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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ladies; can you offer any effective advice to reducing hot flushes?

The doctors have taken blood tests but said they won't intervene for two years.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

I will be watching this thread with interest for hints and tips !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ladies; can you offer any effective advice to reducing hot flushes?

The doctors have taken blood tests but said they won't intervene for two years. "

I have been told black cohosh works well. Along side taking vitamin c and a few others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe try evening primrose oil capsules to reduce hot flushes.

Best check with doc or pharmacy first if you are taking any prescription drugs as this can counteract some.

Hope this helps, hot flushes are a nightmare.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe try evening primrose oil capsules to reduce hot flushes.

Best check with doc or pharmacy first if you are taking any prescription drugs as this can counteract some.

Hope this helps, hot flushes are a nightmare."

Do they actually work though?

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

My I can't wait for the menopause

. Hopefully I take after my sister she sailed through it,unlike my mum. I have a feeling I'm going to take after my mum! I'm sure I'm perimenopausal,when I last went to the doctors regarding something else and asked whether I could be tested to find out,he advised me to just go with it

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

My I can't wait for the menopause

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

Cut down (stop, if possible) caffeine and alcohol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They do for some people, my mum & a few friends swore by them over the years.

I had a hysterectomy at 27 & been getting hot flushes for the last year but cant try evening primrose due to my prescription drugs.

They are not expensive so possibly worth a try without spending a fortune.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I took sage tablets when I was put into early menopause after a problem I had a couple of years ago. I suffered quite bad with hot flushes especially at night. They did help a little bit.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Ladies; can you offer any effective advice to reducing hot flushes?

The doctors have taken blood tests but said they won't intervene for two years. "

Have a look at the first episode of Doctor in The House, it was on BBC 1 I think. The woman on that had hot flushes which were considerably reduced through diet and exercise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought I had finished with all that, but at 56 I am having night sweats again despite taking multi vits for the menopause, so I give up!!! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wtf is going on with menopause though? i'm not looking forward to mine at all, whenever that's gonna be.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"wtf is going on with menopause though? i'm not looking forward to mine at all, whenever that's gonna be."

It doesn't have to be bad. I've had hardly any symptoms apart from the ones you're supposed to get i.e. periods stopping. I know I've been very lucky but don't dread it until you know how it's going to affect you, it might not be as bad as you think. The good news is that frequent sex is medically advised

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"wtf is going on with menopause though? i'm not looking forward to mine at all, whenever that's gonna be.

Is that really advised?

My mum had a hysterectomy so didn't have any menopause. Well thanks suppose it might not be that bad just it does sound terrible, from people offline as well as in here. All this sweating and flushing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a full hysterectomy 21 yrs ago ovaries out & everything been on Hrt ever since & only just started with hot flushes about a year ago.

Doc says it's the brain putting me through it at my age & not the fact I have no ovaries.

A healthy diet, lower alcohol amount & get some exercise in & it does help but Hrt helps me the most.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

V here. I'm loving the menopause!

I went to to doctor a couple of years ago, told him I couldn't recall having a period for a while. He said it was most likely menopause and that was it. I

I have the occasional hot flush. Usually at night and more likely if I've been drinking red wine. Someone once told me that ginger is great for reducing hot flushes and I drink lemongrass and ginger tea by the pint through the day. I don't know if that's working but I don't really suffer from any symptoms necessarily related to menopause.

Weight gain is an issue I've not enjoyed but I'm exercising like a loonie and eating random lettuce leaves and it's starting to come off.

V xx

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"wtf is going on with menopause though? i'm not looking forward to mine at all, whenever that's gonna be.

Is that really advised?

Yes, my gp told me that women should ideally have sex daily, it keeps the blood flow good to your genitals

and helps ward off vaginal atrophy (I know who'd be a woman eh!?).

Bad menopause gets more publicity, there's no point telling people "I'm 59 and not sweating or flushing" they wouldn't be interested

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I've been going through it for a year, apart from now getting period spotting that I didn't have before and things like my skin changing I'm sailing through it, but I have a mirena coil with hormone replacement in it.

My mum didn't even know she had had hers,her periods just stopped when she was 40 and that was it.

Just a side note though. Do you definetly k ow its the menopause.

I had terrible symptoms a few years ago, horrendous hot flushes and night sweats where so bad, plus I gained so much weight. Turned out it was a hormone problem and once I got on the right medication it was sorted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oooh and I should probably say my libido hadn't suffered either

Although I may need a little more lube than I did before.

TMI???

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Oh yes, I may not get quite as wet as before but noone would know apart from me and I do become a bit drier with condoms but that's just small things you notice about yourself.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I had absolutly no idea trans women went through the menaupause

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"wtf is going on with menopause though? i'm not looking forward to mine at all, whenever that's gonna be.

Is that really advised?

Yes, my gp told me that women should ideally have sex daily, it keeps the blood flow good to your genitals

and helps ward off vaginal atrophy (I know who'd be a woman eh!?).

Bad menopause gets more publicity, there's no point telling people "I'm 59 and not sweating or flushing" they wouldn't be interested

Yeah true, people don't complain about having an easy menopause.

My vaginas already shrunk but it lubes up ok, not sure if i'm in the peri-menopause or not. I've no other symptoms yet if i have, plus on my period right now - will be glad to get rid of these.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must admit I sailed through it, it's hard but I do think that a positive mind set helps, and I don't listen to horror stories

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I had absolutly no idea trans women went through the menaupause"

Lol. I'm not asking for me!

We've read lots of stuff on ways to possibly ease the symptoms but I wanted to know from real women what actually works for them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've been going through it for a year, apart from now getting period spotting that I didn't have before and things like my skin changing I'm sailing through it, but I have a mirena coil with hormone replacement in it.

My mum didn't even know she had had hers,her periods just stopped when she was 40 and that was it.

Just a side note though. Do you definetly k ow its the menopause.

Blood tests have been taken and results are awaited. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cool drinks,heating down,thin clothing and a small electric or portable fan. I just get on with whatever I'm doing and wipe the sweat off,then jump in a cool shower afterwards. It's not good when you're fat either because you get sore and itchy skin because you're always sweating.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's really interfering with our nighttime spooning too. Making us both sad as we're limpets all night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel that pain. I have to push Adam to the other side of the bed I get so hot

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I feel that pain. I have to push Adam to the other side of the bed I get so hot

It's horrid. Brings back some sore memories.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"...

Yes, my gp told me that women should ideally have sex daily, it keeps the blood flow good to your genitals

and helps ward off vaginal atrophy (I know who'd be a woman eh!?)

...

Now I remember; I was prescribed FabS membership by my GP. Why else would I join a site like this one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure the neighbours must think I'm mad having the bedroom windows open wide in December!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My mum went through hell with her menopause and I'm scared ..I know she went to a really good health shop and took their advice .at different times I can remember seeing evening primrose ,vit e, black cosh and sage complex

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By *rMrs-Luv-ItCouple
over a year ago

cwmbranish

"I'm sure the neighbours must think I'm mad having the bedroom windows open wide in December! "

Lol i was getting funny looks on the bus yesterday was the worst hot flush so far my face was soaking hair wet had my coat off and was fanning myself with a dvd

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Evening primrose really does help with breast pain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive had mine for about 2 years,only the hot flushes, no mood swings,no headaches etc....there is still a stigma attached to hrt, though nowadays the advice is to start as early as possible, then the dosage can be less, for a shorter time;there's no evidence that black cohosh or clover etc work at all.

a slab of salt rock crystal kept in fridge though is great at 2am when youre pouring sweat and cant sleep!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only thing that worked for me was the truly wonderful HRT.

I tried all other things such as herbal remadies, no alchol, various other prescribed medicines but nothing worked at all except HRT.

There are some scare stories about side effects of HRT but many turned out to be untrue and for me if i didnt have HRT i would be without a husband or family or job or house etc. Plus i would be wet sweaty and hot ALL the time, the hot flushes made me close to passing out at times and they were approx every half hour day and night, i wouldnt remember anything, i would suffer headaches plus various other pains and i would be extremly depressed

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By *sla69Woman
over a year ago

coventry/Leicestershire border

I call them my tropical moments, the worst symptom I have struggled with is the itchy skin. I can cope with the flushes, which weren’t too bad, but the itching came at any time of the day and night and drove me mad. I eventually found the answer in a combination of nettle tincture, and vitamin C. I take the tincture three times a day and make sure I have plenty of fruit and vegetables, as well as adding a vitamin C supplement to my diet. I drink more water because I read that it helps flush out the system. I also cut down on drinks that contained caffeine. It all worked really quickly, which was such a relief.. hope this helps with something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm post menopausal now. The hrt has made all the difference. No sweats at all and feeling amazing again. Just need to get rid of my tummy which suddenly appeared

Daily sex sounds like a very good idea and will work on that one

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Just a point here but menopause is the period of time when a woman has stopped menstruating past a certain age.

Peri-menopause is the process before that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ladies; can you offer any effective advice to reducing hot flushes?

The doctors have taken blood tests but said they won't intervene for two years. "

Your new avatar has given me serious shoe envy!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

I thought I have had no symptoms at all with mine until I just noticed someone mentioning itching I do get that at night sometimes, but apart from that I was a lucky sod and sailed through it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's really interfering with our nighttime spooning too. Making us both sad as we're limpets all night

Night times can be the worse. As sleep becomes restless and who wants to spoon a boiling furness hahaha

I've been in my first menopause for 7 months now, the first 6 months weren't so nice. I got so hot at times it was like having sun stroke

I've been taking cod liver oil and evening primrose , for the same amount of time and it's settled some what. The chills can be worse than the hot flushes....it's literally like a switch and you can feel your whole body flair up and go

I've just started to take HRT this month...so this should be interesting And, I have it all to come again, as I'm in a pre induced menopause. I have a 3 monthly injection that halts it all, to stop my alien fibroids taking over. They've shrunken with amazing effect so far, so I can ride it out like a hormonal trooper

....plus now my top lip doesn't break out in a sweat no more, its become less of a pain in the ass.

I did read when I read a few forums and sites, in one MEDICAl section about what to do whilst in work and you 'breakout'

If you start to cry in work, just take yourself off, somewhere quiet. As people don't need to see that. .... Hahah ermmm like I want to cry if my pencil snaps or a leaf floats to the ground and a car squished it.!!! ...Ride out those tropical moments.

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york

"Evening primrose really does help with breast pain."
any other ideas for breast pain , i carnt take evening primrose x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They do for some people, my mum & a few friends swore by them over the years.

I had a hysterectomy at 27 & been getting hot flushes for the last year but cant try evening primrose due to my prescription drugs.

They are not expensive so possibly worth a try without spending a fortune."

Did you go on HRT?

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

"I'm sure the neighbours must think I'm mad having the bedroom windows open wide in December! "

Lol thought that was just me that had the windows open.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Black Cohosh and Agnus Castus daily work wonders for my hot flashes and night sweats. But it does take a few months before it has an effect.

I also eat soya and linseed bread daily. Diet can help x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ladies, your more than welcome to give me a hot flash

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been on HRT for 6 years.

No side effects at all.

Have check up every 6 months at doctors.

Still get hot sometimes, but nothing like it was. No tiredness or itchiness.

I also lost 30lb whilst been on HRT, through sensible dieting an exercise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Black Cohosh and Agnus Castus daily work wonders for my hot flashes and night sweats. But it does take a few months before it has an effect.

I also eat soya and linseed bread daily. Diet can help x"

I tried all of those and more but they didn't work for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Black Cohosh and Agnus Castus daily work wonders for my hot flashes and night sweats. But it does take a few months before it has an effect.

I also eat soya and linseed bread daily. Diet can help x

I tried all of those and more but they didn't work for me

It works for a few women I know. But I guess we are all different? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Vitamin E along with black cohosh with sage and evening primrose does do wonders for menopause not sure if you girls can buy black cohosh In the UK or not as it's been taken off the market herein ireland but it does do wonders for the hot flushes and night sweats that plagues all of us it's important to reduce caffeine intake and In crease your milk in take as well to help maintain strong bones as well

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"Vitamin E along with black cohosh with sage and evening primrose does do wonders for menopause not sure if you girls can buy black cohosh In the UK or not as it's been taken off the market herein ireland but it does do wonders for the hot flushes and night sweats that plagues all of us it's important to reduce caffeine intake and In crease your milk in take as well to help maintain strong bones as well "

Not all of us are symptomatic! I'm 55 and peri-menopausal with hardly any symptoms. Increasing calcium intake is actually a myth. Countries with the highest dairy consumption have the highest rate of osteoporosis. Magnesium and weight bearing exercise is far better protection as is vitamin D3 supplementation..

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By *ancyDrewWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I had absolutly no idea trans women went through the menaupause"

We don't, but taking HRT is like a cross between menopause and puberty. I had really bad night sweats but they didnt last long. I cant remember how long now. I think it was only weeks? I have been having a lot of night sweats again, and moodiness, and uber tiredness. And forgetfulness. Maybe it is hormonal...Anyways. Hope it passes for you soon. x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Interesting. I will look at those supplements. I've have had very few symptoms but I do want to protect against osteoporosis as far as I can.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Interesting. I will look at those supplements. I've have had very few symptoms but I do want to protect against osteoporosis as far as I can."

Most GP's will now test for vii D deficiency, but nearly all of us are deficient. I have taken high doses for many years.

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By *irceWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester

"Ladies; can you offer any effective advice to reducing hot flushes?

The doctors have taken blood tests but said they won't intervene for two years. "

Being taken off HRT 3 time's for a month at a time I had great fun with the flushes

and summer was just cruel.

Only thing worked was to strip naked in super fast time and cold wash with a flannel

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By *nne BoleynWoman
over a year ago

Gateshead

I'm in menopause following breast cancer treatment aged 36 so I'm not allowed hrt. I've been shocked at the lack of information and support out there for woman and I've had to work it out for myself. For the hot flushes, Reduce caffeine, I drink green tea through the day and avoid caffeine at night. Triggers are also Alchol, refined sugars especially chocolate. Dairy is also a trigger but you need to include dairy in your diet for calcium. I take vit d supplements and you need calcium for the vit d to be absorbed for your bone stength. A healthier diet and exercise make a massive improvement.

On a plus note I have no hormones anymore so I've lost that hysterical girl streak....I get it now, this is what it's like to be a man ha! x

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By *irceWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester

You may find a site called 'Hystersisters" a good guide, remember it being helpful and friendly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I saw a programme a couple of years ago called The Food Hospital. In one episode there was a woman who suffered badly with hot flushes. She was taking statins so couldn't have HRT. They put her on a natural high oestrogen diet and in a few weeks the hot flushes had almost completely stopped.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I saw a programme a couple of years ago called The Food Hospital. In one episode there was a woman who suffered badly with hot flushes. She was taking statins so couldn't have HRT. They put her on a natural high oestrogen diet and in a few weeks the hot flushes had almost completely stopped."

I'm wondering why she can't take both ?

Although obviously it's a good outcome for her anyway

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

I'm wondering why she can't take both ?

Although obviously it's a good outcome for her anyway

Even though there is not one shred of evidence to support anyone taking statins, let alone women or women over 50. Nasty side effects too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm wondering why she can't take both ?

Although obviously it's a good outcome for her anyway

Even though there is not one shred of evidence to support anyone taking statins, let alone women or women over 50. Nasty side effects too."

I was referring to her hot flushes almost stopping due to her high oestrogen diet, something that reduces hot flushes is good in my world

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I'm wondering why she can't take both ?

Although obviously it's a good outcome for her anyway

Even though there is not one shred of evidence to support anyone taking statins, let alone women or women over 50. Nasty side effects too."
oh I'm over 50 have a coil with hrt in it and I'm on statins wonder if that's why I don't get hot flushes

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ladies; can you offer any effective advice to reducing hot flushes?

The doctors have taken blood tests but said they won't intervene for two years.

Your new avatar has given me serious shoe envy!"

I'd have messaged privately as this isn't really a shoe conversation thread. Glad you like them too. They were a present.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Exercise and healthy rest. Exercise is a major boon - and if you include some yoga, you'll also reduce stress levels plus increase flexibility.

Extra attention to sufficient rest and high quality sleep is important. Adjust your schedule as well as your bedroom conditions.

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