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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I just wanted to say it here.

I've kinda talked about how I feel on these forums over the last year or so but having watched 'my transgender summer camp' all I felt was jealousy for those kids with supportive parents. It's brought back so many memories from even earlier in my life. Suppressed memories.

Holding back a few tears and I'm just going to go to bed after typing this.

Tomorrow my youngest daughter is coming home from uni for the night so I'll have both my natural daughters at home. I so want the courage to talk to them about this. We share everything. I feel it so wrong that I hide something so big. I don't think it appropriate to talk about my sex life but I might be OK to tell them I'm bisexual.

Thanks for reading.

Rachael. Xx

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By *eanontiWoman
over a year ago

Limerick

Best of luck Rachel x

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By *eanontiWoman
over a year ago

Limerick


"Best of luck Rachel x"

Rachael

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just wanted to say it here.

I've kinda talked about how I feel on these forums over the last year or so but having watched 'my transgender summer camp' all I felt was jealousy for those kids with supportive parents. It's brought back so many memories from even earlier in my life. Suppressed memories.

Holding back a few tears and I'm just going to go to bed after typing this.

Tomorrow my youngest daughter is coming home from uni for the night so I'll have both my natural daughters at home. I so want the courage to talk to them about this. We share everything. I feel it so wrong that I hide something so big. I don't think it appropriate to talk about my sex life but I might be OK to tell them I'm bisexual.

Thanks for reading.

Rachael. Xx"

Takes great courage to do what you're thinking of doing, hope they are supportive of you and respect your honesty in telling them. Hope all goes well for you

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By *ephistoCouple
over a year ago

torrance

Best of luck to you! Our daughter is transgendered and it can be difficult. We worry about her safety, but try to be as supportive as we can. That support didn't come over night, but we couldn't deny our own flesh or our love for our child. It's not our life. Our daughter is a very caring loving person and we are glad for that.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

big hugs and so much support and love for you today and everyday rachael.xx i cant make it easier to speak, but i am holding your hand in thought across the miles x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks folks. I'm excited/scared/worried. Starting to think I shouldn't be laying this on my kids. I just know they already know some of it. Hypocritical for me to expect them never to struggle in silence but do it myself?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck, kids are much more understanding these days x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

good luck. im sure they will be ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks folks. I'm excited/scared/worried. Starting to think I shouldn't be laying this on my kids. I just know they already know some of it. Hypocritical for me to expect them never to struggle in silence but do it myself?"

Kids are more "understanding" these days..I told my eldest now 16 last year that I was bi and had piercings..Reply was "And? if that rocks your boat"... Then she went back to "chatting" on phone with her friends.

Since then feel loads better and we my daughters and me have grown more together... You will find that it's the "older" generation who cause "issues"....

But hugs and good luck Naughty xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks folks. I'm excited/scared/worried. Starting to think I shouldn't be laying this on my kids. I just know they already know some of it. Hypocritical for me to expect them never to struggle in silence but do it myself?"

I think you are doing the right thing. I think it takes courage and sets a good example. It might not be easy though. Try to remember that their initial reaction might not be what you expect but it will be a relief for you to say it out loud. Good luck op and I wish you all the best.

Mrs xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ouble_The_DelightCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

Hope that it goes well for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck...ross

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sincerely hope today becomes the start of a wonderful new chapter in lives of you and your daughters and I'm sure it will be a roller coaster of emotions that ends with smiles and love filled hugs....

All the best,,,,,,,

Sox

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm pretty sure of my youngest. We talked in the summer and I practically told her. She told me she would never ask but would always love and support me. That she was proud of me and that I'm not ashamed to show my tattoos and wear my ankle chains and belly ring..... Like I said; she knows.

The elder one..... She's not so open so I'm a bit worried what she'll think. She can be rather assertive and opinionated at times. No idea where she got that from

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck for the future it can't be easy out there for you.

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By *arrapsMan
over a year ago

port talbot


"I just wanted to say it here.

I've kinda talked about how I feel on these forums over the last year or so but having watched 'my transgender summer camp' all I felt was jealousy for those kids with supportive parents. It's brought back so many memories from even earlier in my life. Suppressed memories.

Holding back a few tears and I'm just going to go to bed after typing this.

Tomorrow my youngest daughter is coming home from uni for the night so I'll have both my natural daughters at home. I so want the courage to talk to them about this. We share everything. I feel it so wrong that I hide something so big. I don't think it appropriate to talk about my sex life but I might be OK to tell them I'm bisexual.

Thanks for reading.

Rachael. Xx"

You may well be pleasantly surprised at how they react. Youngster's nowadays have a much more open attitude to sex and life in general.

And if you do tell them at least it's one less thing for you to worry about.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I realised recently that my 'secret' is pretty widely known around home.

If I don't tell my kids soon someone else might do it for me and that isn't fair on them.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I realised recently that my 'secret' is pretty widely known around home.

If I don't tell my kids soon someone else might do it for me and that isn't fair on them. "

I think you're really brave and I'm sure your kids love you because you're you. Good luck telling them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Congratulations, I can only imagine how hard this must be for you but its great that you've got to this point and its testimony to you as a parent that your children are as close to you that you can say. I hope it goes well for you xx

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By *andy6677Man
over a year ago

crewe


"I realised recently that my 'secret' is pretty widely known around home.

If I don't tell my kids soon someone else might do it for me and that isn't fair on them. "

Well done and big hugs Rachel im sure your kids will be accepting of your transgender status xx I and alot of people here are and are behind you all the way xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck with everything xxx

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Hope it goes well, sounds like at least one of them will be fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope it goes well for you all, as a family.

Great shoes too!

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By *raceytvcdTV/TS
over a year ago

mansfield

Hope all goes well for you Racheal.i havnt got the courage to tell my family i crossdress its like living two lifes .all the best xt

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By *raceytvcdTV/TS
over a year ago

mansfield

Hope all goes well for you Racheal.i havnt got the courage to tell my mum,brother and sister i crossdress and am bi.i have no children or partner but its like living two lifes .all the best xt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck sweetie xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck darling I am sure they will accept you for who you are and they will still love you xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck i wish you well Rachael x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck, and honesty is king within relationships, hard to imagine but I hope love and care will be present down the road, even after the shock of such speed bumps. Take the positives from the situation though, sounds like you've travelled very far emotionally with good parenting skills

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By *mmabluTV/TS
over a year ago

upton wirral

Best of luck,your very brave and I admire you.

xxx

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Good luck sweetie and you picked a great name x x R

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I hope it went well for you. From what I have read from you before you clearly have a very supportive wife and when your children see that she accepts your choices it will be easier for them to.

I think you're amazing x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I TOLD THEM

I'll post more later or tomorrow but I've told my two natural daughters. They took it marvellously. They are actually proud of me!

Thank you everyone for giving me the courage.

I love you all!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Congratulations darling so very happy for you wish I could give you a big hug.

I think I speak for a large number on here but

WE LOVE YOU TOO XX

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By *attykitWoman
over a year ago

leeds

Congratulation and well done. Must be a huge weight off your shoulders. Xx


"I TOLD THEM

I'll post more later or tomorrow but I've told my two natural daughters. They took it marvellously. They are actually proud of me!

Thank you everyone for giving me the courage.

I love you all!!!!! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I TOLD THEM

I'll post more later or tomorrow but I've told my two natural daughters. They took it marvellously. They are actually proud of me!

Thank you everyone for giving me the courage.

I love you all!!!!! "

I told you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your kids are right to be proud of you - you're their father, and i imagine it must have taken tremendous courage.

You are who you are and you should be proud that you have taken the steps you have to be able to be open and honest about that to yourself and to everyone around you.

Best of luck in your journey. X

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By *abrina59TV/TS
over a year ago

moved to cuckold land

Glad to hear went so well really happy for you so wish I had your courage Rachel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I TOLD THEM

I'll post more later or tomorrow but I've told my two natural daughters. They took it marvellously. They are actually proud of me!

Thank you everyone for giving me the courage.

I love you all!!!!! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wishing you good luck and sending you big hugs, Rachael!

Obviously a time for big thoughts, and maybe a move forward...

The first steps are always the hardest - just find yourself, be true to yourself, and you can do no more!

Go for it girl!

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By *ephistoCouple
over a year ago

torrance

Awesome!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great news

I've just read the most horrible disgusting profile on here, so reading this afterwards reminds me not everyone has such foul opinions.

Hope everything else falls into place for you and your family

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By *ong-legged-divaTV/TS
over a year ago

Fleetwood

Congrats, would love to know more about how it went

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Two down. Step kids to go next. I'm not afraid anymore. Im chatting with my wife about what I've said and how they reacted. Planning the next big talk.

My other daughter is touring Europe at the moment. Back in a few weeks. I'll be talking with her first and then my son. He is aspergers so needs a different approach.

This is sooooooo liberating. I've asked them how they'd cope if someone had a dig at them for their dad being a bisexual transsexual. They're such strong women. I am sooooo so proud of them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Apparently I've effectively turned the jigsaw over so they can see the picture. They're actually happy! They want to do makeup and nails with me. I am one happy bunny.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

brought tears to my eyes..they love you like we do..awesome. you so deserve this....may i be honoured one of these days to cross your path and give you a loving hug..i think you are amazing and so is your whole family..xx

sleep soundly tonight Rachael..knowing you are loved for the wonderful person you truly are..thank you so much for sharing xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

racheal, have just read what you stated, and i REALLY do have tears in my eyes about this. am so proud of you. always keep your head held high, and don't rise to the trolls(i was bullied at secondary school and it still affects me even now). take care.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you everyone for your support. Both here and for the huge number of pm's.

You've picked me up several times when I've been knocked and it's helped get me to this point.

These forums can be a feisty place at times but I think this shows them in their very bestest light xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Two down. Step kids to go next. I'm not afraid anymore. Im chatting with my wife about what I've said and how they reacted. Planning the next big talk.

My other daughter is touring Europe at the moment. Back in a few weeks. I'll be talking with her first and then my son. He is aspergers so needs a different approach.

This is sooooooo liberating. I've asked them how they'd cope if someone had a dig at them for their dad being a bisexual transsexual. They're such strong women. I am sooooo so proud of them "

I'm glad it went well Rachael. Wishing you all the best for telling your daughter who's travelling. I also have aspergers, if you want to discuss anything from that point of view, feel free to pm me x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you.

I think they use my lad as the 'control' in all studies on aspergers. I think I've got him sussed now xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you.

I think they use my lad as the 'control' in all studies on aspergers. I think I've got him sussed now xxx"

A big thumb from me oh go on have two

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you everyone for your support. Both here and for the huge number of pm's.

You've picked me up several times when I've been knocked and it's helped get me to this point.

These forums can be a feisty place at times but I think this shows them in their very bestest light xxxxx"

Delighted for you Rachael!

So pleased that your family have taken the news so positively!

Wishing you all a long, happy future!

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By *ab femWoman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Can I just say I'm really happy your girls are supportive. You were very brave being honest with them. It must be a huge weight off your shoulders.

What fun you will all have together xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

They want to help me with my eyes and nails. Lol. They're not little girls, btw, 23 and 20. (Always be my little girls though)

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway


"Thanks folks. I'm excited/scared/worried. Starting to think I shouldn't be laying this on my kids. I just know they already know some of it. Hypocritical for me to expect them never to struggle in silence but do it myself?"
Surely it is better coming from someone they love than run the risk of some busybody finding out and telling them with malice?You obviously love your kids and I guess they would do the same in return,try to find the right time and go for it gently.

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

Amazing news Rachael! How lovely that you can be true to yourself in front of those you love now

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

Well done for seizing control of the situation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done! I bet you feel like a weight has been lifted 3

My eldest came out as transgender bisexual last year, it's been really tough for him but all the family have rallied in and supported him and we have some amazing friends.

Love my children unconditionally and am proud of each of them

Good times ahead for you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That was ment to be a heart btw not a 3

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

They probably know your bisexual already ....

But they are adults so probably have an incline its more than that .... just be yourself OP ... im sure they wont love u any less....

Good luck x

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"Two down. Step kids to go next. I'm not afraid anymore. Im chatting with my wife about what I've said and how they reacted. Planning the next big talk.

My other daughter is touring Europe at the moment. Back in a few weeks. I'll be talking with her first and then my son. He is aspergers so needs a different approach.

This is sooooooo liberating. I've asked them how they'd cope if someone had a dig at them for their dad being a bisexual transsexual. They're such strong women. I am sooooo so proud of them "

Loving this I think kids of today are more open to sexuality etc but you have to take credit for how you have brought your children up for them to accept people for who they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They want to help me with my eyes and nails. Lol. They're not little girls, btw, 23 and 20. (Always be my little girls though)"

Take a step back and look at the two fucking awesome daughters you've brought up. Really is refreshing to see things like this posted on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"They want to help me with my eyes and nails. Lol. They're not little girls, btw, 23 and 20. (Always be my little girls though)

Take a step back and look at the two fucking awesome daughters you've brought up. Really is refreshing to see things like this posted on here. "

We've been texting all morning. Very little work achieved today!

They are fucking awesome. I've told them that too. I'm so so proud of them.

I just know it's going to go well with my other two too. I just wish my daughter was back in the uk already.

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London


"Apparently I've effectively turned the jigsaw over so they can see the picture. They're actually happy! They want to do makeup and nails with me. I am one happy bunny. "

So so so happy for you...and jealous too!

Congrats.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Apparently I've effectively turned the jigsaw over so they can see the picture. They're actually happy! They want to do makeup and nails with me. I am one happy bunny.

So so so happy for you...and jealous too!

Congrats. "

Jealous? Of what? You beautiful creature xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rachael I'm so happy for you.

Claire

XX

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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago

Cardiff

Started off reading your thread with an "Eeeeeee exciting!" attitude, finished reading it with an "Awesome!" attitude

Onwards and upwards hun! You may unfortunately come across negativity at some point BUT YOU HAVE AN AWESOME FAMILY and good on you for raising awesome kids!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Started off reading your thread with an "Eeeeeee exciting!" attitude, finished reading it with an "Awesome!" attitude

Onwards and upwards hun! You may unfortunately come across negativity at some point BUT YOU HAVE AN AWESOME FAMILY and good on you for raising awesome kids! "

Thank you; your posts helped me sort out what was going on in my head. You're an awesome guy. Thank you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ahh this post has made my day!

You must be incredibly proud of your children. And of yourself for being brave. A whole new chapter starts now! Xx

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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Started off reading your thread with an "Eeeeeee exciting!" attitude, finished reading it with an "Awesome!" attitude

Onwards and upwards hun! You may unfortunately come across negativity at some point BUT YOU HAVE AN AWESOME FAMILY and good on you for raising awesome kids!

Thank you; your posts helped me sort out what was going on in my head. You're an awesome guy. Thank you xx"

I wouldn't go that far I am glad that my ramblings have helped

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My ramblings get people into therapy so you're doing better than I am

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

I'm coming to this too late but I know people who have been through what you are experiencing and who have successfully maintained great relationships with their children.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So happy for you. Excellent news. Well done, wishing you happiness. Xxx

Mrs x

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London


"They're actually happy! They want to do makeup and nails with me. I am one happy bunny.

So so so happy for you...and jealous too!

Congrats.

Jealous? Of what? "

Of the potential fun quality times spent with your girls!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"They're actually happy! They want to do makeup and nails with me. I am one happy bunny.

So so so happy for you...and jealous too!

Congrats.

Jealous? Of what?

Of the potential fun quality times spent with your girls!!

"

Ah. Fair one. That has got me so excited.

We had a friends kids come to stay with us recently and I got to dry his five yr old daughters hair. I was in heaven. Took me right back to when I used to do my daughters hair. I love brushing it, drying it and trying to giggle over the drier. She was matching the hum of the motor too with her voice. I used to do that too

I've always taken a big interest in choosing clothes, makeup, hair, nails and, of course, SHOES!

Hoping with their help I can get my makeup right and be half as pretty as they are

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By *andy6677Man
over a year ago

crewe

Great to hear Rachel everyone here is so proud of you coming out to your family and your girls are great at accepting you too as i thought they would xxx Your looking great now so with a bit of help from your daughters with a makeover well you will be a knockout turning heads for all the right reasons xxx Congrats again hun xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks Andy. I'm feeling so good at the moment. I'm planning the future and simple stuff like getting my eyebrows done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They're actually happy! They want to do makeup and nails with me. I am one happy bunny.

So so so happy for you...and jealous too!

Congrats.

Jealous? Of what?

Of the potential fun quality times spent with your girls!!

Ah. Fair one. That has got me so excited.

We had a friends kids come to stay with us recently and I got to dry his five yr old daughters hair. I was in heaven. Took me right back to when I used to do my daughters hair. I love brushing it, drying it and trying to giggle over the drier. She was matching the hum of the motor too with her voice. I used to do that too

I've always taken a big interest in choosing clothes, makeup, hair, nails and, of course, SHOES!

Hoping with their help I can get my makeup right and be half as pretty as they are "

I'm sorry, this has to be the best post today. Such a lovely and sweet message xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Aw. Thank you. We aim to please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Brilliant news Rachael!!

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By *andy6677Man
over a year ago

crewe


"Thanks Andy. I'm feeling so good at the moment. I'm planning the future and simple stuff like getting my eyebrows done "

No worries, the simple stuff is just as important as the big stuff xxx Im sure your eyebrows will look great and only add to your natural beauty you have always have had xxx Goes to show there are people that will always accept you for you xxx Especially your family the love they have for you is most important and that they will always accept you whatever gender you are so long as your happy which of course you are xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This place never ceases to amaze me. When I joined I read so many posts from tgirls saying they were ignored or slated by the masses.

For those of you who've noticed me on these forums, it can't have escaped your notice how nice 99% of people are to me.

You've all made me feel so welcome and supported me as I've struggled to understand myself.

The posts you see here are nothing compared to the private messages I've received.

I can't say this enough or tell you all just how much it has helped but thank you all again. Thank you so much for being so great. For being Fab

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By *andy6677Man
over a year ago

crewe


"This place never ceases to amaze me. When I joined I read so many posts from tgirls saying they were ignored or slated by the masses.

For those of you who've noticed me on these forums, it can't have escaped your notice how nice 99% of people are to me.

You've all made me feel so welcome and supported me as I've struggled to understand myself.

The posts you see here are nothing compared to the private messages I've received.

I can't say this enough or tell you all just how much it has helped but thank you all again. Thank you so much for being so great. For being Fab "

And in turn thank you for sharing what must of been a very personal and hard journey for you with us xxx Remember however long the journey the destination is worth it in the end xxx Your proof that those transgender people in a similar situation shouldnt be so fearful of admitting who they truly are to themselves and there family your an inspirational person and pretty Fab yourself of course xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a positive thread

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By *TFSeventyMan
over a year ago

Weybridge

This has made me smile, well done for being so brave and congratulations xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very positive thread indeed. Brings hope to many who are maybe struggling to tell love ones because of the reaction. However I will state this younger generation are far more liberated then the previous. More open to accept others.

Pleased for you Rachael and glad its gone better then expected. Onwards and upwards. Got to be a big lift off your shoulders now half of its done.

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By *irceWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Thanks folks. I'm excited/scared/worried. Starting to think I shouldn't be laying this on my kids. I just know they already know some of it. Hypocritical for me to expect them never to struggle in silence but do it myself?"

Pandoras box?

Be aware of the fallout this can bring it really is a nightmare situation, suddenly you could become the down fall of your child and her social networking and then every negitive thing in there life you feel like your responsible for, it could be OK. ...it's a gamble.Every situation is different wish you good fortune as you know it better than i x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanks folks. I'm excited/scared/worried. Starting to think I shouldn't be laying this on my kids. I just know they already know some of it. Hypocritical for me to expect them never to struggle in silence but do it myself?

Pandoras box?

Be aware of the fallout this can bring it really is a nightmare situation, suddenly you could become the down fall of your child and her social networking and then every negitive thing in there life you feel like your responsible for, it could be OK. ...it's a gamble.Every situation is different wish you good fortune as you know it better than i x

"

I did have the same worry. I've started with two out of four kids now so I have to tell the others.

As for going public, well let's see how the other two feel. If they wish me to keep the world guessing and never confirm it then I will respect their wishes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks folks. I'm excited/scared/worried. Starting to think I shouldn't be laying this on my kids. I just know they already know some of it. Hypocritical for me to expect them never to struggle in silence but do it myself?

Pandoras box?

Be aware of the fallout this can bring it really is a nightmare situation, suddenly you could become the down fall of your child and her social networking and then every negitive thing in there life you feel like your responsible for, it could be OK. ...it's a gamble.Every situation is different wish you good fortune as you know it better than i x

"

I came out as transsexual to everyone about four months ago, and I have been living full time ever since.

Since that day all I have had are positive reactions. Family, work, my social network, everyone has been fantastic.

People engage with me everywhere I go. Shop assistants, bar staff, everyone is chatty and positive.

Things are so much better these days, all my fears were for nothing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanks folks. I'm excited/scared/worried. Starting to think I shouldn't be laying this on my kids. I just know they already know some of it. Hypocritical for me to expect them never to struggle in silence but do it myself?

Pandoras box?

Be aware of the fallout this can bring it really is a nightmare situation, suddenly you could become the down fall of your child and her social networking and then every negitive thing in there life you feel like your responsible for, it could be OK. ...it's a gamble.Every situation is different wish you good fortune as you know it better than i x

I came out as transsexual to everyone about four months ago, and I have been living full time ever since.

Since that day all I have had are positive reactions. Family, work, my social network, everyone has been fantastic.

People engage with me everywhere I go. Shop assistants, bar staff, everyone is chatty and positive.

Things are so much better these days, all my fears were for nothing."

That's great to hear Cathy.

The more we get it talked about. The more of us people see, the more 'normal' it becomes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha Rachael me thinks that you have been crafty.

By telling them now you have guaranteed some pretty Christmas presents

Must have been incredibly difficult.

We are in sort of a similar situation ish.

But in reverse.

We know our daughter is gay, just waiting for her to tell us when she is ready.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Haha Rachael me thinks that you have been crafty.

By telling them now you have guaranteed some pretty Christmas presents

Must have been incredibly difficult.

We are in sort of a similar situation ish.

But in reverse.

We know our daughter is gay, just waiting for her to tell us when she is ready. "

Lol. They were only saying the other day that they never know what to get me

Regarding your daughter; why not just ask when she'll be introducing you to her girlfriend? Just be relaxed and show her you're not old fashioned or phased about it.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I TOLD THEM

I'll post more later or tomorrow but I've told my two natural daughters. They took it marvellously. They are actually proud of me!

Thank you everyone for giving me the courage.

I love you all!!!!! "

That's wonderful And hopefully an inspiration for others too.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"We know our daughter is gay, just waiting for her to tell us when she is ready. "

She may not feel she can, or may be worried. It could be a huge relief for her if you broach the subject in a supportive way

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

Thats brilliant news Rachael - I'm so pleased for you, sounds like you have raised an awesome family!!

Much

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By *andy6677Man
over a year ago

crewe


"We know our daughter is gay, just waiting for her to tell us when she is ready.

She may not feel she can, or may be worried. It could be a huge relief for her if you broach the subject in a supportive way "

I would like to think if i had kids they wouldnt be worried to come out xxx Straight, bi, or gay makes no difference so long as they were happy xxx Even if they wanted to transistion me and my partner would support them all the way xxx

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"We know our daughter is gay, just waiting for her to tell us when she is ready.

She may not feel she can, or may be worried. It could be a huge relief for her if you broach the subject in a supportive way

I would like to think if i had kids they wouldnt be worried to come out xxx Straight, bi, or gay makes no difference so long as they were happy xxx Even if they wanted to transistion me and my partner would support them all the way xxx"

That's wonderful. I know someone TG whose parents have made their life hell over it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think my mum is struggling s bit but I talked again about how I was as a child and she recognised the signs were there. I made it easier by saying it just wasn't talked about in those days.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

That she's trying id great

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By *andy6677Man
over a year ago

crewe


"We know our daughter is gay, just waiting for her to tell us when she is ready.

She may not feel she can, or may be worried. It could be a huge relief for her if you broach the subject in a supportive way

I would like to think if i had kids they wouldnt be worried to come out xxx Straight, bi, or gay makes no difference so long as they were happy xxx Even if they wanted to transistion me and my partner would support them all the way xxx

That's wonderful. I know someone TG whose parents have made their life hell over it "

Thanks xx Always thought that way as does a close female friend of mine who is also bi and has the same thinking xx As the older generations leave us hopefully alot of the bigotry and hate will too xxx

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I TOLD THEM

I'll post more later or tomorrow but I've told my two natural daughters. They took it marvellously. They are actually proud of me!

Thank you everyone for giving me the courage.

I love you all!!!!! "

That's amazing! Go you! I bet it's made you feel brilliant!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so pleased this worked out!

I only just saw the post.

I told my kids a long time ago.

Both took it well. Now it is just something we talk about in passing.

My partners kids have seen me in a dress tens of times just natural to them.

It is a very good post xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That she's trying id great "

Trying not to speak her mind I think

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"so pleased this worked out!

I only just saw the post.

I told my kids a long time ago.

Both took it well. Now it is just something we talk about in passing.

My partners kids have seen me in a dress tens of times just natural to them.

It is a very good post xxxx "

You look amazing. It clearly is natural xxx

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By *dsindyTV/TS
over a year ago

East Lancashire

Just had to take the time to read all this thread. The one thing that stands out is how MASSIVELY supportive the people who have commented are.

I dont kno where your life will go from here, but it will go forward with confidence and a head held high.

Am so so happy for you and proud of you.

Xx Sindy xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks Sindy. And yes you're right; this has been the most amazingly positive thread. The forumites have really stepped up and the private messages have made this look like a "who likes my cock pic?" Thread

They've been so supportive it's moved me to tears time and again.

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By *anillanomoreCouple
over a year ago

Chichester

We are so happy for you. We have just sat and read your thread from beginning to end. I was so worried for you at the beginning but what a fantastic end. You obviously did a good jobs with raising non-judgemental, open minded girls.

I hope all goes well with the next two chats but it sounds like you have two firm supporters who will help their siblings understand.

You are a gorgeous, lovely lady. Now you can really let her shine x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What an amazing story of your life. We are so happy for you. It is great you have such non judgmental kids and family. We both wish you the best of luck for your new beginning in life. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just wanted to say it here.

I've kinda talked about how I feel on these forums over the last year or so but having watched 'my transgender summer camp' all I felt was jealousy for those kids with supportive parents. It's brought back so many memories from even earlier in my life. Suppressed memories.

Holding back a few tears and I'm just going to go to bed after typing this.

Tomorrow my youngest daughter is coming home from uni for the night so I'll have both my natural daughters at home. I so want the courage to talk to them about this. We share everything. I feel it so wrong that I hide something so big. I don't think it appropriate to talk about my sex life but I might be OK to tell them I'm bisexual.

Thanks for reading.

Rachael. Xx"

Both my daughters know i am bisexual. They were great about it and to be honest it didn't even matter to them. I think you'll find they'll love you no matter what.

Hope it all goes well

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By *irceWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Thanks folks. I'm excited/scared/worried. Starting to think I shouldn't be laying this on my kids. I just know they already know some of it. Hypocritical for me to expect them never to struggle in silence but do it myself?

Pandoras box?

Be aware of the fallout this can bring it really is a nightmare situation, suddenly you could become the down fall of your child and her social networking and then every negitive thing in there life you feel like your responsible for, it could be OK. ...it's a gamble.Every situation is different wish you good fortune as you know it better than i x

I came out as transsexual to everyone about four months ago, and I have been living full time ever since.

Since that day all I have had are positive reactions. Family, work, my social network, everyone has been fantastic.

People engage with me everywhere I go. Shop assistants, bar staff, everyone is chatty and positive.

Things are so much better these days, all my fears were for nothing."

Fear is not to be put aside you will be in danger and the murder/suicide rate is there as a stark warning.Once you step out the wolves await you....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks folks. I'm excited/scared/worried. Starting to think I shouldn't be laying this on my kids. I just know they already know some of it. Hypocritical for me to expect them never to struggle in silence but do it myself?

Pandoras box?

Be aware of the fallout this can bring it really is a nightmare situation, suddenly you could become the down fall of your child and her social networking and then every negitive thing in there life you feel like your responsible for, it could be OK. ...it's a gamble.Every situation is different wish you good fortune as you know it better than i x

I came out as transsexual to everyone about four months ago, and I have been living full time ever since.

Since that day all I have had are positive reactions. Family, work, my social network, everyone has been fantastic.

People engage with me everywhere I go. Shop assistants, bar staff, everyone is chatty and positive.

Things are so much better these days, all my fears were for nothing.

Fear is not to be put aside you will be in danger and the murder/suicide rate is there as a stark warning.Once you step out the wolves await you...."

I "Step out" every single day and I've never met a wolf yet.

I get the feeling you don't approve of trans people, but trying to frighten them with unfounded warnings is a little bit pathetic frankly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks folks. I'm excited/scared/worried. Starting to think I shouldn't be laying this on my kids. I just know they already know some of it. Hypocritical for me to expect them never to struggle in silence but do it myself?

Pandoras box?

Be aware of the fallout this can bring it really is a nightmare situation, suddenly you could become the down fall of your child and her social networking and then every negitive thing in there life you feel like your responsible for, it could be OK. ...it's a gamble.Every situation is different wish you good fortune as you know it better than i x

I came out as transsexual to everyone about four months ago, and I have been living full time ever since.

Since that day all I have had are positive reactions. Family, work, my social network, everyone has been fantastic.

People engage with me everywhere I go. Shop assistants, bar staff, everyone is chatty and positive.

Things are so much better these days, all my fears were for nothing.

Fear is not to be put aside you will be in danger and the murder/suicide rate is there as a stark warning.Once you step out the wolves await you....

I "Step out" every single day and I've never met a wolf yet.

I get the feeling you don't approve of trans people, but trying to frighten them with unfounded warnings is a little bit pathetic frankly."

Ah, you are trans. Very odd

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I sat in the pub the other night and saw a guy who has repeatedly tried to pick an arguement with me in the past. I've risen above his pathetic ego and have managed to get him to give up on his pointless attempts to wind me up.

However, as I sat, I couldn't help but think to myself that, if I were there as Rachael, he would start on me again...... I'm not sure I'm confident enough to deal with that sort of idiot yet.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

He's very possibly jealous that you know what you want form life and can live life how you want.

He will have some kind of issues

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway


"I sat in the pub the other night and saw a guy who has repeatedly tried to pick an arguement with me in the past. I've risen above his pathetic ego and have managed to get him to give up on his pointless attempts to wind me up.

However, as I sat, I couldn't help but think to myself that, if I were there as Rachael, he would start on me again...... I'm not sure I'm confident enough to deal with that sort of idiot yet. "

You can be Rachael and still leave him outside the bubble,I know it's easy to say from a keyboard on the outside looking in but no matter your clothing/appearance you are still the same person who has risen above it. same person

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"He's very possibly jealous that you know what you want form life and can live life how you want.

He will have some kind of issues "

Apparently he was bullied at school, (so was I), and then got to black belt in karate. He seems to look for confident people to 'take down' to get his own back on those that bullied him.

I was bullied because I was thin limbed and meek. I wouldn't look people in the eye. I wanted to be a girl not the boy I was!

I built my body but didn't feel the need to become the bully.

When he started on me a few years ago, I didn't back away,(I'm ex forces and am not concerned about his karate.) we had a few verbal stand offs but my calm, reasonable attitude eventually won through.

I think I just need to be ready with a few ego deflating, (without injuring it), no confrontational come backs.

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By *andy6677Man
over a year ago

crewe


"He's very possibly jealous that you know what you want form life and can live life how you want.

He will have some kind of issues

Apparently he was bullied at school, (so was I), and then got to black belt in karate. He seems to look for confident people to 'take down' to get his own back on those that bullied him.

I was bullied because I was thin limbed and meek. I wouldn't look people in the eye. I wanted to be a girl not the boy I was!

I built my body but didn't feel the need to become the bully.

When he started on me a few years ago, I didn't back away,(I'm ex forces and am not concerned about his karate.) we had a few verbal stand offs but my calm, reasonable attitude eventually won through.

I think I just need to be ready with a few ego deflating, (without injuring it), no confrontational come backs."

I know how it feels as a former bullied person me it was a combination of weight and being smarter than them. I got the better of them in the end by using whitty comebacks they couldnt answer back with. They got bored and left me alone in the end as i wasnt going to sink to there level. Ironically i met one again a few years back they had put on weight and i had lost it so i got the better of them in the end! xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm fine in environments where people like me are expected.

I have no concerns out in the real world where my former self is unknown.

To some extent, I'm not phased if someoneone I know bumps into me as they wont recognise me.

This is new ground though. Introducing myself to people who thought they knew me. I'm prepared for lots of questions, I think.

I'm just not sure how I'll deal with the negative reactions and those who will use this to try to ridicule me.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It would be interesting to meet you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It would be interesting to meet you. "

Thank you. I'd like to meet you too Steve. You come across as an interesting guy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I told another person in my life today; the installation manager for a company I subcontract for.

She took it just as everyone else so far;

With interest, support, humbled that I chose to tell her. Said it explained a lot about me. The way I handle customers, my understanding, my eye for detail.

Wowed at the way I look too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I'm just not sure how I'll deal with the negative reactions and those who will use this to try to ridicule me. "

Can't avoid negativity unfortunately but for those who ridicule you, then surely they aren't who you thought they were either... Works both ways xx

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I told another person in my life today; the installation manager for a company I subcontract for.

She took it just as everyone else so far;

With interest, support, humbled that I chose to tell her. Said it explained a lot about me. The way I handle customers, my understanding, my eye for detail.

Wowed at the way I look too "

A transgender person went to the last Sussex social and no one looked twice or blinked an eye. She was taller than me though.

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By *andy6677Man
over a year ago

crewe


"I told another person in my life today; the installation manager for a company I subcontract for.

She took it just as everyone else so far;

With interest, support, humbled that I chose to tell her. Said it explained a lot about me. The way I handle customers, my understanding, my eye for detail.

Wowed at the way I look too "

Im wowed at the way you look as well very sexy xx

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By *dsindyTV/TS
over a year ago

East Lancashire


"I told another person in my life today; the installation manager for a company I subcontract for.

She took it just as everyone else so far;

With interest, support, humbled that I chose to tell her. Said it explained a lot about me. The way I handle customers, my understanding, my eye for detail.

Wowed at the way I look too "

Seems like everything is coming together. Long may it continue and long may you enjoy the lifestyle you have so clearly been striving toward for a large portion (if not all??) of your life.

xxSindyxx

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By *dsindyTV/TS
over a year ago

East Lancashire


"I told another person in my life today; the installation manager for a company I subcontract for.

She took it just as everyone else so far;

With interest, support, humbled that I chose to tell her. Said it explained a lot about me. The way I handle customers, my understanding, my eye for detail.

Wowed at the way I look too

Seems like everything is coming together. Long may it continue and long may you enjoy the lifestyle you have so clearly been striving toward for a large portion (if not all??) of your life.

xxSindyxx"

p.s. no wonder she said WOW

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Aw. Thanks honey xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rachael you know I think your amazing anyway and we have met at angels but as for how you deal with kids tell them and the rest

I can only hope that they see what we all see in you xx which is this amazing person who deals with things we can't even begin to comprehend

They will love you no matter what

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Here we go for round two;

Step daughter has returned from her Europe tour.

She's at home tonight so this is it; time to tell her too. More nervous than I was with my natural kids. She is harder to read.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wonderful thread, so pleased everything has gone so well for you.

I am really not sure which has amazed me most your bravery in telling your children or the obviously brilliant way you have brought up your children to be so supportive and understanding. Congratulations not only to you but you family also.

Good luck telling the other kids.

You deserve everything to go your way after being so brave.

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By *NaughtyCouple
over a year ago

St Albans

Brilliant Rachael

I'm so happy - excellent thread and your family are a credit to you - you brought them up to be non judgmental and non prejudicial.

Now keep on showing everyone who you are - stop hiding how beautiful you are. Spread your wings and fly.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you

My daughter had gone out before I got home from work. Frustrating as id built myself up to talk. Sigh. Sunday perhaps.

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By *lutandhubbyCouple
over a year ago

west midlands

good luck for sunday. xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cheers

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By *mmabluTV/TS
over a year ago

upton wirral

Your brave and amazing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I just can't pretend any more. I buried how I felt when I was in single figures. I remember standing by the lounge door, wanting to go in and tell my mum I was a girl inside but not being able to. I cried every night until I decided I would just have to accept my body for what it was.

Those buried memories are flooding back now. I don't want to have to pretend any more. Everything just clicks into place when I'm Rachael. She is me.

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By *andy6677Man
over a year ago

crewe


"I just can't pretend any more. I buried how I felt when I was in single figures. I remember standing by the lounge door, wanting to go in and tell my mum I was a girl inside but not being able to. I cried every night until I decided I would just have to accept my body for what it was.

Those buried memories are flooding back now. I don't want to have to pretend any more. Everything just clicks into place when I'm Rachael. She is me. "

Exactly she has always been you and now after all this time its her time to shine to come out of the shadows into the light xxx Its never easy but you have done it now xxx Im sure sunday will be better than you think step daughter or not she loves you just the same as you natural daughters do xxx You cant please everyone but just be the woman you always have been and you cant do no wrong now xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cat out of bag before I've been able to talk to my third daughter.

She text my wife saying she was 'very concerned' and wanted to know if she knew I was living a double life.

Just hoping she'll listen now so I can explain. She's a tendency to avoid talking and vanishes off to a boyfriends house rather than face things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cat out of bag before I've been able to talk to my third daughter.

She text my wife saying she was 'very concerned' and wanted to know if she knew I was living a double life.

Just hoping she'll listen now so I can explain. She's a tendency to avoid talking and vanishes off to a boyfriends house rather than face things. "

That's unfortunate Rachael. I hope everything works out for you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

good luck,x

most folk are pretty cool bout folk being gay or bi,if they love you all they will want is you to be happy.

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS
over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

i was outed by face book to my son ..not gonna tell my daughters tho ..wd be heartbreaking if they couldnt accept-it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

She's just gone to bed

It's her usual strategy to avoid talking.

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By *lutandhubbyCouple
over a year ago

west midlands

well, at least she now knows. xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"well, at least she now knows. xxx"

That's just it; she thinks she knows. She's very image conscious. Her brother is an embarrassment, in her view, because he's aspergers.

I'll be an embarrassment because I get off on wearing women's clothes.

Well I don't. I don't get off on it at all. I like taking on the female form because most of the time I feel female. I dress accordingly and everyone can see what's on the inside and then mostly treat me as female.

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over a year ago

On a positive note; I've just sat and told my son

He took it really well, saying "well you should be free to be yourself".

So, apart from the shadow hanging with my daughter, I'm pretty much there. They all know I dress. Three of them know why and accept it as me. They now see why I'm the way I am. It's because there is so much 'girl' in me.

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"On a positive note; I've just sat and told my son

He took it really well, saying "well you should be free to be yourself".

So, apart from the shadow hanging with my daughter, I'm pretty much there. They all know I dress. Three of them know why and accept it as me. They now see why I'm the way I am. It's because there is so much 'girl' in me. "

lol,,lol,,ya sure it aint cos theres so much man "in" you

lol,,sorry,,could,nt ressit

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over a year ago


"On a positive note; I've just sat and told my son

He took it really well, saying "well you should be free to be yourself".

So, apart from the shadow hanging with my daughter, I'm pretty much there. They all know I dress. Three of them know why and accept it as me. They now see why I'm the way I am. It's because there is so much 'girl' in me.

lol,,lol,,ya sure it aint cos theres so much man "in" you

lol,,sorry,,could,nt ressit

"

Not at the moment. Hopefully tomorrow there will be

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over a year ago


"On a positive note; I've just sat and told my son

He took it really well, saying "well you should be free to be yourself".

So, apart from the shadow hanging with my daughter, I'm pretty much there. They all know I dress. Three of them know why and accept it as me. They now see why I'm the way I am. It's because there is so much 'girl' in me.

lol,,lol,,ya sure it aint cos theres so much man "in" you

lol,,sorry,,could,nt ressit

Not at the moment. Hopefully tomorrow there will be "

slut

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over a year ago

Guilty as charged.

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over a year ago

Update for those who've been following this thread (by the pm's and those of you I've bumped into a various venues, there's a fair few of you)

My elusive step daughter has had things explained by my wife. She was worried that my wife was feeling trapped. She's happier now my wife has explained how happy she is and how close we've become since I dropped all my barriers.

My wife and I went out for an evening in Weymouth on Sunday night. It was the first time she's accompanied 'Rachael' in a non swinging environment.

We both had a fabulous night. I was up singing and we did a tour of pubs ending up in a night club.

Lots of people came up to us and said lovely things.

She seems to be really embracing me as i am. Big smiles all round.

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By *isa 59Woman
over a year ago

Newcastle

I haven't commented on this thread before Rachael but I have been following your recent journey.

I'm so very glad that things are falling into place for you now and that that weight is finally lifting from your shoulders.

Walk tall and be the beautiful person that you are.

Mwah

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over a year ago


"Update for those who've been following this thread (by the pm's and those of you I've bumped into a various venues, there's a fair few of you)

My elusive step daughter has had things explained by my wife. She was worried that my wife was feeling trapped. She's happier now my wife has explained how happy she is and how close we've become since I dropped all my barriers.

My wife and I went out for an evening in Weymouth on Sunday night. It was the first time she's accompanied 'Rachael' in a non swinging environment.

We both had a fabulous night. I was up singing and we did a tour of pubs ending up in a night club.

Lots of people came up to us and said lovely things.

She seems to be really embracing me as i am. Big smiles all round. "

That is awesome.

Really happy that your journey through this part of your life is a really positive one.

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over a year ago

There have been many people who haven't comment publicly and have shown their support by messaging.

I can honestly say that I have had not one single negative from anyone. How often does that happen on fab?

I really hope by opening up this window on my world that others will find the courage to be themselves too.

I'm not just talking about dressers or bisexuals. I mean everyone who hides a part of their life.

We all have secrets. Perhaps telling the world we like gangbangs or sex with strangers isn't necessary but I personally feel so much better for simply being honest. With myself and those around me.

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By *andy6677Man
over a year ago

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"There have been many people who haven't comment publicly and have shown their support by messaging.

I can honestly say that I have had not one single negative from anyone. How often does that happen on fab?

I really hope by opening up this window on my world that others will find the courage to be themselves too.

I'm not just talking about dressers or bisexuals. I mean everyone who hides a part of their life.

We all have secrets. Perhaps telling the world we like gangbangs or sex with strangers isn't necessary but I personally feel so much better for simply being honest. With myself and those around me.

"

Indeed i agree your journey has shown you shouldnt br afraid that your family might reject you like in your case they might embrace you as they love you too much xx Now you can be yourself at last and enjoy the good times yet to come xxx

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By *andy6677Man
over a year ago

crewe

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over a year ago


"There have been many people who haven't comment publicly and have shown their support by messaging.

I can honestly say that I have had not one single negative from anyone. How often does that happen on fab?

I really hope by opening up this window on my world that others will find the courage to be themselves too.

I'm not just talking about dressers or bisexuals. I mean everyone who hides a part of their life.

We all have secrets. Perhaps telling the world we like gangbangs or sex with strangers isn't necessary but I personally feel so much better for simply being honest. With myself and those around me.

"

It must be liberating and so empowering for you, great stuff indeed.

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