FabSwingers.com forum: swinging or open relationship

By *ittleKinks OP Couple
over a year ago

Reading

I hear a lot of people say they have an open relationship. Then you drill in and is basically swinging.

For me there's a difference. A relationship is an emotional connection.

Therefore an open relationship implies you are open to other emotional connection with others.

Where as with swinging its only the sex that is open.

I just get frustrated when people say there in an open relationship and do swinging. Which makes vanilla people think that's swinging. And I'd not want ppl to think I loved other ppl the way I love my partner

Anyone else think similar or disagree?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think swinging has such a bad reputation anyway. I bet if you did a straw poll in the street most people would still associate it with car keys in a fishbowl!

As I don't discuss swinging with non swingers, I don't really care how they _iew it!

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By *andS33Couple
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I understand what you mean, we would never describe ourselves as being in an open relationship. We do things together, we are swingers.

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

We don't really bother with labels everyone has their own take on what any label means.

We just enjoy meeting and having good sex with others

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I think some vanilla ( I hate that term ) consider swingers in a negative way

I think some swingers consider vanilla from a somewhat superior stand point...

one size never fits all.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Swinging is to me, meeting others for sex together as a couple.

Open relationships are, in my mind, where one of the couple can meet others for sex - but with rules about levels of emotional attachment.

And polyamory is where it is open for full and multiple relationships, on a range of levels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"I think some vanilla ( I hate that term ) consider swingers in a negative way

I think some swingers consider vanilla from a somewhat superior stand point...

one size never fits all."

Totally agree with you on that one .... get a bit fed up with some on here thinking they have found the promised lands in terms of their relationship and everyone in a vanilla one must be unsatisfied ... really?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swingers fits our activities well enough, as we understand it open relationships are something else altogether. Still as someone posted earlier the terms are just convenient labels.

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land

I've been in open relationships with swingers and kinksters. An open relationship can mean what ever the individuals make it to be. It's a grey cross over area.

Some swingers need an emotional connection/friendship, some don't.

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

We are swingers, we are not in an open relationship. There are a few polyamorous people on here but not very many.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do both. I have a long term boyfriend but I also still meet new people and we swing together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think swinging has such a bad reputation anyway. I bet if you did a straw poll in the street most people would still associate it with car keys in a fishbowl!

As I don't discuss swinging with non swingers, I don't really care how they _iew it! "

spot on, this come up in conversation in the pub last night

or people married bored 50+

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