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"What does a man have to do to get anywhere on this site. " Is this an actual question or a statement? If it's a question, you could look a it closer to home for the answer. If it's a statement I have no idea. | |||
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"What does a man have to do to get anywhere on this site. Messages just get deleted with out even reading them. I dont think it takes that long to reply really. Yes i know you women get hundreds of messages but its near impossible to chat to a female on here lol" be on here longer than 9 weeks perhaps? or maybe use all the tools to differentiate yourself from a lot of the other people.... you have a huge chance to say this is who i am... you have a shop window where you can give people a reason to say "wow!! this is why you show meet me!" you decided that 14 words was enough to convince people.... yes... i counted them!!!! if you can't really be bothered to help yourself... why should people take time out of their day to help you!!!! | |||
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"What does a man have to do to get anywhere on this site. Messages just get deleted with out even reading them. I dont think it takes that long to reply really. Yes i know you women get hundreds of messages but its near impossible to chat to a female on here lol" Being in Wales doesn't help mostly Country and a coastal part of uk ( not because your Welsh) Depending on where you live change it to more central and you can travel like Birmingham or go to socials and club nights I am going out tonight to a social from someone I met at a club who hasn't heard about fab yet practical lives in the club | |||
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"I look at their profile before deciding whether to read the message. I wouldn't open your message." So what would you say i could put in my profile | |||
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"I look at their profile before deciding whether to read the message. I wouldn't open your message. So what would you say i could put in my profile" Try to imagine you're talking directly to someone you'd like to meet. How would you describe yourself and what you have to offer, and what kind of person you are. Only you can do that. Nobody else can do it for you. | |||
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"I look at their profile before deciding whether to read the message. I wouldn't open your message. So what would you say i could put in my profile" thats what YOU need to figure out for yourself.... after all who knows YOU better than YOU | |||
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"I look at their profile before deciding whether to read the message. I wouldn't open your message. So what would you say i could put in my profile" Something you've come up with yourself and not what others suggest... Go look at the profiles of guys who meet and the countless other threads on this subject (forum search function) And if you can't string a good profile together yourself after that then your knackered mate :/ | |||
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"What does a man have to do to get anywhere on this site. Messages just get deleted with out even reading them. I dont think it takes that long to reply really. Yes i know you women get hundreds of messages but its near impossible to chat to a female on here lol" You are obviously aware we get lots, sometimes hundreds, of messages. If we spent 1 minute per message, reading it and answering it,let alone all the "why not?" Messages, we wouldn't have time to actually get laid. You do the maths. | |||
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"I look at their profile before deciding whether to read the message. I wouldn't open your message. So what would you say i could put in my profile" More than that you are straight and wanting women. That is really not much of a profile. | |||
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"What does a man have to do? Write a decent profile. We've all had to." I didn't and I know of a guy with almost 400 verifies and his profile is crapper than mine | |||
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"What does a man have to do? Write a decent profile. We've all had to. I didn't and I know of a guy with almost 400 verifies and his profile is crapper than mine " 703 meets he is 50 and Profile and looks mean nothing | |||
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"Improve your profile for a start, then often helps if you read people's profiles before messaging, a lot say "no single men". If it says that they have full right to delete your message." EVERYONE has the full right to delete messages, per the FAQs (it's not rude not to respond). | |||
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"What does a man have to do? Write a decent profile. We've all had to. I didn't and I know of a guy with almost 400 verifies and his profile is crapper than mine 703 meets he is 50 and Profile and looks mean nothing " Err....well I daresay his verifications have helped him get the odd few hundred.... I daresay he started, and continues to get many more at socials if it's the guy I'm thinking of. Let's look at it this way then. Those who've got halfway decently-written profiles are far more likely to do well on here. | |||
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"What does a man have to do? Write a decent profile. We've all had to. I didn't and I know of a guy with almost 400 verifies and his profile is crapper than mine 703 meets he is 50 and Profile and looks mean nothing Err....well I daresay his verifications have helped him get the odd few hundred.... I daresay he started, and continues to get many more at socials if it's the guy I'm thinking of. Let's look at it this way then. Those who've got halfway decently-written profiles are far more likely to do well on here." Yes well written profiles being nice and chatty in the chat rooms and forums Is the way to get on here and it's bloody hard work to do Don't upset the women with sexist comments in the forum | |||
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"What does a man have to do to get anywhere on this site. Messages just get deleted with out even reading them. I dont think it takes that long to reply really. Yes i know you women get hundreds of messages but its near impossible to chat to a female on here lol" Some good pics, a good profile with some good blurb...patience and a polite, good humoured manner all have worked wonders for me - I chat to loads of women and couples and meet up with a huge number on a very regular basis.. | |||
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"It's because genuine people have no idea if they're coming or going on this site. LOL you got the poor women more confused than TV/S, they dont know who's straight, bi, gay, metro...they're confused as hell like the rest of us." Well if it's sexual orientation you're talking about a few probing questions usually sorts that out... | |||
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"Ive taken the advice onboard and updated my profile. Now i just have to wait to be judged upon." Better. | |||
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"Ive taken the advice onboard and updated my profile. Now i just have to wait to be judged upon." I would recommend some more pics - even just some of you in normal clothes or a smart suit.. Also try to come up with some more stuff about yourself - if you can make it a bit humerous (although I don't particularly) even better... Don't hassle people...short polite messages - again using humour and a light hearted approach if possible - try to come across as confident, experienced and whilst not arrogant never put yourself down | |||
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"Trust me probing questions hasn't worked for me so for women it must be a nightmare." I'm not at all sure what the problem is. Perhaps you should start a fresh thread on this matter and gather the experts in such matters | |||
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"You need to get rid of the pants round the ankles pic. It is truly unattractive." okay ill consider it done | |||
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"I am not d*unk " Well that's reassuring | |||
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"I look at their profile before deciding whether to read the message. I wouldn't open your message." Same here. | |||
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"I look at their profile before deciding whether to read the message. I wouldn't open your message. Same here. " | |||
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"Well sent my first message since updating my profile the message was deleted mo reply and my profile was viewed. Death before defeat and all that." Do you really think that you've now got the irresistible profile... No, no, no, no. You really need to adjust your expectations.....big time. As SHag says.. You do need patience. | |||
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"Well sent my first message since updating my profile the message was deleted mo reply and my profile was viewed. Death before defeat and all that." You can have the best shiniest profile ever, it's not 'the answer' it just helps attract the folk who would like you... Imagine your home town, how many women live there? And what percentage of those have you slept with? Tiny right? Same on here...people still need to find you attractive same as anywhere. It's not a case of them going 'oh, he's got a bit of a profile, think I'll suck his dick' Keep chatting, talk to people like people, go socials, use forums and chat rooms and go clubs and munches, A good profile is no replacement for effort, just one small part of it | |||
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"What does a man have to do to get anywhere on this site. Messages just get deleted with out even reading them. I dont think it takes that long to reply really. Yes i know you women get hundreds of messages but its near impossible to chat to a female on here lol" You're profile says you're in a relationship but she doesn't know you swing, most women wouldn't want to shit on anothers doorstep! | |||
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"Well sent my first message since updating my profile the message was deleted mo reply and my profile was viewed. Death before defeat and all that." Why did you look to see if it had been read or not? | |||
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"I've only looked after you've made 'improvements'. Although it is great that you are honest about cheating on your gf it will put a lot of people off too." Thats fair enough prehaps i shouldnt have been so forthcoming. | |||
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"I've only looked after you've made 'improvements'. Although it is great that you are honest about cheating on your gf it will put a lot of people off too. Thats fair enough prehaps i shouldnt have been so forthcoming." Yes you should because you'll only get found out in the end. Some people don't mind though. | |||
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"I've only looked after you've made 'improvements'. Although it is great that you are honest about cheating on your gf it will put a lot of people off too. Thats fair enough prehaps i shouldnt have been so forthcoming. Yes you should because you'll only get found out in the end. Some people don't mind though." Ill see how i get on now thanks | |||
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"I've only looked after you've made 'improvements'. Although it is great that you are honest about cheating on your gf it will put a lot of people off too. Thats fair enough prehaps i shouldnt have been so forthcoming." Whey and now the truth is gone and it's just another cheat lying about being single. This is why if someone has that on their profile I will never mention it when giving advice | |||
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"Bro if you want you can send a message to one of my fake single bi fem profiles. They always answer back. " There's plenty of those too | |||
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"What does a man have to do to get anywhere on this site. Messages just get deleted with out even reading them. I dont think it takes that long to reply really. Yes i know you women get hundreds of messages but its near impossible to chat to a female on here lol Being in Wales doesn't help mostly Country and a coastal part of uk ( not because your Welsh) Depending on where you live change it to more central and you can travel like Birmingham or go to socials and club nights I am going out tonight to a social from someone I met at a club who hasn't heard about fab yet practical lives in the club " I live in West Wales and have travelled quite alot on here to clubs in West Midlands ,North West and to socials in south Wales without doing that I would have hardly met many people | |||
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"I've only looked after you've made 'improvements'. Although it is great that you are honest about cheating on your gf it will put a lot of people off too. Thats fair enough prehaps i shouldnt have been so forthcoming. Whey and now the truth is gone and it's just another cheat lying about being single. This is why if someone has that on their profile I will never mention it when giving advice" He might as well be honest his profile screams that he's cheating anyway and in my experience of successful attached guys profiles on here it always the ones who are honest about it | |||
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"OP, it must just be you...to paraphrase the inbetweeners the rest of us are knee deep in fit clunge... " I only manage to get balls deep | |||
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"Ive taken the advice onboard and updated my profile. Now i just have to wait to be judged upon." Boring as.. One torso photo. Does not entice me. Your description says nothing about what you like or what you seek. Oh yes be honest.. Married, gf.. Cheating. You will be found out damn quick. So best to come clean. | |||
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"What does a man have to do to get anywhere on this site. Messages just get deleted with out even reading them. I dont think it takes that long to reply really. Yes i know you women get hundreds of messages but its near impossible to chat to a female on here lol" You need to do more than casting your line and put some bait on the end to attract, you have a very poor profile compared to many single males, probably why you are being overlooked, some people look at the profile before reading the message, if the profile is poor then no point in wasting there time reading the message, it just gets deleted | |||
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"What does a man have to do to get anywhere on this site. Messages just get deleted with out even reading them. I dont think it takes that long to reply really. Yes i know you women get hundreds of messages but its near impossible to chat to a female on here lol" Well glad he took all that constructive advice well | |||
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"Hey just be patient. And try not to sound sleepy. ..mim not saying you do but we've had some messages off single blokes and they just come across wrong. Be down to earth open minded and have plenty of pics to shareas aa lot of fake profiles have no pics so people are weary. Good luck " You're a little late lol. | |||
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"Maybe my message pushed him over the edge " Hair trigger problem as well as no meets? Poor bugger | |||
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"What does a man have to do to get anywhere on this site. Messages just get deleted with out even reading them. I dont think it takes that long to reply really. Yes i know you women get hundreds of messages but its near impossible to chat to a female on here lol" Didn't even hang around to see what the replies were | |||
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