FabSwingers.com forum: Hotel meet payment etiquette?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What's the standard practise here when a couple meets another couple (or single) at a hotel ...if the couple are getting the benefit of the room for the full stay, do they normally just take the cost on the chin...or is a contribution normally expected (even if after 'play' is finished everyone but the original couple are turfed out the hotel room). if there's normally a contribution involved, it strikes me that some couples could use this as a very cheap way to stay in hotels around the country!!!

I've no angle here...just curious.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"What's the standard practise here when a couple meets another couple (or single) at a hotel ...if the couple are getting the benefit of the room for the full stay, do they normally just take the cost on the chin...or is a contribution normally expected (even if after 'play' is finished everyone but the original couple are turfed out the hotel room). if there's normally a contribution involved, it strikes me that some couples could use this as a very cheap way to stay in hotels around the country!!!

I've no angle here...just curious."

I think the general opinion is that whoever stays in the room pays

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've no angle here...just curious."

Although I think that is the general etiquette I would always offer to cover half of the room as all parties would be having fun, bit that is just one man's opinion though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone is staying in the room for the night then they should pay for the room.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have met at hotels that others are staying at and offered to go halves but always been told our choice to stay so we pay same as if we book overnight stay our choice

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I agree with the sentiment...but just wondered if there's a 'standard' in place! (& since most rooms can't be hire by the hour, someone must have paid for the whole night ...or is everyone saying that once the 'play' has finished the room must be vacated & the bill split?!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it was a room that had been hired for the sole purpose of a meet then halves .

This is what we so , and we never stay over as we have to get home for the sitter .

If the other party are already staying in a room anyway and advertise a meet , then they would pay the full cost .

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

If you plan to stay over the entire night and the other person/couple are going home, then you pay the bill as you are the ones staying in the room.

If it is just a room to play in and everyone goes home after play then split it 50-50.

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By *ittenbutnotshyCouple
over a year ago

North Manchester

I've no angle here...just curious.

I think the general opinion is that whoever stays in the room pays "

Disagree, if we're having a hotel meet we usually use one nearby. We expect the cost to be split 50/50 regardless of whoever stays all night. If the single/couple want to stay then that's fine but if not then we will stay but still the hotel is split 50/50.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"If you plan to stay over the entire night and the other person/couple are going home, then you pay the bill as you are the ones staying in the room.

If it is just a room to play in and everyone goes home after play then split it 50-50.

This, plus I take a bottle of wine too as I'm a guest .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we are staying in a hotel anyway we would never ask for any contributions, especially id we had invited our guests. However if it was a pre-planned meet in a hotel and the room booked especially for the meet then halves would be the way to go for us.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone...pretty much what I'd thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've no angle here...just curious."

If someone is travelling to meet us from say Leeds then we would book and pay for the hotel room even if they were staying in it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the room as been book for that meet then all parties should pay, what does it matter who stays over? The rooms been booked for the shag if both parties get benifit of sex from it both parties pay towards it surely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never offer to get a hotel room and would not go for a meet

But I have wondered why people would want to pay all that money to meet someone

I can understand a night away from home but a shag I don't get why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would never offer to get a hotel room and would not go for a meet

But I have wondered why people would want to pay all that money to meet someone

I can understand a night away from home but a shag I don't get why "

Because for some its the only way to meet

I don't accommodate as I have kids so if I didn't do hotel meets I wouldn't have a sex life

It's hardly expensive, you can get a room for £40/£50 split between two that will hardly break the bank

If I didn't do that where would I have sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would never offer to get a hotel room and would not go for a meet

But I have wondered why people would want to pay all that money to meet someone

I can understand a night away from home but a shag I don't get why

Because for some its the only way to meet

I don't accommodate as I have kids so if I didn't do hotel meets I wouldn't have a sex life

It's hardly expensive, you can get a room for £40/£50 split between two that will hardly break the bank

If I didn't do that where would I have sex

With guys that don't have kids at home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id say paying half is fair....but i only want a quickie so is a fiver ok??!

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

We had an afternoon meet with a lady in a hotel. We invited her and booked the room, so we paid. Even though we weren't staying the night. Had she offered to pay half i'd have declined to accept.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would never offer to get a hotel room and would not go for a meet

But I have wondered why people would want to pay all that money to meet someone

I can understand a night away from home but a shag I don't get why "

How about some people actually want to spend time together?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I would never offer to get a hotel room and would not go for a meet

But I have wondered why people would want to pay all that money to meet someone

I can understand a night away from home but a shag I don't get why "

I perceive (rightly or wrongly) a hotel as a safer option. I can't accommodate, and I would feel uncomfortable going to a guys house, especially if he lives out in the sticks and I can't get home easily. Also, being used to travelling and spending a lot of time in various hotel rooms, I can relax more in them. And you get free tea bags

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would never offer to get a hotel room and would not go for a meet

But I have wondered why people would want to pay all that money to meet someone

I can understand a night away from home but a shag I don't get why

Because for some its the only way to meet

I don't accommodate as I have kids so if I didn't do hotel meets I wouldn't have a sex life

It's hardly expensive, you can get a room for £40/£50 split between two that will hardly break the bank

If I didn't do that where would I have sex

With guys that don't have kids at home "

If i only met guys who accommodated id be looking at a really small market on here and there would be less chance of meeting a guy i liked

I don't choose who I meet by if they accommodate I'd sooner pay half towards a hotel with a guy I liked than limit myself to only meeting guys who accommodate

Having a good night with a guy I really find attractive and like is more important than saving a few Bob to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We had an afternoon meet with a lady in a hotel. We invited her and booked the room, so we paid. Even though we weren't staying the night. Had she offered to pay half i'd have declined to accept. "

Would you have accepted if it had been a couple or a single man?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would never offer to get a hotel room and would not go for a meet

But I have wondered why people would want to pay all that money to meet someone

I can understand a night away from home but a shag I don't get why

I agree with this

I feel more relaxed in a hotel, in somebodies home you have to treat it as such and I don't like having to ask if its OK every time I need the loo, want a shower or a drink etc, I prefer hotels where if I want a pee I can just get up and go and make a drink whenever I wish without having to ask for one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would never offer to get a hotel room and would not go for a meet

But I have wondered why people would want to pay all that money to meet someone

I can understand a night away from home but a shag I don't get why

Because for some its the only way to meet

I don't accommodate as I have kids so if I didn't do hotel meets I wouldn't have a sex life

It's hardly expensive, you can get a room for £40/£50 split between two that will hardly break the bank

If I didn't do that where would I have sex

With guys that don't have kids at home

If i only met guys who accommodated id be looking at a really small market on here and there would be less chance of meeting a guy i liked

I don't choose who I meet by if they accommodate I'd sooner pay half towards a hotel with a guy I liked than limit myself to only meeting guys who accommodate

Having a good night with a guy I really find attractive and like is more important than saving a few Bob to me "

It wasn't the money I was just wondering a woman's side . I have always believed women like their own bed and nest .

I like my home and if I was truly comfortable with someone I like then I would rather them in my home or theirs than in a club etc which I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would never offer to get a hotel room and would not go for a meet

But I have wondered why people would want to pay all that money to meet someone

I can understand a night away from home but a shag I don't get why

Because for some its the only way to meet

I don't accommodate as I have kids so if I didn't do hotel meets I wouldn't have a sex life

It's hardly expensive, you can get a room for £40/£50 split between two that will hardly break the bank

If I didn't do that where would I have sex

With guys that don't have kids at home

If i only met guys who accommodated id be looking at a really small market on here and there would be less chance of meeting a guy i liked

I don't choose who I meet by if they accommodate I'd sooner pay half towards a hotel with a guy I liked than limit myself to only meeting guys who accommodate

Having a good night with a guy I really find attractive and like is more important than saving a few Bob to me

It wasn't the money I was just wondering a woman's side . I have always believed women like their own bed and nest .

I like my home and if I was truly comfortable with someone I like then I would rather them in my home or theirs than in a club etc which I do "

If it wasn't the money what did you mean when you put

But I have wondered why people would want to pay all that money to meet someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would never offer to get a hotel room and would not go for a meet

But I have wondered why people would want to pay all that money to meet someone

I can understand a night away from home but a shag I don't get why

Yes and free towels , Splenda, silver wear and robes

I was so embarrassed once when a girl asked me if the robe and towel I gave her is from the Marriott

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By *ark CharmerMan
over a year ago

Horsham

I think it should be decided before the meet.

In my opinion I would say halves if the hotel is solely for the meet. I accommodate so don't see the need to stay in a hotel.

If I am travelling for a meet and staying in a hotel, I wont expect the female or couple to pay anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree with the sentiment...but just wondered if there's a 'standard' in place! (& since most rooms can't be hire by the hour, someone must have paid for the whole night ...or is everyone saying that once the 'play' has finished the room must be vacated & the bill split?!)"
why would anyone say that ? If you organise a meet its at that stage you talk about cost ,in my case I generally pay as the man but everyone approaches it differently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I invited someone to my hotel room, single, or couple, I wouldn't expect them to pay - even if they stayed the night with me. Wouldn't have even occurred to me to ask for, or be offered, a contribution.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I invited someone to my hotel room, single, or couple, I wouldn't expect them to pay - even if they stayed the night with me. Wouldn't have even occurred to me to ask for, or be offered, a contribution."

There's a different between inviting somebody to your hotel room and booking a room for a specific meet

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

"I agree with the sentiment...but just wondered if there's a 'standard' in place! (& since most rooms can't be hire by the hour, someone must have paid for the whole night ...or is everyone saying that once the 'play' has finished the room must be vacated & the bill split?!)why would anyone say that ? If you organise a meet its at that stage you talk about cost ,in my case I generally pay as the man but everyone approaches it differently

Really?

I have always wanted to stay at the Mandarin Oriental

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree with the sentiment...but just wondered if there's a 'standard' in place! (& since most rooms can't be hire by the hour, someone must have paid for the whole night ...or is everyone saying that once the 'play' has finished the room must be vacated & the bill split?!)why would anyone say that ? If you organise a meet its at that stage you talk about cost ,in my case I generally pay as the man but everyone approaches it differently

Really?

I have always wanted to stay at the Mandarin Oriental

I have done jobs there. presidential suite costs 5 digits per night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

£29 Premier Inn is not going to break the bank.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Quite a few hotel meets I have had were staying there for work so I don't/wouldn't offer.

If it's been booked just for the meet then I'll offer to go half. Sometimes this is declined and in that case I will reiterate my offer and if it's still refused I will let it go.

If the hotel has been booked for them (or me) to stay in, perhaps for a club visit then I don't offer to split the cost.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I stay in hotels a lot for work. So the company pays.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

"We had an afternoon meet with a lady in a hotel. We invited her and booked the room, so we paid. Even though we weren't staying the night. Had she offered to pay half i'd have declined to accept.

Would you have accepted if it had been a couple or a single man?"

No, if we had invited someone and we booked the room we would have paid

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By * TRUE GENTMan
over a year ago

west bromwich

I do often wonder as if a true gent wishs to entertain a lady or couple for the evening why any suggestion of finance should even be mentioned the same if a couple or lady invite me back to theirs residence for the night .been a hotel or apartment .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do often wonder as if a true gent wishs to entertain a lady or couple for the evening why any suggestion of finance should even be mentioned the same if a couple or lady invite me back to theirs residence for the night .been a hotel or apartment . "

Not really sure what you mean by that

are you saying if I mailed you and asked if you wanted to meet i should pay for the hotel?

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

I've no angle here...just curious.

If someone is travelling to meet us from say Leeds then we would book and pay for the hotel room even if they were staying in it

Just checking train times.

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By *eliciouslyNastyMan
over a year ago

London

Not read all the posts, I'm sure someone has said it but, can't you just state the rules before?

I know one couple who like to meet in the bar, then myself and the good lady retire to the room...

And 30-40 mins later Mr joins us...

But their rules were set well in advance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would never offer to get a hotel room and would not go for a meet

But I have wondered why people would want to pay all that money to meet someone

I can understand a night away from home but a shag I don't get why "

All that money?

Some people on fab are a lot more than 'a shag' - some are bloody amazing in bed - and well worth half a hotel room plus petrol/travel time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it was a room that had been hired for the sole purpose of a meet then halves .

This is what we so , and we never stay over as we have to get home for the sitter .

If the other party are already staying in a room anyway and advertise a meet , then they would pay the full cost ."

Even though all involved would be be "getting something out of it"? Seems a little one sided.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The whole concept of a travel tavern meet and who pays is distasteful at best and crass at worst.

Who would want to be intimate in what is basically a corporate plastic box with a WC and obscure biscuits with the even more obscure brand of tea on the teas maid station adjacent to the anchored to the wall hair dryer.

Revolting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The whole concept of a travel tavern meet and who pays is distasteful at best and crass at worst.

Revolting"

That raises an intereting point,,,who gets to keep all the complimentary tea and coffee,the toiletries? I once stayed in a room where they supplied some very nice lemon drizzle cakes,,,but only two of them,,,it would be a shame if a previously enjoyable encounter descended into rancour,recriminations and even a fight over who had the biggest piece of cake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The whole concept of a travel tavern meet and who pays is distasteful at best and crass at worst.

Revolting

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well I wouldn't want the shampoo or body lotion which is usually peroxide with a fragrance of anthrax delicately woven into the essential oils. The lemon drizzle cake was probably the soap inadvertently left at the tea station by a fabster

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

An arranged meet at a mutually convenient hotel then the cost is split.

A meet in a hotel that they've book and will be staying overnight at then I don't even offer, they would've been there whether I turned up or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The whole concept of a travel tavern meet and who pays is distasteful at best and crass at worst.

Revolting

well I wouldn't want the shampoo or body lotion which is usually peroxide with a fragrance of anthrax delicately woven into the essential oils. The lemon drizzle cake was probably the soap inadvertently left at the tea station by a fabster"

Well,it was quite nice tasting soap.Fortunately there were only two of us in the room and he didn't want it,so I had two,,,I can just imagine the scene if there had been four of us,fighting over that cake,at least we'd have forgotten the row over the bill.

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

If you have breakfast in the hotel dining room, pay.

If you eat her muffin for breakfast, don't pay. This might seem like you're paying for sex.

If she enjoys your sausage for breakfast, don't pay. This too might seem like you're paying for sex.

If a couple have a hotel room and invite you for sex, they pay - they had the room anyway. You're an add-on.

Just my late night rambling observation.

Hotel invites welcome. I don't need breakfast unless you're offering a warm muffin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree with the sentiment...but just wondered if there's a 'standard' in place! (& since most rooms can't be hire by the hour, someone must have paid for the whole night ...or is everyone saying that once the 'play' has finished the room must be vacated & the bill split?!)why would anyone say that ? If you organise a meet its at that stage you talk about cost ,in my case I generally pay as the man but everyone approaches it differently

Really?

I have always wanted to stay at the Mandarin Oriental

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have you now that's a very expensive hotel xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The whole concept of a travel tavern meet and who pays is distasteful at best and crass at worst.

Revolting"

for some of us hotel meets are the only choice there is

if it wasn't for hotels I wouldn't have a sex life as I have kids at home so for their safety I never hand out my address to men on Internet sex sites

I find that far more revolting than sharing a night in a hotel with a guy I like

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By *irkby coupleCouple
over a year ago

Kirkby

Hotels normally arnt that dear, depending what hotel you are shagging in, if you don't want to chip in to the cost maybe you should a meet some where other then the hotel.

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