FabSwingers.com forum: How to make progress

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi fellow fabbers,

We are finding it difficult to arrange meets because either we are not available when the other couple are or vice versa

out of the four of us there is one person that just isn't into the one or more of the other couple.

Just wondering it there are any tips you could suggest? What works for you? Thanks, M x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We found this was the case for us. We eventually decided it was easier to play alone. No childcare issues etc. We did try the whole cpl thing and even when we got past all the problems you mentioned we found they couldn't be trusted to not cross boundaries or turned out to be completely insane!

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

It's never easy to arrange a time when everyone is available and that's when you've finally found a couple where you are all initially attracted

Although we have arranged meets via Fab, we usually find clubs are a better bet.

There are plenty to try ...

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By *irty130Couple
over a year ago

Bristol Area

This is why swing clubs are so popular. Everyone there has made the effort to leave the house already.

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By *skentcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Dartford

wow!

Why you live so far away!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, our experience of this site is that the Internet stars almost never align.

Timing of people, miles apart and communicating whilst getting on with their lives almost never coincides.

Because people can show and tell you only what they want to it can take a while to establish what you could see in moments face to face, that they're not for you.

The vast majority of people are lazy when it comes to remote communication. 6 word emails and a pic of their holiday snaps are supposed to light a fire of lust.

So, we go to clubs, meet actual people who have already demonstrated that they have some interest and voila, success.

Anyone who's legitimate on here needs to be aware that this is the experience of most of us and make some effort to counter it. Or, accept its just not a successful method for most of us.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This is why swing clubs are so popular. Everyone there has made the effort to leave the house already."

Yes, we goto clubs - with varied results,..we have had some great times but if we could arrange beforehand, to meet a couple at a club then that would be even better

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yep, our experience of this site is that the Internet stars almost never align.

Timing of people, miles apart and communicating whilst getting on with their lives almost never coincides.

Because people can show and tell you only what they want to it can take a while to establish what you could see in moments face to face, that they're not for you.

The vast majority of people are lazy when it comes to remote communication. 6 word emails and a pic of their holiday snaps are supposed to light a fire of lust.

So, we go to clubs, meet actual people who have already demonstrated that they have some interest and voila, success.

Anyone who's legitimate on here needs to be aware that this is the experience of most of us and make some effort to counter it. Or, accept its just not a successful method for most of us.

Yes, that's makes sense - accept it is difficult - make efforts to counter it ( go to clubs with best optimistic outlook, but be realistic too).

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By *skentcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Dartford

"This is why swing clubs are so popular. Everyone there has made the effort to leave the house already.

Yes, we goto clubs - with varied results,..we have had some great times but if we could arrange beforehand, to meet a couple at a club then that would be even better

We've just found out that its probably a good idea to arrange to meet some folk when going to a club. Went out Saturday to a club, there were lots of people there chatting, we spent some time looking at the different rooms(tried the bdsm room, spanking bench etc) then went back to the main area and they had all disappeared into private rooms, and shut the doors!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi fellow fabbers,

We are finding it difficult to arrange meets because either we are not available when the other couple are or vice versa

out of the four of us there is one person that just isn't into the one or more of the other couple.

Just wondering it there are any tips you could suggest? What works for you? Thanks, M x

There are no tips really. We prefer not to plan in advance or spend ages making small talk via message, Most of our successful cpl meets have happened when we've had an unexpected free night at short notice so put a meet advert on and browse the site.

Have you tried a club? We are regulars at our local and have met alot of cpls who don't really use this site so we wouldn't have met otherwise and it gives you a chance to have a drink with people and decide whether there's a mutual attraction and you'd like to take it further.

Good Luck guys x

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

Get a singles profile!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lower your standards

It's only sex not marriage

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