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Asking for "words" in message subject lines

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So Something that has really got on my nerves of late is those asking you within their profile text to put a specific word in the subject line if you have read their profile.

The best bit, you read their profile oblige to their request of a face pic (understandable) and putting said word in subject line ....

They delete your message

without reading it.

I know that most women/couples are bombarded by single guys day in and day out, and I know it isnt classed as rude if they dont reply.

but why just delete the message without reading if they have followed your requests?

That makes no sense to me - Maybe im just crap with rejection! haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do you know they haven't read it?

Plus I always look at the profile before I open the message. If I don't like the profile what's the point in opening the message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We message without using magic word. Sometimes get a reply. Sometimes not. We think its a little silly. But its their profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't ask for any specific word or phrase when messaging me although lots think I have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because people know they can set all sorts of rules, still do everything exactly as they please (especially with single guys), and they will still get messages?

Message people who seem nice. If you don't like the requirements on a profile and aren't prepared for an unread and deleted message, then don't message. This place is a Hobbesian dream.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How do you know they haven't read it?

Plus I always look at the profile before I open the message. If I don't like the profile what's the point in opening the message?"

Point taken, to me it just seems obvious who have read it before deleting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's easy OP, don't jump through hoops if you don't want to.

Lots of messages get overlooked unintentionally, others unread / deleted.

It feels like rejection but in the big scheme of things I really wouldn't worry about it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Because people know they can set all sorts of rules, still do everything exactly as they please (especially with single guys), and they will still get messages?

Message people who seem nice. If you don't like the requirements on a profile and aren't prepared for an unread and deleted message, then don't message. This place is a Hobbesian dream.

-Courtney"

I'm thinking maybe I havent explained myself 100% correctly - but yes your are right.

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By *ivnwcplCouple
over a year ago

liverpool


"How do you know they haven't read it?

Plus I always look at the profile before I open the message. If I don't like the profile what's the point in opening the message?"
Same

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By *not69Man
over a year ago

Lancashire

Some get that many messages they can't cope so they just hit the block delete button and they all go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

usually ignore such requests and often get an answer - so obviously makes no difference to some

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Maybe the pic isn't as popular a you thought...

Think of the embedded word as their filter, not your doorkey.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a musing about just this subject recently. I can't remember which thread...cos I have a old brain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Spell their codeword wrong. That'll teach them.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I insist on a secret phrase to use in any message title which is "Steve you're a bloody good shag" so even if I get a message that says 'no fuck off' I still get the title to smirk over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we just wouldnt message them

mr

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"How do you know they haven't read it?

Plus I always look at the profile before I open the message. If I don't like the profile what's the point in opening the message?"

This is the key to getting a reply...the magic word insertion doesn't guarantee a reply!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

may i jump on the thread with a question,

if a message is read , then deleted , does it show on my profile as deleted . or as read , xx

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By *ivnwcplCouple
over a year ago

liverpool


"Spell their codeword wrong. That'll teach them."

They would have to copy and paste ours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't do

Some people play mind games and if they start of playing games it will get worse

I also generally note the insistence of using correct form of address or code words is a sign of narcissistic personAlity disorder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Think of the embedded word as their filter, not your doorkey.

"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I had a musing about just this subject recently. I can't remember which thread...cos I have a old brain "

Haha, Age is never an escuse

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Spell their codeword wrong. That'll teach them."

Ohhh you devious and cruel individual

I like it!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"may i jump on the thread with a question,

if a message is read , then deleted , does it show on my profile as deleted . or as read , xx"

Deleted, because I have seen some that say read and then once deleted... they say deleted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Spell their codeword wrong. That'll teach them.

Ohhh you devious and cruel individual

I like it!! "

I like what steve said better actually. Made me laugh.

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


"So Something that has really got on my nerves of late is those asking you within their profile text to put a specific word in the subject line if you have read their profile.

The best bit, you read their profile oblige to their request of a face pic (understandable) and putting said word in subject line ....

They delete your message

without reading it.

I know that most women/couples are bombarded by single guys day in and day out, and I know it isnt classed as rude if they dont reply.

but why just delete the message without reading if they have followed your requests?

That makes no sense to me - Maybe im just crap with rejection! haha "

I never use the magic word and I've still had a proper conversation.

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