FabSwingers.com forum: am i a timewaster guys

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

recently started speaking ti a guy i met years ago on here came off for few years due to bad times

now arranged to meet for drinks tonight and just cos i said i wudnt give my address out on here and asked hint not to waste my time again he's said he's going to as for me to be removed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why did he think he needed your address? That sounds weird to me, but no your not a timewaster for not giving out your address at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He's delusional if he thinks you'll removed because he has asked.

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By *tillup4funMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

"recently started speaking ti a guy i met years ago on here came off for few years due to bad times

now arranged to meet for drinks tonight and just cos i said i wudnt give my address out on here and asked hint not to waste my time again he's said he's going to as for me to be removed

Don't worry he has no grounds for getting you removed he did the right thing not to give out your address, and no you are not a time waster for doing this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why did he think he needed your address? That sounds weird to me, but no your not a timewaster for not giving out your address at all."

to cud for drinks tonight i said id only give him it over fone

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By *tillup4funMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

"Why did he think he needed your address? That sounds weird to me, but no your not a timewaster for not giving out your address at all.

to cud for drinks tonight i said id only give him it over fone"

Don't give it to him at all meet him in a pub

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

he can't get your profile removed for that. what a knob.

sounds like he doesn't wanna go out for a drink and just wants a shag at your place. guys do this shit, pretend to be what you want then change the terms to what they want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why did he think he needed your address? That sounds weird to me, but no your not a timewaster for not giving out your address at all.

to cud for drinks tonight i said id only give him it over fone"

Ah, right ok, I understand now. No still not a timewaster if you wanted a phone conversation to confirm things first before meeting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've met him before when i was less cautious ...until i got hurt hence the unlos for few years and caution

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take no notice. He's just been an arrogant pig.

Its you're decision if you give information out at the end of the day.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've met him before when i was less cautious ...until i got hurt hence the unlos for few years and caution "

Just block him

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

no need hes blocked me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah well.. goodbye to bad news I say then.x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

true...just confused me

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"recently started speaking ti a guy i met years ago on here came off for few years due to bad times

now arranged to meet for drinks tonight and just cos i said i wudnt give my address out on here and asked hint not to waste my time again he's said he's going to as for me to be removed

don't do anything you don't want to do... simple as this....

if this is his red line.... and your red line.... go in opposite directions!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think timewaster gets bandied around too much by people. Just because you'd prefer to meet somewhere neutral doesn't make you 1.

If you prefer to get a measure of someone before jumping in and agreeing a meet doesn't make you a timewaster.

Arranging a meet and then not bothering to show up defo a timewaster!

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

"no need hes blocked me"

Still block him - if you don't he can unblock you while you're offline and stalk your profile and veris etc. I'd also report him to admin so they can do a full mutual block then he can't see when you were last online via block list. You do right to be cautious, there's a lot of weirdos out there

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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago

You Dont Need to Know, right now

You're not a timewaster, sounds like you had a happy escape from a potentially disappointing meet. No way will Admin remove you from the site, when all you did was (quite rightly) refuse to give someone your address.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I don't give anyone my address

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't blame you for not giving address out on here

Get them to meet in public first it doesn't make you a time waster

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"no need hes blocked me"
id still block him, he may change his mind and unblock you, that way you take away his choice x

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

"no need hes blocked meid still block him, he may change his mind and unblock you, that way you take away his choice x"

I'd block him too, because when he puts his toys back in the pram ans stopped sulking, he'll be back messaging and chancing his luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've done nothing wrong as far as I'm concerned, we have had several pushy guys like this. Take a hissy fit when things aren't going their way. We have not and will not give out our address to any of our meets.

As has already been said, you should never feel obliged to do anything you don't feel comfortable with, or want to do. Especially on a swingers site. After all, this is all supposed to be fun!

Either way, seems you've had a lucky escape. Block him and forget. Play safe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not the sort of person to meet, personnel security is important that's why you should always meet in a public place first, any one who thinks this is time wasting clearly has not got a clue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"recently started speaking ti a guy i met years ago on here came off for few years due to bad times

now arranged to meet for drinks tonight and just cos i said i wudnt give my address out on here and asked hint not to waste my time again he's said he's going to as for me to be removed

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You were absolutely right not to give him your address. What if the date went wrong....a stalker in the making. Block him!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope you arent! Well within your rights not to give it out!

I wont meet someone without a phone number, the amount who want to arrange on kik is absurd! I atleast want a traceable number that could be given to the police if they did anything they shouldnt!

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I've met him before when i was less cautious ...until i got hurt hence the unlos for few years and caution "

You should always be cautious. Sounds like you missed an unpleasant man so it's all good

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

"recently started speaking ti a guy i met years ago on here came off for few years due to bad times

now arranged to meet for drinks tonight and just cos i said i wudnt give my address out on here and asked hint not to waste my time again he's said he's going to as for me to be removed

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. He must be a bit lacking in common sense if he expects members to give out their address , especially if they are female .

He can ask for you to be removed but his request will be ignored . In an ideal world administration should remove his profile for misusing the site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why did he think he needed your address? That sounds weird to me, but no your not a timewaster for not giving out your address at all.

to cud for drinks tonight i said id only give him it over fone"
l wouldn't! At least until you've met him and checked him out. No yr not a timewaster. You set some rules up to keep safe and stuck to them! Good for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why did he think he needed your address? That sounds weird to me, but no your not a timewaster for not giving out your address at all.

to cud for drinks tonight i said id only give him it over fone

Don't give it to him at all meet him in a pub "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly we have found some strange people on here, for the first meet maybe at a club or some where neutral We would not be in the slightest be offended by someone not giving their address. We wouldn't give ours out on a first meet.

Anyone decent would totally understand why a woman wouldn't give out home address.

You had a lucky escape

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sadly we have found some strange people on here, for the first meet maybe at a club or some where neutral We would not be in the slightest be offended by someone not giving their address. We wouldn't give ours out on a first meet.

Anyone decent would totally understand why a woman wouldn't give out home address.

You had a lucky escape"
think the op had a lucky escape !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"no need hes blocked me"

Still block him.Then he can't unblock you to look at your profile .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't give anyone my address"
even your bank manager he's on here xx

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By *onyneMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

"I don't give anyone my addresseven your bank manager he's on here xx

Never any need to give out address and best meet in public to be sure anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the very basic explanation given I wouldn't define you as a timewaster.

Even if you were the most outrageous timewaster I doubt you would get penalised by Fab.

In our experience even when it is absolutely obvious and a formal complaint has been made Fab do not seem to take any action.

Try to publicly identify a timewaster though and....

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By *ammyslutWoman
over a year ago

worthing

Never give any one on here my address. And they only get my phone number if ive met them. Used to give it out but had a couple of dodgy experiences in the past.

Had a bloke block me the other day because i refused to give him my number. Wouldnt worry about it. Its all part of the course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

His loss. Addresses should be optional not mandatory. You've looked after yourself, nothing wrong in that

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By *a petite madameWoman
over a year ago

London / Essex

"he can't get your profile removed for that. what a knob.

sounds like he doesn't wanna go out for a drink and just wants a shag at your place. guys do this shit, pretend to be what you want then change the terms to what they want."

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By *ark CharmerMan
over a year ago

Horsham

"recently started speaking ti a guy i met years ago on here came off for few years due to bad times

now arranged to meet for drinks tonight and just cos i said i wudnt give my address out on here and asked hint not to waste my time again he's said he's going to as for me to be removed

Surely he can ask for you to be removed - I don't think he will be taken seriously. Do what you feel comfortable doing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anything is possible with someone you like and trust obviously some ,actually many here like one offs and so no need to give details you won't know them long enough but yes always as a woman have a social in a public place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He's obviously in a relationship and doesn't want to get caught out in public. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Omg! Timewaster!!

No really. Just block him too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done, why on earth should you give out your address? Obviously a bit creepy. Well done for not giving him your address and in answer to your thread you're no way a time waster. Block him and move on!

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By *100Man
over a year ago

Essex

You make your own rules darling don't take pushy shit from no one if someone makes you dout your self there not right in the head.

I prefer to chat and cam only but would love to try a club one day that sounds like a safe place to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why did he think he needed your address? That sounds weird to me, but no your not a timewaster for not giving out your address at all.

to cud for drinks tonight i said id only give him it over fone

Don't give it to him at all meet him in a pub "

THIS!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do not give anyone your address and meet in pub, clubs etc Not everyone on this site is as genuine as their profile states!

I've found "time waster" gets thrown around on this site regularly ...... Recently a handful of messages were shared between me and another person over space of 2 days and when he realised I wasn't going to be planning any meets till after Xmas he branded me a "time waster" ..... I blocked him X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are not a time waster by any logical definition. Just careful. Well done for sticking to your guns. Not easy when people are applying pressure on you to do reckless things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've met him before when i was less cautious ...until i got hurt hence the unlos for few years and caution "
don't blame you always best to be safe

if u don't want to give him ur mobile suggest he uses kik messenger

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By *ripleXrateDWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I think you dodged a bullet. Sounds like a creep xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think you dodged a bullet. Sounds like a creep xxxx"

Why are all the real hotties so far up North?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely not a time waster OP as several have said you have dodged a Bullett ....,, on the other hand with that arrogance he must be worth it lol

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By *ripleXrateDWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"I think you dodged a bullet. Sounds like a creep xxxx

Why are all the real hotties so far up North?

If your the man half I hope your Mrs is up north just now.

If your the female your a hotties so that can't be true

Lol

Xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why did he think he needed your address? That sounds weird to me, but no your not a timewaster for not giving out your address at all."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are your rules, anyone not prepared to respect them won't respect you either !

Block and have a drink with the other lovely fabsters, there's plenty of nice ones on here x

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By *sagent81Man
over a year ago

Leeds

"Why did he think he needed your address? That sounds weird to me, but no your not a timewaster for not giving out your address at all.

to cud for drinks tonight i said id only give him it over fone"

Not at all then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"recently started speaking ti a guy i met years ago on here came off for few years due to bad times

now arranged to meet for drinks tonight and just cos i said i wudnt give my address out on here and asked hint not to waste my time again he's said he's going to as for me to be removed

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you don't sound like a time waster just proper precautions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really a three week bump for that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"no need hes blocked me"

You can block him back either through his messages, on his profile or by clicking on your block list and typing his name into the box at the top

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He's obviously in a relationship and doesn't want to get caught out in public. X"

Or as someone says, he thinks he will get a shag if he goes to her place and was pissed off that she wouldn't tell him where she lived

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

You did right ....I dont give my address or phone number out ....ever x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He's obviously in a relationship and doesn't want to get caught out in public. X

Or as someone says, he thinks he will get a shag if he goes to her place and was pissed off that she wouldn't tell him where she lived"

But she was perfectly happy to give him her address.

She hust wanted to do it via phone he wanted to keep communication via the site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You did right ....I dont give my address or phone number out ....ever x"

Surely you mean he did right the problem was he wouldnt give her his number lol

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Really a three week bump for that?"

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