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"I enjoy meeting couples for threesomes, although I come across confident I get very nervous during first meetings, this results in me not being able to get an erection. I know there is nothing wrong with me because I have no problems once I get used to people and I always wake up with a good erection. I know it's down to nerves but the more I think about it the worse it gets, I find it so frustrating and embarrassing. I don't want to take Viagra or pills, I have heard you can get sprays, does anyone know what it's called, if it works and where i can get it. Any advice gratefully accepted." Try a cock ring. Great confidence booster. | |||
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"I know it's down to nerves but the more I think about it the worse it gets, I find it so frustrating and embarrassing." And this my friend is EXACTLY your problem, any doctor will tell you that ED in most cases is purely psychological. You're better off finding an understanding couple who will help you relax and do things at your pace, rather than you putting pressure on yourself to perform. You only make the situation worse when you start thinking and worrying about it | |||
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"I know it's down to nerves but the more I think about it the worse it gets, I find it so frustrating and embarrassing. And this my friend is EXACTLY your problem, any doctor will tell you that ED in most cases is purely psychological. You're better off finding an understanding couple who will help you relax and do things at your pace, rather than you putting pressure on yourself to perform. You only make the situation worse when you start thinking and worrying about it " Perfectly put. This is not a rare problem. The most un-sexy thought is "is my dick hard yet" - the more you think it, the worse it gets. Understand that it's very natural to have this problem and try not to be embarrassed. It's happened to me, more than once, I'm embarrassed by what happened but I'm not embarrassed to be human. | |||
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"I enjoy meeting couples for threesomes, although I come across confident I get very nervous during first meetings, this results in me not being able to get an erection. I know there is nothing wrong with me because I have no problems once I get used to people and I always wake up with a good erection. I know it's down to nerves but the more I think about it the worse it gets, I find it so frustrating and embarrassing. I don't want to take Viagra or pills, I have heard you can get sprays, does anyone know what it's called, if it works and where i can get it. Any advice gratefully accepted." Wd40 | |||
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"Just do oral. Might work and distract your mind " Even oral won't resolve the panic sometimes. I had a guy start to say sorry. I said ssshh and went back to kissing etc. We got there with a little patience. He said it was the first time someone had got him over it. | |||
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"Just do oral. Might work and distract your mind Even oral won't resolve the panic sometimes. I had a guy start to say sorry. I said ssshh and went back to kissing etc. We got there with a little patience. He said it was the first time someone had got him over it. " There you go you worked some magic | |||
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"Just do oral. Might work and distract your mind Even oral won't resolve the panic sometimes. I had a guy start to say sorry. I said ssshh and went back to kissing etc. We got there with a little patience. He said it was the first time someone had got him over it. There you go you worked some magic " Always | |||
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"Great thread and advice. With people I've spoken to I mention I have same problem. Soft swing Lots of kissing spooning and affection and massages ?? All good" Exactly; pressure off and up it comes | |||
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"I can't help but associate cock rings with erectile problems. Kamagra is something that I've found an incredible confidence booster for nervous and confident guys alike. What are your reservations about taking it? Are you worried about side effects?" I have a lovely delicate silver cock ring that I wear when we go to Spice or places like that and I wear it just as an jewellery item. I wonder how many other people associate then with erectile problems? | |||
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"I can't help but associate cock rings with erectile problems. Kamagra is something that I've found an incredible confidence booster for nervous and confident guys alike. What are your reservations about taking it? Are you worried about side effects? I have a lovely delicate silver cock ring that I wear when we go to Spice or places like that and I wear it just as an jewellery item. I wonder how many other people associate then with erectile problems? " oops them* | |||
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"I can't help but associate cock rings with erectile problems. Kamagra is something that I've found an incredible confidence booster for nervous and confident guys alike. What are your reservations about taking it? Are you worried about side effects?" I agree with cleo about Kamagra, guys I know who use it find it just gives them more confidence dealing with possible stage fright. To be honest I wish more guys would use it...it's would cut down the frustration on meets! | |||
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"I can't help but associate cock rings with erectile problems. Kamagra is something that I've found an incredible confidence booster for nervous and confident guys alike. What are your reservations about taking it? Are you worried about side effects? I agree with cleo about Kamagra, guys I know who use it find it just gives them more confidence dealing with possible stage fright. To be honest I wish more guys would use it...it's would cut down the frustration on meets! " Kamagra = Insurance Half a Kamagra always helps | |||
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"I can't help but associate cock rings with erectile problems. Kamagra is something that I've found an incredible confidence booster for nervous and confident guys alike. What are your reservations about taking it? Are you worried about side effects? I agree with cleo about Kamagra, guys I know who use it find it just gives them more confidence dealing with possible stage fright. To be honest I wish more guys would use it...it's would cut down the frustration on meets! " Few problems: 1) Kamagra is illegal 2) it's active ingredient is sildenafil citrate, which is the same as viagra anyway 3) As it's illegal you'd probably be buying it from dodgy websites who might be selling you bear pooh for all you know | |||
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"I enjoy meeting couples for threesomes, although I come across confident I get very nervous during first meetings, this results in me not being able to get an erection. I know there is nothing wrong with me because I have no problems once I get used to people and I always wake up with a good erection. I know it's down to nerves but the more I think about it the worse it gets, I find it so frustrating and embarrassing. I don't want to take Viagra or pills, I have heard you can get sprays, does anyone know what it's called, if it works and where i can get it. Any advice gratefully accepted." Quite plainly and simply join in when some else is doing it and concentrate on kissing neck from behind and her back you can be cold as fuck in a car park with 4 other blokes and u will be king of the world A because you did something she liked and different B because you got an erecting penis Keep your condim nearby practice openin then an putting them on in dark and cold quickly whilst still kissing her neck bring her arm round so she can feel the condon and whack it in Jobs a good in and your king of the world | |||
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"I can't help but associate cock rings with erectile problems. Kamagra is something that I've found an incredible confidence booster for nervous and confident guys alike. What are your reservations about taking it? Are you worried about side effects? I have a lovely delicate silver cock ring that I wear when we go to Spice or places like that and I wear it just as an jewellery item. I wonder how many other people associate then with erectile problems? " I wear mine as a jewellery item too. I also like the feeling I get from it. If they associate it with ED I don't give a shite. | |||
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"At a club when we started swinging, I was in the 'orgy room' playing with a lady friend who was HOT! I wanted her badly. That was the problem. We played and then everything ready and ..... Nope it all went away. I put myself under too much pressure to perform. In the end I just said that it just wasn't going to happen and the lady was fantastic. Said it didn't matter and we carried on playing. When we met another time in private, no problem. I have been swinging with my wives for over ten years and been to a lot of clubs and parties (hosted a good few and gang bangs etc).it happens to everyone at some point. Take the pressure off yourself." Said it perfectly..even when I know I'm gonna play I treat it bo differently than a social. .and I've been fine everytime | |||
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"you need to go and see your gp your at that age when you need to be checked out could be something or nothing" Generally if you're getting morning erections and good erections at other times then it's not medical and something you need to see the GP about Absence of erections is a different issue and would warrant a visit to the GP | |||
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"you need to go and see your gp your at that age when you need to be checked out could be something or nothing Generally if you're getting morning erections and good erections at other times then it's not medical and something you need to see the GP about Absence of erections is a different issue and would warrant a visit to the GP " Surely if it's completely down to the stress of the situation, then it's still medical... stress is definitely something a doctor could help with. Cal | |||
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"you need to go and see your gp your at that age when you need to be checked out could be something or nothing Generally if you're getting morning erections and good erections at other times then it's not medical and something you need to see the GP about Absence of erections is a different issue and would warrant a visit to the GP Surely if it's completely down to the stress of the situation, then it's still medical... stress is definitely something a doctor could help with. Cal" If it's chronic anxiety and related to a mental health issue yes, performance anxiety or stress just about performance in a swinging situation, where there are no issues at other times, isn't really a medical situation in the sense of needed medication etc Sometimes GPs will prescribe sildenafil in these settings as a few positive experiences can break the cycle and restore confidence but that's not the same as needing treatment for the performance anxiety | |||
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"I once had someone give me a very 'different BJ' that kept me soft but I shot my load (and a VERY big load it was!). It was a very strange thing but fantastic. How she did it, I have no idea. " Pussy does it all the time . . and why do guys think that they won't cum if not as hard as nails? You actually feel the gush even more! | |||
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"Thanks everyone for your advice. I went to the doctors, there is nothing wrong probably a combination of age and nerves. He recommended some pills, they did the trick, had a great meet everything worked beyond expectation. Hopefully the curse is now broken. My advice to anyone with this problem is to speak to their doctor." | |||
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"Easy... just dont play until u feel comfy and confident. Im sure youre worth waiting for " I have read all this thread with great interest because my hubby has the same problem occasionally. He performs very well at home and with people he knows well - he just gets nervous with new people. I always tell him just relax and enjoy the sights and sounds....I don't want him to resort to any medicines or devices, personally I think it makes sense to work on the psychology of the situation then the physical reactions will sort themselves out eventually, m x | |||
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"Nerves are an issue. Talking really helps. " Tits help too | |||
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"Thanks everyone for your advice. I went to the doctors, there is nothing wrong probably a combination of age and nerves. He recommended some pills, they did the trick, had a great meet everything worked beyond expectation. Hopefully the curse is now broken. My advice to anyone with this problem is to speak to their doctor." Well done OP! I don't think it's an age thing at all! So many guys have this problem in clubs! I wish more would get pills | |||
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"If you can get hard at other times, then this is absolutely mind over matter. I can make a guy come three or four times when he is used to shooting once. It is what I say as much as what I do which achieves this. Train your mind to focus on the scene in front of you and forget your cock. Enjoy the arousing scene and your cock will stiffen before you know it." This is great advice, but when it comes to it im just too bloody nervous, are the people im with enjoying everything, am I just too dumb to not see the problem is only with me?? I would love to just sit back and let the little one wake up, watch the surroundings and enjoy the moment, it will happen in the end, but it's been 5 months so far The people are great and understanding, but I just want ot to work just the once to prove to myself it's all in my head. | |||
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"Thanks everyone for your advice. I went to the doctors, there is nothing wrong probably a combination of age and nerves. He recommended some pills, they did the trick, had a great meet everything worked beyond expectation. Hopefully the curse is now broken. My advice to anyone with this problem is to speak to their doctor. " I am so pleased you found a solution..May I ask if it was viagra that was prescribed? ? It has been a real godsend for so many .. | |||
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"I enjoy meeting couples for threesomes, although I come across confident I get very nervous during first meetings, this results in me not being able to get an erection. I know there is nothing wrong with me because I have no problems once I get used to people and I always wake up with a good erection. I know it's down to nerves but the more I think about it the worse it gets, I find it so frustrating and embarrassing. I don't want to take Viagra or pills, I have heard you can get sprays, does anyone know what it's called, if it works and where i can get it. Any advice gratefully accepted." Concentrate on holding girl from behind , while hubby in front . Kiss her neck and rub shoulders etc,, tell her how sexy she is , and how much she will love two cocks ( or say nothing) . Kiss her back, etc Take time . She will appreciate it as your being non pushy , letting husband take first steps and give you a chance to relax. When you see how much she enjoys it , you will be fine I find that the easiest way to get a stiffy is to pull the hair, holding gently , and just breathing close to the neck . Tell her she smells nice . its very difficult to get a stiffy , when you have a woman , standing in front of you legs open saying fuck me now. So you need to take control ( not in a weird rapey way) and take things at your pace, I usually find that after going down on a girl , they repay the favor, did you know that it's easier to get a stiffy when you need a piss | |||
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"relaxing is the key" Agreed, as OP has recognised,its all in the mind. Dont bother with fake sprays and stimulants as you will end up training yourself to only get an erection on using such stuff. A gentle prostate massage will get any cock hard quickly.. | |||
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"relaxing is the key Agreed, as OP has recognised,its all in the mind. Dont bother with fake sprays and stimulants as you will end up training yourself to only get an erection on using such stuff. A gentle prostate massage will get any cock hard quickly.." not really the place and the time at the party girls want instant hardness lol | |||
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"Princetarzan - are you sure all us girls want instant hardness? have you asked? Maybe it is because I am a lady not a girl - but I think this - yes a hard cock ready to play is exciting but a cock is attached to a mind and if the cock is a little limp then I like to rise to the challenge and tease, tempt and entice both the cock and the mind behind it until he wants me, needs me and must have me NOW! Also - I love the feel of a flaccid cock warm and pliable rolling around in my mouth - the texture, weight and movement of it changing gradually as the man hardens in appreciation of my attentive licking, sucking and tongueing.....mmmm " ladys dont block single men lol Think you got my point tho and yes it would be challenging. .. | |||
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"did you know that it's easier to get a stiffy when you need a piss " Is this due to pressure on the prostate? | |||
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