FabSwingers.com forum: Very inexperienced deaf male seeking support

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi, I am single male in my 30s. I am very inexperienced with girls and not confident and also deaf. I am very sensitive and polite mannered. guy. I am looking for females or couples who are not put off by my inexperienced and is willing to take it slow with me, chatting first and hopefully building up to a meet. I will also be happy with just chat friends and support.

I am genuinely honest and finding it abit hard on here so thought try on here.

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try chatting on the forums and joining in.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also, you've a few spelling errors on your profile. Nothing terrible, but some can be really nitpicky over stuff like that and refuse to talk.

If you'd like it proof read and corrected, I'll give it a go.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Also, you've a few spelling errors on your profile. Nothing terrible, but some can be really nitpicky over stuff like that and refuse to talk.

If you'd like it proof read and corrected, I'll give it a go. "

Yes please, if you dont mind doing it, thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also, you've a few spelling errors on your profile. Nothing terrible, but some can be really nitpicky over stuff like that and refuse to talk.

If you'd like it proof read and corrected, I'll give it a go.

Yes please, if you dont mind doing it, thanks

I'll go over it tomorrow. Send me a message to remind me if I don't get back to you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Also, you've a few spelling errors on your profile. Nothing terrible, but some can be really nitpicky over stuff like that and refuse to talk.

If you'd like it proof read and corrected, I'll give it a go.

Yes please, if you dont mind doing it, thanks

I'll go over it tomorrow. Send me a message to remind me if I don't get back to you. "

ok, will do. thanks again

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Hello again. Just join in on the forums and chat rooms. Re-read previous profile advice given to you. Be positive. Be patient. Be happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah join in on the forums. Most on here are as mad as a box of frogs, but so funny xx

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

Hi!!

I've been made to feel very welcome in the forums so come & join us x

My suggestion would be to remove your mobile number from your profile & stick with Kik &/or Skype as a security measure. Oh & yay - no cock shots!!

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish

Use all the advice you've been given on previous threads op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello again. Just join in on the forums and chat rooms. Re-read previous profile advice given to you. Be positive. Be patient. Be happy. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oh & yay - no cock shots!!

Thought you might have seen enough on here, so thought to spare you

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By *eepster69Man
over a year ago

Dumfries

If I was to be brutally honest, I'd say this isn't really the site for you.

Not because of your hearing problem, But because of your inexperience. Guys outnumber the ladies considerably. I'd say most of the ladies on here are looking for someone who has experience.

Have you considered more conventional dating sites?

Please don't think I am saying this to try and put you off. You sound like a really nice guy and wish you luck whatever you decide to do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If I was to be brutally honest, I'd say this isn't really the site for you.

Not because of your hearing problem, But because of your inexperience. Guys outnumber the ladies considerably. I'd say most of the ladies on here are looking for someone who has experience.

Have you considered more conventional dating sites?

Please don't think I am saying this to try and put you off. You sound like a really nice guy and wish you luck whatever you decide to do."

Its ok, I know I am going to find it hard on here but im still goning to try. Not looking for relationship hence why im not on a dating site just looking for nsa fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try and find some fab socials locally. Makes friends via the forums and the rest will happen with time x

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By *ivnwcplCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

"If I was to be brutally honest, I'd say this isn't really the site for you.

Not because of your hearing problem, But because of your inexperience. Guys outnumber the ladies considerably. I'd say most of the ladies on here are looking for someone who has experience.

Have you considered more conventional dating sites?

Please don't think I am saying this to try and put you off. You sound like a really nice guy and wish you luck whatever you decide to do."

Then again some people would class you has inexperienced, you only have 2 verifications, one just for chatting, not sure about the passion wagon one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've said this on one of your previous threads too, that I don't think you should feel you have to make your partial deafness a defining feature of you and all your threads. You lipread and don't sign and state on your own profile that you can communicate easily with people.

I've met two guys from here who had hearing aids and one who walked with a stick. They all discussed it with me beforehand but didn't make their profile and messages all about that. If they had I might have found it offputting as it would me feel like we wouldn't be able to overcome it.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Also, there are two blind guys on here both of whom are meeting ladies for sex. Don't let being hard of hearing affect your chances of meeting. You're more than just hard of hearing - there's more to you than that. Concentrate on the rest of you.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

How many times are you going to ask the same thing? Don't you read the advise given on your other threads?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Use all the advice you've been given on previous threads op

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By *eordie JoJoTV/TS
over a year ago

Newcastle

Op never put yourself down Hun as there are far to many on here ... Who will happily do that for you.

With regards to this site not being for you cause of your experience .... What a load of crap! ....

Persistence and perseverance is all it takes .... Fab has someone for everyone .... Just mingle and be sociable .... Enjoy your "mixing" and if it comes it comes .... Don't get to dishearten and desparate ... As that comes across in your communication ... Your deadness is irrelevant so not even going to mention that ....

Have fun and enjoy .... Best wishes and good luck

JoJo x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to a club.

The people.l9cal to yiu caneet and chat with you. This will build up your confidence and possibly your experience.

Bare in mind that when at a swingers club no one is compelled to do anything they dont want, im sure if you are a polite and charming man ladies will like you, at the very least you will get a couple of verifications from people you chat to.

What have you got to lose?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why are people's verifications now being used as a barometer of whether they're "allowed" to give advice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also, you've a few spelling errors on your profile. Nothing terrible, but some can be really nitpicky over stuff like that and refuse to talk.

If you'd like it proof read and corrected, I'll give it a go.

Yes please, if you dont mind doing it, thanks

I'll go over it tomorrow. Send me a message to remind me if I don't get back to you. "

Now kindness like this is something I haven't seen in a long while.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Ive removed posts - the OP asked for advice on his profile but please dont comment on the profiles of other posters unless they specifically ask for it. Thanks

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By *anetandNickCouple
over a year ago

Ross-on-Wye

I'm deaf too.

When I don't hear something, my husband shouts at me "Are you turned on?"

Janet xxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Also, there are two blind guys on here both of whom are meeting ladies for sex. Don't let being hard of hearing affect your chances of meeting. You're more than just hard of hearing - there's more to you than that. Concentrate on the rest of you. "

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How many times are you going to ask the same thing? Don't you read the advise given on your other threads?"

I've just checked the green arrow.

I think rather than wanting attention by repeating the same posts again and again....why not just join in on forum like others do, this is a good opener to going to socials etc.

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By *ome Social With UsCouple (FF)
over a year ago

East Midlands

Come along to our social tomorrow night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi OP,

I'm not trying to be harsh, but I know I've seen similar threads from you in the past. As has been said to you in the past and on this thread, I don't understand why you continue to make your partial deafness a defining characteristic of yourself.

After one thread it is puzzling, after a few threads, it seem like attention seeking. Just take a look at previous advice and get on with things.

Good Luck.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I was to be brutally honest, I'd say this isn't really the site for you.

Not because of your hearing problem, But because of your inexperience. Guys outnumber the ladies considerably. I'd say most of the ladies on here are looking for someone who has experience.

Have you considered more conventional dating sites?

Please don't think I am saying this to try and put you off. You sound like a really nice guy and wish you luck whatever you decide to do.

Then again some people would class you has inexperienced, you only have 2 verifications, one just for chatting, not sure about the passion wagon one

Help a dumb American out.

What is a passion wagon ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi, I am single male in my 30s. I am very inexperienced with girls and not confident and also deaf. I am very sensitive and polite mannered. guy. I am looking for females or couples who are not put off by my inexperienced and is willing to take it slow with me, chatting first and hopefully building up to a meet. I will also be happy with just chat friends and support.

I am genuinely honest and finding it abit hard on here so thought try on here.

Thanks "
There is someone for everyone....stick at it and dont point out your faults

good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

forums are a great way to chat and such a refreshing profile without the normal cock pics

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Use all the advice you've been given on previous threads op

Yes this

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"forums are a great way to chat and such a refreshing profile without the normal cock pics"

Thank you!!!

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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Use all the advice you've been given on previous threads op

Yes this

Yes, all that advice given over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over again.

Ever thought that your "problem" isn't actually a problem at all but because you keep making a big deal out of it YOU are making it a problem and holding yourself back?

This site is all about selling yourself not pity fucks.

But you know this, you've been told this multiple times and given so much advice, but you are still ignoring it.

Just out of curiosity, why are you ignoring all the advice you have been given? Is it actually working for you and all this self pity is getting you meets?

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

Negative profile...I wouldn't want to meet someone who had such a low opinion of themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm pretty sure you were on here last year with a different profile? Posting the same thread about two dozen times on the forums, if I remember correctly?

No one begrudges you coming on here to chat to people and make friends (with or without looking to meet) but people lose patience when you repeatedly ask for the same advice time and again.

Why do you do it, OP? I honestly can't see what you get out of this

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By *ecca9269Woman
over a year ago

Newton Abbot

"If I was to be brutally honest, I'd say this isn't really the site for you.

Not because of your hearing problem, But because of your inexperience. Guys outnumber the ladies considerably. I'd say most of the ladies on here are looking for someone who has experience.

Have you considered more conventional dating sites?

Please don't think I am saying this to try and put you off. You sound like a really nice guy and wish you luck whatever you decide to do."

This does not reflect me?! I'd love someone inexperienced to get my claws into....

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

I cannot believe after reading this thread how rude some people can be ....

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

I am genuinely honest and finding it abit hard on here so thought try on here.

Thanks "

Your profile needs a complete re write .

The first part should be your key selling points plus your hobbies and interests ..

Members do not need to know that you are shy. This is hardly an attractive point to mention on your profile .

As you can communicate easily ,there is no need to emphasise the fact that you are deaf. You simply need. to mention it at the end of your profile and advise members that you can communicate without a problem.

You have a number of threads in this issue , but you appear to have failed to act on any of the advice given to you previously ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I was to be brutally honest, I'd say this isn't really the site for you.

Not because of your hearing problem, But because of your inexperience. Guys outnumber the ladies considerably. I'd say most of the ladies on here are looking for someone who has experience.

Have you considered more conventional dating sites?

Please don't think I am saying this to try and put you off. You sound like a really nice guy and wish you luck whatever you decide to do."

Sorry but this is terrible advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I cannot believe after reading this thread how rude some people can be ....

Really? I think the OP has been given some really good advice. In fact, comparing and contrasting with most single male threads asking for advice, particularly where said thread has been posted almost word for word on numerous occasions before without acting on any of the advice, it's gone swimmingly.

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

"I cannot believe after reading this thread how rude some people can be ....

"
. I think that the majority of posters are trying to help this member . He has posted this question on various threads and consistently ignores the advice that he is given. It is up to him to sell his positive features , not expect endless sympathy because he is deaf . In any event it appears thathe can lip read .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I cannot believe after reading this thread how rude some people can be ....

Agreed

Think he has got off very lightly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I cannot believe after reading this thread how rude some people can be ....

Agreed

Think he has got off very lightly! "

Not that I think people should be horrible or rude at all, but I really think he's been given good advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I cannot believe after reading this thread how rude some people can be ....

Agreed

Think he has got off very lightly!

Not that I think people should be horrible or rude at all, but I really think he's been given good advice. "

And we all know it won't be heeded!

No, not advocating people being nasty - there's too much of that on here - but think this has been quite mild compared with many threads you see.

I reiterate that I personally don't have a problem with the OP coming on here just to chat (though others may disagree) but urge him to post some interesting threads if that is what he wants, not just repeating this same thread - I think this has been going on for over a year now

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

I am genuinely honest and finding it abit hard on here so thought try on here.

Thanks "

It's not a good idea to put your mobile number in a profile description.

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

"I cannot believe after reading this thread how rude some people can be ....

Agreed

Think he has got off very lightly!

Not that I think people should be horrible or rude at all, but I really think he's been given good advice.

And we all know it won't be heeded!

No, not advocating people being nasty - there's too much of that on here - but think this has been quite mild compared with many threads you see.

green arrow then times the number of threads by 3 for his old profiles and you'll see why people are getting frustrated about providing the same advice over and over again

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