and yes I can hold a conversation. I'm new to this and I am a single guy so I understand the reluctance people may have talking to me but I'm not the type of person who sends "nice tits" kind of messages.

Is their anybody who can give me any pointers.

Thanks in advance

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

If you want to send me a typical message and I will happily give you some feedback.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I warm to you, which is a good start. The sheer competition levels do make it harder for you single guys. It's better for conversations to end, if one party isn't right to proceed of course - that's still a success imo, as you're not physically meeting up inappropriately.

I'd add a face pic of you smiling as I think they work better than without smiles - first impressions could increase the proportion of first contacts that convert to replies.

Add details upon any experience you may have with couples ot perhaps your interests there.

Good luck!

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By *lderlady888Woman
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

Sometimes it just depends on the persons personal likes, you may simply not be what they are looking for?

Dont take offence, the ratio is hard but its not a guarantee of fun this site its jyst a possible avenue.. But keep going xxxx

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Just because you don't consider yourself boring doesn't mean others think the same way. The stats/lack of continued communication don't lie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Accept there are people who don't want to meet you. End of. That's it. No great secret or conspiracy theory.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey women rule and not just the beautiful ,you may be attracted to the beautiful but as in life you can't get near they are to popular same applies here but 100 fold all women have an advantage here end of ,I know its unfair but hey Ho its the reality all you can do is send informed messages using the persons profile as your guide along with a face pic intelligence,comedy and good grammar help ,just be patient and you will start getting replies mind if you are an ugly guit of course maybe not ,good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I really don't get this site, this isn't me moaning, I'm just very confused. I don't contact people saying "lets fuck" etc, I try to start a light conversation and generally it never goes beyond a message or two.

Is their anybody who can give me any pointers.

Thanks in advance

Maybe they aren't attracted to you, if I'm not attracted to someone on here why would I want to chat,I have friends and a family for that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah I guess and what can you do. Thanks for the advice.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I warm to you, which is a good start. The sheer competition levels do make it harder for you single guys. It's better for conversations to end, if one party isn't right to proceed of course - that's still a success imo, as you're not physically meeting up inappropriately.

I'd add a face pic of you smiling as I think they work better than without smiles - first impressions could increase the proportion of first contacts that convert to replies.

Add details upon any experience you may have with couples ot perhaps your interests there.

Good luck!"

I agree with you 100% on the inappropriate meeting, I think there's nothing more tedious than being with someone you don't like. I guess I was having a reactionary moan last night haha

thanks for the advice though much appreciated

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sometimes it just depends on the persons personal likes, you may simply not be what they are looking for?

Dont take offence, the ratio is hard but its not a guarantee of fun this site its jyst a possible avenue.. But keep going xxxx"

Thanks for getting back to me, I'm pretty new on this site and I suppose I was trying to gauge the lay of the land. Thanks for the advice

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By *ullbackbuttMan
over a year ago

Purton

I understand what your saying. I try to put a lot of effort into my messages but some times get quite rude comments back. Why bother replying if they can not say anything nice. A lot of times I get thank you but your not for us. thats cool.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With the ratio of single men to women here you will get rejection or no replies many many times more than you will an answer. All those hotties you write to have had 100 messages today before yours. Play a part in the forums, get yourself known for a while, then when you write a message you might just might get a positive response because the woman feels like she knows something about you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

make it personal to them - maybe a reference to a status or something off their profile / location etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is their anybody who can give me any pointers.

Thanks in advance

Maybe they aren't attracted to you, if I'm not attracted to someone on here why would I want to chat,I have friends and a family for that."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Using tinder, pof or going out in the real world is much easier than fab.

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

In the least creepy way possible, fab-stalk any profiles you like the look of. See what forum threads they've commented on (if any) by clicking on their green arrow. Hotlist them and see what statuses they post. Check out their photos and fab the ones you genuinely like (not all of them - that can just be too much).

After doing that for a week or so you should have built up a fairly good picture of them and will be ready to pitch a fairly informed and tailored first message to them

Or if that's too much like hard work - send them a pic of your cock and ask them 'How's u?'

Most couples that we know prefer to do the hunting so guys approaching them will likely be ignored.

Good luck! X

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

Is their anybody who can give me any pointers.

Thanks in advance

I got a 'nice tits' message from Mr about a year ago .... now we are a couple and living together ... guess there is hope for messages like that then.

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