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By *arriedaffair OP Man
over a year ago

worcester

How hard is it being a guy who would love to be trans full time? any others been though this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Speak to your gp and get a referal to the gender clinic/therapist least that way you can talk to someone about it and make a plan if you decide to transition

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How hard is it being a guy who would love to be trans full time? any others been though this?"

A question I would ask anyone who was even contemplating this would be,''If this is so important to you,,why have you not done it already?''.

I could also ask ''what would you be prepared to sacrifice to follow this dream? your house? your car? your job?your family and friends?''.

They may seem like harsh questions but,,,make no mistake,,transition of this kind is a massive undertaking,,a massive upheaval in ones life..it literally is a life and death matter.

If it is not life and death,if anything in life is more important,,,then perhaps such a major transition is not for you.

The previous poster was absolutely correct,,,see your G.P. and try to get a referral to a gender identity specialist.Unfortunately (real world) do not expect to be taken seriously,expect to be rebuffed and have to fight to get anywhere,,,expect to have waits of several years to even get an appointment,,,expect to spend a fortune if you decide to see specialists as a private patient.

Expect to lose friends,family,children,respect from colleagues and acquaintances.

You ask how hard it is,,,,,,very.very hard,,,that's how hard.Wanting may not be enough,,,you have to need it to put yourself through the ordeal.

Sorry if I appear to be discouraging but sugar coating things would be pointless.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very hard.

Anything/anybody you don't lose is a bonus.

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By *arriedaffair OP Man
over a year ago

worcester

Thanks its something ive been thinking of for a long time. Need to take the next step.

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By *alsalltrevorMan
over a year ago

Cannock/Walsall/Wolverhampton

The following is a voluntary support group for people who have gone through and are going through this.

(Google it for details)

Trans-Matters_Social_Group

LGBT Wolverhampton,

Network House

School Street

Wolverhampton

West Midlands

WV14LJ

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By *irceWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester

"How hard is it being a guy who would love to be trans full time? any others been though this?"

If you have money it's a lot easier, if not then it's another level of Dantes pit.

If you have no choice carry on but I would not encourage your journey.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How hard is it being a guy who would love to be trans full time? any others been though this?

If you have money it's a lot easier, if not then it's another level of Dantes pit.

If you have no choice carry on but I would not encourage your journey. "

This reinforces my point that wanting is not enough,,nowhere near enough.You would have to need to transition,it has to be life or death.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This reinforces my point that wanting is not enough,,nowhere near enough.You would have to need to transition,it has to be life or death."

That is about as close to the truth as it gets.

It takes a great deal to reassign your gender. It is not a simple case of dressing as your true gender. It requires massive changes to your life, a willingness to submit yourself for very intensive psychological evaluations, possible taking life threatening drugs as well as possible surgery that requires serious aftercare. It also requires you to look very deeply at yourself and who you are.

It has been mentioned you could lose everything and this is the absolute truth. I lost the lot apart from my wonderful partner. But I was willing to lose even her because I could not continue the way I was. This is how you have to be to carry it through.

On the NHS in this country it is a slow process and the timescales are creeping up to 5 years now from referral from GP to discharge from a gender clinic. One clinic has a wait list of three years.

It also needs to be said that if you truly have gender dysphoria (which is the medical term for this condition), getting out the other side can be a fantastic feeling. You just have to crawl over broken glass to get it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How hard is it being a guy who would love to be trans full time? any others been though this?"

Can I ask, how much further than 'thinking about' have you gone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How hard is it being a guy who would love to be trans full time? any others been though this?

If you have money it's a lot easier, if not then it's another level of Dantes pit.

If you have no choice carry on but I would not encourage your journey.

This reinforces my point that wanting is not enough,,nowhere near enough.You would have to need to transition,it has to be life or death."

Thankfully gender clinics will take you on far less than 'life or death'. I would not die or kill myself if I had not been referred to the gender clinic, however I would have been really quite unhappy.