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"Ive not long come back to fab after a short break. I've noticed it's near on impossible for a single male on here. Is there anyone who shares this frustration or can offer some words of advice. No trolling please. " What was it like when you were here before? | |||
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"Have you tried POF or one of normal dating sites. Seriously..... swinging is a bit niche mate, with perhaps only 10-15% of population doing it and probably females doing it 1-2%. 80% of blokes would do it if they could so your chances of finding fun are pretty small to be perfectly honest. You might have more luck on a dating site, Say on your profile your looking for fun with a great big wink after it and be honest with the fems you chat with about what you'd like to do and hey presto it's sorted There...... Doctor Naughty to the rescue NEXT............." This is the post of the year. Thank you | |||
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"Ive not long come back to fab after a short break. I've noticed it's near on impossible for a single male on here. Is there anyone who shares this frustration or can offer some words of advice. No trolling please. " . As marketing yourself correctly is important in order to get to the starting line of the race , a profile will need considerable thought and good preparation in addition to interesting pictures . It needs to be at least fifteen lines | |||
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"Ive not long come back to fab after a short break. I've noticed it's near on impossible for a single male on here. Is there anyone who shares this frustration or can offer some words of advice. No trolling please. " I,m nearly 60 ugly as sin and I do ok just be patient, look at your profile and ask yourself "would I meet this person" if you answer yes leave it alone if you answer no change the bit that put you off. | |||
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"Have you tried POF or one of normal dating sites. Seriously..... swinging is a bit niche mate, with perhaps only 10-15% of population doing it and probably females doing it 1-2%. 80% of blokes would do it if they could so your chances of finding fun are pretty small to be perfectly honest. You might have more luck on a dating site, Say on your profile your looking for fun with a great big wink after it and be honest with the fems you chat with about what you'd like to do and hey presto it's sorted There...... Doctor Naughty to the rescue NEXT............. This is the post of the year. Thank you " And that is a seriously good looking cock you have there on your profile so complement returned. | |||
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"Have you tried POF or one of normal dating sites. Seriously..... swinging is a bit niche mate, with perhaps only 10-15% of population doing it and probably females doing it 1-2%. 80% of blokes would do it if they could so your chances of finding fun are pretty small to be perfectly honest. You might have more luck on a dating site, Say on your profile your looking for fun with a great big wink after it and be honest with the fems you chat with about what you'd like to do and hey presto it's sorted There...... Doctor Naughty to the rescue NEXT............. This is the post of the year. Thank you And that is a seriously good looking cock you have there on your profile so complement returned." Thank you | |||
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"Lol, I just kinda hang around for the community vibe and to view photos. I enjoy my own photos being on show too. But it is very hard for us male singletons to get far. Or maybe there's just a select few who get all the goodies and we get to hear about it lol. " I think the guys who do well on here. Tend to do well offline also And use this as bonus sex. I use the swinging world to have all my kinky fun. While I'm dating vanilla girls. If it becomes a serious relationship. I take a break from swinging and focus on my vanilla relationship. | |||
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"Be patient and remember that you're asking a man to share his wife or girlfriend with you. Only the worthy get rewarded." Many people will also find that attitude problematic. Treat people as individuals. Not as another man's property. | |||
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"I've been on this site for over a year. It's only hard for single men because of a handful of idiots. I have met amazing single women and generous couples. Be patient and remember that you're asking a man to share his wife or girlfriend with you. Only the worthy get rewarded." This is also good advice. If a guy/girl/ or couple only speaks to one of us, or treats us as a single we wouldn't meet. We are a couple and I am much more impressed if a someone treats as as such. In clubs I would expect them to ask the opposite partner if it was okay or if they wanted to play with both as us both x | |||
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"I've been on this site for over a year. It's only hard for single men because of a handful of idiots. I have met amazing single women and generous couples. Be patient and remember that you're asking a man to share his wife or girlfriend with you. Only the worthy get rewarded. This is also good advice. If a guy/girl/ or couple only speaks to one of us, or treats us as a single we wouldn't meet. We are a couple and I am much more impressed if a someone treats as as such. In clubs I would expect them to ask the opposite partner if it was okay or if they wanted to play with both as us both x " You're a couple yet only have face pics of the female on here so you can't really be surprised if messages are mainly aimed at the woman surely? | |||
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"I've been on this site for over a year. It's only hard for single men because of a handful of idiots. I have met amazing single women and generous couples. Be patient and remember that you're asking a man to share his wife or girlfriend with you. Only the worthy get rewarded. This is also good advice. If a guy/girl/ or couple only speaks to one of us, or treats us as a single we wouldn't meet. We are a couple and I am much more impressed if a someone treats as as such. In clubs I would expect them to ask the opposite partner if it was okay or if they wanted to play with both as us both x You're a couple yet only have face pics of the female on here so you can't really be surprised if messages are mainly aimed at the woman surely?" Nope... As Mr can't have his public I can. And I'm talking about in clubs mostly as we approach single guys ourselves if we want them. And if we message will send a face photo of us both. And it also does say couple | |||
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"I've been on this site for over a year. It's only hard for single men because of a handful of idiots. I have met amazing single women and generous couples. Be patient and remember that you're asking a man to share his wife or girlfriend with you. Only the worthy get rewarded. This is also good advice. If a guy/girl/ or couple only speaks to one of us, or treats us as a single we wouldn't meet. We are a couple and I am much more impressed if a someone treats as as such. In clubs I would expect them to ask the opposite partner if it was okay or if they wanted to play with both as us both x " I think this is a good rule to have. Because it means that people who don't want those that only come as a pair don't accidentally shag one of you! | |||
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"I've been on this site for over a year. It's only hard for single men because of a handful of idiots. I have met amazing single women and generous couples. Be patient and remember that you're asking a man to share his wife or girlfriend with you. Only the worthy get rewarded." The "handful of idiots" actually should make it easier for good guys to stand out. I do not judge people by others behaviour. Everyone gets a fair chance. And on my couples profile, if anyone asked him to share me, they would be told I have a mind of my own, and I am not some chattel to be decided on without my input. | |||
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"I've been on this site for over a year. It's only hard for single men because of a handful of idiots. I have met amazing single women and generous couples. Be patient and remember that you're asking a man to share his wife or girlfriend with you. Only the worthy get rewarded. This is also good advice. If a guy/girl/ or couple only speaks to one of us, or treats us as a single we wouldn't meet. We are a couple and I am much more impressed if a someone treats as as such. In clubs I would expect them to ask the opposite partner if it was okay or if they wanted to play with both as us both x You're a couple yet only have face pics of the female on here so you can't really be surprised if messages are mainly aimed at the woman surely? Nope... As Mr can't have his public I can. And I'm talking about in clubs mostly as we approach single guys ourselves if we want them. And if we message will send a face photo of us both. And it also does say couple " That's fair enough. I have though seen posts from women in couples who have said they'd hate a single man in a club to ask their partner for permission to play with them as they are their own person and can decide for themselves who they want to play with. Seems like single men can't win. | |||
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"I've been on this site for over a year. It's only hard for single men because of a handful of idiots. I have met amazing single women and generous couples. Be patient and remember that you're asking a man to share his wife or girlfriend with you. Only the worthy get rewarded. This is also good advice. If a guy/girl/ or couple only speaks to one of us, or treats us as a single we wouldn't meet. We are a couple and I am much more impressed if a someone treats as as such. In clubs I would expect them to ask the opposite partner if it was okay or if they wanted to play with both as us both x You're a couple yet only have face pics of the female on here so you can't really be surprised if messages are mainly aimed at the woman surely? Nope... As Mr can't have his public I can. And I'm talking about in clubs mostly as we approach single guys ourselves if we want them. And if we message will send a face photo of us both. And it also does say couple That's fair enough. I have though seen posts from women in couples who have said they'd hate a single man in a club to ask their partner for permission to play with them as they are their own person and can decide for themselves who they want to play with. Seems like single men can't win." I think it doesn't hurt to talk to both people.. even if you only want one. You can sus it out And ask.. but when Mr started as a single guy in a cclub he was told to always talk to the guy as well. I think for single guys if they are social and really see sex or play as just the cherry on top that they will do well. We recently met a newbie guy.. had he messaged us I'd of said no due to age and facial hair but he was polite and really making an effort to chat. So Mr invited him to join us | |||
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"I find these posts fascinating. Two of my male partners use swinging sites - as single men - and they both meet more than enough people to keep them occupied. However they would never dream of sending h kinds of messages that I largely get sent by men. Guys might kid themselves and think they're not getting laid because they're an Adonis - but my partners certainly aren't Adonises either (well, one of them is a skinny-runner version maybe). At the end of the day so much comes down to personality. Not your penis, or your flat stomach, or your face, but your personality and your ability to behave like a decent human being." My response to these threads is always the same, and possibly a more concise version of your post. "Don't be a dickhead" | |||
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"Have you tried POF or one of normal dating sites. Seriously..... swinging is a bit niche mate, with perhaps only 10-15% of population doing it and probably females doing it 1-2%. 80% of blokes would do it if they could so your chances of finding fun are pretty small to be perfectly honest. You might have more luck on a dating site, Say on your profile your looking for fun with a great big wink after it and be honest with the fems you chat with about what you'd like to do and hey presto it's sorted There...... Doctor Naughty to the rescue NEXT............." In the interests of "balance" I do far better here than I ever did on POF. | |||
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"If i were a single man id just hit the chatroom non stop. Get noticed. Not just watch cams or stay in the background.... with people" This does work | |||
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"If i were a single man id just hit the chatroom non stop. Get noticed. Not just watch cams or stay in the background.... with people This does work " Yes, it worked for me, except my first ever meet was in Telford... That took some arranging... | |||
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"They should change the name to fab couples/ladies. .." Aw, did the women did not fall over themselves to get a place in your bed? | |||
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"If i were a single man id just hit the chatroom non stop. Get noticed. Not just watch cams or stay in the background.... with people This does work " It does but I'd say don't sit there and be a sheep. Ie go on about how amazing all the ladies on cam look, or how you are hard looking at their photos, or how much you want to tap that. find a way to join in. And be aware that at the start the chat room is a bit hard work. However the more you prove you can be social and are not just perving... Then the regulars will start to recognise you and you will soon be included x | |||
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"I fell your pain bud" Whose pain? You need to use the quote so we know whose message you're addressing. | |||
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"Ive not long come back to fab after a short break. I've noticed it's near on impossible for a single male on here. Is there anyone who shares this frustration or can offer some words of advice. No trolling please. " I disagree massively all depends on the person you are and the friendships you make | |||
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"I've been on this site for over a year. It's only hard for single men because of a handful of idiots. I have met amazing single women and generous couples. Be patient and remember that you're asking a man to share his wife or girlfriend with you. Only the worthy get rewarded. This is also good advice. If a guy/girl/ or couple only speaks to one of us, or treats us as a single we wouldn't meet. We are a couple and I am much more impressed if a someone treats as as such. It's called respect chat to them both and front the question to them both don't undermine one to get to the other I'd always ask the guy ifhe was ok that I could play with his partner obv if there was mutual attraction between myself and the female x In clubs I would expect them to ask the opposite partner if it was okay or if they wanted to play with both as us both x You're a couple yet only have face pics of the female on here so you can't really be surprised if messages are mainly aimed at the woman surely? Nope... As Mr can't have his public I can. And I'm talking about in clubs mostly as we approach single guys ourselves if we want them. And if we message will send a face photo of us both. And it also does say couple That's fair enough. I have though seen posts from women in couples who have said they'd hate a single man in a club to ask their partner for permission to play with them as they are their own person and can decide for themselves who they want to play with. Seems like single men can't win." | |||
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"Absolutely and if you are over 60 then obviously you are truly f**cked" Not true at all! | |||
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"Absolutely and if you are over 60 then obviously you are truly f**cked" . Age is irrelevant as members have age filters and lots want to meet older people . . In sone ways older members should be at an advantage as they appreciate the importance of writing a detailed , informed and interesting profile together. with good ppictures .. Maturity should bring lots of benefits if used properly . | |||
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"Absolutely and if you are over 60 then obviously you are truly f**cked. Age is irrelevant as members have age filters and lots want to meet older people . . In sone ways older members should be at an advantage as they appreciate the importance of writing a detailed , informed and interesting profile together. with good ppictures .. Maturity should bring lots of benefits if used properly . " I totally agree....and it does | |||
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"Absolutely and if you are over 60 then obviously you are truly f**cked. Age is irrelevant as members have age filters and lots want to meet older people . . In sone ways older members should be at an advantage as they appreciate the importance of writing a detailed , informed and interesting profile together. with good ppictures .. Maturity should bring lots of benefits if used properly . I totally agree....and it does" yes they can generally take their teeth out and put them in glass on bedside table always a bonus with blow jobs ,they can only get into one or two positions and they can't last long which means you can get down pub quicker after | |||
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"It's a numbers game mate. Throw enough shit eventually some will stick " Nice analogy. | |||
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"Go down town mate much more chance of getting lucky and much less time consuming. Plus you wont get the women and couples who have to wipe their arse with a toothbrush, merry christmas " Haven't knowingly met any couples on here who do that.... | |||
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"Ive not long come back to fab after a short break. I've noticed it's near on impossible for a single male on here. Is there anyone who shares this frustration or can offer some words of advice. No trolling please. " afternoon OP, I guess it all comes down to luck and presentation/ how you come across to people on here as well so no need to get frustrated. Me for e.g. I have noticed that my problem when it comes to women be it on here or real life is that I tend to sooner or later bore them to death one way or the other, now I can say there are plenty off other reasons too on my part which is why I can't keep them interested when the odd occasion comes and a nice girl shows interest but end off the day the part off me boring them to death is the main factor.....now I can either learn from the past or just make changes and keep on trying once In a while or just hang em up kick back and just watch everyone else do their thing be it on fab or real life... | |||
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"It's a numbers game mate. Throw enough shit eventually some will stick Nice analogy. " i completly agree its a numbers game: because im a bit bored, ive done a quick poll of msgs today...out of 32 messages, 1, yes, 1!...was from someone who had read my profile...so yes, from my point of view its very much a numbers game.....hard to find the tiny percentage of men on here who do anything but blindly blanket bomb any woman as soon as they come on line...i would also say a significant number of those msgs were from men who did the exact same in the last couple of days.. | |||
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